What should I do if I have more and more nothing to say to my parents?

The older you get, the more likely you are to develop the presence of a groove. However, even if you are not old, there is a generation gap, after all, you don't live in the same era. But the real generation gap is when self-awareness emerges and begins to go strong.

I think that the time when we have our own sense of independence should be after the age of 18 in adulthood, and the rebellious period of adolescence is really not counted, and the ability to think independently is not for the sake of rebelling against parents, but when we begin to think rationally. For example, I don't want to eat this apple, not because your mother gave it to you, you don't want to listen to your mother's food, but because you're full right now or the apple doesn't taste good, or you don't like it.

When the sense of self grows stronger and clearer about what you want, it becomes more and more difficult to talk to your parents. Because of the difference in position, the concept held is essentially different, and as a result, as the saying goes, the head of the bull is not the mouth of the horse. (Embarrassing) your mother said to you:

It's really a love affair with a cow. You say to your mother, "Old stubborn and unreasonable."

This will lead to an impasse and a heated quarrel will be.

But what should I do, yesterday I swiped the circle of friends, and a friend said, ".

The traditional Chinese way of being a housewife is to ask you what you want to eat for three meals a day, and in the morning to ask if you slept warmly last night. Because she can't think of anything other than that, she can't figure out how to be nice to you. ”

Later, I talked to her, in fact, we already feel that this phenomenon is very natural, parents have not been deeply involved in our study work, can mention the content is the small things in life, she can give help is to remind you of your physical condition, on the other hand, because parents understand the importance of physical health, and young us do not understand. We can't tell our parents all our confusion, first, we are afraid that our parents will worry; The second is that parents may not be able to solve it.

But when your parents want to talk to you, they are close to you, and even if you can't say anything, you have to tell your parents about your life situation, especially your mother. Mom cares about your life, and of course you talk about your life. If you feel annoyed, you should also be calm, this is just a kind of care, a greeting, a unique mother-style love, other people's greetings are always not as warm as your own mother's greetings.

Let your parents feel that you are valued, that you listen to what they say, and don't make them feel alienated from you, even if you don't speak, you know?

This cold winter day is suddenly sunny, and it is also suitable for basking on the balcony with your parents, parents can watch TV, and you can scroll through Weibo. It's okay, it's very comfortable, and it's warm without talking. (Don't ask me how I know, haha).

Maybe it's because your communication is not very good, so you feel that you have nothing to say, you can talk to your parents about your recent situation, as well as some interesting things that have happened in life and study, and slowly change the way of life between you!

1. Take the initiative to communicate.

Find a little time every day, such as before or after meals, to take the initiative to talk to your parents about your school, teachers and friends, happy or unhappy, and share your joys and sorrows with your family.

2. Create opportunities.

Do at least one thing a week with your parents, such as cooking, working in the fields, playing ball, shopping, and watching TV. Communicate while doing things.

3. Listen carefully.

When you are criticized or scolded by your parents, don't rush to refute them, try to listen to your parents' thoughts calmly first, and maybe you will understand the reasons behind your parents' anger.

4. Sometimes we have to learn to be patient when we have any opinions with our parents, for our parents, we tend to quarrel over some things, as if we are right, in fact, at this time, we should try to take a step back.

This may be a normal phenomenon, the age gap between parents and us is very large, plus we are constantly learning, but they may be in a state of no learning, then our generation gap will get bigger and bigger, this is not your problem, nor is it their problem. I think as long as we respect our parents very much, then it doesn't matter how much we talk or how little we say.

But we must understand that everything we have now is because of our parents, and if we didn't have our parents, we wouldn't have all this now, so we should always be grateful, and then I believe that in this case, I won't feel particularly guilty.

I have less and less to say to my parents, and I need to find out the reason for this situation. If it's because your parents are too busy, you can talk to them when they're free. However, if you think that it is very difficult to communicate together because your parents are too strict, then you should understand your parents more in this situation.

You must know that in this world, only parents are the people you trust the most. So the requirements for us will also be very strict. The main thing is that we are afraid that we will take a detour. So, it's normal for our parents to have a gap between them. It's all about how you understand it.

It's normal to have less and less to talk to our parents, because we are getting older, and we have our own lives and even families, and the current work pressure is also very high, so we will have less and less to talk to our parents.

But parents are our closest people, and the age of our parents is getting older day by day, we should accompany our parents more as children, we can often go home to see what to buy for our parents, eat together, and also chat about some family things and some words of concern for parents during meals, so that the relationship with parents is getting better and better, and there will be more words with parents.

Parents all over the world want their children well. So I also believe that your parents will manage you and educate you, and their starting point is also to hope that you can correct it, and hope that you can become more and more well-behaved and sensible.

If you don't raise children, you don't know the kindness of your parents. When we were young, we didn't know much. So our parents discipline us, and we always obey our words.

Because if you don't listen, you will be beaten and scolded by your parents. When we're older. With the ability to resist, the wings stiffened.

Didn't listen at all. At that time, we didn't know what gratitude was, and we didn't know what it was. Requite.

I always feel like my parents are doing this to us. Spoil us. It should be.

Spending parents' money is also as it should be.

The son is not ugly. Dogs are not poor. When we really grow up, we go to society.

