Can love without the consent of parents last

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Whether the love that the parents do not agree with should be insisted on varies from person to person and from thing to thing, and the parties should listen carefully to the reasons and reasons given by the parents and think carefully. After all, my parents are from the past, and I have been thinking and summarizing my marriage and what should be a good marriage for nearly twenty or thirty years. Any love is beautiful, and the key is whether the future marriage is happy or not!

It can be seen that what parents oppose is often not the love itself but the subsequent marriage, so you must consider it carefully and face it rationally.

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When you encounter a love that is opposed by your parents, do you want to continue? If you don't want to lose your love and don't want to disobey your parents, then today's content can help you a lot. Let's go back to the topic itself, how many people face the opposition of their parents and use the way of falling out with their families to express their loyalty to love?

If you do, then I dare say there are only two outcomes, either your parents compromise or you compromise. Parental compromise means that in the days to come, you will be caught between your partner and your parents, and you will be scolded and cried for either partner.

If you compromise first, then your relationship will come to an end, no matter how deeply you loved at the beginning, there is no responsibility and responsibility, the coward and betrayer in the relationship, these two hats will be firmly buckled on your head.

So what can we do in the face of this dilemma? In fact, it is not difficult, you only need to show your mature and responsible side, treat your parents with the point of view, and then put forward targeted solutions to the old age, so that after a few rounds, your parents will not be so resolute in denying.

In general, the opposition of parents is nothing more than three situations.

The first case: your parents are not above you in terms of cognition and education.

Therefore, the reason for their opposition is generally that your object's hard conditions are not up to standard, such as appearance, figure, household registration, etc. In this case, you have to let them know where the two of you are suitable, what your future plans are, and impress them with a mature and complete plan.

The second scenario: your parents hit you with their own experience to reduce the dimensionality.

For example, they will comprehensively consider the family background, personality, and three views of two people, and then tell you: You are not suitable.

I suggest that you still listen carefully to this kind of opinion, after all, your parents may have walked more than you have eaten salt, and their life experience is also very rich, and there is a high probability that they can see people more accurately than you, even if they are not sharp-eyed, they will weigh the pros and cons more than you.

Third scenario: Parents do everything they can to get you to obey them.

The hardest part is actually the third case, which is complicated if the parents don't just raise objections and try to get you to listen to them.

For example, no matter how you explain it, Father Xiang's promotion to mother just disagrees, and even picks out all kinds of harsh problems, just like the controversy that caused controversy on the Internet before: Zhu Yuchen's mother's criteria for choosing a daughter-in-law corrupted her interference in her son's every relationship, set completely different standards for her daughter-in-law and son, and forcibly required her son to listen to his own ideas.

If you find yourself in such a situation, you need to think carefully about whether you allow your parents to interfere with your choice of feelings.

This completely replaces your own attitude, if you really like it, why listen to your parents, life is to live for your own money, not to cater to anyone.

If in a relationship, parents do not agree, it is difficult for two people to continue, because the relationship between two people should be blessed and encouraged by family members, so that the relationship can develop, if the people around do not want to be together, then when two people are together, there will be a lot of love between two people, and they will choose to abandon because of the opposition of others.

It depends on what the reason is, if it's because of the man's character problem, then resolutely listen to his parents, and make trouble is to see the starting point of the father's liquid number of rock mothers, if the parents love you, not out of selfishness, I think you should also listen to your parents.

It's better not to, because you might end up unhappy.

No marriage will be happy without the blessing of your parents. Did our parents eat more salt than we walked? So sometimes parents think farther and more real than we think, and sometimes their opinions are also the best judgment.

One. When we are in love, we will all get carried away, as the so-called parties are confused, and bystanders are clear, so at this time, when the two of us really understand, we will not look far, and always feel that no matter how hard the road in the future is, two people can make do as long as they work hard. Even if his conditions are not good, we just look at the present, and the two of us are good.

So we ignore a lot and want to later. Experienced the stress and confusion of life.

Two. Life is not that you love me, I love you to be able to stay together for a lifetime, not that you promise to be sincere to me, I give everything to you, she can close the door and live without paying, that is wrong, life has a lot of firewood, rice, oil and salt The warmth needs us to care for each other, care, and even have a kind of persistence to work hard for the people you love. But when your parents observe the love between you, or even when your parents help you decide whether to accept him, if your parents don't accept it, there must be a reason for him.

Three. Our parents have gone through many ups and downs in life along the way, and they have turned all their life experiences into a kind of summary, giving us more direction and views on life. When he doesn't approve of your boyfriend and your love, then he has a lot of doubts about his persistence in the future, and even questions him very much about his attitude of not doing his job for a day, not thinking about how to live, and not wanting to work hard to change his life state.

They oppose it for your good, and she also hopes that her children will be happy, but if you are looking for this person, he can't give you a better life guarantee, and even can't let you see a better future, then there is no problem for parents to resolutely oppose it, because the future days are very long, and the road ahead requires the two of you to work together, but if there are no better economic conditions and material foundation now, how can the hard life in the future be good? As the saying goes, the poorer you are, the more calculating. Therefore, a marriage that is not blessed by my parents will not be happy, just think the same as me!

