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1. Know yourself.

We have to know ourselves dialectically, not only entangled in our own shortcomings, but also have acne on our faces, have a bad body, and can't sing...You should also be able to discover your own strengths, such as delicate thoughts, good dressing, good writing, etc.

Accept your own bad, but also see your own good, do not compare your own bad with the good of others, everyone has their own areas of expertise, and improve their own good side.

For example, Li Dan.

is very good at talk shows, so the debate is relatively difficult for him, so he won't have to talk to Qiu Chen and Huang Zhizhong.

They are more focused on their talk show careers than debates.

2. Correct attribution.

We will encounter failures, and the reason for failure may be not enough effort, it may be not enough timing, it may be some force majeure.

It is also possible that you are not capable enough, and if we just attribute our failures to internal causes, we will become more and more inferior and frustrated.

On the contrary, we attribute correctly, find the real cause of failure, solve the problem, and grow.

3. Enhance confidence with action.

Walk with your chest held high (behavior affects mentality).

Speak up in front of others (to exercise your courage and gain confidence for sure).

Encourage yourself in the mirror (don't underestimate the power of suggestion).

4. Re-establish a sense of security.

Lack of security will lead to low self-esteem, dare not take the initiative to contact others, dare not express their feelings and ideas, Lu Xun in the literary world.

He also has an inferiority complex, and he has always wanted to contact his teacher, but he didn't dare to contact him, for fear that the teacher would be disappointed, so he only wrote "Mr. Fujino".

A piece of nostalgia. If you want to overcome low self-esteem, you also need to re-establish a sense of security and change from low self-esteem to high self-esteem. How? On the one hand, we must learn to embrace the past and face yesterday's events calmly;

On the other hand, we need to take the initiative to make some genuine friends, talk to our family members and ask for support, and as long as you know that someone is willing to face it with you, you will be much bolder in doing things.

Low self-esteem is an internal feeling in which an individual realizes that he or she is not far behind others in one or more aspects and experiences the emotional experience of shame.

Opinions and suggestions: To overcome the psychology of inferiority, we first need to correctly understand and evaluate ourselves, accept our current situation, find our own advantages, and taboo compare our own shortcomings with the advantages of others, which aggravates the emergence of inferiority complex; Secondly, often use praise and affirmation to encourage yourself and enhance your self-confidence; Thirdly, read more books, cultivate your own hobbies, improve your experience, and make yourself a better person.

The main method of inferiority complex in clinical practice is **. 1. Cognitive method, through continuous and comprehensive cognition of one's own situation and the state of the external environment, the person who knows is not perfect, through one's own continuous efforts to achieve inner self-worth, to solve one's own problems realistically, through continuous adjustment of cognition, improve cognitive reconstruction. Achieve the effect of **.

2. Transfer method. It is to shift one's attention to the content that interests oneself, to make oneself more pleasant and in control, and by devoting oneself to the activities that interest oneself, you can improve the shadow of your own inferiority complex and relieve the emotional fluctuations caused by psychological stress and tension. Operation, that is to say, the generation of inferiority complex, the gradual loss of self-confidence.

You can use the homework method to seek things that you are sure to complete, so as to improve your self-confidence and ultimately improve your inferiority complex.

The ways to overcome inferiority are: 1. You should correctly understand your own advantages, but at the same time, you can't deny your own shortcomings, not all people are flawless, 2. When facing difficulties, you should face difficulties, and you can't deny yourself because of a failure, 3. Don't be afraid of being embarrassed, there will always be bumps on the road to success. Usually, you can face everything by slowly adjusting your mentality.

I never look down on myself, even if I'm very bad.

In fact, a lot of people are like us, and they look down on themselves, so what's the matter, everyone can look down on themselves, but they just can't be themselves.

You eat your own and your own, or you eat your parents', and it doesn't matter to other people, everybody does that.

You can build up your knowledge by self-study, not necessarily in school textbooks, but in technical stuff and books written by writers that will help you.

Low self-esteem requires accomplishment to satisfy oneself and save oneself from low self-esteem.

You need to be successful, you need money or power, or even the affirmation of others, and you can also go to a counselor, or learn more about the things in the psychology books, which can be very helpful for you.

I have that kind of time, too.

Boiled slowly. Talk to your friends.

People with low self-esteem often underestimate favorable conditions and overestimate difficulties. Treat success as an opportunity and attribute failure to your own incompetence. I always feel inferior, undeserved, and unworthy of love.

Serious people may even feel that they should not exist and do not deserve to be respected.

In addition, people with low self-esteem often underestimate and ignore their strengths, magnifying and overfocusing on their weaknesses.

Analysis: Everyone has different degrees of low self-esteem, and self-confident people also have low self-esteem. Of course, the same goes for happy people.

People with low self-esteem will work harder, get along better, and will not be condescending and domineering. We are all people who deserve to be affirmed and encouraged, especially ourselves.

Method: Psychologically.

1. Don't dwell on your failures and mistakes, and allow yourself to be imperfect.

2 Don't misattribute and reduce self-blame. Don't attribute your occasional failures to your own attitude and ability.

3 Allowing ourselves to be flawed, allowing ourselves to be inadequate, does not determine everything we do, nor does it represent our value.

4. Pay attention to your strengths and successes, and keep encouraging yourself.

action. 1. Lower your high expectations and set achievable goals. And learn to be content.

