Is it a good or bad phenomenon for teenagers to fall in love

I think that learning is the first thing at this stage, and I am worried that my child's falling in love will occupy a lot of energy and affect my academic performance.

It makes no sense to think that a child's love is immature and meaningless, because it is destined to break up, and it is just a waste of time to talk about it now.

Fear that your child will get into trouble by being exposed to sex too early, being hurt or causing harm to others. Or they are exposed to pornography through inappropriate channels, which exceeds their maturity level and affects their physical and mental health.

But from a child's point of view, what does falling in love – or "proximity to the opposite sex" mean – to him? We may think about it from these aspects:

The child's stage of development—

Differentiation from the family of origin.

A normally developing child goes through a stage of separation and individuation from his mother, the primary love object, during his toddler years (about 1-3 years of age). At this stage, the child will go from the original state of integration with the mother to the gradual separation of the mother's body and mind for the first time, which is the beginning of the child's perception of himself as an independent individual.

Mothers who have experience in parenting will find that the baby who used to hang on her body like a koala all day long and only have her mother in her eyes has slowly become a little fish that constantly twists and hugs and hugs for a long time, paying close attention to the world outside of her mother.

Adolescence is the second stage in which children experience differentiation, but this time the child needs to be separated from the entire family of origin.

Mr. Hayao Kawai, a Japanese psychologist, once mentioned that children's proximity to the opposite sex is also proximity to the world. In this way, in the process of gradually leaving the attachment to our parents, we slowly became self-reliant and formed our own worldview.

And an important stage of leaving parents is to develop attachment to the opposite sex outside the family.

Sometimes, the existence of another person in the child's spiritual world and the deep attachment to the other person may make the parents feel abandoned in the stateless consciousness, and want the child to continue to maintain a state of integration with themselves, or it may unconsciously block the child's desire for emotional independence.

In films, television, and news, we often see some so-called "mom boys" and "good girls" who have no way to enter an intimate relationship or establish a healthy intimate relationship, but in fact, to a large extent, these two differentiations have not been completed.

In this sense, teenagers falling in love actually means that they are taking another step towards maturity physically and psychologically.

Girls want to fall in love during adolescence mainly because they want to be cared for, recognized and cared for, and girls in this period are very fragile in their hearts, and they have the desire to be protected psychologically, so they are easy to be attracted to boys, and they are easy to have the idea of falling in love.

I'm a little bit of an age that I don't understand, and I'm bored and not a personality that is completely independent.

The love of teenagers is young and beautiful, they always have beautiful fantasies about the future, but it will also lead to academic problems for some people, it is not recommended to do this, because at this time both parties are immature in mind, and few can go to the end.