When you start living outside on your own and go to support yourself. Facing the pressures and difficulties of life. We will find that no one will get used to you.

There is no one who can help you for free. Only your parents will always be on your side and sponsor you. It doesn't matter how downhill you are.

They won't dislike you, they will still accept you. Even if they don't have anything to eat. He'll save a bite too.

So that you don't get hungry. That's when you know your parents' good intentions. Why do they care about you?

Why is there constant nagging?

I don't think there's a problem with the way you communicate? Or is there no common topic?

I think we should communicate with our parents often, it may be that they don't understand our ideas and don't accept our views, but we can't ignore them, then they will feel very sad. What I want to say is that whether your parents support you or not, their inner intentions are good, and they must be for your own good, if you feel that your parents' views are wrong and you can't understand them, don't ignore them.

When I usually have nothing to do, I can talk to my parents about some common things, and I have time to go out with my parents.

As we grow older, we all find that we have less and less to talk to our parents. For this situation, my personal way to deal with it is to tell them about the interesting things I encounter when I go out, the boring things, the things I see and hear, the happy things, etc., and there are some hot search news, and they will also tell you what happened at home during this time. There won't be a problem of having nothing to say.

Even if you don't have anything to say, you can sit down and watch TV together, swipe your phone together, and you can also communicate with each other** or scenes in the news. The feeling of being a family together is that you sit facing each other, and you don't feel embarrassed even if you don't speak.

There are two reasons to ponder:

First, there is a generation gap between myself and my parents due to the difference in age. And as you grow older and change your social experience, the generation gap will get bigger and bigger, resulting in some communication difficulties, so that you can talk less and less.

Another point is the lack of necessary communication between you and your parents. Your parents don't know what you do every day, and you don't know what your parents are thinking about every day. This is when you should reflect on yourself.

Is it too little concern for parents. Let your parents know about your life, in fact, they are very concerned about you. Then there will be more and more words between you.

Your world parents can't get in. You don't want to go into your parents' world either. The best thing to do is to get into the lives of your parents.

Find out what they're busy with every day. What are you doing? You will feel that it is not easy for your parents, you will be grateful to them, and you will understand them.

The important thing is that you don't understand them now.

One. When you go to college, you and your parents don't have the same perspective.

Presumably, this netizen is also very depressed in his heart, otherwise he would not have written nearly 1,000 words to talk about the relationship with his parents. From your remarks, I have distilled three key points, which we will analyze one by one from these three aspects, and then find out the reasons why there is no topic to talk about with your parents. First of all, you are already a college student after college, and your parents and family are from the countryside, so in terms of this relationship, your vision is different.

I believe in a saying very much, that is, the vision determines the mind, because they have not seen the outside sky, so they can't understand your current thoughts, and the disagreement of views is your biggest problem now.

Two. I don't have anything to say to my parents because you live in a different environment.

The second is your living environment, going to college and working, you are in other places, and your parents still live in their original place, decades of living habits, have fixed their thinking to the difference in living environment, resulting in your views and plans for life are also very different. In their eyes, opening a small restaurant and living your life in a down-to-earth manner is the best choice, and you must be more yearning for a better and higher pursuit outside.

Three. Your parents have patriarchal tendencies.

Finally, I think your parents may have some patriarchal tendencies, or some misconceptions about women. Why do women have to stay at home with their husbands and children? If your parents want your future to be focused on your family, then why send you to college?

It is unacceptable for you to have seen the wonderful world out there, and then to put you back in the cage again. Now is a new era, men and women are equal, everyone has the right to pursue and pursue their own bright future independently, why should girls be willing to be housewives? I am very supportive of your struggle with your parents, you can't go to college in vain, your future is up to you!

You can't change your parents' minds, but you must stick to your heart!

We often have a generation gap with our parents, because we grew up in different times and accepted different mainstream values, so many times we feel that there is nothing to say between the two generations. Especially for young people, many times they accept a kind of modern values that are in line with the mainstream of others, which leads to the collision of two ideas, and there is no way to integrate them well. What we can do is we need to break down these barriers.

1. Communicate more with your parents. There are fewer and fewer topics to talk about with parents, and there is a generation gap, which is inevitable, especially as you grow older and slowly enter the work. I don't have more time to get along with my parents, and gradually I can't get into the same environment, and I gradually have a lot of topics.

But in many cases, for the company of parents, you don't have to tell them everything, as long as you talk to them more about the trivial things in life, and communicate with them, the situation will gradually improve. As an adult, we have our own responsibilities and the troubles in our lives, which can be told to our parents, and we think that it makes us closer to each other.

2. Encourage parents to get in touch with new things. In many cases, the reason why there is no topic of conversation with parents is because young people nowadays are always exposed to a lot of new things.

As they grow older, children will have a certain generation gap with their parents, once this situation occurs, it is often because their living environment has changed, their ideological status has changed, and their cultural long-term governance has changed, which may lead to less and less communication with their parents, and many people will find that as they grow older, their parents' requirements for you always make you feel very bored, and you always don't like to let your parents guide and teach, so you will communicate less and less with your parents. But as you get older, and you reach forty or fifty years old, you will find that you will spend less time with your parents, and then you will realize how much kindness and affection your parents have for you.

Therefore, once a person reaches the age of 40, there will be more opportunities to communicate with his parents.