The elderly in rural areas would rather live alone, why don t they go to a nursing institution?

In recent years, the countryside has changed dramatically. Therefore, in order to revitalize the development of rural areas, the state has introduced many preferential policies for rural areas, which have not only improved the lives of peasants, but also brought great convenience to peasants. Why would the elderly in rural areas prefer to go to a nursing home by themselves?

What are they worried about? Now, with the increasingly serious problem of aging, the problem of old-age care in rural areas is gradually becoming prominent. In rural areas, young people have gone to work in other places, and there is no one to take care of the elderly.

Therefore, considering this problem, the state has built nursing homes in rural areas, and then let those elderly people who have difficulties in providing for the elderly be provided for in a centralized manner. In our opinion, this is a very good thing, but after the construction of the nursing home, most of the elderly are reluctant to go. Why?

1.The concept has not changed, and I don't want my children to be gossiped about.

In rural areas, there has always been a saying about raising children to prevent old age, so in order to provide for the elderly, rural people generally give birth to a son. Because in the past, rural people would let their sons support their old age when they were old. If there is no family with a son, they will hire a son-in-law to support the elderly.

But now it's different. Young people in rural areas have gone to the cities to work, and there is no time to take care of the elderly. Therefore, it is a problem that the elderly have no one to provide for them.

After the establishment of the nursing home, the elderly have a place to care for the elderly, and the children do not have to worry too much about the life of their parents. But in the eyes of the elderly in rural areas, the nursing home is a place where the lonely and widowed elderly live, there are children and girls, and they don't want to go for the children, otherwise people will gossip that the children are not filial.

2.Considering the financial situation, I don't want to burden my children.

Generally, nursing homes will have special people to take care of the daily life of the elderly. Usually when people are bored, they can get together to chat, talk and laugh, at least they won't be lonely. However, living in a nursing home is not for nothing, and you have to pay money every month.

If you don't say anything, it will cost six or seven hundred a month. This is a significant expense for the elderly in rural areas who do not have pensions. If they don't have money, they can only let their children out.

Therefore, in order not to drag down the children, the elderly are reluctant to go to nursing homes.

3.Living at home, there are not so many rules.

Rural people often say that no matter what is good, it is not as good as their own home, so even if the conditions of the nursing home are good, in the eyes of the elderly, it is not as comfortable as their own home, because in the past, many people lived in nursing homes, and they had to consider others while making it convenient for themselves. But in your own home, you can do whatever you want, it's very comfortable, and there are not so many rules. So it's much happier at home than in a nursing home.

But no matter what they say, nursing homes are still the best way to solve the problem of rural elderly care, so what we can do is to emancipate the minds of the elderly and let them slowly accept this new trend. Of course, nursing homes also need to develop slowly. If it were you, would you choose to go when you were old?

Many elderly people are reluctant to go to nursing homes because they don't want to delay their children's lives and don't want to add a burden to their children's lives.

It's because it's still very convenient to live alone, but if you go to a nursing facility, it may cause a certain burden on your children, and they don't want your children to spend money indiscriminately.

Because the cost of pension institutions is relatively large, the elderly in rural areas have no savings at all, and there is no pension insurance

Because the environment of the nursing home is very bad, and the diet there will be very bad, so many elderly people are reluctant to go.

Because they have lived in the countryside all their lives and have become accustomed to such a living environment, they are reluctant to go to a nursing institution.

Because the elderly have lived in the countryside all their lives, they can't do without this land, and it is rare for a person to be quiet and free.

Because the cost of going to a pension institution is particularly high, and they can't do what they like, and they have to be controlled by others, they don't want to go.

It is because after going to an elderly institution, the elderly will feel very empty and have no sense of security.

Because rural people can't adapt to the life of nursing institutions, and rural people don't want to increase the burden on their children.

We are very unfamiliar with nursing homes, and there are many rumors that they will abuse the elderly, and people will miss their homes very much when they are old.

Because going to a nursing home will feel that it is not in your own home, it will be particularly uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and the mood will be bad, so you are reluctant to go to a nursing institution.

