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The best education is not only to let children become talents, but also to let children know how to love others.
The younger the child, the more malleable he is, and if you give him a good education, the better he will grow up.
Take care of the children as soon as possible, now you don't care about the 3 aspects, it will be too late in the future!
1. The child is willful and must be managed.
Some children are smart, and they will use a willful way to observe their parents' reactions.
Many times, when we give our children too much freedom, they will become willful, reckless, inconsiderate of other people's feelings, unwilling to follow the rules, and have difficulty integrating into the group.
In the face of children's willful behavior, the attitude of parents is the key.
Parents should tell their children that freedom is definitely not disorderly and chaotic, it is under certain rules, and the rules are not restrictions but protections for freedom.
2. Children's bad habits must be managed.
Childhood is the best time to develop good habits in children, and it is also the easiest time to form bad habits! The growth of negative personalities such as selfishness, rebellion, abrasiveness, irritability, and unsociability of children is caused by the parents' failure to correct bad behavior and habits in time during this period.
The power of habit is enormous, and a person's daily activity, 90 years old, is constantly repeating the original action.
Habitual movements are subconscious, without the need for the brain to think, and without the need to use the will to control. It is also difficult to estimate the negative impact of bad habits on a person's life.
3. Children are selfish and indifferent, so they must be managed.
Most families are in the context of an only child, and one of the major dilemmas faced by today's children is the extreme lack of peer interaction. Children who lack friends will have many problems, among which "selfishness and indifference" is one of many problems.
Parents must know that children are only in an equal and independent position when they play with their peers, and they are both attracted to and imitated each other.
The words and deeds of parents are the most basic and profound example for children. In their usual words and deeds, parents show sympathy for the misfortune of others, help in difficulties, and a warm-hearted and caring attitude towards the society, which will infect the child and make him slowly learn to care for others.
Finally, I would like to remind everyone that when it is time to educate and take care of their children, parents should never neglect to manage their children under the pretext that they are busy with work. In old age, all honor and money are fleeting, and an unsuccessful child is enough to make your evening miserable.
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The first point of preparation that parents should do is to make their children particularly sensible, read more books, and let children understand some principles of life, and the second point of preparation should be not to reprimand children, nor to beat and scold children, and let children think rationally when encountering problems.
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Be prepared to find a good school for your child, be prepared to teach your child to be a person of integrity, and be prepared to make your child humble. Good school teaching***, so that children have a good future, be an upright person, will be respected, humble, and will be liked by everyone.
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First of all, we should pay attention to children's education from an early age and put children's learning knowledge first. Secondly, the child will be enrolled in the specialty class that the child is interested in, so as to enrich the child's spare time life and cultivate the child's personality and strengths.
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As the saying goes, "There are no rules". There are no rules, and if you can't raise a child with upbringing, you naturally don't treat others to your liking.
If parents do not set rules to discipline him, the child will lose the ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and it is very easy to be unscrupulous, which will do more harm to the child's development than good.
After all, we can't wait for the child for the rest of his life, and one day we will see him off and drift away. If there is anything we can do for him and benefit him for the rest of his life, it is to give the child a lifetime of love and give him rules for how to behave in the world. It is our instinct to love children; It is our responsibility to set rules for our children so that they can grow up to be adults who can take charge of themselves.
The unity of rules and love can become the future development of children.
Some parents should show dissatisfaction and disdain when their children make mistakes and mainly perform badly, and like to severely crack down on and reprimand their children, which will make children negative and pessimistic and denial, afraid of making mistakes, afraid of setbacks, and more and more weak temperament.
Adversity quotient is a very important lesson in children's character development. Parents should teach their children to correctly deal with and solve setbacks and unsuccesses in life, shape their children's tenacious willpower, and develop a growth mindset.
When children encounter setbacks, give children spiritual application, correctly guide children to pay attention to the process, not only focus on the conclusion; Encourage children to treat setbacks correctly, see setbacks as a learning opportunity, learn from them, change the status quo from what can be changed, and constantly improve themselves.
