What are the causes of a happy or unhappy marriage?

I got married in a hurry before I was ready, and I didn't do a good job after I got married.

1. Get married hastily before you are ready.

Either under the pressure of relatives and friends around him, or because he was hurt in love, both parties didn't understand each other at the beginning, so they got married in a hurry. As a result, due to the differences in the three views and living habits in married life, there are conflicts and endless quarrels every day, and after a long time, they choose to divorce.

It is also necessary to advise unmarried young men and women not to find someone to marry at random just because they have reached marriageable age, and not to use marriage as a life-saving straw for healing, which is irresponsible. Marriage is to stay with this person, and it must not be regarded as child's play, nor should it be regarded as a process that must be completed at a certain stage of life.

Second, a lazy and shirked marriage did not end well.

A happy marriage requires two people to run together, and if one of the parties is lazy or shirks each other's responsibilities, the relationship will definitely go wrong. For example, if the man thinks that the woman will not earn money to support the family, and the woman complains that the man does not care about the family, and even the small things such as buying groceries, changing light bulbs, and throwing garbage have to be taken into account, what reason is there for such a marriage to continue?

Marriage is not only to make the union of two people make life better, but also to make the relationship of two people have a better development, if each other can not understand, trust, then the marriage will lose its original meaning, such a marriage is not far from the end.

Third, only pursue the wind and snow, and don't care about firewood, rice, oil and salt.

No matter how vigorous love is, it is an indisputable fact that after marriage, it will return to the calm of firewood, rice, oil and salt. If you only live in fantasy, only think about the romance of the wind and snow, do not consider the reality of firewood, rice, oil and salt, and see that it is very romantic for others to travel abroad, and regardless of whether your own economic situation allows you to follow, both of you only pursue romance, then who is responsible for making money and who is responsible for supporting your family? A marriage without an economic foundation cannot last long, and it is only the conjecture of romantics to be full of love and water, and firewood, rice, oil and salt are the correct way to open between husband and wife.

Marriage is not the same as love, love can be as you like, but marriage cannot be casual, what marriage needs is understanding, recognition, loyalty and responsibility. I hope that both those who have not yet entered marriage or those who have entered marriage will have a correct attitude towards marriage, and I also hope that everyone who enters the marriage hall with the determination of "one couple for a lifetime" will restore the sacred essence of marriage, stick to each other's vows, and go on for a long time.

1.Failure to fully understand the needs and values of the company. If a person does not understand what they need and the support and attention they need in their marriage, they may choose the wrong spouse again and again.

2.Lack of mature, stable emotional abilities. Mature emotional competencies include understanding, receiving, expressing, and dealing with emotions. If a person is prone to tantrums, complaints, attacks, criticism, etc., then there is a chance that he or she will not be able to handle and adapt to conflicts in marriage.

3.Expectations for married life are too high. There are all kinds of problems and challenges in a marital relationship, and if a person does not have realistic expectations for the marriage, he or she is likely to choose divorce because of the conflict.

4.Staggered mate selection. If a person often chooses to be a partner with someone who he cannot get along with, then divorce is inevitable. Some people staggered mate selection because they don't have enough self-confidence, sense of value and belonging, and will choose to be with some people who are not suitable for them.

Because of the urging of his parents, he married the object with whom he did not have a deep relationship, and such a marriage lacked enough understanding, and there would be many potential hidden dangers. Weiwei and Xiao Guo are college classmates and fellow villagers, after graduation, most of the classmates chose to go back to their hometowns, and they both chose to stay and work hard, in a strange city, two familiar people soon came together. Xiao Guo was born in the countryside to conservative parents, and in his hometown, many of his peers were already married when he was in college.

Once his parents took the opportunity to say that they were going to send some special products to Xiao Guo, but after arriving, they had to see Weiwei. Weiwei met her parents very passively, and after the parents of both sides got in touch, they took the initiative to discuss the marriage, and Weiwei felt that she was not ready. The days of working hard outside are very hard, compared to working day and night, narrow rental housing, going back to the hometown to get married is indeed a good choice, both parents bought a wedding house for them, plus dowry and bride price, slightly feel very happy.

But the two did not live together before marriage, and many differences were slowly revealed after marriage, such as Xiao Guo always snoring loudly when he sleeps, and always smokes in the room. If there is a chance to do it all over again, Weiwei will definitely choose to understand more during the love period, and the most feared thing in marriage is disappointment and regret.

Married life is a small family of two people united by love. Very people are not satisfied with marriage after marriage, and feel that marriage is a grave. So what are the reasons for unhappy marriages?

The young couple didn't know enough about each other, and they got married without deep feelings. Most of us get married from acquaintance, acquaintance, love and then into the palace of marriage. And some people, because the process of mutual understanding is short, they enter married life, which will lead to disbelief in character understanding and disbelief, and there will be contradictions.

Different living habits or cultural differences, leading to unhappy life.

The influence of the family of origin. Nowadays, many families are unable to achieve a small two-person separate house, so the intervention of the original family may lead to unhappy marriage.

Children are the crystallization of the love of parents, and perhaps some families have no children that lead to incompatibility and unhappy marriages.

When it comes to children, if one of the parties is dissatisfied with the child's gender, it can also lead to an unhappy marriage.

The difference between the three views, if the husband and wife have different values and money views, there is often a big difference in consumption, which leads to an unhappy marriage.

Domestic violence, this is a very important manifestation of marital unhappiness, whether it is cold violence or hot violence, once violence occurs, the unhappiness of the marriage will slowly show.

In fact, there are many, many factors that contribute to unhappy marriage. Therefore, thinking carefully before getting married, being humble to each other after marriage, and respecting each other is the true meaning of marital happiness.

1.There is often a lack of communication skills and problem-solving skills to effectively communicate with your spouse and solve problems.

2.Sometimes, they may lack a stable character, may be more likely to be dissatisfied with relationships or problems, and may be prone to ending a marriage.

3.There may be a lack of genuine commitment to the marriage, a lack of fidelity and durability to the marriage.

4.There may be immature behaviors or attitudes, and may exhibit selfish or irresponsible nurturing behaviors, which can lead to boredom or distrust of the partner.

5.They may have experienced trauma or traumatic events that prevented them from having healthy relationships in their marriage.

6.The personality is not quite compatible with the partner, which further leads to conflicts and disagreements.