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There are many families in China who quarrel over the bride price, and even the wedding that is ready may be broken up.

After that, you have to ask yourself whether the relationship between you and your boyfriend is important, or the 20,000 yuan is important.

I believe that after you ask yourself, you will have a clear answer, this wedding is for you and your boyfriend, not your parents' family, and you and your boyfriend will live together in the future.

No matter who introduces you to the object, if you look at your family background, or look at your life experience, or look at the economic conditions in his family, or even say, you have no feelings for him, or you have no interest in him, even if it is forced to be given to you by others, we don't have to care about what others think, we like it, we like it, we don't like it, we reject them.

My boyfriend's family thinks that your double standard is unpleasant, and I think you should reflect on it, after all, your behavior is indeed a little out of place.

After reading your description, I personally feel that your boyfriend has made the marriage event so commercial. And feelings can't be the same as anything else. By your brother's standards, that's not right.

Then let your boyfriend have a good talk with his family, and at the same time you also have a good talk with your parents, if two people really love each other, don't affect the relationship between two people because of the bride price.

Sometimes you must talk about money before marriage, so that you can see whether the three views of the two parties are compatible, and it is better if you can solve it harmoniously. But if it really makes a fuss, it is also to see the face of the family clearly, and there is actually no pity.

This is actually very normal, and it doesn't necessarily mean that your sister-in-law will give the same bride price. So you don't need to think too much about it, but one of the two people must compromise.

The bride price is actually quite troublesome. It's up to you to see what your opinion is

Generally, there will be some contradictions in such things, and the two families will sit down and discuss it. Talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money.

Your boyfriend's family thinks that your family has a double standard and is unpleasant, so you should sit down and talk about it at this time, and listen to each other's opinions!

What should I do if the man's family thinks my double standard is unpleasant You can persuade your parents not to make a fuss about the bride price How can we get married in the future.

This kind of thing still needs to be communicated with your boyfriend's family. Don't let them think that your double standard is unpleasant.

The unpleasantness of the trouble shows that there must be some misunderstanding between them, and only by solving the problem can we get along well.

In fact, you don't need to mention how much bride price your sister-in-law asked for when she got married, including your boyfriend's parents. Because there will be a comparison in people's hearts!

It's better to find a way to communicate well, and not to fall apart because of this little thing.

20,000 bride price is really not much, but depending on the man's economic conditions, you should discuss it with your boyfriend, can't he take out 20,000 yuan himself?

Then I'm going to be unhappy, I feel like you have to break up right away, otherwise there won't be a good day if you don't break up.

Your boyfriend's family is too disagreeable, and I think the daughters of your two families are not the same, the situation is different.

If the two of you have a good relationship, if it's really good, don't let your parents worry about it, the two of you go out and rent a house by yourself, get married and live by yourself, without the money of your parents. Otherwise, break up.

Temporary, short-term unpleasantness, after a while it will be fine.

The people in your boyfriend's family don't feel like a kind person, how much dowry your mother-in-law gives to her daughter is someone else's business, and your mother-in-law marries a daughter-in-law not a bride price, there is really no quality education, if such an in-law marries in the past, there will be no positive energy to bring a daughter-in-law, there will be nothing to speak of,

In fact, my boyfriend's family said this, I think it's also right, why does your family spend so little to marry a daughter-in-law, and other people's families should spend so much to marry your daughter-in-law?

I think the two of you are unhappy about the bride price, their family gave you so much according to the bride price given by his sister-in-law, it is indeed a bit little, but your parents are not willing to compromise, you can find someone to talk to, it is not worth breaking up for this trouble.

The key is for both of you to work together to persuade one of your parents.

Ask your boyfriend if he can increase some, after all, his brother and sister-in-law have been married for a while, and the price has also increased, see if you can add some.

On your own parents' side, you should also persuade more, their two sons, parents should have a bowl of water, otherwise the sister-in-law may have complaints, and there will be conflicts in the future when they marry. In the future, the two families should get along well and not make too much trouble.

The man's family can actually say such things as the woman's family, which proves that the quality of the man's family is not very good, if two people really have feelings to go home and do their parents' work, it is also the south You should teach your parents well, as an in-law family, first of all, you must stand on an equal point of view, if the man is very conceited and proud, then even if this family business is done, it will not be too harmonious.

If there is no way to achieve unity in attitude, there is really no way to solve the unpleasant trouble.

It's really unreasonable, how much your family gives is your own business, what does it have to do with the man's family, do they care? This hasn't passed the door yet, asking for this and that, the hand is really long, you have to be assertive, and you also want your boyfriend to be a little more forceful and do work for his family.

If you make such a fuss before you get married, there's no need to get married.

Two people have a good discussion, both sides do the ideological work of parents, in fact, the most important thing is the two of you, the bride price depends on the economic ability, can be discussed.

This can be together early, communicate well, and solve the problem.

Well, it's unpleasant to be unpleasant, the man said something like that. Since it's a family, don't talk about the other party's badness.

Because when you fall in love, you have to talk, and when you want to get married, you must discuss marriage matters, bride price, house, etc., not necessarily double standard satisfaction together, if you don't come, forget it.

It all depends on the communication between the man and the woman's family, and if the communication is good, it will not be so unpleasant.

In the end, the two sides sat together to negotiate a settlement, so as not to make a fuss unpleasant.

Then there's no need to get along.

Because your sister-in-law and you are not at the same time.

If you buy gold, it is also different now**.

Let's say that the woman has an unpleasant life on both sides, and you have to act as a lubricant in it.

