How to solve the problem of the increasing number of older young men in rural areas?

Widowers cannot be mentioned, but they are the subject to be mentioned. The emergence of the widowhood problem is an important manifestation of the change in social form and consciousness. The social status of men and women has changed radically, and women have gradually become dominant in the marriage market.

The continuous increase in the number of widowers in rural areas is a reality that cannot be ignored in front of us, and it needs to be solved urgently, even more urgently than solving the problem of rural pension.

There were one or two widowers in the village. Because of the loss of a middle-aged wife or a disability. Today, there are more than a dozen widowers in the village.

Because you can't get married, no one wants to get married, and you don't fight. The problem of widowhood is not taken seriously. In a few more years, it will affect social harmony, cause contradictions and contradictions, and cause financial burdens.

In the early days, only one family was encouraged to have children, and at that time, there was a strong patriarchal mentality in rural areas, which eventually led to a disharmonious ratio between men and women. The disproportionate ratio between men and women is the root cause of the emergence of widowers. Women have a complete say in the marriage market, and men are relatively passive.

In addition, the disparity between men and women in rural areas is increasing as women work in rural areas and a large number of women migrate to cities.

The ratio of men and women is not coordinated, which leads to an imbalance in the marriage market and the need for a bride price. A bride price of hundreds of thousands of won at every turn is an unspeakable pain for men. **The bride price is just the first course, the house and the car are the last straw that crushes the camel, and the RV takes marriage as the standard, and the marriage cost is large**.

The psychology of blind comparison is like adding fuel to the fire of the bride price, and the bride price is constantly rising with the help of the psychology of comparison.

Whether it is the disharmony of the ratio of men and women, or the bride price is a common phenomenon. Because it is a common phenomenon, the remaining widowers have to find problems in themselves. No money, not handsome, not chic, not confident, are all important reasons for the failure of marriage.

Now that you know the cause of the chocolate bar, in order to solve the problem, all you have to do is to inject the right medicine and find the appropriate solution. The solution of the widower's problem can be solved according to the usual rate, stable bride price, and increased ability of the way of thinking, the general environment is improved, the small environment is stable, the marriage market is stable, the personal problem is solved, and the widower is impossible.

Consideration can be given to encouraging the birth of two children, giving women a certain amount of subsidies for the birth of two children, guiding the ratio of men and women to gradually reach a balance, delaying female immigration, and attracting foreign women. Stipulate the maximum bride price limit, increase publicity, set an example, and form a good market style for marriage mayors. Continue to learn, constantly improve your abilities, not be stupid, and increase your personal wealth.

Whether it is balancing men and women, stabilizing the bride price, or improving one's abilities, it is a long and long process, and it is necessary to be fully mentally prepared.

The reason why they are not married is probably because the cost of marriage is too high, and their family background is not good enough.

We can strengthen the construction of rural areas and attract high-quality people who are willing to marry in rural areas.

Introduce more people to these older young men. Enabling them to start a family will solve the problem.

How to solve the problem that more than 30 million leftover men in rural areas cannot get a daughter-in-law?

The garage bride price is introverted.

It is difficult for young men in rural areas to find a partner, mainly because the rural economy is relatively backward, there are more men than women, and the most important point is that the ideological concepts are relatively different, and girls are very realistic and do not want to live in poor rural areas.

First, there is still a big gap between the conditions in the countryside and the peerless ratio in the cities!

Although it is said that many times, the good mountains, beautiful water, and good air in the countryside do make many people yearn for the living environment in the countryside, which is undoubtedly and very true, after all, all kinds of hustle and bustle in Wu Hongchi's city are not conducive to life and residence.

But the countryside is a rural area after all, it does not have a lively commercial street, there is no bustling night market, there is no advanced medical and educational resources, etc., if you want to do anything, you must go to the county, anyway, there will be a lot of inconvenience.

Second, some rural men are more likely to be "content with the status quo".

People often say: "Relying on the mountains to eat the mountains and relying on the water to eat the water", so now there are many rural men, they are influenced by their parents or families, and they don't want to go to the city to work hard or start a business, they just want to stay in their own homes with peace of mind and live that comfortable life.

Therefore, there will be some men, every day is very hard, usually "sunrise and sunset", every day is either to serve the family's crops or other crops, although every year can not earn money, but after all, it is particularly hard, but also very boring.

Thirdly, the number of single young women in rural areas is decreasing.

According to our old traditions and habits in rural areas, under normal circumstances, men stay at home and take care of everything in the family, after all, men are the main labor force in the family, and many young women are not willing to stay at home, and most of them will go to the big city to work or do things.

But once these young women stay outside for a long time, it is easy for them to get along with the people around them, and in this case, many single young women will most likely marry somewhere else, so that after a long time, there will be fewer and fewer single young women in the village. Therefore, based on the above reasons, there are more and more male singles in rural areas, which is also a very helpless reality.

Although we often say that men should get married and women should get married, for many young men who live and work in rural areas, they often encounter many hidden problems in the process of finding a partner.

First of all, many young women in rural areas often like to go to the city to work hard, even if they can't find a suitable job in the city, then when looking for a partner, they also like to find those young men who work in the city as their blind date, because these girls think that the income of young men in the countryside is relatively low, and they will not be able to bring themselves a good life in the future, which to a large extent leads to some young men in rural areas can not find a suitable blind date. And put yourself in a state of singleness.

