What kind of family relationship is ideal?

We take the expectations of our elders as our own expectations, and the values of our elders as our own values, so when we start to seek independence and self-reliance in our hearts, we feel confused and lost, sometimes we give up what our hearts really desire and follow the expectations of our parents, and even worse, we no longer know what we really want.

Sometimes we have conflicts with our parents, sometimes we don't understand our parents' behavior, and sometimes we feel sad and uncomfortable, and even resist to prove ourselves. What to do? Do we blame our parents?

No, it's not. Even if it is the most ideal family relationship in the world, there will be no contradictions and conflicts, my parents and I have been running in each other's expectations and self-esteem for a long time, and finally I began to understand that there is no absolute right or wrong in the relationship between parents and children, the key is whether parents and I learn to tolerate, communicate and understand each other's affection.

Everyone makes mistakes, people are not perfect, the childhood admiration for parents has faded as we grow up, and we begin to know that parents also make mistakes, including ourselves, which is inevitable, so should we also learn to forgive ourselves and others while facing our parents' wrong decisions with a tolerant attitude? You know, our parents have tolerated us for many years.

Parents have their own positions, we have our ideas, and if we want to agree, we have to communicate with each other. Communication must be sincere first, the premise is that we are not stubborn in our own ideas, if you think you are absolutely right, the purpose of communication is only to hope that your parents will acknowledge your opinions and requirements, then communication is not efficient. When communicating with your parents, don't think that "they don't listen to me at all", "they always talk about learning", "they don't understand at all", but put aside your opinions for the time being, sincerely understand and understand your parents' thoughts, if your parents can feel your sincerity, your parents will also start to listen to your voice.

Every unique family has a unique story, and there is no one specific method of communication that works for all families. However, I think that as long as we give love and feel love with our hearts, no matter what different choices we make, we can all walk in the direction of happiness.

The stuff on the ground floor is so boring.

1. In the family relationship, the ideal mode of getting along is to be relaxed and happy, children can express their thoughts at any time, can speak freely, and can do anything they want;

2. Children can treat their parents like friends, and when they encounter things, they can take them out and discuss them with their parents, not necessarily listening to their parents, but they can refer to their parents' opinions and suggestions;

3. Every family member can be full of happy communication, open their hearts, laugh when they are happy, everyone is equal, love each other, and the elders are not superior;

4. Parents respect their children's privacy, respect their children's dreams, do not look at their children's things, do not laugh at their children's dreams, and do not label their children;

5. One.

1. In family relationships, the ideal mode of getting along is to be relaxed and happy, children can express their wants at any time, can speak freely, and can do anything they want to do;

2. Children can treat their parents like friends, and when they encounter things, they can take it out and discuss it with their parents, not necessarily listening to their parents, but they can refer to their parents' opinions and suggestions;

3. Every family member can be full of happy communication, open their hearts, laugh when they are happy, everyone is equal, love each other, and the elders are not superior;

4. Parents respect their children's privacy, respect their children's dreams, do not look at their children's things, do not laugh at their children's dreams, and do not label their children;

5. One.

To be honest, it's been a lot of growth along the way.

I have always longed for a harmonious family relationship, everyone can speak well, listen well, really value the ideas and practices of family members, pay attention to each other's every festival, pay attention to every critical moment, everyone becomes each other's loyal fans, no matter what you say, everyone is willing to sincerely support, people are encouraging, praise, affirmation, ......

01 A person's persistence.

The captain especially likes to check in the various creative parks, and takes us there every weekend.

When he asked him to go, we didn't think about it at all, and we all followed.

When I arrived at the destination, I found that there were three words to describe it: shabby, old, poor, and there was almost no one.

We were all amazed.

The captain recommended the place with all his heart, but it was like this, he felt quite embarrassed and sorry, and my mother-in-law and I didn't blame it, and we didn't feel unhappy.

This kind of thing happened more than once, and every time he thought about the place he took us to, it didn't meet expectations, and we didn't feel disappointed.

Because we all agree that the place is not important, the key is that it is a family trip.

Yes, it doesn't matter if you go, the point is who you're with matters.

That's what I like about the state of family.

02 How important it is to speak well.

Jin Weichun, a talented man in Taiwan's publishing industry, said: His mother beat him as the only way for his mother to express her love. Perhaps, my mom is like this, and the knife mouth is the only way for her to show her love for our children.

However, since living with my mother-in-law for a long time, I found that my mother-in-law is a model of good talk.

When I talk well, I don't just respond to the other person seriously, but I also have all kinds of bad moments.

For example, when someone says something, my mom likes to respond with a disgusting negative tone, and my mother-in-law responds objectively and positively. My mom has a sour grape mentality, and my mother-in-law hardly ever did. My mom will be disgusted or showy, but my mother-in-law doesn't.

My mother-in-law responded positively to almost all the words, and seeing her this, I was thinking that a person can cultivate speech like this, it is really amazing.

Hardly any unpleasant language is heard from her ears and eyes, and if there is, it is very rare.

Because of this, there are a lot of unnecessary conflicts in our family.

My ideal family relationship is probably as follows:

1. Speak well, including not being disgusting, not irritating, not sarcastic, and not harsh others.

2. Be each other's most supportive fans and encourage everyone to try any ideas and ideas.

3. Care for each other and put your family at ease.

4. The family can have a discussion, and at present, it will continue to be maintained.

5. Men, women and children are involved in the housework at home and have this sense of responsibility.

6. Pay attention to every important moment, for example, the whole family participates in sending the child to school, participating in the child's graduation, etc.

