How long does pubertal anxiety generally last in high school students

Hello, Erhu will give you a hug in the air first, I hope this can relieve your anxiety.

Seeing your question, Erhu remembered the fear of being "dominated" by exams when he was a child, so I probably understand how you feel now.

You said that you became very nervous and anxious because of the sedan car tour test, why are you nervous and anxious? Are you afraid that you will get a bad grade? Or what?

Try to think about it, what will happen if you don't do well in the exam?

Can parents blame you for bad test scores? Will teachers and parents be disappointed? Or will you be laughed at by your classmates?

What is the reason why you are afraid of exams? Do these things happen often? Or does it happen occasionally? Is there any other possibility than the consequences you fear?

I was afraid of the exam because I was afraid of the teacher's "stinky face" when I didn't do well in the exam, and I was afraid of the teacher's derogatory words about me (the Northeast teacher scolded people quite harshly).

But I later found out that the teacher was just talking ugly, and he usually cared about me very much, especially when he saw that I would help me in his own way after seeing that I had a psychological negative burden, which made me no longer afraid of exams.

Each of us has such a group of people around us, they seem to be quite "vicious" and do not speak well, but they actually care about us, you can tell them about your own affairs, let them comfort and comfort you.

I didn't want my family to worry, so I just told my friends, "You're really gentle, are you living with your family?" If so, then if you don't say it, it will make them worry about you more, and if you find a time when everyone is still emotionally stable and talk to them, they may not be so worried.

Of course, it may not be, so can you do it yourself? Don't you really need to ask for their help?

Finally, let me tell you, even if the test score has not been able to go up, you don't have to worry too much, you can do your best, even if the test score has not been up, even if your future education is not very high, you will find a new way out through other ways in the future. Exams, or your "student career", are just a node in your life, not a matter of life and death.

"Recently, my child doesn't know why he keeps saying that he has a headache, and he can't go to school if he has a headache, and now he is out of school at home. I did a lot of tests in the internal medicine department of the hospital and spent a lot of money, but I still couldn't find the reason. Internal medicine specialists recommend that we see an adolescent psychology clinic.

Anxious parents walk into the adolescent clinic of Beijing Children's Hospital, followed by their dejected child.

What's going on with this kid? After the corresponding psychological tests were carried out on the child, the final diagnosis was that the child had school aversion.

In adolescent medical clinics, it is often seen that adolescents who are tired of school often show obvious somatization symptoms, such as headache, dizziness, insomnia or sleep disorders, abdominal pain, chest pain or chest tightness, and even fatigue, palpitations, palpitations, nausea and vomiting and other physical symptoms. These symptoms often occur in multiple organ systems at the same time and cannot be explained by a single disease, so the presence of psychological problems should be considered.

There are many reasons for school boredom, and family education mistakes are a cause that cannot be ignored. Refusal to learn is not the child's responsibility, at least not all of the child's responsibility, it needs to be corrected from the parents themselves, bit by bit, and then infect the child. Through psychological counseling and family**, parents and children can change together to make children fall in love with learning.

You can try the following things with your child: younger children can integrate learning into play, while older children need peer encouragement and facilitation. When children are bored with school and parents are at a loss, finding classmates and friends to help them can have a good effect.

Care for curious parents do not ignore and deny their children's learning and exploration behaviors, and strive to use his. Observe the world with his eyes, be amazed, ask questions, discuss, and draw conclusions together.

When evaluating your child learning an instrument or attending an interest class, you must constantly affirm him, let him have confidence in himself, and then guide him to find out the shortcomings. Constant encouragement will make children maintain a strong interest in the content they need to master and a desire to learn, and they will learn better and better. Creating a pleasant learning environment can make children happy and engaged in learning, and achieve good results.

Going outdoors and taking children into nature can broaden their horizons, enrich their knowledge and improve their interest in learning. It is also advisable to instruct him to participate in some practical activities, such as collecting seeds and conducting germination experiments by himself, and encourage him to read relevant books, learn to find problems, ask questions, and learn to find answers in books. In this way, the child's interests are broad, the scope of knowledge is expanded, and the learning ability will naturally improve.

The first year of high school is a turning point for students, the situation of junior high school and high school, in this extraordinary period, many people will have anxiety and depression and other emotions, so parents and teachers must usually care more about their children, understand their children's psychological changes, as well as emotional reactions, and help children get through this difficult time smoothly. High school has an extraordinary meaning for students, and many people call it a major turning point in their lives. Therefore, in high school, it is inevitable that many children will have symptoms of anxiety and depression due to excessive attention to the current situation, or no goals and plans, or what to do if they can't keep up with their own learning, or because of the huge pressure caused by the expectations of parents and teachers.

