I don t like my husband, but I can t bear to have children, what should I do?

In fact, there is no reluctance in love, you can have a showdown with your husband, tell him your dissatisfaction, and let him solve it. If it can't be solved, break it up, but the child is innocent, you don't have the right to let him endure the discrimination and white eyes of his peers, I hope you treat the issue of divorce calmly and reconcile properly, your husband's request for you is more a manifestation of his love for you, what will happen if he ignores you every day? All problems are solvable!!

First of all, it's not all your credit that your child is cute, there's no arguing about that.

Secondly, it is not all your credit for a few years, the income that your husband gives to the family is the key to being able to take care of children, and it is not good to live without money just because of your hard work.

I hope you can recognize these two points, and here is my advice for you.

Marital agreement, no divorce, but negotiate with the husband, do not interfere with each other's lives, you bring the child, he is out of the economy, the child has a complete family, but the husband and wife have a new type of getting along. It doesn't matter if others understand it or not, it's important if you two figure it out yourself, and your children will definitely be able to understand it when they grow up, after all, the world in 20 years will not be a new thing.

If you get divorced, you have to take away the children, the husband has to give alimony, and the property after marriage must be divided, and the children are easy to award to the mother, as long as you work hard, you will definitely be able to. It will be hard to take care of children alone, but compared to staying with someone you don't like, some hardships in life are nothing and can be overcome. Although it is not much, there is alimony, which can subsidize the family to some extent.

Bear with him first, and leave him if you can't do it.

People are not perfect, tolerate you, just cherish it...

If you want to be better, then think of yourself as a single mother with children alone, although you can't find someone you like but you can ignore your husband's mood, or you can figure out why you don't like your husband, can you find his advantages and then slowly like him.

If it's economic, then you can only improve your ability or just endure it, if you just want a man to be what you want or give up, because it's impossible to change too much, so you can only change yourself. So if you want to go on with your marriage, there is always someone who has to change, and if you can't, the ending will not be too good. For the sake of the good of the child, parents should love each other, and don't live with a dislike for their husband, which is even worse for the child.

People live for a lifetime, it's too important not to leave regrets, if you are unhappy every day, you will be annoyed when you see your husband, I advise you to leave early. If the child is happy, it doesn't matter to the husband, just leave, and the divorced child will definitely not be happy. I don't know what you value more.

The important thing is that you don't wronged yourself.

If you are the only one who wants to leave, and you are the only one who feels uncomfortable, then I suggest that you express your wishes more in life, don't be too wronged and obedient to others, insist on making your own decisions, and let yourself live a more relaxed life without divorce, and life will be much easier. If you can live according to your own wishes in life, he can let you a little more, and you can also discover more of each other's advantages for the sake of your children, as long as you don't hate each other, life can still be lived.

If you didn't like it at the beginning and got married for many reasons, then continue, if you liked it at the beginning, you don't like it now, and you have the people and life you yearn for, then separate, life is very short, easy to stumble, endure it, the years will be old, and you can't move your steps, you will regret it.

An unhealthy family atmosphere also has a bad impact on children, and it is not the single-parent family that fails, but the members who make up the family.

In a marriage, a marriage without love is very scary, and if you don't like your husband, then it is difficult to build trust between each other. I still want you to get a divorce.

I think if you can tolerate living with your husband, then you go on, and if you can't stand it, then you divorce and fight for custody of the children.

Then you should try to accept the shortcomings of the other person, you can cultivate feelings, and slowly like the other person.

When you have children, you may love your husband less. This is normal. It's the nature of animals.

That's what "affectionate" means. But as human beings, we are only transmitters of love, or dispensers of love. As a woman, with children, there is a sudden increase in housework, limited energy, and less care and love for her husband.

This phenomenon is very dangerous for family happiness. Remember not to neglect your husband. It is recommended that when necessary, you can entrust your children to their parents, spend some time in the world of the two, and get back to the original feelings.

Maybe you don't have feelings for your child's dad anymore. The relationship between the two has slowly worn out in the past few years of married life, and the child has become the most important person in your marriage. Children are a symbol of your marriage and relationship.

It is also the future dependence of your family and the future heir of your family. The child is the child of you and your husband. It was your husband who brought you such a lovely child.

So you're going to have such lovely kids. Be sure to thank Him for the happiness and joy he brings you.

Husbands and wives should learn from each other's strengths and tolerate each other. For the healthy growth of the lovely children, they must tolerate the shortcomings of their husbands. While educating children, you can also remind children to break bad habits and teach them to children.

Be a good role model, let the child and her husband "big boy" grow up together, and at the same time make the family happy and harmonious.

Since you have chosen to have a child with him, you should be ready to live with him for the rest of your life. If you're not ready to spend the rest of your life with him, don't have children just yet. It has a big impact.

Now I say I don't like it halfway through. I don't know if I have the idea of quitting smoking, a couple halfway, or if I have other affiliations in my heart. It may be that he is tired of the man in the family and wants to find someone to replace him.

If you have this kind of thought in your heart, maybe this marriage will not come to an end!

You should communicate politely with your husband. Should have some conversation with your husband. We should also try to reconcile the contradictions and problems between the two people, so that this problem can be solved.

In such a situation, I think you should choose divorce, because such a marriage is already in name only, and you don't like each other, so there is no need to settle.

In such a situation, I think you should choose divorce because you don't like the other party and the other party will be together, and you will not be happy.

