Couples over the age of 60, who is more painful to go first or alive?

Updated on psychology 2024-03-21
27 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Alive. Because the living have to continue to live with the longing for their spouses, which is more painful for the older people.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Personally, I think the one who is alive is even more painful, because his lifelong partner has passed away, and he feels very lonely in the world alone.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Personally, I think it's more painful to be alive, because I think that people who are alive at this age will be very lonely, and there will be no one to accompany them, which will be very painful.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    When couples get old, they often think about what to do if their other half leaves? In fact, couples need to live well, and when that day has to come, the party who goes first is less reluctant to make the living party less heartbroken, and the living party is less heartbroken so that the party who goes first is less reluctant.

    1. Although the party who goes first will be reluctant, the party who is alive will be heartbroken.

    Even if you love and marry for a long time, there will be a day of separation, it is almost impossible to die on the same day and month in the same year, the parting of this life, even if there is an afterlife, it is difficult to see each other again, the living party will be left alone in this world, losing the wife, living like a year and spending a long night, it is equivalent to falling into a helpless situation, although there are one or more children, but no matter how many children there are, it is still difficult to compare with an old partner, and even the children are not as good as a halfway couple, often the more lonely, The more you miss your deceased wife, the more you will fall into the whirlpool of thoughts, thus a vicious circle, the more lonely you are, the more you will miss, the more you will miss, and the more you will be lonely, and so on, the heart will be broken from the moment your wife leaves, which is like a broken mirror and cannot be reunited.

    Second, when people leave, they will stop thinking, their thoughts will stop, they don't know anything, they don't know anything, but the living party will miss their deceased wife.

    The deceased will rest in peace, the living party needs to be stronger, even if the family burden is overwhelmed, it will be dead and hard, in the spirit and psychology to bear unprecedented loneliness, often day and night torment, especially idle, the sorrow and farewell will be cut constantly, the reason is more chaotic, in short, the living party strives to replace the first party to live, life seems to be from the moment the other half leaves, lost its color, even if you meet happy and happy things, there are bursts of hidden worries and the slightest pain in the heart.

    3. Living people can't get out in a short period of time, even if they are ten or eight years old, they will want to pass away the other half, so they should cherish every day they get along, whether they are young or old, no one knows whether it will come first tomorrow or an accident will come first, both sides will do their best to cherish each other, and strive to leave as few regrets or regrets as possible.

    Only living people can perceive the pain and feel the pain, although the two sides are each other's passers-by, but life and death will cause psychological and wound trauma, even if you know that the other half has gone, you will be in a trance, always feel that the other half is still alive, in fact, it is living in the heart, from the lonely night to the lonely day, and the cycle goes on and on, the older the person, the more important the feelings, just because the longer the marriage, the more will be in love for a long time, the pain of being torn apart by life and death, people who have not put themselves in their shoes have heard and witnessed, not an accident, but the story.

    Conclusion: Husband and wife get along, be sure to treat every day as the last day, although the coming day is long, but to cherish every day, increase the thickness of each day, whether you go first or the other half go first will have fewer regrets and fewer regrets.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Is there any major event in this life that people can't get by? In the end, it was just a matter of closing the eyes and everything disappearing.

    But many friends believe that the deceased is gone, and only the surviving relatives will really feel the pain. Especially for lovers who have been with each other for a lifetime, one of them leaves first, and the other party left behind will be lonely and miss for a long time, so isn't it really the one who is alive that is more painful?

    The family is no longer warm Grandma Zhang and her wife are free to love and get married, although it is inevitable to be noisy and quarrelsome, but the wife will always give in first and spend a long happy time with Grandma Zhang. But since the death of her wife, Grandma Zhang's family warmth is gone, because her son and daughter-in-law, who were not very obedient, are now even more serious about themselves, and the daughter-in-law began to point fingers at herself, washing and cooking for the family every day, and complaining. Grandma Zhang now feels that she is indeed suffering from being alive, and she can only secretly cry and miss her wife.

    It's even more relaxed, Grandpa Wang is not, he and his wife have been arguing for many years, his wife's temper is really irritable, he will drop things and smash things if he doesn't agree with him, and he has to buy a bowl again once or twice a year over the years, because he will always be broken by his wife.

    Every time he admits defeat, he can only be himself, so Grandpa Wang can only "can't afford to hide", but can he hide under the same roof? In the end, I still have to be nagged by my wife, but I don't dare to get angry. So after his wife left two years ago, Grandpa Wang felt more relaxed, he went to play chess with old friends when he had nothing to do, went to dance in the square, how could there be so many worries in life?

    There is hope in life, although Grandma Liu and her wife are also in love, but the sad emotions do not completely occupy her, after being sad for half a year, Grandma Liu finally walked out of the haze of her wife's departure and began to accept a person's new life.

    At the beginning, when her wife left, she always felt that everything around her was wrong, whether it was cooking or walking, she also kept the living habits of the two people, as long as people were free, they would think of their wife, and the thoughts and loneliness gushed out together, which was really uncomfortable.

    But later, she realized that she was actually old and would leave one day, so it was better to cherish this last time, maybe in another world, she would reunite with her wife. So Grandma Liu began to watch movies, walk, read, and dance with all kinds of flowers, but in fact, life is not that difficult.

    Obviously, when the husband and wife get old, whether it is more painful to live or more painful to leave, there is actually no standard answer. The important thing is to face a different life, how to adjust your mentality and way of living, and in this complicated world, it depends on how everyone finds their own beauty.

