Ask why my relationships have been bad

There are several main reasons for poor interpersonal relationships:

1. Lack of communication skills

Interpersonal relationship is a science and an art, and harmonious interpersonal relationship requires scientific communication knowledge and skills.

2. People who don't know how to refuse

People with poor relationships don't know how to reject others in interpersonal interactions. But instead of gaining a higher level of friendship, this will allow you to be disrespected by others. If we don't know how to reject others, we often don't have a clear idea of our true selves and others.

And when we know how to reject people, it is the best time for us to truly feel boundaries.

3. People who are not interested in others

People with poor interpersonal relationships often have a more closed mind and are afraid that they will be hurt in their relationships, so they would rather close their hearts tightly than open their hearts. On the other hand, they lack understanding of other people's worlds, so in communication, they are often unable to have a normal flow of emotions, which leads them to become more and more lonely.

4. Differences between different individuals

Everyone is an individual with a different personality, they come from different environments, different families, have different habits and experiences, so they have formed different outlooks on life, values, etc. These differences can easily lead to different interpersonal relationships.

5. Do things impulsively and always solve problems emotionally

The big taboo in dealing with people is impulsiveness and emotionality, you are easily uncomfortable, sad, and hold grudge......s in your heartThese are the signs of emotion, which you think are far away from you, but they happen to you all the time. When your friend comes back to you after playing with someone else for a few days, all a lot of people will do is deliberately ignore him, "Don't look for me, I'm not available." "That's emotional.

You know you shouldn't, but you still do it, let alone when you have a conflict with someone else, when you lose your temper.

6. The dependence is too strong, and you will never learn to be independent

When many people get along with others, the most obvious dependence is that they like to ask others questions, dependence is the fundamental premise of laziness, dependence is that you are afraid of taking action, you are afraid of bearing the consequences, anyway, it is a choice made for yourself to save worry and effort. And dependence will also bring about shirking responsibility, that is, all kinds of requirements for people, and all kinds of reasons for themselves.

7. Jealousy, not seeing others better than yourself

In the process of interacting with others, there must be some people who will be jealous of some people's appearance and academic performance, which is the performance of not seeing others better than themselves. Some people are jealous that others are better than themselves, so they will make some small actions behind their backs, so that they will feel better in their hearts. In fact, if you do this, it will undoubtedly have an impact on your interpersonal relationships, if this matter is found out that it is best for you to do it, then your good friends around you will definitely gradually move away from you after knowing that you are such a person, so jealousy is jealousy, or it is better not to do things that will affect your interpersonal relationships.

Hello, I'm about to run, patiently waiting for me.

Then you don't talk much, and you don't speak very well, or you don't speak well, and you can't always get people who like to associate with you as much, so you feel that those people are rejecting you, in fact, you don't have to think like that, you just have to think about it, why can't you get along with others? And they have to exclude you? This is because they find your shortcomings and are willing to hold on to your shortcomings, so you can show your strengths and let them discover you.

If you don't handle interpersonal relationships well, it means that you have failed in communication, which means that you have some social phobia or personality disorders, and these shortcomings will not become fatal shortcomings, you just need to be yourself, as long as they don't mess with you, you can also be quiet and enjoy loneliness.

Some people are very good at dealing with interpersonal relationships and can get along quickly with anyone, while some people have very poor interpersonal relationships, why? <

Poor interpersonal relationships can have many causesThe first may be that this person is more selfish, and in the communication between people, he attaches too much importance to his own feelings. This will make them say what they like, and vent everything they don't like, although such a character is bold, but it is often inadvertently hurt and ignore the feelings of others, because normal people's thinking is to listen to other people's opinions, and his reckless and frank character may not be liked. <>

There are also people who I feel are not good in relationships, they may like to transmit negative energy to others. When he encounters something, he does not want to face it positively and optimistically and find a solution to the problem, but first complains about the unfairness of life to him. Maybe when someone else encounters something happy, he will also cast a roll of his eyes and say that others are gloating.

Such people are more negative, and if you get along with such people, everyone will have an inexplicable pressure and feel that there is no hope in life, so people who often transmit negative emotions are often isolated by everyone, and their popularity is not very good. <>

There is also a type of person who has a bad relationship because of something wrong with their own qualities. When I was in high school, there was such a person in the class, he looked down on those classmates who studied hard, and also looked down on those simple classmates and said that they were dirty, and would give them nicknames because they were not so outstanding, which is really a matter of quality. Define a person simply by appearance, make hasty decisions about what things do not have an understanding, like to chew your tongue behind your back and say bad things about others, how can you make others want to be friends with you?

Realizing that the interpersonal relationship has been very poor recently, it means that the fundamental problem is not in others, but in yourself. When you encounter something that doesn't go your way, or you encounter hardship or hardship, or something that is in danger, there is no one around to remind you to come to help, and you feel that everything is blocked. It's going against you everywhere, and things are always going in the opposite direction.