According to the above situation, I have prepared some methods for you: we parents can start from these aspects, in terms of parents, we can care more about and comfort our children, so that children can have less psychological pressure in their studies; In terms of schools, teachers can take care of students' psychology in an appropriate amount, do not hit students with poor grades, and encourage them to continue to work hard; In terms of high school children themselves, they should learn to relax, learning is not the only thing, face the current situation with a positive attitude, and work hard in time to the end and not give up the future and goals, I believe they can all achieve it. A large proportion of children's anxiety and depression are caused by confusion and stress, as long as parents and schools pay attention to children, this symptom can be slowly eliminated.

What should I do if a freshman in high school is bored with school? It is necessary to observe whether the child has any abnormal manifestations in addition to school boredom, such as whether he usually appears depressed, unhappy, unhappy, or easily nervous or sleep disorders, and other abnormal manifestations may occur, such as loneliness, self-amusement and self-laughter. If there are such emotions and behaviors, and there are abnormal expressions in expression, you must go to a psychiatric department as soon as possible, and the doctor will further evaluate whether the child is tired of school and whether there is a certain disease behind it.

If you are just tired of school, there is no obvious abnormality in other aspects such as mood and sleep, and there is no problem with basic daily communication, you can have in-depth communication with your child about school boredom itself. In this case, the child should have an idea of why he is bored with school and what he plans to do in the future. According to this idea, you can help your child accordingly, if necessary, you can also ask the teacher to maintain communication with the teacher, and you can also do psychological counseling to help improve the symptoms of school boredom.

In-depth analysis: How depressed students get tired of school, suspend school, and drop out of school.

Hello, it is not an accident that children are tired of school, the increase in age is an important reason, and learning needs to be guided by interest.

School boredom has become a common social problem.

1. You can communicate with your child calmly first, and everyone will find the reason together.

2. Let the children find the reasons by themselves first, and then parents will guide the children based on their own observations and ideas.

3. It is very important for children to be interested in learning, and only when they have a strong interest in learning will they learn with their hearts.

The freshman high school student is anxious, depressed and tired of school, thinking about how this child can be admitted to college. The child must be changed, parents must not put pressure on the child, and the child is studying hard enough. I feel that if the child's depression is severe, it is also necessary to take the child to see a psychologist, so that the doctor can communicate with the child and guide the child.

Get out there as soon as possible.

Hello freshman high school, I am your senior sister, just entered high school will definitely feel different from junior high school, change the new environment to study, I hope to make your love of learning enthusiasm not diminished and multiplied. Thank you!

Persist in persevering, and slowly you will stop learning, and you will naturally not be depressed.

What should I do if I am anxious and tired of school, and I am full of fear of school", this is your topic, and I feel from your description, it is "anxiety about getting along with classmates, and anxiety and fear when you think of complex interpersonal relationships with these people", is that true?

In your description, I don't seem to see you mention your academic performance and academic difficulties after you go to middle school, so I think you are okay in this regard, and the main problem or focus is on getting along with your classmates.

In the past, when everyone knew that your family was well-off, someone would come to talk to you, but when your family is in financial difficulties now, your classmates will not scold you like before, and even alienate you, talk about you, and ridicule you." Although it's a description of the text, I can feel this sense of disparity, to put it bluntly, the classmates are very snobbish, and they were good to you before, and they weren't sincere, they were just rushing to treat you, and I don't know if it's appropriate for me to understand this way.

If my feelings and understanding aren't too biased, my next thoughts are.

1.If you speak ill of you, or even bully you verbally, seek help from teachers, schools, and parents as soon as possible. These children need to be treated by their parents.

You must not think that it is a shame to tell your parents, this is called one thing to one thing, they bully you, you have to find a magic weapon to cure them. If you choose to drop out of school, your family will still ask you the reason, you grit your teeth and don't say, there is a high probability that your family will not let you drop out of school, it is better to explain it directly now.

2.If we just talk about you behind your back and avoid you, then in fact, we can zoom out a little farther away, we can not deal with these snobbery if we don't deal with them, why should we be friends with them, just keep our distance. As other respondents said, learning is the most important thing, and in school you are there to learn, not to manage your relationships with others.

A person's energy is limited, when they focus on you, they will be less interested in their studies, and then the exam may get worse, isn't this the best punishment for them?

Finally, I have a question, whether your obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety disorder have been diagnosed, and if so, then you need to regulate yourself well to avoid affecting your **. If it's not diagnosed, but you think so, you can find a psychological counselor to guide you, and try not to label yourself with such a label to avoid giving yourself a psychological hint.

Because you're confused about the future, right? I don't know what to do in the future, which direction to choose to move on. If this is done, I should not be so tired of studying.

Then there are family reasons, and a noisy family is definitely not conducive to students' learning. There is also the loss of love. Or the learning mentality is not right, always thinking about comparing with others, and this is a big taboo in learning, because learning is not a competition, when the competition to learn will inevitably learn more and more failure, because there is no direction, no rhythm, just blindly follow the direction and rhythm of others, naturally the more you learn, the more at a loss.