What should I do if I love someone too much and lose myself?

Then don't love someone too much

Whether it is a man or a woman, if you love someone too much, you will lose yourself. In fact, after losing yourself, you are not far from breaking up.

So what to do? It's very simple, you lose yourself because you love someone too much, there is a saying "seven points for love, three points for yourself" If you love someone too much, the other party will not take you seriously, and you will be sure that you love him very much, and then feel that it doesn't matter.

Loving someone too much and losing oneself is the most common thing. Because of love, his every move touches your heart, and his every word will affect your mood.

He thinks that you are not dressed beautifully today, so you immediately cater to his taste and wear the clothes he likes, even if you don't like it yourself, but you are willing to be wronged in order to love him.

He thinks you're not open-minded, and then you start learning how to make yourself open and make him happy.

He thinks that the friends around you are not good, and asks you not to have contact with these people, and you stay away from your friends in order not to lose your love.

This kind of love, you think you love him very much, this is to please, you wronged yourself to do all the things you don't like just to please the person you love, and finally you find that your original self is gone, the whole person revolves around his world, and one day, he feels bored and leaves you.

Please love yourself, please take back 200% of the love you give, love yourself, do what you like, wear your favorite clothes, make your favorite friends, and be the most freewheeling yourself.

If at this time, you find yourself and lose him, don't be sad, there will always be someone who will love you like this. There is a lack of everything in this world, that is, there is no shortage of people. Nothing matters in this world, you are the most important thing.

You have lost yourself, what future and love are you talking about?

Then find yourself.

You should calm yourself down, take a good look at your current relationship, and recall how many stupid things you have done in this relationship, maybe when you are recalling, there are many things that you are deliberately avoiding, you will make good excuses for which person you love, you want to try to excuse him, you want to tell yourself that these are all voluntary by you. Sometimes you don't even admit that you have given too much in the relationship, and you may not want to admit how much you have done against your own principles in the relationship.

If you feel that your own memories are too painful, you can find the person around you who knows your relationship best to talk about your relationship objectively, the premise is that you should be able to calm down enough, no matter what the other party says, you should not be angry with others, others are also for your good, if you are still angry with others, I personally think you should be hopeless. Now that you've found out that you've lost yourself, I think you still have a chance to turn back.

If a person is in charge of your relationship, he will not let a person pay alone, which person you love can make you lose yourself, you should imagine whether the person you love is also loving you, if the relationship between the two of you has always been like this, how long can you last, I think you should turn back as soon as possible, no one can say bad about feelings, not that you pay more, you tolerate more, you can get the other party's love, The pay and gain in the relationship are not proportional to the original, have a good attitude, don't force it anymore if it's not your own, even if it's around you, it's better for you to watch from afar.

I think I used to have this experience, I still remember that it was my predecessor who was very handsome and excellent in all aspects, and I was just a little fat girl at the time, although I also had a little talent, but it was all buried by my fatness. At that time, it took nearly a month, and I finally caught up with the male god, not to mention how happy I was, and I felt that I was almost celebrating with the whole world. However, the ensuing problems also made me slowly become very unhappy, the male ticket is very popular, the female relationship is even better, he belongs to the type that will not reject girls, there are always some scheming, green tea want to ask my boyfriend for help or something, boyfriends are all agreed, well, at first I was actually unhappy in my heart, but I was still hindered by being just together, so I could only speak silently, but then I slowly got acquainted with my boyfriend, and the relationship between the two people also reached the point where there was no need to pretend to be Sven. The unhappiness in the heart becomes the active blocking.

Maybe my life has become, going to class, eating, and spending time with my boyfriend. Don't eat with your roommates, don't play with your roommates, eat with your boyfriend, go shopping with your boyfriend, no matter what, you can call your boyfriend anyway, call your boyfriend first, you can't call it, and then think about other people. Fortunately some time ago, my boyfriend would agree to my request almost every time and would accompany me, but slowly, my boyfriend began to have his own circle of friends and life, so he was reluctant to accompany me, but at this time, when I wanted to call someone else, I found that I had no friends to call, and they would always say in a weird way, don't you have your boyfriend to accompany you.

