It is better to educate children from an early age in a critical or praising way

In fact, it is difficult to simply say whether it is good to criticize education or praise it is good. In the process of children's education, criticism and praise are equally important, and the key is how to implement criticism and praise.

Praise should not be general: "You are awesome", and criticism should not be general: "Why are you always bad", but should focus on specific things. In this way, the child's perspective can be reinforced, and he will know what to do and what not to do.

For example, when you praise you, you should say that you did something and your mother thinks you did a good job. When criticizing, it is necessary to make it clear what was not done right, to criticize, and it is best to give parents' suggestions and opinions. In this way, the child will be able to understand why he is being praised or criticized, and he will know how to deal with it next time he encounters something similar.

Therefore, do not use labeling methods to educate children, all praise and criticism should be right things and not people, so as to help children establish an objective world view and outlook on life.

At the same time, when criticizing and praising you, you should also pay attention to the timing. Generally speaking, when something has just happened and ended, it is the most appropriate time. At this time, the child has the deepest impression and the strongest feelings, and timely criticism and praise can help the child consolidate the correct thinking and behavior patterns.

Finally, try not to use material ways to praise and criticize your child.

Whether it is critical education or praise education, it is actually parents who label their children, which is not a long-term effective way.

1.If we use praise for a long time, the child will think that I am really good and may be positive in the short term.

But what are the long-term effects on children? Children will depend on whether they are praised or not, and do everything just to get more praise, and children are likely to become "pleasers", not thinking about what things have actual parents for themselves, but just to please others. In order to ensure that they are praised, children may be afraid to try new explorations and take on more difficult challenges for fear of not receiving praise.

What happens when one day he doesn't get praise? Children will feel worthless and lose their self-confidence.

2.If we use critical education methods for a long time, it will make children feel disrespected, worthless, and loved. Children may feel incompetent, refuse to try new attempts, and may become rebellious and rebellious.

We can try to encourage children to evaluate themselves, and when they encounter problems, they can first ask them: What happened? Let your child think about what he did.

If your child is doing well, encourage your child and describe the child's lack of progress. If your child makes a mistake, focus on solving the problem and let your child think of what the solution is. At the same time, guide the child to think:

What did I learn from this? Let the child be responsible for his or her own actions, rather than parents being around to monitor and grade the child at all times.

Every afternoon tea time, do something for self-growth. - by Mama Afternoon Tea.

Do you often hear the following words to children?

You're awesome! You're so obedient!

How clever! How many times have I told you, why still can't?

You've disappointed me!

You're such a hopeless child!

I don't know, as an adult, how do you feel after hearing these words? The first three sentences feel like eating candy, and I still want to eat it, but I will get tired of it after a long time; The last three sentences make people feel discouraged, sad and even inferior!

In August this year, my family went to Yangcheng Lake for a ride, and to be honest, I have been laughed at for countless years about "I can't ride a bicycle", and I have also learned to blacken myself, "Well, I can't ride a bicycle, but I can ride a bicycle"! This ride, my dad found me a tricycle and said, it is said that the two-wheeled riding is not good, and the three-wheeled seems to be able to be self-taught. I continue to blacken myself :

You guys ride, I'm better in the middle, haha.

I found that I couldn't help myself, and that sentence filled me with the energy to try it. As a result, I took my niece and my niece to ride a long distance on a tricycle and took countless "first" **.

Unexpectedly, it was the first time that my daughter was encouraged to ride a bicycle. And these words of encouragement are exactly what I usually say to Xiang Xiang the most.

Encouragement refers to encouragement and support, while praise refers to the prominence and promotion of a thing or character. Encouragement is usually geared towards process and attitude, Dad sees your efforts this semester and is proud of you! Praise is usually for results and effectiveness, Dad is happy to see your grades improve!

More encouragement, less praise; More descriptions and less evaluations can prevent children from being kidnapped by praise, or unable to afford to lose, and unscrupulous means to achieve the goal.

Children who have been criticized since childhood will doubt themselves in their hearts. He thinks, "No matter what I do, there always seems to be something that isn't perfect," and he will be cautious. He will be very resilient to pressure, because all setbacks and blows are familiar, and if he receives too much criticism, too much condemnation, too outrageous, he will even form a concept of "I can't do anything well", and generalize it to various situations in adulthood.

Children who have been praised since childhood are full of affirmation of themselves in their hearts, but this certainly has no factual basis and is a tree without roots. He thinks, "I do everything with ease, and I deserve to be rewarded for doing it." At this time, the extrinsic reward became the motivation for him to do things, and his blind optimism also seriously underestimated the difficulty of the problems he might encounter, and if the difficulties were a little greater, he would give up quickly, because he did not have much experience in facing setbacks and blows.

In other words, children who are praised tend to only do things that can be successful and rewarded, and do not want to touch things that may fail and not be rewarded.

The disadvantage of these two education methods is that they do not teach children to see the essence of things, and they fail to make children realize that it is he who benefits when he does good things, and he who suffers when he does something wrong. If this basic value of right and wrong is not established, the child will not be motivated to do anything after being detached from external evaluation, because he cannot establish an internal connection with these things, and he does not see the necessity of doing things.

Therefore, my view is that both criticism and praise are needed, but the most important thing is to get things done.

