Why are young people nowadays averse to blind dates?

To be honest, today's young people are really very disgusted with blind dates, I used to be like this, when I was a teenager, in my early twenties, I was really disgusted, I think love should be two people attracted to each other, and then they want to pursue a thing, rather than relying on others to arrange for me.

In addition, when I was young, I did go to meet many times, but most of the results were particularly not good, so I hated this thing very much, and I believe that there are many people who encounter such things in life, so everyone will be so resistant to this matter. Many elders always think that if they rely on men or girls introduced by others, they will know the roots, but this is not the case, and we also have to see who the introducer is.

I once met a person, because I am a tall person, so if I ask, at least find a boy above 1.8 1.85 meters, because in this way, a height gap between us will not be particularly obvious, but after I went, I found that this person is not only not as tall as me, but even a lot shorter than me, and then I was very angry, I questioned my introducer, but she just said, this person has money in his family, and it doesn't mean that we all see money, It was this person who told her how much money she could earn in a year. That is to say, it was like a blank check, and she believed it, and heard that others had the money to introduce me directly.

That person's blank check was, my current annual salary is 200,000 yuan, and about three years later, my annual salary will reach 1 million, you must know that the place where we are located is a small city in the seventh or eighth tier, and there are three brothers in his family, and the conditions are not particularly good, and he does not seem to be the kind of person who is very rich. But the introducer believed it, and the point was that this person was my aunt. Then after the subject had been in contact with him for two or three days, he was shorter than me and I didn't say anything, but he thought I was fat three times and twice, and said that he was just joking with me, so I was very angry and said goodbye to him.

But my aunt actually came to me and said that I didn't know how to be sure that people were so rich, that is, because after this time, I would no longer trust the person who was introduced to me, and I would never go on a blind date again.

This is because many young people feel that when they go on a blind date, it is not true love at all because the conditions are suitable, and the blind date activities are relatively boring, and young people are particularly repulsed.

I am disgusted by being forced to go on a blind date, and I didn't want to go on a blind date, but I was forced to go on a blind date by my own family, so I was particularly disgusted.

Today we are going to analyze a topic: why do young people nowadays not like blind dates? When I saw this topic at that time, I silently thought to myself:

How to find a partner without a blind date? I don't want to get rid of the single, and I don't want to go on a blind date. Of course, I'm not a spy sent by your parents to persuade you to go on a blind date.

Because young people nowadays feel very embarrassed about blind dates, there is no topic for two people to sit together.

In fact, resistance to blind date has become an instinctive reaction of young people in the times, even if they are already leftover men and women, they still do not accept the blind date model to know the other half, so today I will stand in the perspective of Cong Tang to analyze the reasons for their real fear.

Regardless of their own conditions, in the hearts of many people, only people who are not good enough, have no market, and have problems will go to find the other half through blind dates, even if they are left because of good conditions, they still have such thinking feelings.

There are also some parents who are purely anxious, seeing that other people's children are younger than their own and already married, then their own children should get married. And the parents feel that they are not very old now, and they can still help with the children when they get married and have children, and they are afraid that they will not be able to help later.

But young people's ideas are always different from their parents, they all want to start a business first and then start a family, after all, the cost of marriage is high now, and the pressure after marriage is greater, many young people with their current ability, may not be able to carry a family, but they don't want to gnaw on their parents' money after getting married.

In fact, for today's young people, even if they are really not married at the right age, there is no need to be too anxious, and there is nothing wrong with getting married later. And parents should not be in a hurry, follow the child, the child's happiness is the most important.

First of all, the parents and elders introduced it, and they are really stressed to stare at it.

Mainly because the elders are also acquaintances of acquaintances, the object of their introduction has at least a basic understanding of the situation, and then you and the blind date are still in a state of confusion, and the parents hope that the two of you have become a matter of course, this pressure is unbearable for ordinary people, so it often forms the effect of the opposite of things.

Secondly, the vision of parents and elders is not the same as that of young people.

What parents see is that it is better to have a stable job and a house, and the aesthetic standards are even different, and young people hope to gradually understand each other in getting along, and it is important to be able to live together in the future, but this is exactly what parents cannot participate in, so the success rate of blind dates is even lower.

Clause. 3. Stage fright, or maybe it's embarrassing.

Everyone's personality is different, not everyone can talk eloquently in the face of a stranger, calm as if he is nothing, like facing an old friend for many years. Just like some people, since childhood, they are introverted, withdrawn, unsociable, and don't like strangers, so they resist the contact of strangers in their hearts.

It's like a person who is afraid of heights, and he can't see heights; It's like a person with a phobia of density who can't see dense things.

That fear comes from the deepest part of the heart, not to be controlled and changed.

And many parents don't understand very well, thinking that blind dates are just a trivial matter, is it necessary to be so repulsive?

There are also some people who are not good at words, although they are usually very arrogant, but when they see strangers, they are immediately timid, unnatural, and do not know what to say or what to talk about. So it made the atmosphere very awkward, and I always wanted to find an excuse to escape, and after experiencing it once, I never wanted to experience it a second time.

As the saying goes, people are different, and what you can accept does not mean that others can accept it.

Clause. Fourth, the most important reason is that you will feel very shameless.

Men and women, sometimes vanity is at work. In the face of blind dates, many people will have this mentality: "It's not that I don't want it, why do I have to go on a blind date?" ”

As a result, many people think that only people who can't find a partner will go on a blind date.

Why can't I find an object? It shows that he is not good enough, so everyone will think that if he goes on a blind date, he proves that he is not good enough.

Then I was worried that my relatives and friends around me would find out about it, and they would laugh at themselves, and I would feel very shameless after being passed on.

