What should my husband do if he always looks at his mother in law, and his husband is always on his

Updated on psychology 2024-03-12
11 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    The husband is towards the solution of the mother-in-law:

    1.Have a good mentality, you must know that it is not easy for your mother-in-law to raise your husband, and his mother must be the most important in your husband's heart.

    2.You can't speak ill of your mother-in-law, a smart woman will never tell her husband that her mother-in-law is not, it will make your husband think that you are an unreasonable person.

    3.If you are dissatisfied, learn to speak out intelligently, usually communicate more with the elderly, and don't worry about some places according to his ideas, so don't take it too seriously.

    4.Don't order your husband in front of your mother-in-law. It's easy to understand. From another point of view, if your parents come to live at home, and your husband keeps ordering you to do this and that, how do your parents feel? They will find their daughters difficult to get along with at home and tired.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Be more understanding and tolerant, and communicate well with your husband and mother-in-law.

    First of all, there is a reason why my husband is towards my mother-in-law, it is not easy for my mother to work hard for most of her life, and it is best to let her order everything when she is old. But we are post-80s.

    's daughters-in-law are quite individual, and they don't like to be wronged very much.

    1. If it is the mother-in-law's fault, the daughter-in-law needs to be patient, not to pull her face in front of the elderly, let alone contradict, if she is really unhappy, go out and hide, because no matter what happens to the mother-in-law, it is the mother-in-law's fault, and our daughter-in-law should try not to make mistakes.

    2. Wait for your husband to come back and tell him what happened. If the daughter-in-law also has something wrong in this matter, then there is no need to tell the husband, he will not be able to handle it (so the first article says that the daughter-in-law must have a clear conscience and not make mistakes).

    3. The husband is generally a sensible person, and he will also tell whether his daughter-in-law is telling the truth or a lie, and he will also judge who is right and who is wrong, so don't add fuel to the nonsense.

    4. The husband will often unilaterally apologize to the daughter-in-law for his mother and comfort the daughter-in-law, but he will hope that the daughter-in-law can bear it, because he doesn't want to discuss this matter with his mother, so the daughter-in-law will follow her husband to tell her mother how difficult it is, so that he can feel comfortable.

    5. But if it only stops until the fourth article, what should I do, then my husband will never be able to change. The daughter-in-law must not give up this opportunity, the daughter-in-law must let her husband understand with affection and reason, how difficult it is to marry alone, only the husband is her own dependence, if the husband is not good to herself, then no one in this family is good to herself.

    6. As a daughter-in-law, you really can't make a face with your in-laws, hit things, and lose your temper, that is to block your husband. If you have grievances, you can talk to your husband secretly, don't be mean when you say it, don't scold people. The husband pities his mother for his mother, who has worked hard for most of his life; If the daughter-in-law wants her husband to pity herself, she must have something to make him worthy of pity.

    Whoever he pities more, he will be more towards whom, and the daughter-in-law should let her husband understand that it is not easy for her.

    7. In this way, slowly, the husband will gradually change his son's identity to his husband's identity, and he will also consider the problem for her from the position of his daughter-in-law. If the husband does not go through the above transformation, then once the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law occur.

    contradictory, he is likely to stay more as a son for a long time, so as to think more for his mother. If this goes on for a long time, the daughter-in-law's inner imbalance will have problems, so she must reform her husband, don't be afraid of trouble, and benefit from the transformation as soon as possible

    8. Finally, again, the elderly may be a little stingy and stubborn, but the daughter-in-law really shouldn't do anything wrong, if it's really the daughter-in-law who is wrong, reflect on it yourself, don't make trouble anymore, family harmony is the most important.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    1) Let men take responsibility for communication and play a bridging role. There is an old Chinese saying: to untie the bell, you need to tie the bell. The daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law are involved because they both love a man in common. So the focus of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still this man.

    The man is the son, and he can talk about everything with the mother; is a husband again, and his daughter-in-law is even more intimate, and it is most suitable for him to communicate in the middle.

    The son said in front of his mother that the daughter-in-law would do ten things. If you are a husband, you should praise your daughter-in-law more often before your mother.

    The mother-in-law who is generally knowledgeable, sees that her son loves her daughter-in-law deeply, and she will not look for a daughter-in-law anymore.

