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Lack of trust in others. This kind of person doesn't make friends with friends, and all friends are ordinary friends. I don't like to dig out my heart with others, always wary of others, and will not take the initiative to establish a closer relationship with others, when others show favor to him, they often choose to avoid, which is actually a lack of trust, may have been betrayed by friends before, and there is a shadow in my heart.
This kind of person is often relatively cold, and it is difficult to enter their inner world.
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Don't bother others, it's to look "independent". Relying on incompetent people to refuse help from others, to avoid helping others, only to hope that they are "independent" in the eyes of others, and this "independence" will allow them to gain a positive evaluation of themselves - I can take care of myself, I don't need anyone. Even if they have a need for others and want to have more intimate relationships with others, they force themselves not to do so because that would undermine their independence.
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Don't like to owe favors. In fact, favors don't have to be exchanged as bargaining chips in this way, and there is no such thing as a debt. Why?
Take love as an example. "A coquettish woman is the best. This is almost undeniable.
Because coquettishness is the most direct embodiment of "dependence". The same applies to other relationships. When you ask someone for help, it is actually a kind of "coquettishness" and "dependence", which not only does not become a problem, but increases the stickiness of your relationship.
You help me this time, it's a big deal that I'll help you next time. True intimacy is one that helps each other and is incalculable.
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With an inferiority complex in my heart. People who don't want to trouble others have more or less low self-esteem in their hearts. What should I do if someone rejects me and hates me?
What should I do if I am looked down upon by others? "It's a constant concern for them, and it's a shackle that keeps them in trouble. It is because they are not confident enough in themselves that they are afraid of rejection from others, and they are also afraid of those potential boredoms.
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Causing trouble to others, you will feel guilty. There are such people around me, I am very worried that it will cause them trouble, even if it is a small matter, I will consider the problem from the other person's point of view, sometimes this is actually an excessive worry, in fact, this heart is essentially kind. Sometimes when seeking help from others, I will excessively figure out the psychology of the other party, and sometimes I will choose to give up directly.
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His own personality is relatively withdrawn. Since childhood, I have not developed a good social relationship model, and I naturally have a fear of socializing, and this inferiority complex envelops the fate of the whole person. Every time I deal with others, I think about it, and how much courage I muster to dare to speak.
How can such a person like to trouble others, so he has to do it himself.
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Unless you have to, you won't ask for help.
When faced with a difficult task or a task that is beyond one's ability, the normal response is to ask for help. But they are not forced to bother others, preferring to struggle to the death themselves.
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I always don't want to trouble others, am I having a psychological problem?
1.It's a psychological problem. People who are unwilling to trouble others may be too inferior in their bones, and inferiority is that they always subconsciously think that they are not good and that they are not good.
For a person with low self-esteem, he will always look for it, look for the recognition of himself from the outside world, and look for the praise of himself from the outside world. To judge whether a person is psychologically healthy, a very important indicator is to see whether he can establish full interpersonal relationships with others, as the so-called no trouble does not matter, Chinese have long paid attention to courtesy and exchanges, mutual trouble. We all live in a common humanity, and one person's behavior may be good or bad, but the psychological motivation behind it is not lacking.
So today, let's analyze what is the psychology behind this behavior of not wanting to trouble others.
2.People who don't want to trouble others are often not good at saying no to others. In the same way, when someone else makes a request, if they refuse, strong negative emotions will be projected onto others, and they will imagine that others will be as embarrassed as themselves after being rejected, and this embarrassment may turn into hatred for themselves.
This negative perception of oneself by others will also exist as a kind of "punishment". In order to escape the "punishment", they had to agree to the other person's request, and slowly, they began to unprincipledly cater to others and lost themselves. We must be aware of our "self-protection", take off our "coat" from time to time and expose ourselves to others, and deliberately let ourselves be "hurt", so as to reduce the negative emotional experience of rejection and rejection, and then realize self-correction and personality growth.
3.In psychology, this kind of person who doesn't want to trouble others and takes care of everything by himself is an avoidant personality. Such people tend to be introverted, reluctant to communicate with others, and lack adequate intimacy and social support.
Some psychologists have pointed out that being embarrassed to trouble others is actually a dangerous personality trait. People with avoidant type A personality will suppress their true thoughts and feelings for a long time, suppress their anger and dissatisfaction in their hearts, have difficulty trusting others, are not good at communicating, are not good at rejecting others, and are not willing to trouble anyone. People who don't want to bother others often lack "self-disclosure" and don't express their emotions.
When they encounter unhappy things, they can only sulk with themselves, and they are likely to accumulate depression for a long time.
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I don't think it's a psychological problem, many people attach great importance to their independence ability, and they have strong self-esteem, so they are always reluctant to trouble others, but in fact, there are certain flaws in this character, because in this case, it is likely that you will not have a very good friend in your daily life, and no one will want to take the initiative to help you when you really need help.
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No, it's because you're very kind and want to solve things yourself, so you don't want to trouble others.
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I'm one of those people who never bother people because I'm afraid of indebtedness.
It is said that money is easy to pay back in the world, but it is difficult to pay back love, which is the same as this.
People who are never willing to trouble others, first of all, have strong self-discipline, and try not to trouble others without bothering others. People who don't bother others are not because they are inherently cold, but because they are strong and kind in their bones, and they don't want to affect others because of themselves. There is a kind of person who does not trouble others, but is helpful, does not ask for anything in return, and always adheres to the principle that I would rather be burdened by the people of the world, and I will never live up to the people of the world.
I used to be a person who didn't want to trouble others, because I felt that I had to deal with my own affairs, and I didn't want to owe anyone a favor, which came from being instilled since childhood, and human favor was the most difficult to repay, and over time, from the initial willingness to help others, to not wanting to be troubled, because there are many people who can solve it by themselves, and come to me for help, which takes up a lot of their time, and finally takes it for granted, and doesn't want to be hurt, so it's better not to help in the first place.
I don't want to ruin my calendar and am willing to trouble others, the psychology is that I don't want to disturb the normal life of others because of myself! And he thinks that he has no value and no return, so that he can trouble others with peace of mind, even if it is a relative. I don't like to make others tired and embarrassed.
Thin-skinned. It is not good to feel that it is not good to owe others favors, and it is not good for Jingyu to trouble others. When you have something important and you need help with others, others will always help you, but it is difficult for you to return this favor to others. It's going to keep annoying me.
I am also the person who dislikes to trouble others the most, and I try to do it myself no matter what happens in my life sooner or later. I don't mean to owe others affection, if sometimes others are not used to helping me, how long I feel in my heart, I feel very sorry not to try my best to find an opportunity to help others to repay the favor, so that my heart is better. In the case that you can't do something yourself, you have to pay for someone.
People who don't want to trouble others are more independent people, and this kind of people are generally assertive and stronger.
If you can handle your own affairs, or you can handle them through your own efforts, then why ask others?
Begging others at every turn, not only owes others love, but also adds trouble to others, why bother?
Of course, if you encounter a problem that you can't solve, you still have to seek help from others.
Then eat a little more fruit or a meal with a lot of water.
They all have such experiences, and some people say that they feel this way because they have a past life.
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Emotionally speaking, I support you, but intellectually your boyfriend is right, because the business of the unit is not so simple, maybe the unit is unspeakable, your duty is accounting, but you are also your leader's subordinate, so you should obey the leader, some things are only known to the executive, your boyfriend should explain to you in private, don't be depressed.