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Really good parents are quiet ferrymen, they follow the path of persuasion, rather than control, they embody their values in their behavior, rather than perfunctory in empty truths.
1.Any education that is deliberately designed will fail.
In life, I once met a child who wrote very beautifully, and was surprised how she could write such a beautiful font at such a young age, so she "asked" her, and she proudly said, "My mother writes more beautiful than me!" After chatting, I realized that she practiced calligraphy for three hours a day, and every time her mother accompanied her to practice, she liked to practice calligraphy with her mother, and she also liked calligraphy from the bottom of her heart.
Some parents, when accompanying their children to do their homework, supervise and scold their children to concentrate and speed up while watching TV or playing games, and also tell them not to come out to peek and eavesdrop.
Intimate parenting lies in the communication between the hearts, and the basis of the communication between the hearts is respect, on this basis, more communication, exchanges, and finally respect and accept the child's choice. And don't deliberately do the right words and deeds, it's difficult. It's also hard to maintain that well in every aspect.
If you deliberately set an example for the sake of educating your children. There will be traces of your education, and parenting will first nurture yourself!
2.Teach by example = Teach by example?
In the modern sense, "teaching by example" should be more accurately said to be "teaching by example". Teaching by example is to put words in the first place, first tell you how to do it, and then demonstrate it to you. And teaching by example is to put teaching by example in the first place, and after you see me doing this, when you ask me why I did it, I will tell you.
The former is passive acceptance, and the latter is active seeking advice.
Smart parents will choose to do it first, and let the children judge for themselves. In an open-ended, rather than indoctrination learning environment, children identify inappropriate behaviours and correct or innovate them at the source. One of the nature of children is to imitate, and in order to make a child become a kind of person, first of all, what kind of person you have to be.
3.How to correctly bring into play the guiding power of "teaching by word and deed."
Children will imitate the behaviors they see, however, teaching by word and example has also been identified as a generally acceptable education model that can continue to exert an impact, but the core of teaching by word and example is not in teaching, but in standing, the earlier the child can stand upright, the less children are exposed to violent words and deeds in the outside world, and the more objective and correct the explanation and guidance of violence in the external world, the more helpful it is for children to develop a healthy personality and behavior pattern from an early age.
We want to live together in a safer, healthier and more sunny environment, and we want our children to have good personal accomplishment and character, so let each member of our society start from their own words and deeds, and become a positive role model for the next generation, and at the same time, become a better and better version of ourselves!
An excellent parent will not take the child as the center of their life, they will not lose themselves for the child, but will use the child to improve themselves, we do the best ourselves, is to give the child the best education, and the child benefits is only the result, not the goal.
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Parents should pay attention to talking at home, don't swear, children are the best at learning to swear. Parents should also be diligent at home, in the matter of doing housework, parents should take the lead, and children will take the initiative to do it when they see it, so parents' words and deeds at home are very important.
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Parents should understand that educating their children must start from themselves, first of all, they must do a very good job, just imagine that they can't do well, how can they ask their children to do better?
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Educate your child based on your own experience. Parents should educate their children according to their own experience, so that children can understand some basic truths, develop their strengths, and make up for their shortcomings.
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The best education parents can give their children is to teach them by word and deed, and this is true. Every word and deed of parents, every move and every move of children who live with their parents will be concerned at any time and imitate at any time. Therefore, as a parent, you must pay attention to your own image, pay attention to your words and deeds, and be a good example for your children to learn.
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Yes, parents are the best teachers for their children, and their words and deeds will directly affect their children, so parents should consider their children in everything they do and set an example for them.
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I think so, because the best education that parents give their children must be to teach by word and deed, and parents are a role model for their children, and children will learn accordingly what kind of parents are.
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The best education that parents give their children is indeed teaching by word and deed, so parents must set a good example for their children and lead by example.
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I think it's teaching by word and deed, because children will imitate their parents' behavior, and parents' behavior will have a very big impact on children.
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<> "The best education is the words and deeds of parents.
First, the first person to establish the heart, the first person to correct themselves!
If you want to educate others well, you must first educate yourself well, and a good family education is not about giving your children the best thing to do, but for parents to set an example.
Second, what is the way of the person who moves before the liquid, and the same is true of the follower.
Your personality, personality, communication, thinking habits, words and deeds, and your ears and eyes are familiar to your child, and these things will penetrate into his life silently, and he will unconsciously imitate you and follow you unconsciously.
Three sages think together, close to Zhu Zhechi.
When children are young, they do not have the concept of right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, and often the people around them think that the behavior of the parents around them should be how the children think, and they are naturally considered to be the correct behavior by the children, and then the children will learn to imitate "I will become you when I grow up".
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Summary. Hello dear dear, the famous Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "The all-round development of human beings depends on what kind of people the mother and father are in front of the children, and how the children understand the relationship between people and the social environment from the example of their parents."
When we talk about education, the first thing that comes to mind is the school and teachers, and even what kind of tutoring classes to enroll in for children, how to improve children's academic performance, etc., and it is often easy to ignore the role of parents in children's education. However, the family is a banner for children, parents are a mirror for children, and family education is even more important than school education to some extent. Moreover, for parents, actions speak louder than words, and "teaching by example" is more important than "words".
Confucius said: "His body is upright, and he does not give orders; His body is not right, although he does not obey orders. "Speech is the basic way of teaching by example, and teaching by example is an effective means of teaching.
The mother in the news appropriately combines "words" and "examples", not only correcting the child's mistakes with verbal criticism in a timely manner, but also patiently guiding the child to correct his mistakes and make correct behavioral choices again. This is the "best education" for children.