    2) Keep the boundaries of your small family and grasp the boundaries of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not related by blood, so it is impossible for a mother to get along well like a mother and daughter, and you must grasp the balance and boundaries.

    The husband and wife should be in charge, and the elders can't be involved, otherwise it will only become more and more chaotic.

    What should be done by the husband should be taken responsibility by the husband, and the mother-in-law cannot be pushed to do all the things of the small family.

    Self-reliance, hard work. Resolutely do not do it"Gnawing on the old people"。

    Otherwise, the mother-in-law produces"I paid, so I'm entitled to manage you"The idea is not surprising.

    3) Express your feelings appropriately and stand your ground. Between people, the most important thing is respect. You don't respect me, why should I put up with you.

    Chinese-style women are accustomed to blindly tolerating and wronging themselves.

    In fact, in the face of such a domineering mother-in-law, forbearance will only indulge her temper. If you ignore her, whatever temper she has, it only takes one or two times for her to be bored.

    If a woman wants to be angry in marriage, whether she is a wife or a daughter-in-law, it must be based on equality and respect. Learn to express your feelings appropriately and stand your ground as long as you think it is right.

    Finally, I wish all the sisters can handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the new year and have a happy marriage!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Silly daughter-in-law, you don't live with your mother-in-law, what's there to quarrel about? This is how things are in this world, and because they care, they are accountable. The fundamental reason why you always have conflicts with your husband because of your mother-in-law is because you care about everything in your mother-in-law's family.

    If you don't care, there will be no quarrels, and there won't be too many contradictions.

    When you quarrel with your mother-in-law, your husband favors her mother-in-law, and you are very angry, which can also be felt by female compatriots as other people's daughters-in-law. Every time at this time, I feel very aggrieved, I want to drag my husband over, scold him, and beat him. In fact, no matter how much you scold or hammer, you can't change the reality that your husband is fucking.

    At this time, either you kick and bite your husband sideways, or you will admit it, and no longer pay attention to the big and small affairs of your in-laws.

    A friend of mine, because of her mother-in-law, has a lot of debts at home, and her husband is also like a mirror about this, but her husband just doesn't allow his friends to say a word about his mother, and says that the two of them will fight once. The friend never mentioned it again, but from then on, the friend no longer cared about the affairs of the mother-in-law's family, and no longer cared. Her mother-in-law is not in good health, and her friends used to manage the doctor and take medicine, and then her husband favored her mother-in-law again and again, and the friend suddenly understood a truth, that is, the daughter-in-law in the mother-in-law's family is an outsider!

    You are an outsider and follow a big family, what is true!

    To get along with your in-laws, it is unnecessary to pay sincerely, and it is not smart enough to calculate. Go to your mother-in-law's house with your husband, work when you should work, eat when you should eat, close your mouth when you shouldn't open your mouth, and close your eyes when you don't want to look. I have all the children, and I still have affection and love for my husband in my heart, so I really can't affect the temperature of your marriage because of my mother.

    For the in-laws, the daughter-in-law is just an outsider. The most important thing you should do is how to hold your husband's person and heart, as for those seven aunts, eight aunts, mothers-in-law, sisters-in-law and the like, you just need to be able to get by on face.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It is normal for parents-in-law and mother-in-law to be towards their husbands, but it is not normal for you to do everything at home, and the only thing you should do at this time is to refuse.

    Because of long-term compromise, it will only make them think that you are a soft persimmon that is very easy to pinch, and in the end you will be asked to do everything. At home, the three of them have cultivated an incomparable relationship from the time your husband was young to the time you are now married. love and tacit understanding, so the parents-in-law will definitely look towards their husbands, especially the father-in-laws and mothers-in-law who can't figure it out, and even squeeze the lucky surplus value of the daughter-in-law.

    But at this time, you have to know how to refuse these things, and understand that starting a family is not something that can be done by you alone. Father-in-law and mother-in-law can look at your husband, but your husband must understand the essence of the matter, and if he can't think about you, it's worth pondering.

    When he is faced with such a situation, he should share it for you, if not, you have to tell him what you really think in your heart, do not ask him to be completely towards you, after all, the other party is also his father and mother, but also understand that things must be fair and just, as a man, there is also the need to share the housework, and you can't let your wife do everything, if he can't do this, then it means that you really can't see it, and the marriage is not human, you may have to think about the future. After all, life is short for decades, and it is still a very bad thing to always move forward on the road of wronging yourself, so it is not a long-term future.

