What is the experience of finding a person who is the right person to get married and has no feeling

It's a lie, the only thing that's right in this world is what you lack, and what others can make up for you. What's the deal with the door???

You are a poor man, and of course you are not happy to find a good person, because what you want is wealth of money and material abundance.

You are in poor health and want to find someone who is healthy and strong to take care of you. If you are sick yourself, find a patient number that is right for everyone, which is really the right person. But you can't be happy, because it's hard to meet your needs.

The so-called marriage is found to be the right person, there is no feeling, it is not that the married person is looking for the right person and has no feeling, but the person who is married is not in the part you are missing.

Of course, if you find someone who is not the right person, do you think you can really be happy??? You are very rich, you are not happy to find a rich girl, you feel that a poor girl is very happy, you feel that she cares about you very much, you need this care.

However, when you really get closer to poverty, you will find that poverty is the most intractable cancer. Poverty is far from being as easy and simple as you think, and you begin to grow tired of the drag that poverty brings to you. At that time, you began to miss and regret the rich girl you abandoned at the beginning.

So, happiness has nothing to do with being the right person, it's about what you lack at that time. What you lack will be what you seek, and this is your true happiness!!

Let me tell you, I've read a passage before to the effect that a man hears the heavy breathing of his pregnant wife in the middle of the night and feels disgusted. At that time, I really felt that a woman marrying a man who didn't love her was really the saddest thing in her life, but what was even more sad was that he disliked you, and you didn't know it. Therefore, if you don't like it, you have to make it clear to others, don't get married, and torture others with your future life.

I'm just dating the right person, and even though I'm not married, I'm talking. Because he is rich and handsome, he slowly began to like him, and sure enough, the more rich and handsome he looked, the more pleasing he looked. My predecessor was just good to me, and then I didn't have any money, and I owed a lot of money, which was embarrassing.

He has a positive outlook, an innocent love history, no bad habits, loves me, treats me well, his parents are decent and strict with his parents, but I don't love him. Let's make do with it, it's not very happy.

When I first got married, I really didn't feel anything for her. Now I have been married for 6 years, my child is 4 years old, I am very cute, and my wife is virtuous. Actually, I'm very satisfied, and I'm in love for a long time.

My classmate got married last month. She said that she wanted to vomit when she saw that face, but she said on social media that she had met the right person. She really loves her ex, her ex has no money, and her family doesn't agree, it's really sad.

Let's put it this way, who doesn't want to marry the person they love, but not everyone can marry the person they love. I loved him, but my family said that if I wanted to be with him, I should not have my daughter. I can only go on a blind date and find someone who is about the same.

I think people still have to pursue what they really want. I almost got married, and I had a good talk with him, and I was glad that everyone was unwilling to compromise. Now I'm going to pursue my own happiness.

I'm in such a situation, my family is suitable, the conditions are met, but I don't love him and I'm engaged. To be honest, it's really distressing to want to escape from marriage.

To have love, don't be bound by the framework of the right person, because deep affection is not as good as love at first sight, and living together really needs to talk, and it is not a good match that can be solved.

Feelings can be cultivated slowly, the door is right, and there is nothing wrong with it.

Unless you're so rich that you don't care about the right person.

The family conditions of both men and women are similar, which means that everyone is in the same class, and the living habits, consumption concepts, and education levels are basically not too far apart, and it is not so difficult to get along in the future.

Suppose your family is a knowledgeable family, and all members of the family love to read, are knowledgeable, and are knowledgeable.

But the family you are looking for is a businessman, and the family is talking about business and making profits, then the two families lack common ground, and it is difficult for the parents to get along. After you get married, you may have a lot of trouble, and you will also have conflicts because of your different interests and hobbies.

For example, if you are born in a well-off family, your family members usually pay attention to quality and are willing to spend money. But your partner is from a poor background, and the family's purchases are mainly affordable and durable, and they can't wait to divide a penny into two cents.

Then, after you get married, you may have an argument over where to spend your money.

Therefore, when you get married, you must look at the other party's family background, find the right person, and the object of similar family background is easier to be happy.

Therefore, before getting married, you must go to each other's home to see and observe the pattern of the other party's parents in the details of life.

