How did a homely life with family affection become a luxury

This can only show that you are very independent, independent at the same time, you can not care so much about family affection, this is a product of normal circumstances, but it really reaches a certain stage, thinking back to the beauty of family affection, of course, although I advise you like this, you understand this truth, but I am also in your situation, since I was a child, because of the family, I don't value family so much now, and I have so many extravagant hopes, but I know that once it comes to a certain time, I will still care about family affection.

Because you don't feel family affection, you can not believe in family affection, but don't despise him, one day you experience it with your heart, you won't hate it.

This is a normal phenomenon, everyone is not like family affection when they first fall in love, just love, but after a long time, it becomes family affection and is not as casual as love, that is, treat him as his own relatives.

When I was in elementary school, I never saw my parents come to pick me up, and they insisted that I be independent, saying, 'You are growing up, you are sensible, you are going to be independent'. So my elementary school is watching other children come over, they, there are fathers to help carry schoolbags, there are mothers to comfort the children are tired, it rains, parents will come to pick up the children, and I can only watch quietly, and then open the umbrella by myself, slowly walk to the direction of home, at that time I was thinking, do parents not love me anymore?

I was always ridiculed and interrogated by my classmates, why am I always alone?

In this way, I went through this elementary school life that I didn't want to remember, and I grew up and became a little rebellious. I don't like anything my parents ask me about, I do what they say, I always feel like I'm retaliating against them for ignoring me, and I deliberately don't study hard, maybe this will calm my mood.

But on that day, I knew I was wrong!

The more I wanted to forget my childhood, the more I felt that I couldn't forget it, so I thought of a plan.

I deliberately fell down the stairs that day, in fact, there was no major injury, I pretended to be unconscious, and my dad immediately carried me to the hospital, and my dad hugged me all the way, tightly. He kept calling me and talking a lot. At that moment, a voice rang in my heart, 'Dad, I'm lying to you, don't be so nice to me'.

It turned out that when I was in elementary school, I was not alone, there was one person who was always behind me and protected me, that was my father, no matter whether it was windy or rainy, he followed me, followed me, and knew that I was home safely.

After a long time, I still didn't tell him that I had lied to him.

Although my father was not pregnant with me for ten months, and he did not give birth to me as painfully as my mother, he loved me, loved me, protected me, and did not let me be hurt in any way. Take care of me all the time.

I don't think so.

Love is love, and turning into family affection is to confuse desire with love at the beginning. Or many people confuse love with affection.

Everyone has a lot of roles. Most of the people who live without a soul don't know who they really are. In fact, what most people do all their lives is to understand themselves. Love is the more precious one, and love is not so great. Love, love is love.

Love, affection, friendship, each has its own love words. Only the love between men and women is expressed by the word "love", and the rest of family and friendship also contain love, and the substance is far more than love.

People will only be trapped by love and crazy about love. The so-called greed and hatred are crazy, and what makes people crazy is desire. It's the confusion that we need to solve.

The essence of love is simple, and it is human ignorance and desire that complicate it.

It's like blaming the original family everywhere, the divorce of parents, and the unhappiness of the family, which leads to their own unbelief in love and incompetence in love, so they are unhappy and unhappy.

The role of parents is to be parents. It's a problem that they can't teach their children, and it doesn't matter if the roles opposite to them are husbands and wives.

The basis of independence and respect is understanding and consideration.

Parents are also independent people, they have their own lives, as long as they are happy, it is also their choice to leave 100 times. What should be done is to respect their wishes.

Secondly, I like to complain about my original family, probably the so-called giant baby, who has grown so big, and habitually makes excuses and comforts for my life.

This kind of thinking limitations lead people to think that you and me are love, selfless dedication is love, and self-sacrifice is love, and these loves are the filling of missing desires. So I think the love of men and women should also be like this.

The essence of men and women is noble low-level taste, and love is to return to each other's original heart to make up for the lack of desire, and carry out low-level fun to the end.

So it's not that people who are in love have no IQ, like fools. Love is a simple, pure, silly and happy thing, why do you want IQ? Playing tricks?

Touching the conscience and saying, are two people unhappy when they fall in love and be fools? If it's not for other factors other than feelings, is it a stupid and happy fool who always wants to do this?

However, this is not possible, because the human character cannot only be this one, only this one.

Too many people bring life roles, work roles, and even family roles (such as mom bao) into love, so the pain of falling out of love stems from the loss of self, and then the habitual excuse and comfort is "love each other too much and forget yourself". At the root, there is no "self" that has ever loved at all.

Every character is not born, they are all cultivated, and love is the same. Two people who haven't had a love role. After combining marriage, they will bring in family roles, and only then will love turn into family affection, and the chicken ribs that eat tastelessly will appear.

Yes, love will slowly fade flat, but it will not disappear.

Before getting married, the two of them were more together, like glue, and inseparable, because they were generally in love, and they were more attracted to each other, and they couldn't wait to stick together every moment of the day.

Once married, faced with more of a home life of firewood, rice, oil and salt, since living at home, you have to make money, you have to support your family, the responsibility and responsibility between each other will be greater, because every day is increasingly facing more trivial matters and work to make money, there is not so much energy between each other as before marriage.