I always save all my money and don't go to any party without a boyfriend, and over time, I don't have any friends calling me anymore. At that time, I really felt that there was only a boyfriend in the world, and without him, it seemed that the world would collapse, as if I could love him more than myself, and I could do everything for him.

When you love someone, you should also be aware of what you are doing, what you should do and what you should not do. You should also achieve self-respect and self-love, and you should not completely lose yourself for the sake of a person and have no backbone of your own. Love is two-sided, not a person's complete giving.

If you love someone and have lost yourself, such love should stop in time.

Then I think the most important thing is that you have to be aware of this problem first, and if you are aware of this problem, then I think you can now focus your attention not all on your object, you should also have your own friends and life, and then take a little more time to hang out with your friends, I think then you will not pay too much attention to your object and lose yourself.

Always be aware of your own existence, be aware of what you are doing at every moment, what you are thinking, not limited to delusions, pay sincerity and build yourself, and establish some meaningful pursuits in your heart, which will definitely be harmless to the relationship between the two parties.

When you really love someone, you will indeed lose yourself, which is beyond the control of reason, it is completely an expression of human instinct, I think it is good to go with the flow.

Then you can assert yourself. Say that you can do some things and some things you can't, and you must have your own principles and bottom line. In this way, when you fall in love with him, you will not lose yourself.

When you fall in love with someone and lose yourself, you must first learn to adjust yourself. Second, if the other party is worthy of your contribution, then find yourself again, love others again, and whoever is separated will live happily together.

The person who came over reminded you to find yourself, he can't give it to you, just find yourself slowly.

The most important thing is to face up to yourself, and don't put all your strength on the other person, which will make you lose your original self and never return.

Keep a sense in your heart, give yourself enough space, and often review the feelings between you, lovers can't be too full of love, otherwise it will be easier to hurt each other.

I think in a relationship, two people's efforts are two-way, so if one person pays, it is very tiring, if you find that one person is giving, then I think you can give up.

Love has an irresistible charm, and it is even easy to get lost in it. Many people who fall in love are easily carried away by sweet happiness and automatically blur everything around them. There are even many people who have lost themselves and given all their status to each other.

In the end, the farther and farther you go, you may not even remember what you looked like at the beginning. It can only be said that the authorities are obsessed.

We must have our own attitude at this time, don't follow others in everything, don't let him be confused, we have to choose ourselves, and what true love can get is the best.

Take a moment away, give yourself a little space, let yourself re-examine this love, and keep a bit of sanity in your heart.

When we fall in love with someone, we are always prone to fantasize, fantasize about everything that will happen in the future, and fantasize about two people holding hands and walking to the white end. But whether love can enter happiness, the future is always unknown, and if you lose yourself, you may lose the opportunity to be happy.

Love always makes people blind, but blind love will not end well. Some time ago, I drank too much and my friend shared with me the love he once experienced. At that time, both of them were still quite young, and he felt that he was in love with that girl and was willing to give everything for that girl.

Because the two of them were in different places, he did not hesitate to quit his career in the rising period and went to live in another city; Every day, no matter how tired he was, he would always accompany the girl to dinner in the evening; He remembers the anniversaries and all the holidays between the two of them clearly, and he also sets an alarm clock to remind himself in advance to buy gifts.

All this made him feel that life was so good, but it put a lot of pressure on the girl. The reason why the two broke up made me feel a little laughable, and the girl said that she didn't deserve such a good him.

This reminds me of a relationship I once experienced, and I also poured my heart and lungs into the good of a person, and blindly gave in this relationship. But in the end, it ended up with a similar ending, which was too good for a person, and maybe it was also a mistake.

Let yourself get out of your relationship for the time being, leave yourself a little time and space, and retain a bit of sanity. When you are lost in love, you will slowly become a vassal in the relationship, and you will slowly compromise into a person you don't recognize. Before all this happens, give yourself a little time, give yourself a little space, re-examine this love, rethink the future of two people, and re-evaluate what you have done in this relationship.