Hello dear dear, the famous Soviet educator Sukhomlinsky said: "The all-round development of human beings depends on the kind of people who mothers and fathers are in front of children, and on how children understand the relationship between people and the social environment from the example of their parents." When we talk about education, the first thing that comes to mind is the school and teachers, and even what kind of tutoring classes to enroll in for children, how to improve children's academic performance, etc., and it is often easy to ignore the role of parents in children's education.
However, the family is a banner for children, parents are a mirror for children, and family education is even more important than school education to some extent. Moreover, for parents, actions speak louder than words, and "teaching by example" is more important than "words". Confucius said:
His body is upright, and he does not give orders; His body is not chained to the old upright, although he does not obey the order. "Words are the basic way to teach by example, and teaching by example is an effective means of word teaching. The mother in the news appropriately combines "words" and "examples", not only correcting the child's mistakes with verbal criticism in a timely manner, but also patiently guiding the child to correct his mistakes and make correct behavioral choices again.
This is the "best education" for children.
Parents' words and deeds are a necessary supplement to school education and social education, the inheritance of traditional Chinese virtues, and the best education for children.
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Children are the mirror of their parents. According to the doctrine of education, heredity is a fundamental factor that affects a child and cannot play a decisive role, but heredity provides the possibility for the development of the child. Heredity is not only physiological, but also the words and deeds of parents.
There are also environmental impacts. Man is a higher animal, and the cultivation of the day after tomorrow is very important. First, the child's 1 to 3 years old is the parenting period, and from a psychological point of view, it is an important period for the child to establish a strong emotional dependence on his parents, especially his mother.
Second, the age of 3 to 6 is the period of character development, and it is also an important period for parents to teach by word and deed. Children are like a blank slate, and parents are the gods in their hearts and irreplaceable role models. Just saying that you can't do it is easy to have a rebellious mentality.
Third, children from 6 to 12 years old are very important as the formers and hardeners of good habits, so we must cultivate the sincerity of children.
The consistency of parents is particularly important here, and Zhao Lingxi cannot change his words and deeds. Speech and behavior affect a child's life, and the importance is self-evident. Everyone knows the truth, but it is rare to really do a good job.
Whether it's a teacher or a parent, teaching by word and deed is highly respected, and I actually want to ask myself to do the same, but it's too difficult to do, and I can give some of the simplest examples. I can't put down my phone, I can't hold a book.
This is the deepest feeling of parents who have children going to school. I have a second-grade child in my family, a kindergartener, and we know that we need to give them the habit of reading. Because this habit can bring them benefits for a lifetime.
But the reality is, go home. We, as parents, may be letting our children do their homework on their own, or we may be guiding them when they least understand. The rest of the time is mostly looking at the phone or playing on the computer.
Sometimes my daughter also asks us not to play with our phones. You can do homework, read books, or play games with them, but you can also do that. In that case, you may forget.
So we sometimes accuse our children of not studying hard enough, not being careful enough in their homework, and not being mentally focused enough, but in fact, we, as parents, do it as his most intuitive role model. Then their performance is actually a replica of our adults.
On a whim, it is not easy to stick. Whether it's studying, reading, or doing something else, once or twice, it's actually very simple. I'm sure most people can do it.
But it's harder to do it for a week, a month, or even a year. My family is also typical of ideas over action. Whenever there is a problem, I think a little deeper and there is a solution.
But it may not be possible to do it for a day or two or a few days, to go back to the way it was before, and to have a self-criticism and improvement. In this way, the patience and mental strength of the day will gradually disappear, and it may be possible in the end.
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Of course, it is very important, because parents are the best teachers for children, so it is very important for parents to teach by example.
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Significant. If you ask your child for something you can't do, your child can't be convinced, only your parents will lead by example.
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It is very important for parents to lead by example in many cases so that their children can see how you do it, so that they can guide their children.
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Of course, it is very important, so when educating children, parents must play a leading role.
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It's really important because parents' behavior affects their children.
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Isn't this nonsense! As the old saying goes, you can tell the tutor by looking at the child. It can be seen that parents have a huge influence on their children.
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The seafood buffet restaurant in the center of the city walked into a father and son, the father wore a pair of glasses and was polite, and the son was seven or eight years old, sunny and lovely.
After choosing a place to sit down, the father repeatedly told his son not to take too much and not to waste it. The son took the plate and excitedly left and right, and when he came back, he took a full of sharp points.
Can you finish eating? Father asked.
Finish eating, finish eating", the son sat down happily and ate with relish.
The father did not say a word, and silently observed his son while eating. After a while, the son's eating slowed down, and he peeked at his father from time to time while eating.
After a while, my father left his seat and went to the bathroom. The son secretly emptied the uneaten food into the trash.
Finished eating? Father asked.
Finished eating? The son replied.
Show me the trash can," said my father, still gently.
The son slowly bent down, slowly picked up the trash can, and handed it over with great reluctance. The father took a look, took the trash can steadily, did not speak, picked up the chopsticks and carefully picked up the food in it and ate it silently.
Don't eat, don't eat....The little boy said as he cried.
The father in the story did not directly expose his son's lies, nor did he reprimand his son's actions with words, but taught his son a lesson that he will never forget. In this way, the child should not only no longer have panicked and wasteful behaviors on the road of future growth, but also received good guidance in all aspects. This father gave his son not only companionship and respect, but more importantly, the correct example.
Mr. Cai Yuanpei said: "The family is the first school of life. "The best education parents can give their children is to teach them by example. Words and deeds are more important than words.
How do you want your children to grow up, what kind of life do you want your children to have in the future, then how to educate and nurture your children. Teaching in school, nurturing in the family, every parent is the best guide for their children's growth stool.
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