2 Start small and do what you can. And give yourself a positive evaluation of your success.

3 Do what you're good at.

4 Take those who have strong self-confidence as your example and learn from them.

5 Be bold in socializing to expose your flaws and highlight your talents.

6 Fitness through running (make it a habit to jog, run in the morning or at night.) Obese people can jump rope or walk briskly), train their physical fitness. Improve your temperament by learning etiquette and reading.

7. Engage in positive self-suggestion, such as: I can do well, I am not worse than others. In the process, step by step, change your negative self-evaluation of yourself.

8 Learn to be independent, do your own thing, try to find ways to accomplish things (e.g., plan a trip yourself), and not rely on others until absolutely necessary.

Tone and posture training:

1 Hold your chest up and hold your head high, and stride forward. Speed up the pace of walking.

2. During the conversation, look directly at the other person and speak loudly.

3. Try to use positive words in a positive tone.

Parent-child education: Don't be overprotective, let your child develop a dependency mentality.

Inferiority complex is formed in the family at an early age, so education at an early age is very important. Parents should not expect more from their children than they can realistically do, but should objectively observe and acknowledge their children's natural qualities.

Cultivate children's abilities in a certain area and use children's strengths to motivate children.

It is necessary to objectively see the strengths and weaknesses of the child, and when the child makes a mistake, do not scold and belittle the child, and do not compare the child with others too much.

Reduce the denial of the child, increase encouragement and psychological support, and communication.

Praise and reward the child appropriately, give full recognition to the child's efforts and excellent qualities, and not only care about the outcome of the matter.

Respect your child's opinions and ideas.

When some people look at their friendship celebrations, they don't say a few good things, and they can say a lot of bad things. Sometimes I hate myself and want to be someone else.

Feeling that they have no strengths, only weaknesses, and a very low self-esteem, why do they hate themselves?

That's because they made up their minds to "don't like yourself".

To achieve this, they look only at their own shortcomings and not at their strengths.

Just stare at your shortcomings, hate yourself, and try not to get involved in any relationships.

In this way, you can escape in relationships, even if people reject you, you will think in your heart: because I have such a flaw to be rejected, as long as I don't have this flaw, I will be liked.

The reason why you have an inferiority complex is because you feel that your value is lower than that of those in your circle of friends.

For others, you only see how good others are;

As for yourself, you only see how bad you are.

This is a kind of comparison with others, that is, a subjective "inferiority complex" that arises in interpersonal relationships. If there are no comparable people, then there are no advantages and disadvantages at all, so this is not an objective fact, but a subjective perception.

The sense of value is valuable only by comparison. Of course, if you look at it the other way, the value will change.

Therefore, if you feel that you have low self-esteem, you will not be inferior if you look at it from another angle.

Because these are all subjective things, subjectivity has the advantage of being able to choose a different perspective to look at things.

The only way to break this cycle is not to compete and compare with others.

But it's not like you're in the world, you have to compare, you have to compare with yourself.

Everyone will be different, you may not be good at what others are good at, and in the same way, what you do well others may not do well.

So it's pointless to compare yourself to others, and doing so will only deepen your inferiority complex.

Everyone has an inferiority complex, but a sound inferiority complex does not come from comparing with others, but from comparing with the "ideal self".

The value of human beings lies in constantly surpassing themselves.

The heart of a confident person is this: I can do it, I can do it. People with low self-esteem are affected by the language of the people around them, and the people around them say that they can't do it, saying that they are stupid, then they have low self-esteem in their hearts and think that they are stupid if they can't do it, which also causes them to become more and more inferior and less and less confident in themselves.

For example, a person is often influenced by the language of his family: why are you so stupid, why are you so unproductive, you are just a waste, etc., this person will slowly feel inferior in his heart and think that he is a waste, unless he leaves the environment that often humiliates him since he was a child, otherwise he will become more and more inferior and look down on himself.

Generally, people who have been belittled, humiliated, and beaten by their relatives since childhood have a very bad ability to establish social relationships when they grow up, because they are extremely unconfident, and they are too inferior and look down on themselves!

When others look down on you, self-pity and self-pity are a very common reaction. But not only does this reaction not help solve the problem, it also undermines an individual's self-confidence and self-esteem.

In contrast, working hard to improve yourself is a better choice. Here's how it goes into detail:

1.Self-analysis – Dig out your strengths and weaknesses: Do an objective assessment of yourself** and assess whether you need to improve in certain areas (e.g. skills, knowledge, experience, etc.).

This helps to understand which areas need to be strengthened and to find appropriate ways to improve yourself.

2.Accept Criticism – Draw Strength from Criticism: Anyone can be criticized, but know how to draw strength from criticism.

If you are looked down upon, ask the other person why and accept their suggestions or opinions. By listening to the opinions and suggestions of others, it helps you understand where you have problems and make improvements.

3.Ask for help – such as consulting with experienced seniors or finding the right mentor or training provider to learn and improve your skills.

4.Set goals – Set clear goals to achieve your aspirations: Set clear goals, assess the gap between where you are and what level of competence you need to achieve your goals, and find ways to plan for achieving them.

All in all, when others look down on us, we should strive to improve ourselves. This requires a sustained and unremitting effort on our part, accepting criticism and asking for help. Through these measures, we can help ourselves improve our skills and knowledge, gain more opportunities, and boost our self-confidence and self-esteem.

In fact, this situation still requires you to be strong in your heart, step by step, start from some small things, and re-establish your self-confidence.