When two people get married, they don't need their parents to take care of things.

This need needs to be seen according to the actual situation, and the times are different.

Such a family is really speechless, strict and lenient to others, their daughters should ask for a bride price, and the daughter-in-law's family wants more than to sell their daughters. It depends on what your boyfriend's attitude is, if he thinks the same as his parents, let's break up.

emmmmmmmmm, listen to what you say, I think, this is the fault of both parties, first, it can't be said that her sister married and asked for 280,000 dowry, you want 280,000 like his sister, and second, his parents scolded your parents This is wrong, no matter how you say it, you can't scold it, so if you want to break up, break up, after all, parents like him, you may not have a good life in the past, unless you are stronger.

Marriage is like this, each family has its own standards, and they all say that they are right. The public says that the public is reasonable, and the mother says that the mother is reasonable.

You hurry away from him, it's a double standard. His daughter can ask for 280,000, why can't you? If you marry such a family, even if your boyfriend doesn't squeeze you, his parents will definitely not "let you go". Do you understand?

The problem is that it is your own daughter who wants 280,000, and you are someone else's daughter, and of course the daughter of someone else's family wants as little as possible.

People look at things from their own point of view, which is understandable, whether you break up or not depends on what you think of your boyfriend.

Put aside the money in advance, you can't forgive his parents for scolding your parents, that's it before marriage, it's okay after marriage, divide it.

In fact, there are often too many people who want to and will use material (especially money) to guide emotional matters, which is vividly expressed in marriage. When talking about the problems of marriage, it is always difficult to overwhelm or overwhelm the "poor". If both parents want their children to live happily, they can weigh the number of gifts in the marriage (mainly in the bride price and dowry, set an appropriate amount, or make a bride price and dowry that is not enough in an appropriate way to show glory in front of the world, etc.).

Of course, this needs to be properly negotiated in advance on the premise that both parents are willing (at least one of them can compromise or make concessions). In the final analysis, marriage has always been the responsibility of the parties, many places and many times, no matter how glamorous the bride price and dowry are, in the end they need to digest the bride and groom in the future, because for them, the bride price and dowry are just a consumption in advance, the family is not rich, there is no parents to pay, they hope that the consumption is as simple as possible, and it is best to be able to do it at a good price and be happy. If you and your fiancé are really in love and really want to tie the knot, there is really no need to make the two in-laws quarrel without embarrassment, both men and women have the obligation and responsibility to persuade their respective parents to make some concessions.

The above is only a personal opinion and is not for reference.

When you have a conflict with your family, first of all, you have to know what the cause of the incident is, why there is a conflict, what your boyfriend thinks in his heart, and only after you figure it out can you get rid of the comfort.

Reassure him and apologize. Then be more accommodating to him, and try to be as considerate and considerate as possible.

Care more about him, help if you can, even if it's a trivial greeting.

Give him a mouthful, so big and worry about his parents and beloved woman, or a man?

You can call him ** and comfort him well.

Then charter a car to find him and surprise him.

You're thinking too much. If you are always entangled in these details, how will you live in the future? Now that you have chosen the date of engagement, your boyfriend has explained to your mother that the engagement is planned to be.

Don't worry about some small things in the future, both parties are optimistic and cheerful, and you will be happy. Know that true happiness depends on yourselves.

He's afraid of you, which proves that your boyfriend still cares about you very much, and he doesn't want adults to get involved, who wants his children to be angry. Have fun

Even after you get married, you will always have an awkwardness in each other's hearts.

...She is afraid that you care about this matter very much, and she doesn't want to leave you with bad memories, and "breaking up" is just angry talk. Or maybe they're lying to you and not falling in love with you.

Please believe that "she" who "loves" you will not easily say "break up"...At this point, you have to think about it. Hope everything goes your way.

This kind of impoliteness, the first time you visit your elders, you will make an awkward scene, how will you deal with him in the future. Apart.

It's not clear, so rude, your parents actually agreed?

Give each other a step, don't make the happy event unpleasant. It's pretty much fine, the main thing is that the two of you will live a good life in the future, and everything else is a formality.

If you make money trouble, give a word to the parents of the two families, don't be stupid or deaf, and don't be a family.

What was supposed to be happy has become a worrying thing.

Who told you to give it so early?

Sit down and communicate and wish you happiness.

Being double-marked by your family, what else can you do? It's just patience and it's over. Because you can't reason with them, because they won't listen to them at all, and they will think that you are making trouble.

If all of your family members have double standards for you, then you really have no choice but to relax yourself and not worry so much.

If it's just your mother or one of them who double-bids you, then you can convince the other through the other person. When you are the only one who is reasoning with her, she may think that you are talking about all the fallacies. And when someone goes along with you to deal with her, she will feel that it is possible that what you said is right.

Or, you can try to double standard him and let him try how bad it feels. Maybe he'll understand when he's personally experienced the experience. What a bad thing it is to double standard others, thus correcting one's own mistakes.

This is called treating others the way they would be, but let's not go too far, after all, they are our family.

Anyway, the family shouldn't care so much, and if you feel that you can bear it, then, the patience will pass. Really, when we grow up, we don't spend much time at home, and we don't spend much time with them. So let's learn to relax and don't care so much, after all, we are all family.

There are some words and things that we have experienced and let them pass.

In fact, I think that no matter who is double standard, it will feel quite uncomfortable. For my family, this feeling is even more helpless. Because if it's someone else, you can ignore it, no matter what they are, but you still care about how much your family is more or less mindful, but you can't care too much.