If the other parent's parents talk and laugh at each other, care about each other, are inseparable from each other, and will consult each other's opinions when encountering things, whether in the kitchen, dining room, living room, or outdoor activities, then such a family atmosphere is undoubtedly healthy and loving. The children they raise will naturally treat their partners too badly in the future.

If the other party's parents start attacking each other as soon as they sit down, they start to attack each other, slander each other, and go out together in their own ways, eager to treat each other as air, then such a family will have no happiness at all. The children they raise will not treat their partners better in the future.

Many people who have been married will often say that it is very important to "find a good family", but as everyone knows, this "right family" refers not only to the family background and background, but also to pay attention to the spiritual level, otherwise the emotions of marriage will be shattered by the differences of "the door is not the right family", and it will be really physically and mentally exhausted.

1. Common language.

The most direct manifestation of the spiritual level is whether there is a common language, you are talking to him about the political situation in the world, but he replies to you trivial, like a chicken and a duck talking, you can never find a topic to chat with, slowly you will be alienated, and the spiritual world will feel very lonely.

2. Three views are very important.

A person's three views are directly linked to his spiritual world, so if your spiritual world can't be the right one, then your three views may be difficult to agree.

3. Life goals.

In marriage, the husband and wife will be able to achieve long-term harmony if they have the same life goals, but if the husband and wife are inconsistent in spirit and ideas, then it will directly affect the goals and structure of the marriage.

Therefore, many people don't care about the "right match" of family background and family background when they get married, thinking that as long as they have feelings, they can overcome the habits brought by these original families, but I want to say that compared to these, the spiritual family is more important, because it will directly affect whether your married life is relaxed and spiritually happy, so if you want to have a happy marriage, you must not ignore the spiritual match.

Because the spirit is right at home, it means that two people can talk, there will be a lot of common topics, the values are very close, and they feel that each other is the most suitable person from the bottom of their hearts. Whether it is talking or doing, it can go deep into the other person's heart.

The best marriage is based on love, and the best marriage is the feeling that two people are suitable and very comfortable together. The most important thing for two people to be together is the spiritual fit, they don't need to use many languages, they understand each other.

We all know that it is difficult to find a confidant, this is the case in ancient times, it is rare to have a person who understands himself, so this kind of spiritual matchmaking is similar to this kind of confidant. Therefore, Chong Trembling cherishes that person, the person who can talk to you, no matter what the other party's family background is, if you want you to feel OK yourself, that is the best marriage for you, as for the rest, you can earn it after listening to hard work, but a person who really chats scattered is hard to find.

Every woman wants a happy marriage, and in order to get such a marriage, not only does the husband and wife need to manage the marriage, but also one point is very important, that is, "choose the right person", which is what we often call "choosing the right marriage".

As a marriage manager, it is important to choose the right person when getting married.

You can pay attention to the fact that marriages that are generally not favored by parents will basically have problems.

Maybe many people don't believe it, in fact, what we say.

A long time ago, people interpreted the door-to-door pair as the degree of compatibility between the two families in terms of economy, power, and class, and this is only one side of the story.

The correct interpretation should be divided into two parts: "door" and "household".

1."Mendang" mainly refers to the economic level and economic behavior of the two families.

For example, in terms of economic income and consumption, many people who lack money, or who have been poor when they were children, will have a very high desire for wealth, and even have a distorted concept and cognition.

After growing up and entering marriage, they have a strong desire to control money, and even do not give it to their families, or propose AA marriage, and it is easy for them to have a serious marital crisis because of money problems.

2."Household pairing" refers to the similarity of the original family and marriage concept.

For example, if parents will discuss problems in marriage, then children will also use consultation with their partners to solve problems after marriage; Some parents like to have a cold war when they are in trouble, while their children will have a cold war when they have a conflict with their partner. If parents like to quarrel, children will also think that quarrels can solve the problem, and then the marriage will not be peaceful ...... after old age

If two people with different views of marriage get married, it will be easy to quarrel after marriage because of a new mode of communication, they both want to change each other, and they don't want to take a step back, so it is difficult to match the two different family models.

Regarding the analysis of the "family pair", the above is a static analysis, which mainly considers the influence of the original family and some previous things, and does not discuss his growth and changes in Shishu Kai, as well as the mutual influence of the two people after marriage.

However, to see whether a marriage is matched, we must not only look at the static "match", but also look at the dynamic development, which is comprehensive.

