My parents in law brought my brother and sister in law s children to my house to go to school, what

Home is the space of your own family, even if your parents-in-law or your parents live for a long time, there will be problems, not to mention that the three are not their own family, plus ignorant children. My brother and sister-in-law should rent a house for them. It seems embarrassing to refuse now, but if you don't refuse, you will definitely have trouble and break up unhappily after a long time, so it is better to refuse now.

Because people with this kind of thinking are generally selfish and unconscious, everything is suitable for themselves, without considering the feelings of others, and everything is based on their own convenience. For example, my sister-in-law always asked me to find a job, and once I had a place there, and I said she could come, and she said that her brother was also staying at home, so let him come, and my brother worked there.

At first, I was very grateful, but after a while, I complained at the family gathering, saying that it was close to my house, and I didn't know how to invite his brother to come to the house for dinner. Later, my brother retired from the unit and stopped doing odd jobs. After that, there was something at their house, we couldn't go to the field at that time, and my sister-in-law directly deleted WeChat and so on, and no longer contacted.

At first, I was a little unhappy, but now I want to get along with this kind of person, you must always be suitable for them, and if you are a little inappropriate, you will immediately turn your face without your knowledge, that is to say, no matter how good you are to her, you may turn your face one day. So why love 7, ignore it and ignore it, anyway, this kind of person will be like this sooner or later. So just refuse and let them figure it out for themselves.

It is filial piety to the parents-in-law, but it is okay to visit relatives and friends, and negotiate with each other on matters, rather than letting others make claims without permission in their own homes. Visiting relatives and friends is different from living together every day, what can be grasped can be grasped, and what cannot be grasped is easy to become enemies in the future. Including their own parents.

Filial piety also has a scale, and it cannot be passed.

It depends on the reason! If it's a nephew who simply came to your house to go to school, then you don't like to refuse! If you have to call your in-laws to help you take the children to do housework, then it's a different matter, this kind of final solution can be solved, you can rent a house next door, let the mother-in-law live there, you usually send the children over, and the brother's children will not affect you anything!

If you just want your in-laws to help your family and ignore your brother's family, it's not easy!

During the Chinese New Year, you asked me: What would you do if my brother's family bought a house in the city and asked you to continue to help them take care of their children?

What can I say as your daughter-in-law?

The eldest child of my brother's family is about to enter junior high school, and the two younger ones are also in elementary school.

In the first year of pregnancy and childbirth, I am really grateful to you for helping me take care of me, letting me slowly know how to be a mother, knowing that it is not easy to be a mother, and you always gave me the highest comfort when I was helpless and hesitant. Before, I couldn't understand why you always have such a big temper sometimes, but now I can understand that sometimes N Bao alone can let me be in place**, let alone 3 children?

My brother once complained about how much his father's absence hurt him when he was young, and he wasn't doing the same thing, at least you were always by your side when he was young, but now the three babies are only accompanied by their grandparents.

I've always wanted to fit in, but what happened in the past two years has taught me to keep my mouth shut.

I used to mind that you have been taking care of their children, I asked you to help me to take care of the children when you hesitated and couldn't let go, I also complained about you, but now everything is over, I just want to rely on ourselves, take care of the baby, and live a good life in our own home.

I know you have your own considerations and worries, worried that your brother and sister-in-law will not be able to handle 3 children, and that if you don't help them take care of your children now, they won't provide for you in the future. In fact, you don't have to worry about having no one to support you when you are old, your two sons are filial sons, and your daughter-in-law is also a reasonable person. We won't leave you with no old age.

How to say it, it is difficult for the Qing official to bury potatoes and cut off the housework, although you are illiterate, but a very sensible person, I know that you also want to live your own life, I can understand that you want to realize your own value, not only in taking care of children, you are very happy every time you talk about the experience of going out to work, so when we are still in your hometown, you said that you want to go to pick tea with the people in the village, and you are worried that we will go back to you for a trip and you are afraid that we will have opinions, I support you to go. Because I know that I am happiest when I spend the money I earn.

Everyone's experience is different, their ideas are different, different people will have different suggestions, and the final choice is still in their own hands. So my answer to the first question is obvious, but I probably won't tell you my advice. Because I know that if they have to let you go, you will go if you want to or not.

Glad you for this question. First of all, you should respect your mother-in-law's thoughts and opinions, listen to her views and ideas on this issue, and try to reach an agreement that is acceptable to both parties. In addition, if it is not convenient for the mother-in-law to go out to take the child, you can consider providing her with some support and help, such as providing some subsidies or arranging other personnel to assist in taking care of the child.

In addition, you can also discuss with your mother-in-law to make some detailed plans and arrangements, such as taking turns to take care of the children on a regular basis every week, so as to reduce her stress and let the children receive adequate care and love.

If my sister really has no one to take care of, of course my sister has an unshirkable responsibility, since my in-laws are against it, of course they also have the right to object, and they can't stop them, so I will shoulder the responsibility of taking care of my sister.

If you are in a situation like yours, move out as soon as possible, and move out if you want the family to be harmonious, after all, if there are too many families, there will be a lot of conflicts.

Don't say yes to such a request, after all, this house is yours and it will be very inconvenient to move out.

My husband's home is in the countryside, and he has two children, both boys, and my husband is the second child. Because he is young and old in the house, all the people spoil him.

Let's just say that we spent more money on marriage than his eldest brother. My eldest brother lived in an old house, but he built us a new house in the village, and I always felt that my mother-in-law was very good to us.

It wasn't until I had a baby that everything changed.

