What should I do if my parents say and my children don t listen

How can you say that children don't listen? Children love to talk back? Say a word and cry a child?

It seems that children have a lot of problems - in fact, it may not be the responsibility of parents! If you listen carefully to the everyday language that parents use for their children, you may be surprised: it turns out that so many things are usually said incorrectly!

In fact, if you want your child to be "obedient", it may be better to put it another way. For example, my dad always said the wrong thing. When the child puts away the toys and washes his hands to eat, he shouts many times that the child ignores him, and he will say:

How many times has Dad said that? Why don't you listen? But as far as I can see, it still doesn't work.

Children will have some different reactions when they hear this:

How many times have you said it? (Count and see).

I didn't listen to it! I'll play a little longer. (Begin to talk back).

Yes? What are you talking about? (Again).

No response. (You'll say it again).

This "ineffective communication" is not what we want. So what can we say?

1.Just take matters into account, don't complain.

For example, crouch down, look at each other, draw the child's attention, and then say without complaining, "Daddy has already told you, but he didn't see you do it." Do you need me to say it all over again, or do you want to do it right now?

In this way, whether the child does not want to listen to it again, "remembers" what he wants to do, or does need to listen to it again, the state of "deafness" will end.

2.The directive is clear, not to blame.

Children have a natural resistance to "blame" (in fact, adults are the same), and blame can easily cause children to resist. Giving clear instructions will help your child to do better, such as, "Now it's time for us to eat, you need to put the book back on the shelf, put the toys in the ** box, and then we will wash our hands together and play again after eating." "It is easier to get the child's cooperation by giving facts and methods than blaming and preaching.

3.Gentle and firm, not offset.

Gentle and firm" is the general principle of disciplining children. It's certainly not that easy for parents to do this, but it's still going to be done. Gentle and not firm, will spoil the "willful" child, firm but not gentle, it is easy to provoke the child's rebellious psychology early.

As a parent, think about it before you speak, think more about "principles" if you are too gentle, think more about "gentleness" if you are too strict, and make changes yourself, and your children will definitely be different. Give it a try!

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Generally speaking, there are three reasons why children hate learning: first, children have flaws in their personalities, most of these children are timid, suspicious, and overly cautious and sensitive; Second, parents are doting, children's ability is poor, and it is difficult to adapt to learning; Third, parents and teachers have too high expectations for their children, which exceeds their psychological capacity, causing children to gradually form an anxious state of mind, making children feel inferior, and causing children to be afraid of reading and exams. First of all, don't rush it.

As a parent, you can't be too demanding of your child all at once, don't ask your child in terms of scores, you can start by emphasizing the learning attitude. If your child is reluctant to accept tutoring, you can suggest that your child invite classmates with good grades to come to your home to do homework together, so that you can cultivate your child's good habits of learning, and secondly, you can let your classmates with good grades help your child solve difficult problems, overcome the fear of learning, and let your child gradually transition to learning on his own. It can also be arranged from less to more in terms of study time.

Second, don't blame too much. Professor Wu Jinshui, who is engaged in student psychology work, pointed out that some parents and teachers always like to talk about their children's shortcomings and take their strengths for granted; Many parents hate iron and steel, and often say things that hurt their children very much, and as a result, their children's abilities and confidence are withered.

Professor Wu's words are very reasonable, and you had better not say things that hurt your child's self-esteem. Third, discover your child's strengths in time and give more encouragement and affirmation. As a parent, you can't just judge your child's good or bad by scores.

The demand for talents in society is diverse, and parents should support their children to develop their personal hobbies and turn them into a rewarding pursuit. Moreover, everyone's abilities and interests are different, and different people's paths to success are also very different. Therefore, you may wish to create a variety of channels for your children, so that children have the right and opportunity to choose to become a talent in a certain field.

Fourth, coordinate family relations and harmonize the family atmosphere. Although parents are elderly, if they can pay attention to understand their children's wishes and provide them with appropriate autonomy, they can let their children grow up healthily.

Treat today's children harshly, most disobedient children are spoiled.

What should I do if my child is disobedient?

It may be that parents spoil their children excessively, do not set an example and relevant awareness, it may be that parents are more nagging, it may be that children are extremely rebellious, and it may be that children's attention and memory are relatively poor.

This is due to the fact that the communication is not done in the right way, and the parents deny the child excessively, or often attack the child, which can occur.

Because during this period, the child belongs to the rebellious period, the child does not want to listen to what the parents say, and feels very impatient, at this time the parents should adjust their own education methods.

Introduction: If you suddenly find that your child doesn't listen to your own words, you must learn to communicate with your child and see if your child has his own unique ideas in his heart. If you find that your child has a unique idea, don't stop your child, let your child be good at behaving so that he can know what he should need.

Parents should communicate with their children appropriately and understand their children's ideas, so that their children can develop better. Today, I will tell you, how to solve the problem that children do not listen to their parents?

If parents want their children to get good development, they must first tell their children how to do it, when the child is young, if he is not obedient, parents can also help the child make adjustments appropriately, so as not to make the child feel very uncomfortable, and the child will be very uncomfortable. If parents find that their children are unable to listen to their own opinions, they should help them make changes appropriately so that they can understand what kind of things they should do. Parents should let their children learn to cherish, learn to be obedient, when the child is young, if he is not obedient, he will do some bad things, parents should stop the child in time, can not let the child have this kind of behavior, the child will be very uncomfortable, now we must take into account the development of the child, do not let the child be affected badly.

If the child is affected badly, parents and friends must also help the child solve it, so that the child will become very happy.