I should be careful about this, I should find the reason in myself, and don't think about why others treat me. Think about how you treat others, how you treat others, and how others will treat you or even double. If corrected, your relationships will naturally be very harmonious.

Whatever you want, you must get! If you don't secretly find the root cause of your illness, your relationship is not as simple as 'your relationship has been very bad lately', but you have become a real loner, and no one will approach you and help you.

Here are some of the possible causes of poor relationships:

1.Not having enough social skills: If you don't know how to interact with people, or know how to connect with people without missing a beat, then your relationships may suffer.

2.Lack of self-confidence: If you lack self-confidence, then you may feel afraid to go back and forth with people or don't know how to connect with people.

4.Not having enough interest: If you don't have an interest in socializing with people, then you may get bored or don't know how to connect with people.

5.Not having enough in common: If you don't have something in common with others, then you may find it difficult to connect with people.

If you want to improve your relationships, you can try the following:

1.Learn social skills: Participate in social activities, learn how to socialize, how to connect with people.

2.Boost your self-confidence: Try doing things that make you feel confident, like exercising, learning new skills, etc.

4.Increase interest: Try to find something that interests you, such as joining an interest group, participating in volunteer activities, etc.

5.Find common ground: Try to find common ground with others, such as common interests, hobbies, jobs, etc.

Many people don't handle interpersonal relationships well, especially intimate relationships, which is too normal.

Because the essence of all relationships is the relationship between oneself and oneself. If a person's relationship with himself is not good, then it will be difficult for him to deal with other people.

Either they will suppress and wronged themselves and swallow their anger, or they will release their aggression and attack others. In other words, either you are wronged yourself, or you let others be wronged.

And a good relationship is always a win-win situation. That is, neither to allow oneself to be wronged, nor to let others be wronged. As long as it's not a win-win relationship, it's not a good enough relationship.

If you don't handle interpersonal relationships well, the essence is that you don't have a good relationship with yourself.

Only if you are good enough, it is possible for two people to live well. If you don't have a good time, two people will definitely have a bad time. Not to mention expanding to two families.

Each additional person in a relationship increases the difficulty several times over.

Relationships are an extension of the self. Without a harmonious inner world, without a complete reconciliation with oneself, and one's own inner self-consistency, it is absolutely incapable of handling relationships well.

The essence of a business relationship is the ability to manage oneself. And it is even more difficult to manage the relationship than to manage yourself.

If you want to truly manage interpersonal relationships well and achieve a win-win situation in any relationship, you need to have a very high IQ, emotional intelligence, understanding, ability to recognize people, inner energy, cultivation, etc.

A person with extremely high inner energy will definitely have many people who are willing to take the initiative to befriend him, get close to him, and get along with him. He will also have a very good relationship.

A harmonious and harmonious interpersonal relationship is actually the manifestation of inner high energy.

The world is beautiful, and the world is worth it. May all things in heaven and earth and all living beings be auspicious!

I was like this in high school before, I just didn't like to listen to other people's teachings, even if I knew it was right and good for me, but I just didn't like it, and I would rather others say some nice slander. The main reason is that the pressure of my life at that time was really great, the college entrance examination was coming, and then I encountered some difficult things to solve in my life at that time, and I was very irritable and listened to some people's bad words, which was really uncomfortable. You said that you won't comfort me, even if you still say these things to me, although they are all right, but they are really true.

However, I was not the only one who had this situation at that time, almost everyone around me had this mentality, is this still a common problem of our post-95 generation? When I was a child, I listened to the teachings of teachers and parents a lot, and I was irritable, but now that I have grown up, I am still in adolescence, and I don't like to listen to the truth with the help of rebellious psychology, after all, most of the truth is hurtful, and I only like to listen to those nice words?

In addition, at our age, we really want to hear the affirmation of others, and we don't want our abilities to be denied or doubted by others. Especially for a very good and strong person like myself, I especially want to be perfect, at least try to show my perfect side in the tears of others, and I will always try to correct any shortcomings. But you've worked so hard to correct it, how can you want to hear someone else's denial?

People's hearts are diverse, each has its own scheming, regardless of daily life, or workplace competition, although there is no harm to others, but the heart of defense is still reasonable, so mutual suspicion, the mentality of deception has arisen, and it is good to compete with each other, do not rule out the situation of you fighting for me, malicious harm, the key is to tolerate and communicate with each other, but reluctantly, not everyone is like-minded, regardless of the gains and losses of interests, the mentality is a little flat, and they are low-key in their own life and things, and flexibly adjust their mentality. The way of thinking and the skills of dealing with people, struggle is a must, otherwise bread and love are not guaranteed, gradually improve and enhance the competitive strength, always remind yourself to be calm and composed, do your best, opportunities will always appear, as for the trust of others, get along well or not, not subjective thoughts can change, so, everything is fate, not just divided, waiting for like-minded people to appear.

Relationships are very poor, and I think it's entirely because you neglect some of the principles of interpersonal interaction in your daily life, so they have a bad impression of you.

It shows that you are very bad at being a person.