Similar living environment, corresponding outlook on life, values, world view, interests, and hobbies will be relatively close, which is also a great foundation for the stability of the family closure and reform court.

Whether two people can "match each other" ideologically is generally determined by education and financial appearance, but it also depends on whether character and financial resources can show whether the ideology and cognition of each other's family members can be "mutually opposed", otherwise it will become a "mutual hatred" in life.

If the conditions are far apart means that the lifestyle of the child is far away, then there may be a gap in the consumption outlook, vision, and world view. It is quite possible that at some point irreconcilable contradictions will erupt.

Of course, if there is no love, just looking at the family background, is there any use for fart? If you choose to take love as the premise and then look at your family background, it is a kind of choice; If it is based on family background, then everyone is the same.

I believe that everyone wants to enter the marriage hall with the person they love, rather than getting married for the sake of family background.

The most reasonable way should be to find the person you love under the conditions of a small difference in family background, but in the vast sea of people, it has already become too difficult to fall in love, and how easy is it to add a right condition?

But everyone has to make a choice after all, after all, time never stops.

As a parent's generation, there will always be some feudal, preconceived ideas of the Lord, and they must be the right person to get married. Today's young people don't care about these anymore, thinking that as long as they are happy and affectionate, they can enter the palace of marriage. Of course, a marriage that is a good family may be less discriminatory and more equal.

First of all, I think passers-by said it"The door is right"In my understanding, it is not only to look at the gap between the economic conditions of the two parties, but more importantly, to see whether the three views, some cognitions, living habits, etc. of the two families are consistent. After all, marriage is a matter of two families, so of course it is better to be more cautious.

When a person grows into who he is today, his personality, some views on things, his three views, etc., will definitely be influenced by his original family to a greater or lesser extent. The families who are in the right place are relatively close to each other in terms of some problems and living habits, and there will be many communication contradictions in the future getting along and communicating.

I remember the TV series "Naked Marriage Era" I watched before, which tells the story of two families who are not in the same household and do not marry their children naked. This TV series was very popular at the time, the heroine Tong Jiaqian's family conditions were good, she was an only child, and her parents worked well. The male protagonist Liu Yiyang's family is rural, and he can't afford to buy a house when he gets married.

The two have been in love for 8 years, and the final result of this marriage is a matter of course. Unexpectedly, when they got married, they encountered a lot of problems, Liu Yiyang had no car, no house and no deposit, but the two believed that as long as they loved each other, they would be happy, so they chose to marry naked.

After getting married, it was sweet at first. It didn't take long for various problems to ensue and lead to divorce. At the beginning, Tong Jiaqian's parents looked down on Liu Yiyang's family and did not agree to marry their daughter to their family.

After Tong Jiaqian got married, she could only stay in their family's house with Liu Yiyang's family and live in the attic.

First, because of some problems in living habits, there are many conflicts when a family lives together. The fireworks that Tong Jiaqian bought home were far less useful than two handfuls of celery in the eyes of her mother-in-law. Tong Jiaqian scared her grandmother into high blood pressure.

Every time Tong Jiaqian came back from shopping, her mother-in-law would look through what she bought and felt that it was a waste of money.

Gradually, there were more and more contradictions, and he chose to divorce. In the TV series, he later remarried.

This TV series made me see two completely different families, and if their children get married, they will encounter all kinds of contradictions. It also gave me a clear understanding of the reality, marriage needs to be cautious, not just two people love each other.

Although it is said that the marriage of the right family does not necessarily mean that it is happy, I think the probability of happiness may be higher. A marriage with the wrong door and the wrong household may bury a lot of hidden dangers in the future. Marriage is a major life event and should be treated with caution.

Sometimes we may be confused by some TV series, and we have watched a lot of stories about ordinary girls and bosses together, and feel that they are very happy. It's just that these are all at the level of love, and there is no marriage and two families involved. The disparity between the two is too great, and it is certainly unrealistic to rely on the love of both parties alone to maintain the marriage.

In the face of marriage, it is of course very important whether the two parties are compatible. Both families should consider, and at the same time, more should consider whether the partner is suitable for themselves. Consider whether the right match will add a layer of barrier to our future happiness, so that our married life will be more stable and happier under this barrier.