The eldest brother's family gave birth to a son, and I gave birth to a daughter, and my mother-in-law waited outside the hospital for a long time, and when she saw the result, she threw up her sleeves and left. Never seen me again, let alone took care of me during confinement. The eldest brother got married, although it didn't cost much, but the eldest brother's children have always been led by their mother-in-law, and now they are about to go to school.

And my daughter, my mother-in-law is very disgusted and has not been treated. I had no choice but to quit my job and take care of my daughter at home. I was very angry about this, and since then I haven't been going to my mother-in-law's house anymore, although my husband is sometimes unhappy, but I don't go, and my husband can't do anything about me.

Whatever the child wants, the mother-in-law will give it, which can be said to be obedient, so the eldest brother's child is very domineering. When my daughter is very well-behaved and sensible.

More than 20 years have passed unconsciously, and I don't have much contact with my mother-in-law, and I rarely have contact. The mother-in-law also didn't care, because it was enough for him to have an eldest son.

Suddenly, one day, my mother-in-law came to my house with a sack, saying that she was old and wanted to come to her youngest son's house to care for the elderly.

All along, my mother-in-law lived with my eldest brother, and suddenly ran back, I don't know what it means. My husband is a very filial person, and my mother has no objection to living with my husband.

But I don't understand that he doesn't have only one son. When I was able to move, I thought about everything for the sake of my eldest son, and now that I want to support my family, I think of our family.

When I saw my mother-in-law, I felt very uncomfortable, so I felt unfair when I thought about it, so I kicked her out of the door.

I think you should be raised. Because after all, as a junior, it is a natural thing to raise your parents.

In fact, you can also choose to refuse, because it was really unfair at that time, and the eldest brother should raise the elderly.

In my case, the child brought his own, went to work during the day and took the child at night, his parents helped the eldest brother's family, saying that we were far away, in fact, it was only a hundred kilometers, today he asked me to buy a few hundred yuan of medicine for his parents, I explained it, I gave it a month, five thousand, four thousand to the nanny, the rest of the money, I didn't dare to eat a good meal at noon in the unit, so, I'm sorry, I can only refuse you.

In this case, it is best to communicate more with your husband and let your husband communicate with her mother-in-law, so that it is very likely to resolve the conflict.

Summary. Hello, hello, if your mother-in-law has been helping you watch the children, and your husband and brother need your mother-in-law to help you for a few days, you have no reason to complain. After all, it's your own child, and you can't rely on someone else.

My husband also has an older brother, and recently asked my mother-in-law to take care of the children, they are all out of town, and I still have two children.

Hello, you are good, if your mother-in-law has been helping you watch the children, and you need your mother-in-law to help you for a few days, you have no reason to complain. After all, it's your own child, and you can't rely on someone else. You can**WeChat** ask your mother-in-law to help guide you, or search for advice on the Internet.

I know, the problem is that my husband and his brother are in that city, and now my mother-in-law is also going to go, and I bring two by myself, and I have no one with anyone when something happens.

You can bring it up directly with your mother-in-law.

I mentioned it, but it didn't work, she just thought it was too big to show me and didn't show it to the boss.

Then you have to hire a babysitter. Your mother-in-law is the one who takes care of the land, even if you let someone else take care of things, you don't take care of it. Because many of them are now brought by themselves, this is the trend of social Yetan development Song Brother Tong.

Summary. Hello, in this case, you should first comfort your sister, and then talk to your mother-in-law, how good it is, and at the same time through your husband and mother-in-law.

My sister came to help me take care of the children, and my mother-in-law saw that I was not at home and drove my sister and them home, and I was quite devastated.

Good. Hello, in this case, you should first comfort your sister Lingkai, and then talk to your mother-in-law, how good it is, and at the same time, through your husband Wang Min and her mother-in-law to talk about it.

What can I say?

Just comfort your sister.

For example, when he does this, he is saying that his mother-in-law is wrong to do this, but the older generation has a different way of thinking from us.

Then say that he shouldn't do this, and then tell me why you want to ask your sister to help you take care of the child, etc.

Summary. If you don't have enough money now, you can only go to your mother-in-law's place. But if you want him to take good care of you, I think this thing is a bit difficult, because after all, my mother-in-law is not young. He has to take care of the children, and he has to take care of you.

It's too bad to use the word "waiting"! Please pay for the confinement sister-in-law, why did Duan Zheng let her mother-in-law pay for it, and she doesn't owe you anything! It is recommended not to let your mother-in-law serve you, in case you get angry and return to milk when the time comes?

There is also the most likely depression after giving birth! Then pay for the confinement sister-in-law to invite the confinement sister-in-law, tell the mother-in-law not to come to hold the difficulty and regret it, understand her more, the child without a mother is so pitiful, and take it as a good deed.

What do you mean, you don't understand?

Actually, I don't think it's good for you to live here in the past, first of all, your mother-in-law can't take care of two people, he has to take care of your brother and children, and he has to take care of you. Second, this may deepen the conflict between you and your mother-in-law, because the contradiction between your mother-in-law and your daughter-in-law is one of the most difficult problems to solve in China, and third, you are not as good as yourself, so it is more comfortable to ask others to take care of you.

Who will pay for me if I ask others, his parents don't ask me, I accept it, everything is we jump into the pit, it's difficult.

If you don't have enough money now, you can only go to your mother-in-law's place. But if you want him to take good care of you, I think it's a bit difficult to close this matter, because after all, my mother-in-law is not young. He has to take care of the children, and he has to take care of you.

What should I do.

Either I will pay to take care of you, or I will go to your mother-in-law, and the third way is to take care of yourself with filial piety, because you are pregnant now, and you can still take care of yourself. Do you have a skillful stool and no other work? There is no problem with Obisho to take care of himself alone.