Let s talk about what girls should do in a patriarchal family?

You can encourage your parents to read books on equality between men and women, or buy them yourself for them to read, and if you are illiterate, you can read them regularly. Make them aware of their biases.

Be resentful. This mindset is not beneficial. Because after a while, you are likely to feel that you have gone too far, or you hate and resent your parents, so you will show favor to your parents, and then you will feel that their words and actions make you unacceptable, and then you will resent.

Self-improvement, self-reliance, learn to love yourself, learn to respect yourself, get along with your mother's family to learn that you have me, I will have you! If it is too much, he will cut off contact and provide a certain amount of support to his parents depending on the situation.

Learn to be calm, let go of your deepest desire to be "affirmed", do your filial piety, and don't invest in the spirit.

Being asked for by the bottomless pit, you also understand that it is impossible to exchange sincerity. You have to have your own bottom line and state your position. Usually, the child who is not noticed and loved is always the most filial one. Because she wants to be recognized.

If you learn to protect yourself and love yourself, if you go too far, you can cut off contact, no one can live, if it's just a small thing, you have to endure and try to make yourself strong.

If you give to your parents without limits, more than what you have received in the past and now, you will inevitably feel resentment after a long time. Therefore, you should draw boundaries with your parents and give within what you feel is appropriate.

I only do what I can, when I want to, to help as much as I can, but I don't think I have the responsibility and obligation to do so.

As a daughter, a girl born in a patriarchal family has experienced countless grievances since she was a child. Parents do not pay attention, are partial, and even wanton harm for no reason. Then when you grow up and can make money, you keep asking you for money, all kinds of moral kidnapping, you think you should pay for them, help the family, and even be a "brother demon" ......

If you are unfortunate enough to be born in a patriarchal family, tell yourself that such parents and family are not worthy of your love, force yourself to be motivated, and achieve financial independence as soon as possible is all about leaving the family. Remember to think more about your future life and happiness, love yourself well, and protect your own interests.

Your parents gave birth to you, but you don't owe them anything, because that's their obligation. In the same way, you are obligated to give some alimony when you have income.

That's it. And you are completely under no obligation to satisfy their improper demands and give them everything you have. Their patriarchy is entirely theirs, but you don't owe them anything.

This is their habit of thinking that has always been solidified, and they cannot expect to pay for them through your sincerity, so that they can find out with their conscience and be truly good to you. In the end, I found that no matter how much I paid for them, it was in vain, and I completely despaired of their ruthlessness.

When possible, find a boyfriend who loves you, love him, and start your own family. Protect your earned wealth and bravely refuse their oppression and demand. Because they don't have the right to ask you to give them that much, and they can't do anything to you if you refuse.

And you can give it a try, and after a few rejections, they won't ask you again.

Patriarchy is a backward and feudal misconception. To this day, this kind of feudal remnant thinking still exists in some people and some families, and it must be criticized and resisted. Girls in such a family environment do not have to be entangled, they must enhance their self-confidence, strive to improve themselves, and be an outstanding young man with ideals and talents.

Prove your worth with your own practical actions.

You can use practical actions to prove that you are not worse than boys, in fact, there are many girls who are excellent in all aspects of society, but some adults still think that boys are good, and we have no way to change their minds, and it is the best way to make yourself better.

In fact, there is really no way but to tell yourself, don't give so much love, love yourself more, otherwise in the end it will be yourself who will be hurt, and you must also tell yourself to be stronger in your heart, because the love of your parents is really scarce, try to make it no longer rare.

Girls from families like you, don't be swayed by patriarchal thinking, make yourself better, and let those patriarchal parents experience it!

Girls living in patriarchal families will make themselves unhappy and very depressed. This is how you should deal with this situation.

If you can't change your parents' practices and ideas, then you have to learn to change yourself. Study hard to make yourself better and be the pride of your parents. Then one day I will know that what I am doing is the wrong thing. That's it.

So there are many things that we can do through our own efforts. As long as you don't have to worry about understanding and choose the right way to do it, you can achieve the results you want.

Girls live in patriarchal families, and it should be clear that their parents' ideas are incorrect, but through their own efforts, they should make them understand their mistakes, study hard, and let them understand when they grow up.

Girls who live in patriarchal families should study harder, leave their families of origin earlier, and live their own independent lives.

We should break this notion, now is the era of the rise of women, girls can also do a lot of things that boys can't do, and can also do things that boys can do, and we have to prove to the people in the family with our own actions.

I think it's okay, after all, men can be by their parents' side more often than women, and men have more obligations to support their parents, so it's normal for parents to love a little more.

I think first of all, you should make yourself better first, and then you should pursue it for yourself after you are separated from the family.

You just need to work hard to be yourself, don't deliberately care about these concepts, as long as you are good enough, you can do it.

Human beings will try to adapt to the environment in order to survive. It is said that children who have been pampered by their parents since childhood are very sensitive in their hearts, even if they are wronged a little, they will be infinitely magnified, as if they have been greatly wronged, and they are the most pitiful people in the world.

On the contrary, children who have not been pampered by their parents and treated indifferently since childhood will become sluggish and numb to harm and have a big personality. It's not that they're insensitive, it's that they've learned to deceive themselves, they've learned to adapt, they've learned to pretend they don't care. For a child who is not yet able to survive on his own, perhaps this is the most suitable way to survive at the moment.

But it is foolish not to advocate self-deception for a lifetime, and finally be sucked dry and eaten up. It's good to think of yourself as an adopted orphan, and when you have the ability, you should be grateful to your parents for their nurturing grace, and repay this cause and effect. I hope that I can grow up quickly, become independent as soon as possible, and get out of the place that makes you sad.

People and places that don't bring you any happiness and only leave you with pain should be kept away as much as possible. Don't live in the past, live for the rebirth of the future.