There are many people who are reluctant to quietly provide for the elderly, because the elderly are particularly troublesome, and the work pressure of young people is relatively high, so they don't want to provide for the elderly. There are many things that need to be done to provide for the elderly, such as the need to give companionship, and the need to give comfort in action. <>

There may be many people who are reluctant to provide for their parents after their parents are old, in fact, these people are not disgusted with their parents, but they just feel that pension is a more troublesome thing. Because old-age care is not only about giving money to parents, but also about caring more about parents, and some older parents have physical problems, so young people have to take time to accompany the elderly to the hospital, once they do not do well, they will be said to be unfilial by others, so many people are not willing to provide for the elderly anymore. I think this situation is actually a very normal thing, after all, the pressure on young people is too great now, for example, when they go to work, they work until 12 o'clock at night, and they have to get up at 7 o'clock on the second day to cook.

If the elderly in the family are particularly in poor health, need to take medicine often or have no self-care ability, then young people need to help the elderly take a bath when they are old, and even cook and feed the elderly. At the beginning, young people may feel very sorry for their parents, but after a long time, young people will also be particularly irritable, after all, young people also have their own things to do. In addition to this enlightenment, there are also people who need to give more companionship to the elderly, because there are many elderly people who may be alone at home, and their spouses have gone to another world.

It can only be said that there is nothing wrong with young people and old people, but this world is like this, so there are many people who will buy social security before retirement, and then have a pension, and they don't need their children to provide for themselves. <>

Finally, filial piety.

It is very important, and I hope that young people can provide for their parents well, after all, they will grow old one day.

There are many people who are busy with their work, and these people will become like children when they get older, especially naïve, and they can't do without people at all, so they will restrict the freedom of personnel; You must be patient with the scum, have a stable job and a stable income.

Because many people's economic conditions are relatively average, they are busy with work and do not have so much time to accompany the elderly, they feel that it is not a hassle to take care of the elderly, so they do not want to provide for the elderly. It is necessary to accompany the elderly with more jujubes, to cook for the elderly what the elderly want to eat, and to accompany the elderly to go out for a walk.

Mainly because they feel that the old man is too troublesome. Usually you have to take care of the living life of the elderly. Cook for them, do their laundry.

The first reason: not free.

I often talk to the elderly in the countryside and ask them about the situation in the nursing home, and the unanimous thing I get is that the nursing home is not free. It can be said that nursing homes are the same as schools, getting up on time and eating on time, although there are special caretakers, but just like the head teacher, they always feel that someone is watching, which restricts personal freedom.

The second reason: high psychological pressure.

In our rural areas, as long as the elderly are over 65 years old, they can move to nursing homes to care for the elderly. But most of the people living in nursing homes are over 75 years old, according to the staff of the nursing home, every year there are more than a dozen elderly people to be sent away by the nursing home, most of them die because of illness, you can imagine, an average of one old person dies every month.

The third reason: reluctant to give up the land and yard at home.

The old man's thinking is still relatively conservative, and he must keep his family inheritance until he dies, you must know that this is left by his ancestors, and even if he dies, he must die in his own family. Especially the 80-year-old man, because he knows that his life is not much, he must live in his own home, and have the meaning of returning to the incense and reuniting with the deceased ancestors.

Reason 4: The children don't agree.

Many people think that to provide for their parents is to do their filial piety and send their parents to nursing homes, which is a big rebellion that will be laughed at by the villagers. This is a real case, in our rural areas, some family conditions are not particularly good, beating their parents and sending them to a nursing home, the villagers will gossip behind their backs, saying that they are not filial, their parents are old and do not support them, and so on.

The fifth reason: I am not used to the food in the nursing home.

Everyone has different tastes, for the elderly in rural areas, when they are young, they do heavy work, it is a big fat meat, drinking this is a very normal thing, even if they are old, they also love to eat fat meat and drink, but when they arrive at the nursing home, all things are provided in the hospital, in order to prevent the elderly from three highs, so the food is relatively light, which makes many old people feel unaccustomed, and smoking and drinking are stopped, so the old people are more unaccustomed to living, and the old people are not willing to go to the nursing home after hearing about it.