The reasons for disagreement should be accepted if they are reasonable and they are all for your good. I believe you will also meet a better love.

When two people start to fall in love, they both hope that their parents can agree to the love of both parties. It is a very happy thing to be able to get the consent of parents and to be blessed as a child. But not all romances can be approved by parents.

When the opinions of the parents conflict with the opinions of the children, and the parents do not agree with the love of the children, this is a very difficult situation. Everyone doesn't want their feelings to come to this point, but when the two conflict, generally children will take their own opinions as the standard, if they really like each other, even if their parents don't agree, they will stick to this love.

In actual emotional life, although the opinions of parents are very important, for children, parents' opinions can only be a reference and can be listened to, but not necessarily. This is because for children, love belongs to their own lifelong happiness, not to their parents. Although respecting the opinions of parents is the way to be a child, when facing lifelong events, you must adhere to your attitude towards love, otherwise once you lose your insistence on love, you will end up with endless regrets.

From another point of view, parents now interfere less and less with their children's feelings, because in the eyes of parents, children's happiness is their happiness, so they believe in their children's judgment, and unconditionally support children, even if there are some problems in the love that children choose, parents will help solve the problems. When parents' opinions conflict with their children's attitudes towards love, more and more parents choose to take a step back and compromise.

Pity the hearts of parents all over the world. The original intention of the elderly to interfere in the marriage of their children is good, but it often backfires, and they are complained by their children. This question reflects the collision of traditional ideas with modern ideas of freedom.

I am not opposed to the interference of the elderly in the marriage of their children, and appropriate advice is appropriate. However, if it is excessive, it will be reversed, and it should be done according to the actual situation, and it should not be overstepped. After all, too much love will make children feel suffocated.

Couples are two independent individuals, and the living environment is also different, the three views will be different, it is normal to quarrel again, if two people in a relationship never quarrel, respect each other as guests, then it cannot be said that they must be very in love with each other, it is very likely that there is already love.

I once read an article that said that you can't take the initiative to admit your mistakes in love, and after admitting your mistakes, your status in the relationship will be gone. Such a point of view makes many people reluctant to bow their heads when they quarrel because they don't want to be looked down upon by the other party, and in the end, their dignity and feelings are really gone.

When your parents disagree, you should seriously consider your previous relationship from all aspects, look at this phenomenon with a rational attitude, and deal with it in a rational way. This situation is a test for your relationship, but also a kind of growth.

There are many reasons why parents oppose their children's marriage, but generally speaking, there are such as whether they are the right person, whether they dislike the poor and love the rich, whether there is a problem with the other party's conduct, the problem of age disparity, the problem of work, the problem of separation between the two places, etc.

No matter what the reason for the parents' objections, children should calm down and consider their parents' opinions, after all, their parents' life experience, understanding and wisdom are much more practical than any love theory in books.

It is okay to hold on to love that parents do not agree with, but do not make this aspect too much of a burden. You should learn to slowly alleviate the situation of your parents, and getting the blessing of your parents is the best state.

I think most of the love that my parents oppose is not happy enough. In the process of getting along with two people, the parents have never expressed their opinions, but when the parents know, they will definitely ask each other about various conditions.

When the person you love can't meet the psychological needs of your parents, your parents will definitely oppose it. At this time, whether you choose to persist or choose to give up, it will actually be very sad. Because persistence means that you need to fall out with your parents, the parent-child relationship will be seriously hurt, and giving up means losing your love like this, and you are still very unwilling in your heart.

But I want to say that the love that your parents don't agree with, even if you insist on going on, two people will step into marriage, and there will be many problems in your life. Maybe your married life will be happy, but your life will be left with regrets because of the unblessing of your parents.

Follow your own heart's choice, and only you know whether to love or not to love. Love is the most subtle thing, and it is a very subjective feeling in itself. Ask yourself, do you really love that person?

No one can give you this answer, only you can give it to yourself. If you really love, I think you should continue to persevere, because you have faith in your love, and you should also believe that you will be happy in the future. When parents see your happiness, they may change their minds.

If the love is not deep enough, then end the relationship. Love is never the whole of life, and this love is not the only way for you to be happy.

Persist or give up, the initiative is in your own hands. Whichever choice you make, don't regret it in the future.

Ask yourself whether you love or not, you weigh it yourself.

1. First of all, we must understand what the reasons for the parents' disagreement with this marriage are, and if you can tell the reason, then as a child, you should also think about what your parents say. If you can't tell the reason, then you should persuade your parents.

2. It may be because the two families are too far apart, if the man and woman are not far away from each other in the same city, to be honest, as a woman's parents, they must be reluctant to marry their daughters far away, because they are worried that their daughters will be wronged after marrying. 3. It may also be because the financial conditions of the two parties are relatively different, if the conditions are relatively different, they are worried that their daughters will be wronged by poor living conditions after marrying, and because of the large economic differences, there will be some differences in consumption concepts, and they may be worried that the two people will quarrel after marriage.

4. Of course, if it is because of the boy's own character problems, and the reputation of the orange Heng is not very good, then the parents will definitely not agree with you to be together.