Talk about lowering expectations of others, lowering expectations of others

We must always learn to grow up on our own and not depend on others.

2. When you are lonely, you hope to become an immortal and not rely on others.

3. Don't rely on others, only believe in yourself.

4. Life as I understand it is to take care of yourself and not depend on others.

Don't rely on what others say.

5. I can't give me a sense of security, so I will work hard to lose weight and not rely on it.

6. Change yourself, improve yourself, and don't rely on others!!

7. If you want the meaning of life, don't take what is written in the book or what others say, it has nothing to do with you.

8. When can we be financially independent, not relying on others, not relying on parents, and only working ourselves.

9. May you and I be strong in our hearts, independent and warm, independent and warm.

10. People must have an independent personality and not rely on others, otherwise, if the person who is relied on leaves, then your life will collapse immediately!

11. Buy what you want, be self-sufficient, and don't rely on others, so that you will shine, don't rely on, don't sustenance, don't make trouble for others, and don't worry about yourself.

13. Not relying on others is the greatest affirmation of yourself, and the world will become wonderful because of your efforts.

14. You can drive by yourself, don't rely on others, you can quietly feel the beauty of life, and be positive!

15. I'm just persevering, and then I use my own persistence to exchange for exhaustion.

16. I don't depend on others because I've had enough of disappointment.

17. I never blame you, but sometimes I am disappointed. It's just that I relied on you too much before.

18. People will have times when they are in a bad mood, unspeakable loss, sadness if they don't understand, and staggered when they can't reason.

19. In a person's life, in addition to love at first sight, there should also be a blindness.

20. The palm of the hand is downward, do not ask for others, do not rely on others, only rely on yourself.

21. Life will always teach people to be strong and independent. Don't depend on others, live yourself.

In real life, people often demand a lot from others, have high expectations and expectations, but fail to achieve their goals and produce negative emotions, which will affect their mentality and emotions in the long run. Because of the loss, to a certain extent, I will have an opinion about the relatives and friends around me, which is not good. We must overcome and lower our expectations of others!

This morning, a netizen shared a classic quotation, which I think makes sense, and now I share it with you: "The assistance of any external force is only temporary after all, and what is really in your hands will become your strong reliance and capital." "So, at all times, being yourself is the last word!

How can I lower my expectations of others? I think the first thing to do is to have a correct mindset and have an objective understanding of things that are divided into two. Just do your best and do your best.

It is love for others to help you, and it is your duty not to help you. But on the contrary, you should ask yourself to give roses to others and leave a lingering fragrance in your hands.

Secondly, we must improve our own quality, learn from excellent people, and move closer to excellent teams. Again, learn to be kind and pay attention to the cultivation of virtue. You may say, what does this question have to do with kindness and virtue!

In fact, there is a very direct relationship. In real life, people who are greedy and selfish are not popular. There are many people who are not used to seeing injustices.

If we don't have a good and moral essence as the bottom line, we can see where we will go. Therefore, there must be goodness, and there must be morality. Only the overall quality of people has improved, the spirit has decreased, and the expectations of others have naturally decreased.

I read a sentence today: The greatest self-discipline of adults is not to have unrealistic expectations of others. I was deeply touched.

Because expectations are too high, it is easy to magnify each other's shortcomings, ignore each other's contributions, and hurt each other's feelings.

I reflected on myself, and felt that some of my son's actions did hurt him, and the reason was that I expected too much from him, so that I could always easily find his shortcomings, and many times I always reprimanded him with an impatient tone, so that he always seemed unconfident now, and suddenly found that the lively and cheerful little boy was gone, and there were more times of silence.

After dinner, when I was playing with my daughter, I caught a glimpse of my son's envious gaze, which made me feel excited. The girl is still young, so she spoils her very much, and always thinks that her son is older and should be stricter, but forgets that he is not yet ten years old.

I usually complain to my husband, sooner or later I will be angry with your son, as soon as my son writes his homework, I am like a stepmother possessed, nagging and irritable, and I feel that liver disease is rolled out of anger. The more I thought about it, the more I felt that for my son, the mother was really a failure.

This expectation imposed on him made me more and more impetuous, and it also hurt the child.

I hope that I will become more and more hungry and peaceful, let go of my children, and let myself go.

The first step is to be humble, and humility here is not only a matter of attitude, but also often "said", "technically difficult", "I really can't spare time", "I don't have much experience in this area", etc. The purpose of this is to avoid the immediate statement, the limitation of the scope of work, and the preparation of refusal.

The second step is to ask questions, and we all have to learn to ask questions, and every work-related question must be asked clearly. Mr. Sun then introduced the 5w1h working method, 5w: including why do you want to do this?

Purpose), what's going on? (Target), where (where), and when will it be executed? When will it be done?

time), by whom? (Personnel) and how to execute? What effective measures have been taken?

Method). In the process of Q&A, work is further cancelled, merged, rearranged and simplified, and the problems are comprehensively analyzed. At the same time, the question can also reduce the expectations of the other party, and the other party may retreat first after these 6 questions are asked, because a lot of work is not feasible.

The third step is to see if you can refuse, and refusal can directly minimize the expectations of the other party. In work, there is also a game, we must have our own psychological bottom line, and we must learn to refuse. Otherwise, if there is no bottom line and there will be no refusal, then you will only be led by the nose by others, and it will be difficult to achieve the purpose of lowering the expectations of the other party.

Don't be afraid of offending people, everyone understands the truth that long pain is better than short pain, that is, when you actually want to use it, you are afraid of this and that. If you don't refuse when it's time to refuse, the work is successful, that's the other party's success, and if the job fails, it's your failure.

The fourth step is to get the ugly things to say. In the work, many problems will not be solved satisfactorily, but the work must be done. When there is no choice, you can only do it, but before that, it is still necessary to carry out "early warning", ugly words in advance, before the work begins, list all possible problems and risks, send an email to the relevant people, inform them of the possible consequences, and put forward their own suggestions.

1. Don't give him too much hope at first.

2 plain and insipid interactions.

3. Don't have any top-notch performance.

4. In this way, others will expect a little less from you.