Why be the master of your own emotions

You have to learn to control your emotions.

I'll give you both methods.

Method 1: Change your living environment as much as possible.

For people, the environment cannot directly introduce people into a positive emotional state, but its role for people is more important to help us create a good state of mind, which is a necessary place for positive emotions to occur.

In general, a larger space is always advantageous for a person, because there is a direct connection between the physical space and the psychological space. Usually people don't like places that are too crowded, and the crowding of the outside space can lead to annoyance and depression. Psychologists are unable to explain the subtlety of this mental and physical space, and more attribute it to an instinctive behavior similar to the division of territory by animals and non-aggression against each other.

It can be seen that people's love for grasslands or all kinds of uninhabited places is very reasonable.

For students, it is not possible to go to such places often without time and without them, so we can achieve a similar effect by changing the familiarity of the environment. In general, a fresh environment is always attractive to people. Therefore, in the case of a bad mood, you can try to create a good mood by setting up the environment.

Some people change the layout of the room, some people put **, and some people raise flowers and grass, these are effective measures to change the environment, which can help to regulate emotions.

Method 2: Expression training. (James Lange's Theory of Emotions, Japanese Method of Emotional Training).

The above is that people will passively accept the influence of the environment, in fact, people can control their emotions more actively. One year the news program of the TV station showed this news:

The Japanese are good at business, and this is recognized all over the world. However, due to the strong oriental color of the Japanese, they do not like to show their feelings when doing business, especially they do not like to laugh. Therefore, when Japanese people talk about business, they give people the impression of being depressed and rigid.

Since most of the main buddies of the Japanese are Westerners, and Westerners are extroverts, there is often a conflict between the two cultures. In order to be able to better express their emotions in the business field, the Japanese have come up with many ways, and one of them is this news. In order to make their employees smile, Japanese bosses train them to laugh for half an hour before leaving work.

The specific method is to give each person a chopstick, bite it horizontally in the mouth, fix the facial expression, and then take out the chopsticks. At this time, the person's face basically maintains a state of smiling, and then makes a sound, as if he is laughing.

Emotion management – being the master of your own emotions.

<> "The Mustang Effect." What is the Mustang Effect.

There is a vampire bat in the African savannah that often stings on the legs of wild horses to suck blood. They survive by sucking the blood of animals, no matter how angry and wild the wild horses are, they can't do anything about this "little guy", they can calmly suck their fills and then leave, and many wild horses are tortured to death. Zoologists have found that vampire bats suck very little blood, far enough to kill wild horses, whose causes of death are rage and madness.

This is known as the "Mustang Effect".

The wild horse effect refers to the phenomenon of hurting oneself because of the trivial things of sesame, so that we hurt ourselves because of the fault of others In daily life, we face many evaluations of praise and imitation, some reprimand, and often are attacked by the Internet "keyboard man", for these flowers and mud, you are covered with mud and have nowhere to complain about Qi Ru Bitterness, or use mud to plant flowers is only your choice.

How to deal with the Mustang effect.

1.I confirm oneself and judge who is responsible for the matter.

Whether it's work or life, you can better position yourself by recognizing yourself. Clearly see the essence of the problem, do not pass the buck, do not take responsibility, judge the person responsible for the matter, and make yourself clear who is responsible.

2.Understand the role you are in, and forgiving others is also forgiving yourself.

Small things often lead to big problems, understand your role in the problem, a clear understanding of your position is very important for yourself to look at others, and at the same time, we don't need to blame others for small mistakes, or even make a big fuss, but to know that mistakes can be changed, good mind to tolerate, after all, forgiving others is also forgiving yourself.

3.Learn to empathize and stop yourself from walking into a dead end.

There are always positive and negative sides to things, when you think about problems or deal with things from your own point of view, please be sure to also think from the perspective of others, why did he do what I did If I were him, will it be the same, only from a two-sided perspective, can you make yourself more clearly understand the essence of things, and avoid yourself from going all the way to the dark and getting into a dead end.