Why can t I understand my parents? 5

I wonder if you're a boy or a girl? In fact, your parents' actions and thoughts are all towards you, but the way they behave is different, many things are hidden deep by parents, but that is something that makes a person feel happy. What better way to understand you than your parents?

Or your behavior and some kind of thought parents don't like. Do you like your parents to fight? That's not right, it's not a normal idea for a young person, try to make your parents like you and care more about them in some way, who doesn't like family harmony?

It is good for one's own study, career, and all aspects of the heart. When the relationship between parents is not good, you will feel that you are their support and motivation, and let your parents know your thoughts. Love them from the heart and think of them in all things.

Kindness? Try to communicate more with your parents, more will naturally be good, the relationship will naturally be good, and the parents' practices will be understood, maybe the parents are also wrong, but the important thing is yourself, your actions will affect your parents, and you will understand each other.

It's the New Year, today is the third day of the Lunar New Year, I wish you a happy New Year, family harmony, and everything will be different. Communication, communication!!

If you don't really know how to feel, you can't understand if you miss it, and you don't think it's ugly.

Every parent loves us as children. Understanding and communication are the path to happiness and harmony for a family.

How much your parents love you, but you don't realize it, and ask yourself, do you love your parents?

Look at what is said upstairs, I also wish you a happy new year and family harmony on the third day of the Lunar New Year.

Filial piety comes first.

In fact, before this question, we can ask ourselves, have we understood our parents?

Ask this question, you are always in your own perspective, thinking about all the problems, and now, I suggest that you, put yourself in the shoes of your parents, think about your own problems, and you will know why.

Because parents have their parents' value system and cognition of the world, and you have your own value system, there will inevitably be a lot of cognitive differences between the two generations, so we only have a clearer understanding of the parents' demands and their own demands, and then, find a balance between the two sides, this is the best way to get along.

Parents can't follow you all your life, and you, after all, will have your own life and future, be more empathetic, more understanding, and more generous, then you won't have such doubts anymore.

Not everyone can understand all your things, and some things need you to take the initiative to explain to others in order for others to understand you.

Because your parents are all a bunch of brainless feudal animals of the last century.

Parents may not have the starting point to understand and communicate well.

Inability to understand these behaviors of parents:

1. Always compare children with other people's children.

70% of students are most disgusted by their parents comparing themselves with other children, in fact, parents do this, not only can not promote children's progress, but will bring two negative effects: one is to hit children's self-confidence, because they cannot get affirmation from their parents, children can not better self-identity, will make them feel inferior, lack of motivation in learning. The second is that it may make children rebellious, and the more parents say that they are bad, the worse they will do, so as to confront their parents.

2. Excessively restricting children's freedom.

In the survey, 80% of the students objected to their parents' restrictions on their freedom, which was manifested in the fact that they were not allowed to watch TV, did not like computers, were not allowed to go out to play, were not allowed to buy their favorite clothes, and were not allowed to eat casually.

In fact, psychologists have long pointed out that parents' excessive restriction of children's freedom will make children lose their vitality, and then lose their creativity and imagination, which is very detrimental to the future development of individuals, and they must be given appropriate freedom.

3. Enroll your child in too many tutoring classes.

More than 6 out of 10 students said that their parents had enrolled them in too many tutoring classes, which made them feel very stressed. I have to say that the fierce competition in learning now makes many parents very anxious, and they can't wait to arrange various learning tasks for their children every day, 7 days a week, as if this can reduce psychological anxiety and let children grow faster.

However, it is necessary to understand the principle of combining work and rest, blindly studying to increase pressure will overwhelm the child or make their fragile mind unbearable, which may lead to a decline in grades, or other psychological problems, and the gains outweigh the losses.

4. Don't trust children.

There are also many students who report that they can't stand the doubts of their parents and don't believe in themselves. There was a student who had bad grades before, and after hard work, he regretted that he was the third in the class at the end of the exam, but when he went home with the results, his mother didn't believe that he had taken the test himself, and called ** to find the teacher to confirm, which made him heartbroken.

5. Look too closely.

Nowadays, for almost every family, children are treasures, and parents are afraid that doing something wrong will affect their children's life. Some parents have become "live cameras, live monitors", and their children's every move must be within their control, so that children feel that they have no space, no privacy, no freedom, and seriously affect the maintenance of parent-child relationship.