Every child is a careful liver of parents, and they have been carefully cared for in the palm of their hands since they were young. Therefore, parents who spoil their children basically take care of everything. When it comes to the age of being alone, both parties are not fully prepared, the parents are reluctant to let go, and the children are used to protection.
Under this kind of protection, children lose their independent souls, and they lose opportunities for growth.
Parents who truly love their children can take this kind of love as a personal collection, so that their children can explore their self-efficacy and feel a broader life in their independent thinking and actions.
Introduce such a sentence from Peking University Press: If you trap the beast in the cage, you can only see it by compromising and giving the child indoor space, so that he can spread his wings and fly into the distance. Please apply to your child and be brilliant yourself.
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First of all, it is necessary to communicate more with the child, to understand the child's inner world, and then parents must properly let the child have their own ideas, or to give full play to the child's strengths.
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First, be willing to let children suffer; Second, establish rules and strictly abide by them; 3. Develop good self-awareness, self-discipline, and self-love habits.
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I think the family atmosphere is very important, we must pay attention, do not quarrel in front of the children, etc., to instill some good ideas in the children, and guide them to grow.
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What most parents don't know is that after the age of 2 is the sensitive period for the generation of children's behavioral rules, and it is best to make rules from the age of 2. Parents should not worry that their children are too young to be unreasonable, in fact, children are very reasonable, if you inform the standards in advance, the children want to follow.
The most important point of setting standards is that parents should keep their word, take the lead, and agree that the child must complete it, and you can't cheat people, otherwise the child will lie to you on the contrary. However, you need to pay attention to the fact that the standard must be in line with the child's psychological characteristics and development level, and parents must not consider it from their own perspective and be domineering.
Reverence is a basic emotion that sprouts in human infancy. In fact, children with a sense of awe are easy to abide by discipline, listen to teachers, respect others, be objective and upright, and it is easier and smoother to go into society in the future.
Parents understand that shaping their child's sense of reverence is a blessing in their child's life.
When the child learns from an early age that he is not the center of the world, and that there are many objects that are extremely grandiose; When she understands that not only is she young and ignorant, but that she is not an all-knowing and omnipotent person, she will understand that to remain humble and diligent in inquiry, and that a wise person must be somewhat fearful and have a certain degree of control over himself. And respecting and lowering oneself is originally a kind of development.
As children get older, parents need to change their communication methods and learn to show weakness. When parents learn to show weakness, children may be more courageous. When the child is not as good as you want, expose but do not say it, and save the child's face, then he will have the opportunity to do a good job of the child, and the child will still have the possibility of bearing.
Only if you believe in your child can your child take on his obligations, and if you don't have his obligations, you will believe him.
There is no such thing as a bad student, give the child a chance to do a good job, give the child a possibility to take responsibility, and parents should clearly show weakness. If there is no motivation for children's learning, it is a lack of love, it is not valued, it is not seen, and there is no cooperation without love. Smart parents treat their children as human beings, and treating their children as human beings is also the moral bottom line of parents.
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If you want to raise a good child, on the one hand, you must let them have the ability to think independently, and on the other hand, let them know how to take on their own responsibilities; Parents with high emotional intelligence need to help their children form a correct three views, in addition to allowing children to have a positive attitude towards learning, and most importantly, let them form an optimistic concept of life, which are very important for the impact of children's life.
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If you want to cultivate excellent children, you can't blindly spoil children. It is necessary to let children exercise more, teach them according to their aptitude, and choose training classes according to their interests. In the following three points, you can take your children to travel more, buy the right books, and buy the right clothes can also add points to the cultivation of excellent children.
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It is necessary to plan for the child's future, educate the child in stages, reason more with the child, and learn the skills of communication with the child; Don't be arrogant and rash, don't make comparisons with boys, let children be stronger when facing failure, and encourage children to read more.
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Spending time with your child, as well as parents, can not only help him set the overall goals, but also help him develop a proactive attitude. Parents should usually learn to treat their children with their favorite eyes, encourage and praise him more, and let him develop in a warm and harmonious family atmosphere. At the same time, parents are more waiting by the child's side, and he has a greater sense of belonging and can heroically express his mentality and thoughts.