    So the essence of this matter lies in your husband, what you should do is to let your husband know about the situation, and let him take the initiative to share the housework, if not, then you have to talk to him about whether he can really pay for the family in this relationship, otherwise you have to go on the road of divorce.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Mother-in-law is everywhere towards her husband, this is as it should be, because it is the meat that falls from her body, and all the things in the house are for you to do, this matter is too much, you can sit down and talk with your mother-in-law and husband.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You should discuss some things with your husband and let him take the initiative to do something, which may improve your relationship.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Have a good talk with your husband tomorrow, after all, the two of you are going to live a lifetime, and you have to let your husband make some changes appropriately, if you don't change, I don't think it's necessary to live.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    I think you should divorce the other person, because a relationship like this is not very happy at all.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should be resolved by the husband.

    1.The relationship between the wife and the mother-in-law is a social relationship, the husband and the mother-in-law are blood relations, the treasures who enter the marriage must understand the meaning of this, how is it in the mother-in-law's house, it all depends on how much the man who marries you protects you, if you have a conflict with his mother, he repeatedly does not bite the word, or protects his mother in disguise, you have to carefully consider what kind of way to deal with your relationship with your mother-in-law, the influence of the mother-in-law in many families is greater than what you can see, see how you operate, you can bend and stretch.

    2.In fact, while fairness is important, affection is even more important. If the son does not understand this, it often makes the relationship between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law more strained.

    In fact, how is a homeschooling for a family? It is largely reflected in the son's body. In the relationship between the son-in-law and the daughter-in-law, he must not only treat people fairly, but also be affectionate and righteous, and the key lies in his own intelligence and literacy, especially his special role to coordinate.

    3.Of course, it is natural to respect the elders, but the juniors also have the right to refuse. We must not rely on the old to sell the old, relying on our old age and experience, interfering too much in the private lives of the juniors, and forcing them to do things according to their own wishes.

    Summary: Don't let your woman not divorce just for the sake of the child because of the poor handling of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, that is an unhealthy family, and it will not give the child real happiness and happiness.

    It will only make the wife have the idea of "no matter how stupid her mother-in-law is bullying", the man is the pillar and the core of the family, if you want a stable and harmonious family relationship, a good man is indispensable!

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    First of all, reflect on why you quarreled with your mother-in-law, and secondly, is the reason for the conflict between yourself and your mother-in-law incredible, is it unforgivable, and did you take the initiative to seek a way to reconcile and apologize to your mother-in-law afterwards? I believe that every woman hopes to find a husband who can love her, and is willing to help her solve everything, including the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Every man also wants to be able to marry a good woman, and is willing to be humble and filial to his parents.

    It is understandable that men want to find a woman who can be filial to their parents, but men should not be too demanding, saying that your parents are as filial as your parents. There is an essential difference between the two, and it may be possible to reach consistency in material aspects, but in terms of feelings, it really cannot be consistent. The daughter-in-law has lived with her parents for decades, during which her parents have taken good care of her, and she has full trust in them.

    But for the husband's father and mother, if it weren't for the marriage, they would never be able to get in touch together. How she treats her husband's parents is mainly because she loves the house and Wu, and there will be a layer of estrangement emotionally, and no matter how hard both parties work together, it is impossible to finish it like her own parents. Therefore, a man should not be too demanding, saying that if she is not filial to my parents, I will divorce her.

    What is your standard of filial piety? What filial things have you done to your father-in-law and mother-in-law? The relationship between the daughter-in-law and the parents-in-law is naturally happy, but if it is to the extent of respecting each other, it is okay, and there is really no need to be to the point where you must take feces and urine.

    Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a conflict with the husband towards the mother-in-law, this matter must be very uncomfortable for you, and even feel very wronged, there is nothing wrong with you, but the husband is only towards the mother-in-law, so that he is completely isolated in this new family. In this case, it is best to apologize to your mother-in-law first, try to reconcile with your mother-in-law, and then explain to your husband why you quarrel with your mother-in-law, let him understand him, win his heart, and then let him help him deal with the relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    Sometimes mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have a conflict and the husband lifts a tent posture towards the mother-in-law, maybe it's just your momentary illusion, or he misunderstands something, so you must make it clear first.

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