What if there is an older brother at home who is not motivated?

This can only be said to be a failure of your parents' home education, and there is no good way. Because your parents are willing to help him, and even share the financial pressure with him, raise children, raise a wife, and the root is in your parents, they spoil your brother too much, so that your brother becomes a person who does not seek progress, it can only be said that your parents will be under great pressure, but you don't need to take on your brother's responsibility, and when your parents are gone, there will naturally be a society to educate your brother and give him a hard spur.

Me too, my brother drinks every day, he used to gnaw at the old, I helped him decorate his home, and I gave it to him if he was short of money, for several years, I have a disabled son myself, and I can't help him too much, what should I do, I'm more worried than you!

Changing the environment can make a difference.

You can change him, because no one wants to be degraded all the time, you can set an example to influence your brother, let him feel the changes you bring because of your efforts, and also instill in him more inspirational thinking and concepts, so that he can take action, work hard, and study hard to bring better changes to you and your family.

My brother is unproductive and not active, a few things you should help him:

1. Don't hit him too directly, direct or sharp words are just your hope that he can wake up instantly, this is just your hope, but it can't really be solved. Slow beating.

2. Don't blame him repeatedly, because this will only make him more helpless and desperate, give him a little time, take his time, and be patient with such a situation.

3. Don't be too eager to find ways to get him out of negativity, because in his opinion, this urgency will become a kind of persecution, and everyone does not want to be persecuted.

4. Be sure to care a little more, so that he feels a kind of love, not abandonment, people are like this, when they are negative, they will feel abandoned by the whole world.

5. Don't give up on him, don't give up on a negative person easily, because he is very painful, if you also give up on him, I think he will feel that the world is terrible in an instant.

Actually, my brother and I are not related, he is my cousin, but in our big family, we are only children, so he is naturally the dear brother who grew up with me.

My brother is four years older than me, and he repeated his senior year of high school in my freshman year, and he lived in my house, and at first we went to school together every day, went to the school gate to have a porridge, and separated together in front of the school building. Later, we went our separate ways after breakfast, and then my brother didn't even have the patience to wait for me...

At the beginning of the second year of high school, my brother repeated his studies and failed, so he went to a junior college. When college started, my brother also graduated.

At a relative's construction site, my brother went to work for about half a year, and when the family heard that there was still a good job, they asked my brother to wait at home for his job. However, this wait has been waiting for more than half a year, and there is no news of the future.

During this period, my brother complained to me countless times that he wanted to go out to work, even if he wanted to work on a construction site again, he was willing to leave home.

At first, when I heard this, I comforted him: "It's okay, maybe it's not good, you are waiting patiently... After a while, when my brother complained to me again, I told him, "Your hands and feet are on yourself, you can go, don't talk about it all day long..." Now, when I look at my brother, I sigh with hatred that iron is not made of steel.

Actually, I have a good relationship with my brother, I don't think my brother is unmotivated, and my brother's temper is not bad, I used to believe that he will be able to live smoothly, find a job, and start a family. And now, I also know that it is not easy to be human.

But I still firmly believe that my brother must be the best brother. He has always accompanied me in my childhood and youth, and he has been wronged and sad countless times. Bless you, dear brother.

To help the unmotivated brother, we must first figure out why we are not motivated, how it was formed, figure out these clearly, and then think of a symptomatic solution. There are more ways than problems to be confident. One is not motivated is formed by pampering when he was a child, and there is no genetic, only acquired influence.

For this kind of cause, saying that it no longer works, use the reverse thinking method, let him live independently, ignore him for the time being, let him wake up after hardships and hardships, only to achieve this effect, and then give kind help and encouragement, it may get better. The prodigal son must have a point of awakening, so that he may not be afraid of the effect of a bottle of gold without changing it. The awakened, the fierce medicine also.

Persuading people to change their faults is often ineffective. Everyone has a door from the inside out, and there are some responsibilities and pains, only if you have experienced it, will it change. Some people will not experience those painful things at all in this life, which just means that they do not need to change, and they are just like that.

The problem is that the person who wants to change him, wants to impose his own ideas on the other party.

Start with ideological work. 1. Encourage, develop his shining points, and praise in time. 2. Probation, tell him more stories of successful people, so that he can be educated.

Patiently help him, make friends with him, care in life, take care of life, help in work, he will be moved and self-motivated after a long time.

Only knowing Daniel can save your lazy brother.

Of course, we should help him to move towards a normal life, after all, blood is thicker than water.

I worked harder and subtly influenced him.

Painstaking persuasion turns pressure into motivation.