What is it like to have a mind that is not proportional to age?

<> "Isn't Yu Xiaotong a typical example! Since the Dream of Red Mansions became popular, there has been no work that can be done, but every time it is on the hot search, it is a love affair, he used to be in love with Hailu, and recently he is in love with Chen Xiaojun, and it can be seen in the show that he is not mature at all, he is just a child who does not grow up.

I've seen a kid who is only in the sixth grade, but his maturity is distressing. He is a child of a single-parent family, living with his mother, and he understands a lot of things that his peers don't understand when he is only in the sixth grade, and he can do what many his peers won't do.

This feeling is like a kind of crossing, feeling, there is no matching, because after we see your age, we will judge whether your mental age is the same as your real age, if it is not proportional, there will be a staggered feeling.

It's tiring! This kind of mind is not proportional to age, most of them are old, but their ideas are simple and naïve. When it is time to get married, you can't stand alone, and you can't do anything except let your parents worry about it every day.

I feel that my age is not proportional to my mind, and if a child is too sensible, it will make people feel distressed, and at the age of twenty or thirty, if you don't work at home, and don't know how to be considerate of your family, it makes people feel very naïve, like a child who doesn't grow up, has no responsibility, has no ability, and can only rely on the people at home.

I don't do anything every day, I don't eat at home, I don't go out to find a job, I think I'm still a child, I don't go out to earn money, I feel that I haven't grown up, my parents are getting older, I don't share the burden for my parents, I just know that I have fun.

Very childish, very childish. What would it be like to be 30 years old and still only know what it would be like to eat, drink and be merry? It is said that thirty and stand, and I have a thirty-year-old brother next to me, who has no object, works averagely, likes to play games, and is not mature at all.

Being too sensible at a young age will make people feel particularly distressed, and at the age of twenty or thirty, they still don't do anything at home, they only know how to eat, drink and have fun, and they don't care about their families, so they feel very naïve, and like children, they don't have the responsibility, they don't have the ability, and they can only rely on the people at home.

1. Pampered since childhood.

From the moment the child is born, the young parents spoil their "heart" like a little emperor: as long as the child is happy, it is what to give and what to say. Coupled with the promotion of grandparents and grandparents, in the young minds of children, there will be a psychology of self-esteem.

Second, the relevant education started late.

Some parents think that their children are too young to be sensible at all, and they will talk about it when they are older. This is wrong. The mind is cultivated and honed, not by time and so on. When the child remembers, parents should start the process of cultivating and honing the child's mind.

3. Parents do everything.

When children are young, parents need to take care of them in all aspects, and this is beyond reproach. But when the children are older, some parents will go to the big bag. Children have developed a bad habit of stretching out their hands for food and opening their mouths, and they have to rely on their parents for little things.

Fourth, parental influence.

Some parents are mentally immature, such as poor self-control, lack of self-confidence, lack of seriousness, lack of initiative, good comparison, strong vanity and so on. Their words and deeds at home, children will see them in their eyes and imitate them in action.

5. Lack of setback training.

When children have conflicts with their classmates, most parents do not educate and enlighten their children, but emotionally impulsively find each other to theorize and vent their anger for their children. It is easy for a parent's approach to leave a shadow in the formation of a child's character.

Immature mind, immature thinking, generally consider two reasons, the first is that it may be related to EQ and IQ, in this case, if it is IQ, then there is really no good way, if EQ is low, it may be related to family education, it is recommended to go to the hospital psychology department.

This is the most vulnerable frustration for everyone, maybe when you were in school, the teacher's inappropriate words made your self-esteem hurt a lot, maybe it was the improper handling of your parents, which left a deep impression on your young mind, in fact, in the society to let others look down on your self-esteem has been greatly hurt, every time this kind of injury, will make your mind mature at least will promote your own mental maturity, but also slowly you will learn to maintain your own dignity.

Frustration in handling affairs.

Whether it is when we are children or when we grow up, we will always have to find someone to do things, and it is inevitable to deal with people, and we will encounter all kinds of setbacks in the process, such as knowing that others have promised themselves, but at the last moment others still do not do things for themselves, such an experience will allow a person to slowly see through this society, see through human nature, which is the catalyst for mental maturity.

Emotional setbacks.

People gradually begin to grow up, to a certain age, begin to hazy emotional appeals, in this regard, most people will suffer a lot of setbacks, if in these setbacks, let yourself feel a pressure, feel their own shortcomings, this kind of thing will make a person mature quickly, this kind of maturity also makes a person grow very fast, there are some people because of emotional problems, let themselves not think about it, but as time goes by, will always want to open, Once you think about it, your mind matures a lot.

It may be that there is too little experience, and then it leads to the maturity that I know and see at this age, which does not correspond, and then it seems that at this age, and, childhood, young people, compared to more naïve, this is also, it is very common now, because many people are protected very well, and then, there are people, who are not young, and then right, what so much, right, is. It's too simple.

That means you're in less contact with people. There are fewer people who go out to do errands. So I can't keep up with the rhythm and can't keep up with the beat. Communicate more with others and go more. Go out on social occasions and walk around more.

Less reading, little social experience. Read more books.

The reason why the mind can't keep up with age is not clear.

It shows that this person is honest and duty-oriented, has no crooked brains, and is not defensive and wary of people.

Many people's so-called maturity is nothing more than being worn away by customs and becoming sophisticated and practical. It is not maturity, but the premature aging of the spirit and the demise of individuality.

True maturity should be the formation of a unique personality, the discovery of the true self, the spiritual result and the harvest.

True maturity is not outward oldness, but inner richness;

not the grave of youth, but the restoration of the true self;

It is not the breadth of experience, but the depth of thought;

It is not self-protection, but generosity;

Not deliberately carved, but natural simplicity.

