My boyfriend, who has been in love for 5 years, finally broke up, what should I do?

Updated on psychology 2024-03-17
18 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    <> have been in love for 5 years and have lived together for 3 years This relationship is also a long time.

    Many romances do not stand the test of time and space.

    Everyone's pursuit is different.

    Judging by your expression, you don't really love your boyfriend at all.

    1.You've been dating with a makeshift mentality until you find something better, which can be regarded as riding a donkey to find a horse.

    2.You enjoy your boyfriend's tolerance, love, and dedication to you.

    3.You're an idealist through and through (do you know how leftover women end up with leftovers, that is, find the rest yourself).

    The main reason why you have decided to give up your boyfriend now is probably that there is a boy around you who meets your requirements, but can you guarantee that the boy will be as good as your boyfriend is to you, and how much do you know about him? At least you've been in love with your boyfriend for 5 years, and apart from not being crazy and joking with you, there's probably no place you can't look at. Such a man is actually mature and stable in the eyes of most people, except for a little sense of humor, there are basically no other shortcomings.

    Hopefully, you won't regret it after giving up on this man. After all, the man chasing you now is unknown.

    Also, I think you should think about what marriage is. If, as you said, the bride price has always been a knot, you should take a good look at the middle, and a wise woman should know how to do it. He worked hard to buy a house for you, and he had to spend it for you without spending money, which proves that he loved you very much before.

    A man is already very tired at work, if he doesn't have too many humorous and romantic cells (like you said, he is from a rural area, he may be a more orthodox man, relatively old-fashioned), and you want him to come back every day to make you happy and create romance for you, it is indeed a bit difficult for a strong man.

    Everything depends on your own decision, and outsiders can only help you analyze it. Finally, if you can come together, I suggest you work in one place. In fact, in the end, you will find that life is really simple. The most important thing is to live a happy life.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    <> actually there are two things that are particularly obvious about your boyfriend: 1Responsibility, 2Self-esteem His sense of responsibility actually includes many aspects, and many things that he takes for granted are all caused by his so-called sense of responsibility.

    For example, he is very good to you, even if he wrongs himself, he will be good to you, he is good to you not only because he likes you, but also out of a sense of responsibility of a man, he feels that you live together, then he will be responsible for you, this responsibility is to be good to you wholeheartedly, to do the best he can do, in his opinion, it is a blessing to be able to marry you, so he will give you the best. At the same time, on the other hand, taking care of his parents and siblings is also a sense of responsibility, he feels that he has this obligation, in fact, on the other hand, this is also an excellent quality, but this degree depends on how he grasps it, and it is estimated that he is unacceptable to this degree now. But I'll say that if you really want to be with him, you have to fully accept his background.

    In fact, in the final analysis, you still don't understand him, you can only understand him first before you can take advantage of the situation. There are two kinds of women who will be happy and happy. One is a very smart woman, the other is a stupid woman, the former can change others to meet their own requirements, and the latter is carefree.

    I think you must want to be a smart woman. Then read him first.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    1. Understand why your boyfriend broke up with you.

    In fact, there must be a reason for the boy to break up with you, if you don't know why the shoot has dragged on for so long, and he wants to break up with you suddenly, then you have no way to get the man back. Therefore, it is recommended that you can find a café with a more comfortable environment and talk to the boy calmly about why today's situation is caused. If it's just a few small problems and spur of the moment, in fact, these can be reversed.

    2. Get rid of your bad habits.

    When many girls fall in love, they will want to take each other as their own, but in fact, this kind of thinking is quite dangerous. This will make a girl easy to be jealous and lose her temper, for boys, of course, they don't like such girlfriends very much, so many people will break up with each other because they can't stand it.

    If you want to win back your boyfriend, the first step is to learn to get rid of your bad habits and short temper. In this way, it will make people more comfortable to get along with.

    3. Work hard to enrich yourself and meet a better self.

    Many girls will think that as long as I marry a good family, I can live this life in peace, in fact, such a comfortable idea, for some boys, will only feel that you are dependent on him, not independent at all.

    As a woman in the new era, you should have your own career, and you must also have a skill, so that it will be easier to attract the attention of men and make his eyes inseparable from you. Therefore, girls should learn more practical things in their spare time, which is not only helpful for trapping boys, but also quite beneficial for their future careers.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    One. Take the initiative to find the other person.

    Two. Learn to hold on to your love.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    If you really love each other very much, I think it's okay to make appropriate concessions, in the process of falling in love, you don't have to be a boy to take the initiative, and a girl showing weakness is also a cute performance.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    You should have a good talk with each other, after all, the two of you have been together for so long, don't break up because of some small problems, you can solve this small problem.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Two people should communicate, and if they have feelings, they should continue to be together, and don't separate because of small things.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Everyone has a different perspective on love. Love is like a battlefield, there is always a fierce struggle, and it is very likely that someone you like will be snatched away by others. It's the same for girls, boyfriends, who broke up for some reason, but calmly regretted and regretted that they had been in love for almost three years and what should they do if they broke up?

    The first option is compounding. Then this is the time to prescribe the right medicine. Since I didn't say why I broke up, my advice was just advice and I had to think about it myself. To find out why he broke up, why he broke up:

    Recovery strategy: Be sure to make it clear to him personally

    Your boyfriend has broken up, don't do what you want at this time, don't ignore him, and treat this matter as a very important thing. You can ask him for leave of absence to deal with it. You have to tell him that your bottom line is in.