Help children understand their emotions, parents usually have to help children understand their emotions, for example, when the baby comes home and tells his parents that he was bullied at school, parents can ask him technically: Is it okay, because he was beaten, so there are some grievances? The role of the rhetorical question depends on helping him master his emotions, and he learned that what he should do now is not to ask someone for basic theory and catharsis, but to learn how to properly adjust his emotions, so as not to cultivate the habit of losing his temper at will.
Learn to empathize, many parents can't see their children angry, even if they fall, they also need to blame others, this kind of mistake is completely attributed to the idea of giving others is very inappropriate, this kind of personal behavior will make children gradually produce a psychological state of evading responsibility, even if they do wrong things, they always find reasons for themselves, it is a typical lack of empathy personal behavior, and then enter the society will make people feel selfish, and it is so bad for his operation and making friends.
Correctly guide him to manage negative emotions, overseas, some teenagers will have meditation training training, let the child sit cross-legged, close the eyes, and then concentrate the subconscious mind to sit for 20 minutes, can relieve anxiety. It also strengthens concentration, which is very helpful for them to improve their learning effectiveness. Parents can encourage their children to have healthy hobbies and preferences to help them release stress and empty their negative attitudes.
All in all, cultivating a child's emotional intelligence and IQ is beneficial to his later social ** and life, and the baby with high emotional intelligence can deal with problems more sensitively and is more likely to succeed.
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It is necessary to create a good atmosphere for children, fully respect children's wishes, encourage children to be brave enough to contact new things and people, and ask children to become more independent.
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The first is that parents can properly learn to let go and let their children solve some things independently. At the same time, when encountering some things, you should first ask your child's thoughts and opinions.
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It is necessary to pay attention to the education of children, the cultivation of children's emotional intelligence, and some words said by parents, as well as the way parents communicate with children, and also pay attention to the way of family education.
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I know that encouraging children, allowing them to grow up independently, interacting more with the outside world, not putting too much pressure on children, and setting an example for parents to set an example can only make children smarter.
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Parents should improve their own emotions to influence their children's behavior, and give their children enough security and love.
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Parents should have a very high emotional intelligence, parents should teach their children to say some sweet words, parents should communicate more with their children, and they should take their children out to play more.
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Helping children identify emotions can lead them to have a high IQParents need to help their children identify emotions such as pain, joy, and grievance. When children have conflicts with others, there will be grievances, so as to seek help from parents, at this time parents should tell their children that what should be done now is not to find the other party's theory, but to let children realize that the real problem that bothers them is not the matter itself but their own instinctive emotional reaction. Wait for the child to ease his emotions and then solve the problem of conflict with others.
Educate children on management skills for negative emotionsAdults also have negative emotions in addition to positive emotions, and the same is true for children, and children have much more negative emotions than adults. However, children are not able to manage their negative emotions correctly, and they will also do some unreasonable behaviors because of their negative emotions. After that, parents should find out in time, and then tell the child to take a deep breath to calm down his emotions, which can reduce the child's negative emotions and make the child's attention more concentrated.
Of course, parents can also cultivate some additional interests in their children, such as letting them learn to draw, learn to sing, and so on. These interests can play a lubricating role when children have negative emotions, so that children can get rid of negative emotions and physiologically play a role in relieving stress.
Help your child build self-confidenceSelf-confidence is the foundation of emotional intelligence and the first step towards high emotional intelligence. A confident child can calmly deal with other people's accusations, and a confident child also has a strong ability to resist pressure and frustration, so he will also be handy in interpersonal relationships, which adults call high emotional intelligence. A child who has no self-confidence will be afraid of his head and tail in daily life, shrinking his hands and feet, etc., even if one step forward is success, he does not dare to take that step, and does not believe that he can succeed.
Therefore, parents must encourage their children more, that is to gain self-confidence in encouragement, after all, they need the affirmation of others anyway, and they will unconsciously make their children more and more confident, and their emotional intelligence will naturally become higher and higher.
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