The real maturity is the hot and cold world, the warmth and coldness of people, the silence, the complexity, the change, the calm, no matter when you can have a rich and broad world in your heart.

Maturity is not that you can do great things, but that you can concentrate on humble things;

Maturity is not that you can change the world, but that you can change yourself;

Maturity is not about how smart you are, but about knowing how stupid you are.

True maturity is half the pursuit of beauty, and half is the acceptance of incompleteness.

Be tolerant of the people around us, because we also have flaws.

I gradually understand that maturity is a wordless smile, a simple feeling, and a pure mind.

The so-called maturity is nothing more than learning to hide, shielding sadness, knowing when to be in pain and not saying anything, and when to laugh without saying a word.

Whether a person is mature or not is not a statement of many profound truths, or a very high level of thought. It's about being comfortable and not humble or arrogant.

It's not that you can enlighten others with a lot of big truths, but that you can convince yourself to understand the people and things around you.

Whether a person is mature or not is not determined by the age and the degree of social experience, but the expression of inner temperament after countless life experiences.

Maturity is a kind of realm and a kind of mind.

The ripe fruit always humbly bows its head, and only the barnyard grass will rise high to the sky.

Yu Qiuyu said: Don't wait for understanding because you are afraid of being misunderstood by others, now life is independent and Vientiane coexists. The willow tree in the east house is shorter, so you don't have to explain to passers-by that it is possible to grow taller, and the locust tree in the west house is a little taller, and you don't have to explain to your neighbors that you don't have any intention of monopolizing feng shui.

Ripe and thick as the sea, enough to accommodate the wind and waves; Warm as jade, enough to fill and perfect every defect.

True maturity is not to endure pain, but to love life even after knowing the truth of life;

May your maturity be learned to accept the unsatisfactory.

Personally, I think maturity has something to do with age, but it's not absolute. Generally speaking, the older the person, the more likely it is to mature, but it does not mean that the older the person, the more mature he is.

This principle is the same as studying, the higher the education level, the higher the income of the person, the greater the likelihood, but it does not mean that the higher the education level must be higher, and the low education level may also be very high. None of this is absolute.

Maturity is still related to a person's mind, and it is also related to whether he loves you or not. I once talked about a boyfriend who was seven years older than me, I thought he would be very mature, but then I found out that he was very naïve, not responsible, only sweet talk, sugar-coated cannonballs, maybe not enough to like it, fortunately broke up later, the wrong person or the sooner the better.

I have a distant relative, he is married, and he has two children, but he spends his days fooling around, his own business is not running well, and he lives on the money he collects every day, but he doesn't have a penny in savings.

When he encounters a big event, he can't solve anything, and he doesn't care about his family, eats and drinks a lot every day, often goes out to dinner with his so-called brothers, and seems to be very rich, but the paper can't hold the fire, and in the end he pays the price for his childish behavior.

After this incident, he knew that life was not easy, and he finally really grew up. Therefore, whether a person matures or not has a certain relationship with age, but it has little to do with the person's experience. The path you have traveled has ultimately formed you as a person.

Maturity and age are not necessarily proportional, there must be some connection, but there is no necessary connection, because the dimension of maturity may be different for each person. Many things, at different stages of life, are interpreted differently. It's not just about age, it's about the experience that age gives.

A few days ago, a friend shared with me some trivial matters of his love life, in my opinion, many problems seem to be caused by the immaturity of the other party's mind, but my friend diss my judgment that the other party is 28 years old, and the mind should be mature. I can't help but wonder if mental maturity is related to age.

Personally, I don't think it has anything to do with age, right? Because there will always be some friends or things around you who are younger than you but more mature and sensible than you, and of course, at the same time, you will also experience and meet some naïve ghosts who are very old but not clear.

So what does mental maturity have to do with it? I think it may have something to do with a person's growth environment, or maybe it has something to do with a person's natural character, or maybe there are other reasons, and I don't want to dig deeper into this answer for this, after all, there are all kinds of birds when the forest is big.

In short, I will admire the former whose mind is more mature than mine, and I will stay away from the latter whose mind is more childish than mine.

There is a relationship between psychological maturity and age.

In general, the older you are, the more psychologically mature you are.

However, there is no necessary connection between the two! Many older people are not necessarily more mature than younger people.

There are two real key points:

1. Congenital conditions ......Some people are born more mature and sophisticated than their peers2, and they have ...... experiencesThe same age does not necessarily have the same experience......The more experience you have, the more mature your mind will be.

It doesn't matter, I think it has something to do with what I've experienced.

Related, but not that big, related to experience.

There is a certain relationship, however, not absolutely.

Summary. Question 2: At a glance, you can know that you are not old, what does it mean to have a comparison mentality, and you are not mature?

In fact, my opinion on this behavior of the boss is: I feel very good, this is also a way for the company to expand its business, and it can also make the spare time life of employees more meaningful. And it allows each employee to give full play to their own enthusiasm.

Question 1: What does it mean to know that you are not old at a glance, that your mind is immature, and you have a comparison mentality? A:

This person has seen that you are not young and immature and have a comparison heart, which means that he tells you that there is no social experience in some places, and there is a comparison mentality.

Can you add, I don't quite understand it.

Question 2: At a glance, I know that I am not old and immature, and what is the meaning of Huai Song's psychology Answer: Actually, my opinion on this behavior of the boss is:

I feel very good, this is also a way for the company to expand its business, and it can also make the spare time life of employees more meaningful, doing side hustles to expand the diversified income structure, it is better than playing the state game after work, brushing the short**, right? And it allows each employee to give full play to their own enthusiasm.