In rural areas, why do women like to find a family with a son?

In rural areas, girls like to find a family with a boy, mainly because there are many brothers in the family conflicts, and now this situation is very common, even if the rural people are not rich, but there are many boys in the family, family conflicts are prone to occur, and often quarrel over some trivial things. And it is easy to cause brothers to turn against each other.

For example, if there are two boys in the family, when the eldest gets married, the family is relatively poor, and the bride price for the eldest daughter-in-law is relatively small, and they do not buy a house. If the second daughter-in-law marries a daughter-in-law, the family is financially well-off, and the second child buys a house, then the eldest daughter-in-law is definitely unwilling, which is the source of the contradiction.

And these unfair phenomena will continue to the problem of the support of the elderly, and when the parents are older, and take the family as an example, the old people will say that when they get married, the old people in the family do not spend money, and the second family gets married and the family also buys a house, the old man is older, and it is natural that he should live in the second family, and the second family feels that the parents have two children and should take turns to take care of the parents, which will also cause conflicts.

These are most of the practical problems in the countryside, but there will be quarrels in life because of some trivial matters, if the eldest and second live in a family, the contradictions will continue to escalate, mainly because they have their own families, all for their own considerations, and the issues involving interests are always the most troublesome.

Parents know these things best, and they don't want their daughters to find such a family, so as not to be wronged, so many girls don't want to be involved in these rights and wrongs and choose not to go to such a family.

Because rural families are basically not very wealthy, and if there are two sons in a family, then the burden on their parents will definitely be very large, and their parents also have to leave enough money for the other son, which is not very good for their daughters.

Because the two sons will fight over the family property, the woman does not want to share the property with others in the future. If there is only one son, then the family property is inherited by her husband.

In rural areas, if you only look for a family with one son, this situation is not a common phenomenon in individual cases, and I can understand this criterion for the woman to choose a mate, because there will be much fewer conflicts in a family with only one child.

Because people are smarter nowadays, if a family has only one son, then all the family property and all the love are gathered in him, and if there are two, they will be separated, so most empresses like to have one.

Having an illegitimate child means that the last money only needs to support this one child, and there is no need to divide it into two parts, and it will be relatively comfortable for his daughter's future life.

In the countryside, it costs a lot to raise a son, and when the son gets married, he has to buy a house and a car. If you have two sons, the burden will be even greater.

Because if you have a son in the family, you don't have to think about it so much, and if you have two, it is easy to favor one side or the other, and the property will not be stably distributed at that time, so it is more convenient to have a son.

Because after starting a family in the countryside, it will involve the division of the family, and the division of the family is bound to divide the property, so if there are many sons in the family, only a fraction of the family can be divided in the end, and if there is only one son, then all the property of the parents belongs to this son.

Because if the family says that there is a younger brother or an older brother, the family will definitely take sides. When the time comes, the property will be divided into the family, and it will be very complicated. Nowadays, many women don't want to have too many family worries.

It's true. If I had a daughter, I wouldn't want her to marry someone with two sons.

Why? Because I myself found someone with two sons in the family to marry, it was really unpleasant.

Five fingers stretched out, some long and some short, the two sons born to a couple have high and low statures, and they can base their mental power also high.

If you marry the one who is the most capable of the two sons, you think it should be very good, and your husband has the ability to make money, so you don't have to worry about money.

Then you are wrong.

Parents generally kill the rich and help the poor, and what they say about a bowl of water is actually to let their two sons live a similar life.

They will keep instilling in their capable sons: you see that you have the ability to earn money, and your brother does not have such a good opportunity as you, so you have to help him more, they are all a family, and they are all their own brothers.

Your husband has the ability to earn money, so he has to pay a lot of for his parents' expenses, and he often has to help the one who is less able.

Then you watched your husband get up early every day and work overtime to earn money, supporting the whole family, and the other person played mahjong every day, eating and waiting for death.

In addition to taking care of the brothers, they also have to take care of the children of the brothers' families.

My nephew has graduated from college, and your capable uncle is going to help him find a job. Don't you have two cars at home? Give it to your nephew, so he can find a girlfriend too.

You will find that although your husband has the ability to earn a lot, you still have to live frugally, because his money is posted to his parents and his brother who is less capable.

If you marry the less capable of your two sons, not only will you lack money to spend, but you will also be extremely unbalanced.

is also born to the same mother, and the growth environment is the same, why is his husband not as good as his brother?

Where there is contrast, there is harm.

Look at your husband, how to look at it is not pleasing to the eye.

This resentment is stuffy in my heart, depressed, affecting my health, and it is easy to get cancer.

Send out this resentment and complain about your husband all day long, and your husband will inevitably rebel, quarrel all day long, and break your marriage.