    You can put aside everything at hand and pay attention to him, but hopefully he will understand you. Sometimes your words may not be clear, and sometimes you don't take into account the details, but you still have to convince him that you will pay attention and correct it later. Although there are problems between two people, it is possible to communicate well and not break up.

    I hope that the communication between you can bring a good bridge to your future interactions. Many things, many words are clear, and the problem is basically solved.

    Redemption strategy: meet, euphemistically convey love

    If two people can talk every three to five hours, and after talking for a while, the other party's defense of you has been put down, then you can agree to meet, have a meal or watch a movie. Be happy when you meet, talk as much as you can about recent developments, and ask him how he's doing. Appearance and charisma matter when interacting.

    There will be love in the eyes. When watching a movie, you can whisper close to his ear. Just a little hint.

    Don't say compound yourself. Don't ask if the other person is back together. If he had allowed the brewing to last as long as possible, he would not have been able to quit.

    Some people say that it is better not to have a good memory, because the more memories there are, the less happiness there is.

    If it is irretrievable in the end, at this point, you should have another strategy, slowly let go of yourself and deal with the pain of losing love, if you don't go out and dwell in this pain, no one can help you. At this point, you need to keep yourself busy. Let yourself not have leisure, go out with friends around you, let yourself have more time, not have time to think about him, and try to find new feelings for yourself.

    All in all, balance the relationship between work and love, value emotional investment, take care of and care for each other in the relationship with the other person, and be there when the other person needs it. The other person doesn't need you to spend much money to prepare a gift for her, maybe only your heart. In this way, you can feel that he cares about you, deepen his dependence and trust in you, repair the emotional link, and redeem more success.

    If you really can't get it back, don't be too sad, you have to learn to let go, fate is difficult to force after all.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    You should work hard to get out of this relationship, you should make yourself more positive and optimistic, don't take this matter as a very important thing, you must let yourself have a better attitude to face your feelings, and don't fall because of it.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    In the face of such a situation, you should learn to adjust your mentality, make yourself more calm, and you should also get out of this relationship, so that you can develop the correct three views and let yourself come out.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I think you can ask your boyfriend why he chose to break up, and secondly, you should also make yourself better, and you should also work hard to break through yourself.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    If you can't forget your ex after breaking up, then see if there is a chance to get back together, if there is no chance to get back together, you can only accept the reality and keep yourself as far away from the pain of falling out of love as possible.

    Redeem past lovers。There are many couples who get back together after a breakup, and if you and your boyfriend broke up because of a conflict that can be reconciled, then try to get him back and see if the conflict can be resolved. After all, after four years of love, two people know each other, and life can be smoother with such a person who knows the roots.

    But if two people break up because of irreconcilable contradictions, then there is no need to redeem it, because even if they compromise this time, in the future life, the two will continue to have conflicts and finally go to strangers.

    Learn to enlighten yourself and stay away from the pain of falling out of loveEspecially during the period when you have just broken up, the pain will be stacked layer by layer, so you should distract yourself at this time, and it is best to keep yourself busy, communicate more with friends or do more exercise, so that you have less idle time. If you always get hurt in the scene, you can also take a long or short trip. Travel is the best medicine for falling out of love, because going to a strange place and contacting strangers will make you usher in a new world in pain, and this freshness will dilute the pain caused by broken love.

    At the end of a trip, even if you still have to return to the place where you worked and lived, you still have to meet the people of the past, but the mood is completely different from when you just fell out of love. If you haven't tried to travel to relieve your pain, try it and it will definitely bring great results.

    Therefore, if you break up and can't forget your ex, you can either chase your ex back, or make a good decision and forget about the other party completely. Don't huddle in your little corner and look back, not only will nothing change, but you will also plunge yourself into an even more painful abyss.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    broke up with a boyfriend who has been in love for four years, this kind of relationship is difficult to accept, you can't forget him, this is also a normal psychology, but if there is a possibility of reunion between you, you should hurry up to get back together, if you can't get back together, you can only let your relationship slowly forget over time, for the time being, it can't be forgotten, but as time goes by, it will slowly fade away.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    I see that you have been with your boyfriend for a long time, and you can't let go of your boyfriend in your heart, in this case, you can communicate with your boyfriend well. Test your boyfriend's attitude, if the other party feels that the two of them can get along, you can get back together with him, and if the boyfriend feels that there is no point in getting along with the two of you anymore, you also have to face it correctly.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    Haven't been married for 4 years, if the two parties still have feelings, your boyfriend can still give you a chance, you can go to him again, and then don't leave regrets, if he has already given up this relationship, you should also put it down and look for another happiness.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Personally, I recommend that you try to redeem it.

    Whether it succeeds or not, at least if you do, then you will not have regrets in your heart.

    The emotions you care about must be fought for again, if it is really impossible to give up again, you will feel a little better.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Now that it has become a thing of the past, let it pass, don't dwell on the previous people and things, then it is yourself who is hurt, and strive to face new people, face new feelings, and a new life will begin.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    It's been four years of love, and why did you break up?

    In fact, many contradictions and problems are cumulative, freezing three feet is not a day's cold, if there is really no way to solve it, it can only be said that there is no fate.

    Now you can't forget him, maybe it's habit, maybe it's still in love with him, you can also try to get in touch, maybe the other party can make a step back and solve the obstacles and problems between the two people.

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