Is it really possible to continue to be friends after a breakup?

Updated on psychology 2024-03-26
9 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    When we broke up, we said that we would still be friends in the future. But are they really friends? Maybe it's a few years from now.

    A relationship, a journey, too much joy and touching together, too much helpless heartache, from true love to hurt each other, can you still be friends at the moment of breakup? If you can, you must not have really loved. Or it is the result of a person's grievances.

    There is no floodgate for feelings, and it cannot be closed with a single pull. It's hard for two people to love each other at the same time, and it's even harder not to love each other at the same time.

    There is no love, no hate, and only when you are indifferent to the throbbing in your heart can you become friends.

    But you and I, the two people who just broke up, maybe one of them is still in love, maybe from love to hate or resentful, maybe because of the throbbing of one of the other party's eyes, how to become friends?

    The person who once loved deeply can only watch silently, can't ask, can't manage, doesn't need to care, can't complain, everything about him has nothing to do with you, so how can you bear to be his friend?

    The person who once resented deeply no longer cares for you, no longer pampers you, his good and your bad can no longer be seen, you are just two parallel lines, so how can you still be his friend?

    Unless we haven't loved, I don't care who you are or what your identity is, I don't care at all, I never care.

    Otherwise, even if we don't love it now, what should I do not remember the memories of so many sweetness along the way at the moment when I face you?

    Or I still love you, I don't want anything, I don't regret it, no matter who you are to me now, no matter who you are guarding now, I am willing to always accompany you, hide my love for you deeply, not let you know, not be seen by you, and be willing to be a friend with you like a shadow as long as you are happy.

    Lovers are so close, friends are so far away, if you can't be lovers, maybe you will say just be friends.

    But even if the car drove away and returned to the original point again, it would be a different time, a different character, and a different scenery.

    We've already taken a step forward, but how can we measure the same size and go back? It's better to keep walking until you meet someone else you can love.

    A breakup is a breakup, a decision, never mention being friends.

    If you don't love him anymore, let go and don't make excuses for your selfishness, don't keep him if you still love him, and don't ask him to turn back.

    When you break up, you only talk about breaking up, not about being friends.

    Just the most familiar strangers.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    First of all, what do you think of yourself? Can you change the feeling you have for him the same as if you were a friend in the first place? Even if you could, what about her?

    So, it's best not to do this in a short period of time. If you really want to be friends with him, you can wait, let time dilute this uncomfortable feeling, and then try to be friends with him, maybe this friendship can withstand the wind and rain.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    No, because when he looks at you, you want to have it again.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    1. People who have really loved can't be friends after breaking up.

    Whether it's love or hate, as long as the other party has hurt you, it is impossible to be friends after a breakup, regardless of past suspicions. Maybe there will come a day after many years when you are relieved and choose to forget the ordinary interactions of the past, but at least it is impossible to be friends now.

    People who have really loved can't be friends after breaking up, and as soon as they get closer, they will be afraid that they will not be able to forget, and eventually fall again.

    A qualified ex should completely disappear into the other party's life, instead of freely entering and leaving the other party's life after breaking up, constantly recalling past memories.

    2. Those who continue to be friends have a purpose.

    Couples who continue to be friends after a breakup have the most common purpose of breaking the connection. There's nothing more emotionally appealing to both parties than being friends, and there's no better place to rekindle an old relationship. Only by shortening the distance between each other, it is not so difficult to continue to be ambiguous or further interact, after all, there has been an experience of love.

    There are also some couples who continue to be friends, not really having completely let go, but just want to retain the last shred of decency. This kind of couple generally has no deep emotions when they break up, and they have already changed from lovers to friends when they get along, so there is no so-called can't let go. Continuing to get along with each other as a friend, instead of tearing your face and dying of old age, is to leave the last dignity for yourself and the other party.

    Life is not a drama, there are not so many reunions between Kurina and Lu Bi, and there are not so many love as they first met. Since you have decided not to continue to be together, you will leave freely. You don't lack that friend, and the other party doesn't necessarily need you as a friend.

    Instead of bothering each other, it's better to give up more simply. Don't dwell on it, and don't be reluctant. Life goes on, and those who used to be are always just passers-by in your life.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Personally, I think that after a breakup, we still have to learn to face it naturally, people's feelings are the most complicated, whether they can be friends after a breakup, can not be one-size-fits-all, and whether they can or cannot also depend on each person's different circumstances.

    Of course, things in this world are not as absolute as black and white, whether you can become friends with your ex after a breakup depends on your heart, you don't have to deliberately, let alone forcefully, just feel comfortable.

    Even if you become friends with your ex after a breakup, you must maintain a sense of boundaries between the two.

    You must have a clear sense of boundaries, know that you can only be ordinary friends with your ex, neither too intimate nor too estranged, just a simple acquaintance.

    As for whether you want to maintain this kind of acquaintance relationship with your ex, whether you can become friends or not, the decision is up to you, no matter which choice, as long as you are happy.

    Feelings are such a thing, after all, it still depends on fate.

    There are also some boys who choose to be friends with girls because they are unwilling to pay for their efforts over the years.

    Anyway, in my opinion, it's impossible to be friends after a breakup. After all, it was the person he once liked, and it was too cruel to himself to watch him with other girls.

    After the breakup, I hope everyone can do not disturb each other, because this is the respect for each other.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Try to break up as thoroughly as possible, and don't break the thread, because this will cause misunderstanding and suspicion to your future lover.

    Don't be friends after breaking up, after all, having the previous relationship will make each other involuntarily want to pay attention to each other, which will become a stumbling block to happiness in the future.

    Since you broke up, it means that you don't want to continue, and since that's the case, keep your distance and don't give each other a chance.

    The best relationship for a couple after a breakup is a stranger, so that it is fair to each other's future partners.

    Not everyone can afford to put it down, after all, they once loved each other, and it will only be more embarrassing to meet again. See.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    OK. For some, maintaining friendships is possible, while for others, it may be healthier and more beneficial to keep your distance after a breakup.

    Some couples can gradually return to friendship after a breakup, especially if there is a deep emotional foundation and common interests between the two people. They may decide to keep in touch, share some things in their lives, and support each other, but they don't have a relationship.

    However, sometimes a clean breakup can be emotionally painful and uncomfortable, and maintaining friendships can hinder emotional healing and personal development for both parties. In this case, giving each other time and space to process emotions and establish their own lives and identities may be a better option.

    It is important that both parties honestly assess their feelings and boundaries and come to a consensus on whether or not to stay in touch. Sometimes, it takes a period of separation and independence to ** and grow, and this is normal. Whatever you choose, mutual respect and understanding are key to maintaining a healthy relationship.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    No, because when he looks at you, you want to have it again.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    People who have loved each other, don't be enemies, but don't be friends, accept each other, respect each other and love each other

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