I really want to have a good relationship, who can help me?

This is a university question, suggestion one, buy a book to read.

Suggestion 2, the most direct, heartfelt, and sincere to praise and praise your colleagues I used to talk a lot of nonsense, and I always liked to talk about other people's bad, so I had fewer friends.

Later, in my work, I needed to see things from multiple angles, and I changed this problem.

Everyone has advantages and disadvantages, and from another point of view, maybe disadvantages are also advantages No one doesn't like to be praised by others, but praising people also requires skill, to express sincerely, and when you want to talk about others, try to think about his benefits

Everyone has a different way of dealing with people, but what you must do when you first join the job is to "listen more and talk less", if you can't change your problem of talking more, you have to find a way to let everyone know you and become friends with you, because no one will care about some small shortcomings of their friends In addition, you can talk a lot of nonsense, but don't speak too straight, so offending others will not end well.

I have just entered the society, and I have too much to adapt to! Including words and deeds! No one can help you, only you have to pay attention!

Fortunately, you have found the root cause, and there is a lot of nonsense. Therefore, thinking twice is a compulsory course!

When you see someone who talks a lot, you talk less.

When you meet people who talk less, you still don't talk much.

Don't talk when you see the hell.

Thick black study art.

I've been in this situation before, and I still have it. Let's talk about the experience.

Don't be pandering. Obviously not interested in or disliking it, but forcing yourself to do it, either paralyzing yourself in pandering and eventually losing yourself, or forcing a smile and feeling more distressed in your heart.

Secondly, although don't push yourself, be sure to make some effort. I think playing basketball is the best. Not only to exchange feelings and mingle with everyone, but also to exercise.

You say you don't think it's right for you, then that's what you're going to do. Change your mindset and tell yourself that this is what I should do, that it's good for me, and then try to do it, and you'll find joy in it, and gradually improving your relationships will be your biggest motivation. It's easier than having nothing to say.

Without common interests and experiences, there is no common language.

If playing basketball with everyone is a painful thing for you, and you really can't do it, then think about whether you have a few friends and iron buddies. Then tell yourself that I am different from the boys in the class, and that I am not the same.

Anyway, as long as you are comfortable.

I wish you to find your own path.

It's not that your relationships are bad, it's that you're not confident and suspicious. Think about it: look at your classmates, which people have bad relationships, what are these people doing (playing games?).

See**? These kinds of people are mostly people who have little collusion. So, no matter whether you play ball with your classmates or not, after your classmates come back from playing, can't you communicate with them enthusiastically, for example, ask who in the class played well, is they tired, and have fun?

If you don't play ball together, you can watch it together to eat in the cafeteria, watch movies in the dormitory, and in short, connect with the people around you.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, you love to be quiet, just read the book and practice the words. You don't have to follow others to do it in order to have a good relationship, the most important thing is your own mentality, as long as you sit upright, do the right thing, and help the students who need help in ordinary times, you will feel that you are doing a good job. The truth is on the side of the few.

There are many people in society who harm themselves for the sake of righteousness. Interpersonal relationships are not to play with anyone, it is good, it is usually your personality, whether you have been affirmed by everyone, and you have a certain reputation among your classmates, it proves that you are a successful person.

You are more introverted and have special interests Don't want to be as active as ordinary boys But people don't say that they don't often mess around together It is not good to play together Boys are very bold and generous They go back to say hello casually When something happens, lend a helping hand Even if it is an encouraging look and so on You can use your body language Very look at each other The most important thing for people to get along with people is to encourage and care for each other Let the other party feel very comfortable with you It's okay to be better than courting the house and Wu.

Hello, I don't know how old you are now, are you in college or high school, and you feel this way, I think you should be in high school. You don't have to be confused if you have such thoughts, it means that your ideas are different from those of your peers, and you don't explain your specific thoughts, and I can probably understand that you think that what they are doing is childish and immature. If that's the case, then you don't need to be distressed, there are a lot of people whose mental age doesn't match their actual age, which can be a good thing, depending on how you deal with it.

Problems like the one you are encountering now, don't worry, do what you think is meaningful, do what you want to do, you don't have to be with his family, the sheep are in the crowd, and the lone traveler is generally a lion or a tiger. But there is a degree to master. Because I don't know your specific situation, and I can't jump to conclusions.

If you have any questions, please contact me.

I remember when I was in junior high school, I was like this, so I studied well, because I had nothing to do, I could only read, and it was all boring. Later, I went to high school and college, and I fell in love with basketball, so I made a few good friends before I started to get better. You don't have to play basketball, you should develop your hobby, and then find people with similar interests, so that it is very easy to communicate.

There is also to participate in more group activities, sports meetings, gatherings and the like, rest assured, there is no entanglement of interests between students, there will not be too much defense, open your heart, make more friends, and wish good luck.

Everyone's preferences are different, and people have xenophobia no matter what the situation is. All you have to do is find someone who can perhaps share more common hobbies to communicate with. It is not difficult to say what to say, but it is difficult to say it.

As long as you can always remember to speak, then naturally you will not be so reserved and introverted.

Try to find a common language with everyone, even if you don't understand, talk a few words, listen to others, introverted personality is the same as me, it is very suitable for listening to others, listening is a better way to communicate.

If you don't like it, don't do it. What's there. What if you don't fit in with them?

I went to secondary school. There are more than 60 people in a class, and we have been together for two years, but I only know more than 10 people, and some of them I can't even name names. Don't worry about that.

If it is said. If you want to have a good relationship with them, then you can play together. It's actually quite simple.

Again. Isn't there anyone who shares your goals? Friends don't care how much.