Especially after having a child, the growth and education of the child are related to the child's life, in order for the child to grow up healthily and get a good education, the husband and wife will also invest more time and energy in the child, then the husband and wife will slowly be grinded because of the child's affairs and do not belong to each other more time and energy, more of it will become the relationship between the left and right hands, and it will slowly become family affection due to the relationship between the child and the family.

In marriage, good marital love breeds family affection, and the relationship between two people is stronger. In a bad marriage, when you lose love, you don't have any family affection, but you lose everything together. That's why they are indifferent and alienated, hurt each other unscrupulously, and don't divorce, it doesn't mean that the other party cares about family affection.

Only by not harming and not being indifferent is the manifestation of affection.

Husband and wife first walked together because of love, and after a long time, love must be slowly diluted by tea, rice, oil and salt, probably because they are used to the existence of each other, because this existence completely forgets love. Because of this existence, I haven't seen each other for a long time, and it's really not family affection, but it's better than affection.

I don't think so.

I actually don't approve of getting married or becoming relatives after a long time of love and no longer having love should always be the foundation of marriage, and it should be a couple for the rest of your life. Saying that love must only be family affection in the end is just an excuse for being too lazy to manage and maintain the relationship, or not loving enough.

How many people just make do with their lives because they care about other people's eyes, or because they are bound by various rules and regulations, and get married for the sake of getting married. If you are unhappy, you have to pull someone into the water, saying that you have been married for a long time. Anyway, in my emotional outlook, being together is by no means a simple and rude way to live together.

A good relationship should not only be a lifelong lover, but also a good friend who can always chat and play together, and a family member who tolerates and compromises with each other and takes care of each other. Of course, there is no such thing as a perfect person and a perfect relationship, bumps and bumps are trivial, as long as both sides have the same three views and directions, they are constantly updating and replenishing themselves, and at the same time, they are constantly sharing insights and good communication.

Grow up together, explore the beauty of life together, clearly feel and confirm your feelings for each other, and enjoy the precious simplicity, sincerity and honesty in your relationship. Every day together can be very vivid and vivid, and ordinary days can also be sparkling.

If you want to say that I am too idealistic, and that the feelings must be wiped out by firewood, rice, oil and salt in the end, it is also your own problem, not loving enough or not agreeing with the three views. I'm not married, though. At least my parents are like this, my brother and sister-in-law are like this, and my good girlfriends and good friends are like this, even if they have been together for many, many years, they still have a heart-warming feeling, and they are all managing with their hearts and loving each other.

Everyone's personality, knowledge, and emotional outlook are very different, and there is no fixed set of rules. Any form of affection is an individual experience, and it is all reasonable, so Never Judge can never find his own answer from other people's stories, and don't stop believing in love because of the negative energy of the outside world or an imperfect ending.

The definition of happiness really should be more diverse. Breaking up, getting divorced, being single is not a failure. As long as you grow and become a more vivid and thorough person. Don't fantasize about a suitable person falling from the sky, you can bring happiness to others when you are happy and happy.

Yes, love will eventually become family affection. It has become more cherished and loved by both parties, from the original enthusiasm to dullness, and of course, the accumulated feelings are also deeper.

Yes, after marriage, love will gradually become dull from the initial vigorous to the later, especially after having children, it will gradually transform into family affection.

After marriage, love will slowly transform into family affection after precipitation, and such two people live the happiest life, and they both care about each other.

I think so, before marriage, love is all two people, all day long you and me, after marriage, facing the whole family and firewood, rice, oil and salt, and the joys, sorrows and sorrows in life, feelings slowly precipitated, love slowly turned into family affection, although this feeling is not as vigorous as love, but it is warmer and stronger.

Yes, because after getting married, what you are facing is no longer a mountain alliance and a sea vow, and a sweet love relationship. It is a boring and tasteless tea, rice, oil, salt, ginger vinegar tea, which can be said to be boring and tasteless. Husbands and wives will also have some friction after living for a long time, small contradictions, long-term love and taking care of the elderly, and usually busy work, which will make each other not feel like they are in love.

It's that the strong feelings turn into family affection. This is normal.

Family affection is the weakest, but also the longest, irreplaceable, but sometimes it can be left out of the first place, and it can be remedied. Can always return. Friendship is the strongest, but also the deepest, may be diluted, but can not be forgotten, sometimes it will deteriorate, or even reversed, but it can be basically relied on.

Love is the strongest, and it is also the easiest to change, time will dilute but if true love will not disappear. The problem is that it can be replaced, and not everyone can be relied on at all times. Depending on the situation, the importance of the three is different.

In the overall consideration of life, the order that you can always have is the order of the questions, and the order that you feel is the most obvious is the reverse order. What you can't cut off is family affection, what you can't forget is friendship, and what you can't remember is love.

Constant "root" of family affection.

Now Xiaoyu looked at the footprints of different sizes, and her eyes were full of homesick tears.

The wind can blow away memories;

Rain can wash away memories, but only family affection.

The tree which wants to take root forever.

It's good that you don't have a good idea.