    When people are young, they are always constantly pursuing and having, but as time goes by and people are slowly getting old, they have to choose to keep letting go, and only by learning to "let go" can they live more easily and comfortably.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    When the husband and wife get old, who is more painful, the "alive" or the "first-goer"? A lot of people are wrong.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think there is no severity of this kind of suffering, the pain of two people is equal to the top, the living person has lost his lover and is grief-stricken, and the person who has left has no way to accompany the living person is also painful.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It must be that the living person is more painful, because his wife is gone before him, leaving himself alone, and that feeling is something we can't experience. I hope that all the elderly in the world are healthy and healthy.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Old wife, old wife, old wife. When people get old, what they need is companionship and protection. So that day really came, and the living people were even more miserable, not only losing the lover who knew them best, but also enduring endless longing and loneliness.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Both were in pain. The living have to bear the pain of their loved one's departure, and the dead have no way to continue to accompany their beloved. The separation between life and death should be considered the greatest tragedy in the world.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Husband and wife are old, the living person and the first to go is of course the most painful for the living, the living person not only needs to endure the cold of losing their loved ones, but also to feel the loneliness of a person after that, life has lost a certain rush, so the living person is more painful.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    The one who left first was more miserable at the time, but the one who was alive suffered longer.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    The living are even more miserable, the other half is gone first, and they have to endure a long period of loneliness and loneliness, lack of companionship in life, and feel lonely in their hearts.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Both husband and wife are old, which one is more painful between the living person and the one who goes first?

    Hello, happy to answer your questions. Husbands and wives are old, and compared with the living person and the person who left first, it should be that the living person is more painful, because two people have lived for a lifetime, and the young husband and wife are old companions, from love to family affection, if a person goes first, the living person will be particularly painful. Hope mine is helpful to you.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    In contrast, life will be more painful, because without companionship, the road will become more and more difficult, and there will be many things in life that you need to face alone.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I feel more pain for the living. Because he has to bear the pain of the death of his lover, he will not forget each other every day.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    It is generally more painful to live, because they have to live alone in their later years, and they will be more lonely, and they will miss each other very much.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Both of them will be miserable, because neither of them wants to leave their old wife alone in the world, while the living will spend every day in their memories, which is equally painful.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Of course, people who are still alive, because they don't know anything after they die, and people who are still alive have lost their partners, not only have to bear the grief of loss, but they will also be very lonely, bear the pain, and spend the days to come.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I know that both of these are very painful, and this is a kind of regret in life, and generally speaking, it is more painful to be alive.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Of course, the living one is more painful. Because he has a lot of pressure to bear, and he also has to endure loneliness.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    It is even more painful to live, because life will be very lonely, no one will accompany you, if the feelings are very deep, you will even not think about it, and you will suffer both physical and psychological torture.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Of course it's alive, and it can be perceived whether it's good or bad!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    In fact, it should be more painful to be alive, because you should feel lonely when you lose your partner.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Personally, I think that those who are alive will be more painful, because those who go first will not have any thinking and will not have too much psychological pain, while those who are alive will always be immersed in the nostalgia and memories of the past.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    The pain of being alive. The first one has already left, no matter how reluctant he is, he has passed away, and the living are still commemorating.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    If we want to judge "who is more painful when the husband and wife are old, the one who leaves first or the one who is alive", we have to analyze the relationship between the husband and wife. Because only when the person you love is gone forever will you feel sad and painful.

    For couples with good feelings, it will be painful for those who go first and those who are alive, but those who are alive will be even more painful.

    Because the relationship is very good, because they love each other deeply, it is very painful for the person who goes first. Because he can't rest assured of the other party, because he is worried about the other party. But death will take away his thoughts and pain, even if he is reluctant, once he dies, there will be no thoughts.

    So this pain will disappear with death.

    But for the living, it's different. Because the living will remember everything, the joy and sweetness when they were together, and the sadness and pain when they were apart. This longing will deepen with the passage of time, and the deeper the longing, the more painful the person will be.

    For couples with average feelings, it will not be particularly painful for couples with average feelings, but in comparison, it will be more painful for those who are alive.

    Not all couples get married because of love, and many people get married with the idea of "living together". For this kind of couple, there is a lack of love between them, so the feelings are naturally not so deep.

    Because the feelings are average, death does not bring them great pain. But for the living, it will still be a little painful for the person with whom you live to pass away. Especially when you are alone in the house, that loneliness can arise.

    Because of loneliness, I miss it. Because I miss it, it hurts.

    For couples with very bad feelings, it will not be painful for those who go first and those who are alive, but in comparison, those who go first will be more painful.

    There are some couples who do not divorce even if their relationship is so bad that they will quarrel or even do something. Because they always have all sorts of reasons, either because of possessions or because of children.

    So for this kind of couple who hate each other but can't get a divorce, one person can't stand it and leaves first, and the other person will probably be as happy as the winner. So they should be happy rather than miserable, after all, they can finally stop looking at each other.

    However, for those who go first, it should be painful. Because in this struggle, he still lost to the other party after all, so he will feel pain because he is unwilling.

    Birth, old age, sickness and death are the normal state of life, although we are not willing to face it, but we will always encounter it. When someone we love is gone away from us forever, we certainly feel the pain. But when the person we hate leaves us forever, we will surely feel happy.

    Human nature is such a reality.

    However, no matter what kind of emotion it is, it will disappear with death, leaving only the living to continue to feel the emotion.

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