It is estimated that your personality is more introverted and more silent. There's also a little bit of little confidence. In fact, friends, classmates just get along happily, it's a collective, you integrate into it, everyone accepts it, behave confidently, generously, everyone will like you.

I feel it has something to do with your self-confidence. Try to find places where you can shine, and then you will naturally find like-minded companions, and your relationship problems will be solved.

If you can talk and fit in with the group, but you don't want to mess with them (which you find boring and naïve) - then you are mature in this situation.

If you are playing with them and don't know what to say (can't fit into the group) - that is, they can't speak (extremely introverted) - if you are in this situation--- it is recommended that you make a friend who is eloquent and loves to talk - you will become more and more able to talk and love to talk (the so-called Zhu is silent, and the ink is black).

You can look for books on this subject in bookstores.

Maybe you can learn something from the middle.

In addition, this society now.

Generally, extroverts are more open-minded.

If you feel the need.

Just try to be brave.

Try to do things that you wouldn't have done before that you wouldn't have dared to do.

Slowly, self-confidence is cultivated.

If you want to have a good relationship with everyone, then try to fit into the group and try to change yourself.

Maybe it has something to do with your psychology, you should open your heart to others and trust others, but be vigilant and communicate with them more.

There must be something pressing in your heart, if there is something to say to the person you want to talk about, open your heart, to accept new life, new friends, I believe you will become very good!

Try to play with them or read more extracurricular books so that you don't lose out of words.

First of all, people are meant to live for themselves.

You don't have to pander to others.

Do what you love.

There will be a certain amount of psychological confusion in the student stage. It's up to you how quickly you adjust.

No matter how many friends you have with wine and meat, it's useless, but one bosom friend is enough. There will always be like-minded friends who will find out how you find out.

Be cheerful, talk to people more, and you'll get better.

If that's your character, you're a maverick. However, in order to adapt to the needs of the world, it is recommended that you. Feign!

Integrate yourself into the collective, whether it's true or not.

Hehe, you are very similar to me, I used to be too, if there are many strangers around, I feel very uncomfortable, I can't speak, especially if there are many people of the opposite sex, I am even more nervous, often I listen to others and can't speak, and I don't know what to say. Every time it's not worrying, it's worrying about that, right?

Later, do you know how I solved it, forcing myself to deal with others, at the beginning, I would think about what to say to others, so as not to be embarrassed when I didn't know what to say, control myself to calm down and comfort myself when there are many people, and wait for you to exercise more. You'll be able to adapt to crowded situations and be less awkward and nervous.

Let's talk about my experience, for example, today, a friend of mine held a thank-you banquet, she is a girl, I am a boy, because I have a good relationship with her, so I was also invited, you know, because my friend is a girl, so of course most of her friends are girls, as soon as I got there, I was stupid, so many girls, I don't know each other, and then I was very embarrassed and nervous to find a chair and sit down, and then I let myself relax, comforting myself that it was just a meal, and then I pulled a boy to chat, Then there is nothing to talk about, sometimes when you eat, ask those people you don't know about some boring things, that is, everyone chats casually, and then relaxes, chats with others a lot, and finally meets 4 people, two of them add QQ, you see, is it easy to make friends?

The key is to make yourself confident, exercise more, say what you want to say, say it confidently, plus your own experience in exercising, I believe you will definitely be able to speak confidently in public in the future, and make a lot of friends!

Actually, I used to be like this, but now it's much better, in fact, as long as I practice more! I'm like this, I want to say what I say out loud, but also take the initiative to communicate with others, don't be afraid of embarrassment, talk to people you don't know, because even if you say the wrong thing, others don't remember who you are, I believe that tomorrow will be better, I wish the landlord a happy day

First of all, you have to be confident in yourself. The guts should be amplified. It's just that the more scared you are, the more you have to contact your friends. Skill comes from practice. It's going to be easy-going.

Communicating with people is to say hello and smile are all good starts, first learn to be sincere, caring, and say hello.

I can't talk about it, so I don't have anything to say.

The demons are your biggest obstacle!

1. Reach out and don't hit the smiling person. After going to work every day, you must greet all your colleagues and their staff with a smile to increase your affinity. 2. When others turn to him, but not to ask for help is because you think that your ability is inferior to him.

Then for these problems, it is necessary to enhance your business knowledge or work ability. Make others believe in you, and if they come to you, they will do better than him. 3. People's personalities can be changed, try to mingle with everyone.

You're going to get a lot out of it. 4. Remember: Do not do to others what you do not want to be done.

Have the courage to lead by example. 5. Be honest. If you say it yourself, you must do what you promise others, and you must do it well.

In this way, you can have a better status in everyone's minds. At the same time, it also increases your personality charm. In fact, there are many philosophies of life, I see that you go back and read more books on this subject, and then apply them in practice, I believe that you will be a comrade who is loved by everyone.

1.Everyone is different from everyone else, and believing in this does not necessarily mean that following the crowd is necessarily good and what you really want; Look for strengths that are different from others.

2.Strength is the last word, having strength and stubbornness are said to have personality, and being incapable of being humble will be said to be fools. Learn the basics and use your strengths to grow your strengths.

3.Learn to think from the perspective of others, everyone is not easy in this society (it is everyone), there will be different troubles, more sincere encouragement and praise of others, don't be stingy with your praise.

4.You have to know how to refuse, wasting a person's time is equivalent to strangling people's lives, and there are some things that you are asked to do can be regarded as an experience, which will make you know more and be more proficient. Just have a bottom line, don't deviate too far from the profession.

5.You should also let people know what they hate and like in a reasonable way, and there will be punishments and rewards (for things and not people), so that others will know how to treat you better.

Finally, I would like to send you a sentence "There is absolutely nothing wrong with kindness, and those who work hard will be more lucky".