Even if blind dates are already very common, even if many people can accept them, but in the deepest part of their hearts, there will be more or less such scruples and worries.

Especially young people, vanity and comparison are even stronger, and everyone is so good-looking, so no one wants to lose face.

When it comes to love, each of us is very much looking forward to it, because we all know that love is happy, and the roots are very sweet, and it is precisely because love is so happy and sweet that many people are very much looking forward to having love.

Especially when you meet someone you like, then many people will be more positive and more proactive. They will care for each other with their hearts and love each other, because they want to be positive and decisive through such positivity. In this way, two people can better answer in the same shirt, and getting along with each other will also allow them to have happiness and sweet love.

Although love is happy and very sweet, we still see some young people who have no friends of the opposite sex and do not fall in love, and they are not even willing to go on blind dates. So some people wonder why many young people are becoming more and more disgusted with blind dates.

First of all, because there are a lot of girls now, and they are very realistic. Especially in love, they will put a lot of high demands on boys, and they require boys to have a car, a house, a good job, and a good family. Only when the boy can meet or meet the requirements and conditions of the girl, then the girl is willing to be with the boy and get along.

But many boys have a hard time meeting the boys' requirements. So here they want to be with girls, and there is no way to achieve it.

Secondly, because there are many young people nowadays, they feel that they are not good enough, so they hope that they can have more time and energy to work hard to improve themselves. So we see that he will put more time and energy into studying and working, because this will make them better.

So we do see that some young people now, they don't have friends of the opposite sex and don't fall in love, and even very disgusted with blind dates, but in fact, their love is very beautiful.

Therefore, as young people, they should be more active and hardworking, because only when they are more active and hardworking, can they find the right person for themselves. In this way, they can finally get along better temporarily, and they will also be able to truly have their own happiness and sweet love.

1.The urging of the family.

When they reach a certain age, the younger generation does not have the idea of finding a partner, and they want to do something before they think about starting a family.

And often this idea is different from the parents' thoughts, for parents, it is a very happy thing to see their children get married, and when the children get married and have children, parents feel that they are not too old to bring children to their children. If you think about it, you will arrange a blind date for your children, and your children will be more resistant.

2.Stressful.

Some people may say that you are still young, what pressure is there, and a good life has just begun. But nowadays young people think more, the cost of marriage is relatively high, and the pressure after marriage is greater, and there will be expenses such as mortgages, car loans, and children's closing sail bridge expenses. Therefore, the pressure will increase sharply, and you will not want to get married, and you will not want to go on a blind date, and sometimes, if it is too serious, you will resist the blind date.

3.The completion of the task is average, and there is no emotion.

For the introduction of the family, sometimes the two families feel appropriate, but the parties do not know each other, and they enter the palace of marriage under such conditions, but after marriage, the two people do not have any feelings, and when they think of such a life, they will not want to go on a blind date.

4.I want to be free in love.

The real society is constantly progressing, and people's thinking has been further improved, so for the younger generation, they have what they want for their marriage, and they don't want to be arranged.

In fact, for young people, it doesn't matter if they don't get married at the right age, and it's more common in today's society. If you want to stabilize your career, you should inform your parents of your thoughts, and you and your parents should be reconciled to understand and respect each other.

The main reason is that blind dates have too strong purpose and utilitarian nature, which leads to the fact that the chances of us meeting true love through blind dates are getting smaller and smaller. Since then, many people no longer have expectations for marriage.

But blind date is not as terrible as we imagined, think about it from another angle, blind date is just one of the ways we know the opposite sex, if fate comes, may not meet the real right person.

After all, in our real life, there are not a few couples who get married through blind dates who are happy.

Netizens' feelings: The actual situation is much worse than itself. A little fat = 200 pounds to start, the family has money = a house, honest people just don't know how to talk = a mouth is not a police prosecutor + say something else to make you angry.

It is better to ask why young people hate blind dates than to ask why the elders and elders like to go on blind dates with young people.

Because the people they bring in at random can make you angry, and for them, as long as they are of the opposite sex, alive, and about the same age, they can ......

Now22 Why do I have no desire to get married and fall in love Am I x cold?

And when everyone thinks you are suitable, and you think about it and decide not to continue to understand, you become the one who doesn't know how to lift up.

Generally, people who go on a blind date think that they can be a couple, and they are determined to be boyfriend and girlfriend in a few days, and they can get married in two months, and the speed is amazing.

What are the reasons for the exclusion of blind dates.

In the minds of many young men and women of appropriate age, they will regard blind date as a mode of listing transactions. The introducer put the conditions on both sides on the table, so that the two people could meet and communicate, lacking the heartbeat and going with the flow that should be in love. Moreover, from another angle, blind dates are somewhat to be married or hated to marry, and whether men or women are anxious to go on a blind date, it seems that they are declaring that they are anxious to find their other half, which is almost equivalent to declaring their loneliness.

In fact, young people now have a rich life and many choices, and they don't want to get married early. People don't think that they should accomplish something at a certain age, so they resist the slightly old-fashioned social model of blind dates.

Sometimes parents are simply anxious, seeing that other people's 25-year-old children are married, and his children are already 27 or 8 years old, and it is time to get married. But the person concerned is not in a hurry, he feels that his age is not very big, and the most important thing is that he wants to start a business first and then think about starting a family, after all, he can't bear the pressure after marriage, and he doesn't want to get old after marriage.

Establish a business first and then start a family, so the pressure on him is not very great now, and he is also responsible for the family, there are many people who think like this, but their parents can't understand it, so they are faced with the result of being urged every day, and they can only avoid it first.