The elderly in rural areas would rather live alone than go to nursing homes, first of all, they have traditional roots, and they always think that entering a nursing home is undignified and uncomfortable, so they are rejected.

The facilities of nursing homes are constantly being optimized, and in the past few years, individual nursing homes, after the individual abuse of the elderly has been exposed, the impression of the nursing home is not very good, and the old people have palpitations and are unwilling to go to the nursing home, which is also a factor.

After the elderly in rural areas lose their ability to work, including the elderly with children, there should indeed be a suitable place to care for the elderly, but many elderly people are just unwilling to go to nursing homes, how to deal with this contradiction?

I have written an article before, which is about the problem of pension for the elderly in rural areas, that is, the household pension model. The two parties can voluntarily combine, and the village group will review and check, and the living welfare benefits enjoyed by the elderly and widows will be directly given to the elderly people, and they will be responsible for taking care of the elderly.

In this way, not only the old people will be happy, but also those middle-aged and elderly people who are half idle or idle at home also have something to do. In a rural family, a village person, some of whom are clan relatives, should do their best to take care of them, and both parties are satisfied, so why not!

Some people are worried that it is very troublesome, yes, in the face of the problem of aging, it is already a very troubled problem, the lonely and widowed old people need to provide for the elderly, those who have children, and those who live a prosperous life, are also entangled in the problem of old-age care, and they want to let the old people spend their old age in peace, but they have to work, and some old people are reluctant to go to the city, both into the city and worried about the contradictions, so the children are also very difficult.

Rural elderly care, in addition to nursing homes, one-to-one pension model is indeed worth a try, taking in an old man, although the income is not high, but for a family, one more person is just a pair of chopsticks, a bowl, or very simple.

The elderly who are sent to the household are entrusted by the village group to sign a contract with the elderly to clarify the obligations and legal responsibilities, and it can be implemented.

The old people are only reluctant to go to the nursing home, there are many factors, in a sense, a caregiver to take care of not an old man, how can there be so comprehensive, comprehensive, no matter how good the service attitude is, whose home is not unpleasant, sometimes it is inevitable to bring it to the face, which also gives the nursing home some negative impact. In addition, the elderly who are lonely and widowed in rural areas have limited money to take Qiao Fengyu, and I am afraid that it is not enough to live in a nursing home, which is also the actual situation.

Because these old people are particularly backward in their thinking, they feel that if they go to the old withered people's house, they will make their children shameless and make people feel that their children are not filial.

Because the environment of the nursing home is not very good, and there are too many people, sometimes the elderly also like to stay by themselves, how free they are to live in the countryside.

I don't want to go to an unfamiliar environment to adapt to it, and I feel more relaxed at home with what I want to eat, what I want to do.

The choice of urban or rural retirement mainly depends on whether the pensioner works, studies and lives in the city or the countryside for a long time. People who have worked, studied and lived in the city for a long time and retired generally do not choose to retire in the countryside; People who have lived in rural areas all their lives generally do not choose to retire in cities. Since ancient times, the conditions of the city are better than those in the countryside, especially the medical conditions and living conditions are better than those in the countryside, but whether it is in the city or the countryside, the conditions for the elderly are improving at an accelerated pace.

However, people who retire in the city generally do not choose to retire in the countryside. Although the countryside has beautiful mountains and rivers, fresh air and livable environment, people who have retired in the city are accustomed to urban life, even if their children are not living around, but there is a familiar environment and familiar people around, and there are more convenient medical care and convenient wild wheel travel. When it is inconvenient to move, for the elderly in rural areas, although the city has superior medical and other conditions, in addition to the children in the city have better living conditions, they generally do not choose to go to the city for the elderly.

The rural elderly who have lived in the countryside all their lives have adapted to the rural environment where they were born, raised and worked, and are familiar with the mountains, water, wood, grass, etc. in the countryside, and it is difficult to adapt to urban life. With the advancement of rural revitalization, the state attaches great importance to the construction of the rural pension service system, and many rural areas have also built nursing homes and other pension service institutions, including medical services, etc., and the rural elderly whose children go out to work and no one to take care of them can gradually go to the local nursing home to live.