There are many more, and I won't be able to remember them for a while...

My ideal family relationship.

It is a very loving husband and wife, a family of 4, living happily together.

We live a balanced life, instead of putting a lot of energy on career and entertainment, cooking rich and delicious dishes for our children at 7:00 every morning, then going for a run or climbing together, studying at a long table after work, bathing my children at night, and my husband accompanying the children to do their homework, we have a very good relationship with our children.

My husband and I go to the movies every week, we have our own two-person world, and when the children grow up, we also have our own time, we will often go out to travel, or go out to lecture together, we have independent personalities, and being together is the icing on the cake and not a charcoal in the snow.

The parents of both sides are very healthy, have a peaceful old age, and the big family is very warm and peaceful.

My ideal family relationship is that my father loves my mother, and my mother understands my father. The relationship between parents is an example for the family. With the power of example, our extended family will be empowered. Let love flow between us.

As a child, I want to have a father and mother who understand me, as a parent, I want to be a close friend of my child, and as a wife, I want to be loved by my husband and always support him.

Everyone in the family can understand and support each other, and our hearts are closely connected.

What can I do first for such a harmonious family atmosphere? That's the root of the problem, how do I create this harmonious family atmosphere?

Through two years of study, I know myself better, so I first have to live well and become my own CEO. Whatever you want, you must first give it up, plant a seed of love, and let it take root and sprout in our home.

So I have to ask myself, can you do it? All changes need to be taken into action, and you can achieve it step by step with your own goals! Face your family with an inclusive heart.

But at this moment, I still can't seem to accept myself, I can't show my truest self, I am anxious to change my heart, let myself feel a little anxious, but I accept my current self. I have a strong desire to change myself, desire is more important than ability, I already have the consciousness of self-change, but any change requires a process, it is impossible to change all at once, allow yourself to take your time, I am already on the road to growth and change.

When I can really accept myself, all relationships will become natural and cordial. My ideal is to change slowly bit by bit, so believe in yourself, I can change my family, I have the ability to influence my family, and my growth and change will help my family to get out of the confusion and live a happy and abundant life.

Recently, I was watching "Why Does Home Hurt", which mentions a lot of unhealthy family relationships, and in some places, you will find that the problems you have are the reason.

In a family, it is undoubtedly the parents who play the role of the pillars, both financially and spiritually. For example, children born in official and business families are much better than their peers in terms of observing words and emotions since childhood; The children of scholarly families have been influenced by various famous allusions and family words and deeds since childhood, and they will not be rude to others. We can't choose what kind of family we are born in, but what kind of person we can grow into can be achieved through long-term, clear direction and uninterrupted efforts.

Everyone's ideal family relationship is different, some people have superior living conditions since childhood, do not worry about food and clothing, and the material conditions are satisfied, but in terms of spiritual conditions, because they are busy with their livelihood and neglect to take care of their children's families, these children will want to accompany the growth of their children when they grow up to form a family, witnessing every first time; If the parents are loving and close to each other, the children will also treat their husband and wife relationship according to the relationship between their parents when they form a family.

My ideal family relationship looks like this:

1.Husband and wife are partners and friends because they are attracted to each other by two different personalities, and they have a common outlook on life, worldview, and values. It's not because of the so-called matching of material conditions, general matching, even if you don't feel like getting along slowly to cultivate feelings, especially the parents, they think that getting along and cultivating will have feelings, and feelings are all dealt with.

There is nothing wrong with this sentence, but I don't think it's necessary to put it on the other half of my life in the future.

2.Husband and wife are the backbone of a family. It will not change because of having children, the most important thing is the relationship between husband and wife, and then the parent-child relationship.

3.There should be regular family parent-child activities, once a year for the whole family to go on a trip, and once for the couple or on their own.

4.The family is an independent individual, the elder and the young are orderly, the elders are sensible, and they do not make things difficult for the younger generations; The younger generation is sensible and polite, and does their duty.

Ideals are one thing, reality is another. Everyone is a different individual, and the family formed will be a different combination. On paper, it needs to be applied and run-in in actual fireworks life.

No matter what kind of family, as parents and children, they should handle the relationship between each other and strive to do the following!

1 Love your child unconditionally. Unconditional love, in short, is the love for a child that is unconditional. Your love for your child is calm :

You have always loved them no matter what they do. Children tend to think that their parents will love them when they behave well and get good grades. But when they are in trouble, their parents don't love them anymore.

It is important that you tell your child that your opinion about your child's particular behavior has nothing to do with your eternal love for them.

2 Always be there for your child. Children know that you are always there for them, and it makes them feel safe and confident. Your children need you to spend time with them and be active in their lives.

They also need to know that you're ready to help them at any time, providing them with protection and guidance. Knowing that you will always be there for them provides your child with the security they need to gradually move into society. It will make them feel safe if they know that they can count on you when they need support.

3 Tell your children that you love them every day. Use your words and actions to tell them that you love them. Treat them with kindness, respect, and kindness.

The way you treat them, conveys how much they are loved and valued, which in turn will help them believe that they are lovable and valuable.

4 Show love. Showing affection is an important manifestation of your unconditional love. Show your affection for your child in a way that they feel comfortable with, as far as they are allowed. Enjoy those hugs and kisses.