There is no definite answer as to whether it is better to encourage education or to criticize itBecause it mainly depends on the personality and life pattern of the parents and children.

For example, if the child has made a mistake of principle, parents must not tolerate it, then it is necessary to criticize education, and need to inform the child where the bottom line is, if the child just does bad things with good intentions, then you can adopt the mode of criticism education, and it is easier to build children's self-confidence and personality cultivation.

Which method should be used for the teacher:

1. Throw out questions and let students think for themselves.

For example, when a student who made a mistake comes to the office, try to have the student sitting. It also makes it easier for students to work with you. And at this time, the teacher only needs to express:

Think about what mistakes you made? Then the teacher leaves, let the students think for themselves, and keep an eye on the student status of you, and you will find that the student will do a lot of wrong things.

2. Be good at discovering students' bright spots.

When students make mistakes, they are undoubtedly frightened in their hearts, and at this time, the teacher should talk about their strengths, and even praise the students' appearance, which can also make the students feel their own advantages, and then educate.

3. Clarify mistakes so that students can correct them.

After the first two steps, it is necessary to tell the students sternly about the mistakes of these behaviors, and ask them to correct them, indicate the way to correct them, and ask them to list the mistakes they said earlier, and add ways to correct them.

To sum up, it is not difficult to find that any type of education needs to combine the two types of education.

I can only say that I have my own views on this issue.

Critical education, I think it is a kind of adversity psychology to encourage children, they have a temperament of not admitting defeat, but if you have been like this for a long time, it is easy to bring a shadow to the child's heart, so encourage it appropriately.

Encouraging education, this is indeed good, it is easy to make the child actively do anything, is if you keep doing this, he will feel that he has no pressure, and then live a very easy life, lack of exercise, over time will become a kind of pride, so it is not like a good aspect to develop. Therefore, while encouraging, it should also bring a little pressure to the children, so that they do not be proud.

All in all, I think it's a mixed bag, encouragement is the majority, criticism is in the minority, so that encouraging children and strengthening their positive attitude will also give them a head-on mentality.

Have a spirit of not admitting defeat.

It is normal for children to make mistakes when they grow up. However, for children's mistakes, parents sometimes adopt improper education methods, so that in the long run, the desired effect will not be achieved, and the child's nature is lively and naughty. Some parents are too strict or too demanding of their children, which can suppress their children's nature.

The child's heart craves the approval and praise of his parents, and if he makes a small mistake, he is severely criticized. In such an environment, the child's self-esteem.

It is easily influenced and can leave a psychological shadow on the child, making the child gradually become timid, low self-esteem and cowardice.

Children crave praise and encouragement from their parents, which can boost their motivation to move forward. If parents often deny their children and are not satisfied with their sense of fulfillment.

Then the child will become insecure.

And afraid to face things. Do it and be afraid of failure. This child has lost his self-confidence, so how much courage does he have to face unknown difficulties and setbacks?

Encouraging children is an essential skill for all parents. When a child behaves well or gets good grades, parents should encourage the child in time, praise him, and let the encouragement and recognition take root in the child's heart.

The child's heart is full of confidence. And when the child is depressed, parents should also encourage him to restore the child's spirit and not let the child be depressed. A good spirit is also a sign of self-confidence.

Many parents discuss their deficiencies with their children so that they can warn and take a detour. But few parents analyze their children's strengths, and this is the strength of parents. Focusing only on the child's shortcomings and not paying attention to the child's strengths will make the child only recognize his own shortcomings.

And when you know yourself, you can't see your own highlights, so that your character becomes more and more inferior and lacks self-confidence. By analyzing your child's strengths and weaknesses, let your child understand himself more fully, guide your child to develop in a better direction, and become a confident child!

I think it's better to encourage education than to criticize it. Encouraging education makes children happy, and the growth of childhood is very happy, so that children are more confident.

Critical education makes children unhappy, makes children's personalities more eccentric, and is not good for children's physical and mental health.

I think encouraging education is better, it can make children more confident and do better.

I prefer encouragement for children's education. With encouragement, the child is more confident. Encourage children to be happy every day, and their childhood growth will be more enjoyable.

Critical education can hurt a child's self-esteem. It is not healthy for children to have no self-confidence and no happiness in their childhood.

Please compare our hearts to our hearts, we are the same as children as human beings, we all like to hear good, we don't like to hear that we are bad, is that right?

It is precisely because of this that there is a kind of education in psychology called "appreciation education" According to the principle of implicit education in psychology, what you want your child to become, you yourself have to say more about what the child is like, and he will become what you expect to become.

But I want to remind you that encouragement education, praise education, but also to be moderate, can not be blindly used, abused, all the usage is to express sincerity, in line with reality, in line with reality, in line with the child's needs, in line with the child's psychological satisfaction, in line with the child's current development of education, only to him, the child can listen to it, feel that your encouragement to him is real, from the heart, encouragement, not hypocrisy, false. At every turn, you are awesome, you are so good, you are really good, this kind of simple, this kind of praise education, on the contrary, sometimes it is not conducive to children, or you will feel that your education is only superficial, just hypocritical, not worthy of appreciation.

In addition, critical education and encouraging education also need to be used at the appropriate time, and critical education is not absolutely inadmissible, but encouraging education is the majority, so it is in line with the child's psychological development.