The second is that many young women are reluctant to find rural young men because when two people really reach the level of talking about marriage, they often have to live and live with their parents-in-law, that is, the parents of these young men, and for many young women, their biggest headache is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become an important factor affecting the feelings of many young people, which has also become an obstacle for many rural male young people to find a suitable object.

On the one hand, the reason is that many young men in rural areas are often put forward by the woman in the process of finding a partner, such as a large bride price, or Zihu to buy a house in the county, etc., and many young men have traces of the actual economic conditions can not meet the requirements put forward by the woman, so many young men in rural areas have never been able to find a suitable object, so the main reason for change is that these girls can change their concepts. Giving up some unrealistic ideas is the only way to really solve the problem.

First, because the difference between rural and urban areas is relatively large, it is impossible to retain young women, so it will be difficult for older young people to choose a mate.

We know that many young women like to develop in the city, because here, women can have a better pursuit, constantly improve themselves, and strive to stay in the city, where the medical conditions are good, the living environment is good, and the working conditions are also very good, women are unwilling to go back to the countryside, and the countryside cannot retain marriageable women, which will lead to many men who cannot find a partner and become older young men.

Second, the bride price for marriage in rural areas is relatively high.

We know that in rural areas, there are more things to get married, not that there is a suitable object, just find a day when two people can get married, and there are still a lot of complicated situations, such as the bride price is one, some women want more bride price, there is a car, a house and a deposit, and the deposit also needs to have a certain amount, if there is no villa at home, and there is no house in the city, then, such conditions, many girls are not looking down, girls will look for a better marriage partner, which makes many boys have been single.

Third, if we want to improve this situation, the most important thing is to improve the quality and ability of young men.

Of course, this situation must be changed, so that young women are willing to stay in the countryside, and have better opportunities, better challenges, and better environments in the countryside, then more people will return to their hometowns and build their hometowns. Moreover, the custom of marriage should also be changed, and everything should be simple, and there would not be so much bride price, so that it would be easier for young men who stayed in the countryside to get married. However, I think the most important thing is that young men must change themselves, have the ability to continue learning, have the ability to earn money, and have a good way of thinking, in order to attract the opposite sex.

It is difficult for young men in rural areas to find a partner, and the reasons are mainly manifested in three aspects:

1. There are more men than women, and the proportion is out of balance.

According to the results of the seventh national population census, the male population is 723.34 million, accounting for; The female population was 688.44 million, accounting for. There are 34.9 million more men than women. Among them, there are 17.52 million more men of marriageable age than women aged 20-40, and the sex ratio is.

At present, many young people who are marriageable in rural areas have more men than women, and in many places there is a phenomenon that "boys have to line up for blind dates, and girls can choose for blind dates". According to the "Research Report on the Marriage Relationship of Rural Youth in Lishui" released on the official website of the Lishui Municipal Bureau of Statistics, there are significantly more left-behind men than women, resulting in more "leftover men".

The Survey Report on the Marriage Relationship of Rural Youth in Qingdao pointed out that young women in rural areas will settle in the city as their goal; The unmarried older young men who are stranded in rural areas do not have a high level of education and a weak economic foundation, which makes it difficult to attract young women who have adapted to the urban living environment and rhythm, resulting in a serious imbalance in the proportion of young men and women left behind in rural areas.

2. The economic conditions are not good, and the standard for girls to choose a mate is high.

The income level of rural youth is not high, and nearly half of the respondents have an annual income of 10,000-50,000 yuan. According to the analysis of the "Survey Report on the Marriage Relationship of Rural Youth in Qingdao City", the lack of economic foundation, the lack of stable income, and poor economic conditions are the primary constraints on the difficulty of young men in rural areas in choosing a mate. Poor personal image or ability is also a stumbling block for young men of rural school-age to be unmarried.

The Lishui Rural Youth Marriage Relationship Research Report also pointed out that the lack of stable income is the most important reason why young men of rural school age are unmarried; The high standard of mate selection and the reluctance to marry are the two main reasons why young women of rural school age are unmarried.

3. The bride price is high, and the cost of marriage is high.

Survey reports released in many places have mentioned the problem of high marriage costs.

The "Investigation Report on the Marriage Relationship of Rural Youth in Qingdao" pointed out that the "sky-high bride price" has become an unbearable burden for peasant families. The cost of marriage for young people in rural areas includes the purchase of an independent marriage house, a bride price, a wedding banquet, a family car, and the purchase of gold and silver jewelry, with an average cost of more than 300,000 yuan. The marriage expenses are mainly borne by the man's family, and the proportion of the total expenses borne by the man is all or most of the same.

According to the survey report on the marriage relationship of rural youth in Ningbo, according to the results of the questionnaire, the average marriage cost of rural youth in Ningbo reached 10,000 yuan, of which the highest was 2 million yuan. The cost of marriage is mainly borne by the man. The survey found that the custom of bride price in most rural areas still exists, and the amount is not low, starting from an average of 100,000 yuan, and many people think that having a house is a prerequisite for marriage.

The above three reasons have become the fetters for young men in rural areas to enter into marriage.