The case you mentioned should be divided into two definitions, the first is love, and the second is family affection. Let's assume that you and he are husband and wife, and the child is his own.

From your point of view, he doesn't love you and the child, and I think there is a possibility that he doesn't love the child because of you. He makes you feel or make you feel that he doesn't love your child, or he makes you feel that he doesn't love you. What does this mean?

That is to say, he thinks he loves you, but you say you don't love, this is a different definition of love, what is love? Maybe if he doesn't feed you, it's called not love, and everyone's definition is different. So what we're analyzing now is to get rid of your definition, and this different point of view is that he doesn't love you.

If that's the case, if you don't love it, you won't love it. You must know that there is only one thing in the world that cannot be bought with money, and that is love, and love is not something you can get by paying. So since you don't love anymore, you either have to reluctantly live or divorce.

Another family relationship, you say that he doesn't love children, I think there are two possibilities, the first is because of your reasons he doesn't love, because you want him to love, he doesn't love it, he does it against you, but he doesn't love children in his heart, he may love children. What about the second situation, that is, there is no family affection, in fact, no family affection also includes a sense of responsibility, that is, there is no family affection, 100,000 performance, the biggest manifestation is no sense of responsibility, what do I care about you? It doesn't matter what I do.

If this is the first case, you don't have to ask for it, what should he do, he should love the child, he will naturally love the child, you don't guide him, you still have to love, you want me to love you, you want to take care of him, he can do it, then the opposite happens.

The second is a question of responsibility, family affection, which is a matter of character, and I believe that it cannot be changed.

So when we encounter this situation, most of them are because we did not investigate and verify the person's character before marriage, and we were fooled, so there is no good way to solve this situation.

If it were me, I would take on my own love for my children, and if there is no father's love, then mother's love. You must not expect to change the other person to restrain the other person, the more you restrain him, the more disgusted he will become, and the more he will act against you.

Good luck.

Dear, this situation is generally not the result of a short period of time, you haven't communicated well for a long time, and your feelings have faded.

Feelings must require two people to work hard, dear, have you quarreled recently or are there other problems that make you feel that he doesn't love you anymore?

Women are afraid of marrying the wrong man, the teacher understands your worries, but the relationship can be re-established by business, you don't have to worry too much, tell the teacher about your current problems, and the teacher will help you analyze how to solve them.

Your husband doesn't love you anymore, and now you have children, in this case, you can choose to divorce, you can choose to save your relationship, and of course, you can choose to let go of your relationship temporarily. The first option is to choose divorce, that is to say, when you have sufficient funds, or you can't accept the situation that your husband doesn't love you, then you can choose to divorce; The second way is to choose to save the relationship, that is, to use some skills and methods to try to save the other party and save the relationship; The third way is to temporarily let go of feelings, because your current situation is more special, and it is more troublesome if you want to deal with some things, so you can choose to temporarily let go of feelings. So in general, when your husband doesn't love you and you have children at the same time, in this case, you can choose to divorce, you can choose to save the relationship, and of course, you can also choose to let go of the relationship for the time being.

1. Daily housework, discuss the assigned tasks, and not only one person can undertake it.

For example, the wife is responsible for cooking and stir-frying, and the husband is responsible for washing dishes; The wife is responsible for wiping the dust, and the husband is responsible for mopping the floor; The wife is responsible for washing and drying clothes, the husband is responsible for taking out the garbage, and so on. Many couples quarrel over trivial family matters, and if they can be allocated well in advance, many unnecessary quarrels can be avoided.

2. In-depth communication with your husband about future life goals, and divide them into short, medium and long-term implementation.

If a family has children, most couples will put the child's education first. Communicate life goals with each other, which can be divided into short, medium and long-term implementation. When short-term life goals are achieved, couples celebrate together and bond more.

Then working together towards the medium-term goal will make each other feel like they are having a good time.

3. Don't just ask your partner to work hard, but also work hard to learn and progress together.

Some women take on most of the housework after marriage, hoping that their husbands can concentrate on their careers and work hard to make achievements. But often the husband keeps moving forward, and the wife stands still. The wife thinks that she can just take care of the family, but she forgets that she also needs to keep up with the times, so she gradually distances herself from her husband.

4. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, timely feedback to the husband, small family first, united front.

As for the handling of the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, husband and wife should reach the principle of "small family first, united front", which must be resolved by the husband and avoided by the wife.

5. Wives encourage their husbands to spend time with their children and avoid widowed parenting.

When the children are young, the husband should be encouraged to take time out of the child, and the wife should learn to let go. Every pair of parents starts from scratch, and so does Dad, even if he doesn't do perfectly, don't be in a hurry to correct his mistakes, encourage him more, praise him more, so that he will have a sense of accomplishment and become more and more motivated. When a husband feels the joy of parenting while taking care of the children, he can avoid widowhood to a large extent.

Generally speaking, this phenomenon is very rare, even if the husband doesn't love you very much, but he will like his children very much, so it is generally impossible to say that he does not love you and does not love his children, so you should think about it carefully, what is the problem.

Then solve the problem, so since we are a family, we should all live in peace, respect and love each other.

My husband doesn't love you and the children anymore, so you have to find the reason for this situation. After all, two people used to be together because they loved each other, and if the relationship was not well managed, it would slowly fade. Therefore, it is necessary to work oneself to get back the feeling.

You can also find opportunities to be alone with your husband and send your children to their parents' homes. It will be of great help to enhance the relationship between two people.