The value of suffering, what is the meaning of suffering

Pain is used to remember, and only then will it not be painful again.

Pain is for better progress. Because behind every pain there is an inadequacy.

Not being able to face pain is actually not being able to honestly recognize yourself and accept your own "incompetence". There are two "selves" in this world, one is the objective "self" and the other is the imaginary "self", and it is obvious that there must be a gap between these two "selves". The more we can treat things politely, the smaller the gap will be.

Unfortunately, we tend to think too much of ourselves.

Lately I've been wondering, why are we going through pain? What exactly is the point of suffering?

In the past, I always firmly believed that people live to experience pain.

Because I always hear people say, "You see why a baby is born crying a lot, because he knows that it is not easy to live, and he has to go through all kinds of hardships and pains, so he cries and does not want to come."

In addition, you may have been in a relatively closed, conservative, and low-energy life circle before, and the people around you were more tired and miserable, so they would always complain and complain to you.

So I deeply believe that we live to experience pain, and with such a belief system, I am really getting more and more miserable.

Later, with the awakening of the soul, I slowly realized that the world is a mirror, what you have in your heart, you will see, we have created our own world.

Now, I have lived out the most satisfying state for more than 30 years, no matter what I experience every day, good or bad, I am not complaining, I am grateful.

Thinking about the days when I was soaked in bitter water before, I suddenly understood the meaning of suffering.

If my soul had not experienced purgatory-like torment and pain, I would not have experienced joy and happiness from the mundane and trivial daily life of today.

If I hadn't experienced the heart-wrenching pain, I wouldn't have woken up from my previous pain and experienced that there was another wonderful world in life.

There is no road in vain in life, and the most important thing is that we can understand and grow from every step we take.

We basically think that life should strive to pursue happiness and avoid pain, of course, this desire is correct, talking about happiness seems to be full of positive energy, and politics is correct, but often ignores the meaning of pain.

Writer Wang Xiaobo said that "pain is anger at one's own incompetence", that is, anger is only due to one's own inability, but in fact, it is a sense of helplessness, and if you have no sense of control over yourself, you will suffer. If everything is under your control, it doesn't matter whether you are happy or miserable, people run like computer programs, and the meaning of people is in**, people's own emotions are meaningful, you have anger, anger will give you strength, pain, will make you reflect, look inward to find yourself, accumulate your own energy, and then be a better version of yourself.

Happiness and pain are like two sides of the coin, without painful struggle, there will be no happiness, some people say that they know a lot of truth, or not live a good life! So what's the use of these truths, I'll give you an analogy to understand, in fact, the truth is like a bright flower, very beautiful, very brilliant, symbolizing happiness, pain is the soil and water under this flower, without pain, the flowers above will soon wither, just like Zhongguancun talented girl Liang Ning teacher said that she has learned a lot of truths, and still can't live a good life, not that these truths are useless, but your operating system, that is, emotions can only support you to this, emotions collapse, and all truths are useless.

Upgrading your underlying operating system, in fact, is pain, there is no painful tempering, what happiness, happiness is applied one by one, so you can understand the meaning of pain, on the surface it looks obscure, hidden in a secret place, in fact, he is the real power that dominates our destiny.

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