Parents find that no matter what they say, if the child has no way to be obedient, they should listen to the child's opinion appropriately, think about the problem from the child's point of view, and let the child feel that he is valued. If the child finds that he is valued, he is willing to listen to the parents, he is willing to follow the guidance of the parents, and the parents should change their thoughts appropriately, so as not to let their ideas have a bad impact on the child, and the child will be very sad. Parents can talk to their children more when they are fine, and with parents' conversations, children will also tell their parents all their thoughts, and parents can also understand what their children are thinking.

When the child does not listen to the parents, the parents should change a way of education, formulate corresponding rules for the child, punish the child when the child is disobedient, teach the child some lessons, and let the child know the consequences of disobedience.

Be sure to communicate with your child, understand your child's inner thoughts, be sure to alleviate your child's emotions, and tell your child that you are doing it for his good.

Parents should think from the child's point of view, analyze the pros and cons with the child, let the child understand what is the right thing to do, and let the child understand what the reason for doing so is.

There should be a lot of bits and pieces in life, which really annoys parents, especially when children are unwilling to listen to their parents. In the face of this kind of problem, what should parents do, in fact, to reduce long-winded behavior, once the child is disobedient, or to exercise the child to live independently. For example, in the morning, the child is reluctant to go to the wash, and when he is about to go to school after half an hour, the child is still grinding.

During this period, parents must not be angry, and must be calm.

Why children can't listen to adults, can only say that the vision has been tired, the age of the baby itself is very young and parents communicate all day long, but in the process of communication children are also good at observing. I don't like to listen to my parents' words at all, and I may be very motivated to do anything, but it is difficult for the mother to insist on the baby as soon as she nags the baby. Therefore, when talking to children, it is necessary to understand what to say first and then what to say, and understand the key points of communication.

Especially before the age of six, the interest is still driven, the self-control ability is very weak, and the attention ability is relatively scattered. Every time you talk to your parents, as long as there is movement around you, you may immediately be curious to appreciate it. In the eyes of adults, this behavior is very impatient, and the characteristics of children at this age are very obvious.

Psychological development still depends on the guidance of parents, and there is no need to criticize excessively. As long as you formally tell your child about some problems, you can dismantle it, and don't let your child feel that parents are very cumbersome.

Babies are smarter, and sometimes they want adults to know that they are smart, and they should be praised and rewarded when they do the right thing. Therefore, the baby's desire to perform is relatively strong, as long as the mother says what the baby may listen to at the beginning, it has already understood. But sometimes there is a rush to express ideas.

Parents interrupt their children's speeches, which can affect their children's personality problems. If children don't like Li for the first time, they should listen to adults, and they still have to empathize.

Guide at the right time and wait for the flowers to bloom. Because Zhong has a different stage for each child, when he has just had his own meaning and his own thoughts, he will be more willing to believe in himself.

In such a situation, parents should communicate more with their children, and at the same time, they should also be kind and persuasive, friends should never beat and scold their children, pay attention to the ways and means of education, and at the same time should be friends with children, so as to search for the true thoughts of the children, and then communicate with the children.

Parents should learn to empathize with rubber to understand their children's mentality, and pay attention to the way to close the ditch with their children, listen to their children's feelings first, and then share solutions with their children.

The child should be persuaded rationally, and the child should also be told some life or paragraph tie truths, so that the child can understand that he is wrong, and the child should also learn to listen to the opinions of his parents.

1.There is too much to say. Sometimes, as a parent, in order for your child to understand something, she will talk a lot of truth.

However, children's attention and comprehension skills are limited, and too much reasoning can easily lead to fatigue and disobedience, and then selectively ignore them. Avoid being too verbose and be concise and to the point.

2.Lack of convincing. What parents say may not be so convincing in the eyes of their children.

In order for the child to accept, it is necessary to find reasons why the child will be more convincing at different stages, which needs to be considered from the child's point of view. Just because your child doesn't listen doesn't mean you don't understand, the key is to find a more convincing way to explain it.

3.Lack of authority. In the eyes of their children, some parents naturally lack sufficient authority, which leads to a great reduction in the persuasiveness of the truth. It is necessary to take the identity of parents seriously, and let children realize through authoritative attitudes and behaviors that their parents' words are worth listening to.

4.There is no lack of uniform signal. Differences between parents over how to think and educate can confuse children and who to listen to.

Parents need to be consistent in their values and educational policies. By releasing a unified and clear signal, it is easier for children to follow selectively.

5.Words and deeds are inconsistent. No matter how good the words of the ancestors are, if their words and deeds are not restricted, it is difficult to become a good example in the minds of their children.

Parents' words and deeds play a very important role. In order for children to be truly obedient, in addition to reasoning, they must also lead by example and be consistent with their words and deeds.

Therefore, in order to make children more obedient, in addition to reasoning, parents also need to strengthen their own authority and persuasion, and give their children a unified and clear signal. And more importantly, you should lead by example and make your every word and deed a good example for your children. This is the best strategy to make children truly obedient.

If the child does not listen to the parent, the parent needs to think calmly and take appropriate measures.

First of all, parents should be deeply aware of what is missingGet to know the childCommunicate ideas and needs with your child.

Secondly, parents should establishGood home-school communication mechanismand coordinate with the teacher to pretend to be the child's learning and life.

At the same time, parents need toEstablish prestige and set rulesto create a positive and pleasant family atmosphere.

Finally, parents can also consider seeking professional shoutingPsychological helporHomeschooling counselingto solve problems in a more targeted manner.