There is nothing in the world that can be thought about, as long as you continue to think deeply, you will find that even if you love someone again, you should keep a little love for yourself. Because he may not be able to give you the happiness you want, and everything you give may not be so important in his life.

A lost love will only hurt you. I know that when you fall in love with someone, it's hard to take a break for a while, but I'm not saying to let you leave, it's just that the two of you don't see each other for a few days, give yourself a little time to be alone, let you feel the other person's care, and let you feel everything he has done in this relationship.

You may love each other more, you may find that all these losses are illusions, but only by protecting yourself can you be happy in life.

In fact, when a person is lost in life and is not completely injured in the end, it is really difficult for a person to retract. But we should always try to protect ourselves in love, so that it is possible to embrace a better future.

The person you love may not be able to give you happiness, and happiness always needs to be managed and mastered by yourself.

After falling in love with someone, losing yourself is the way to lock yourself up. Think about your own problems, only in this way can you find that you are really in a state of unconsciousness.

Losing oneself may be that one's love is too humble, and there is not enough security in the relationship, and if you want to find yourself, you must work hard to improve yourself and become more confident.

At this time, you can listen to your friends' opinions, and the bystanders are clear, and they can see more clearly. If you lose your ego for the sake of a relationship, then you have to break up, and the next one is better.

Then find someone you trust to confide in your state, bystanders, in the guidance of others, we will definitely get out of this lost state, or find a psychiatrist to confide in.

Some people will, some people don't, some people like to stick together, and some people are very independent and rational even if they fall in love with someone. I advise you to be sensible, even if you love each other very much, don't give everything, learn to protect yourself, there is no right or wrong in love, only suitability, willingness, and happiness. When you can no longer be together, it's not that she didn't choose you, it's not that you abandoned her, but that happiness didn't choose you, happiness didn't choose you, and love didn't choose you.

So don't be anxious, don't be sad, you have to bless each other and hope to find your own love. Feeling pain when you lose someone proves that you don't love her at all, you just want to possess her, and you feel pain if your possessiveness is not satisfied.

When you love someone, what you should think about is not what the other person can give you, but what you can give her, can you give her the affection she needs? Can you give her happiness and joy? Can you be happy with her?

Only this kind of love is true love, and only this kind of love is happiness. You will listen to what the other person says, think of the other person in everything you do, and ask the other person for their opinions and opinions. Seeing a scene, you think about what you would do if you were with him!

In short, whenever you have free time, all you think about is the people you love!

Get rid of each other's shadows. If someone loves to lose themselves and wants to be free, they must get rid of the shadow of the other person and recognize the reality. Many times, the other person may not be there for you, but you will always think about the other person.

That is, you love others so much that you can't take care of yourself and can't let yourself out. This is the most terrifying, because everyone's life is actually an independent individual, and the whole family can only be considered after forming a family. So, don't lose yourself too much in the process of falling in love, which will have a bad effect on yourself.

Clearly know your own behavior, you can choose to keep a certain distance from the other person, so that you can be sober enough. This is the best option, because sticking together every day, it will be difficult for you to have your own independent thinking space, which will make you make incorrect judgments about many things. So, it's good for you to leave each other.

If you find that you really love each other, you won't come back and become very ego and get lost in your own world.

I hope you can separate reality from fantasy in order to live a realistic life. Loving someone and losing oneself is a very stressful thing for the other person and will bring subtle changes to the relationship between two people. At this time, we must be soberly aware and stop this behavior in time, because if you really love someone, you must love yourself first, and if you don't even love yourself, then you can love others.

This time is important. We should be clearly aware of this moment and we can properly control our thoughts and some of our actions. Everyone's view of love is different, and some of the actions taken in the face of love will be different, but everyone should know that their love should be firmly held in their own hands, not completely lose themselves, so it is difficult for the other party to take into account your feelings, and you only have to give in this relationship.