How to overcome the fear of self esteem criticism ?

You should learn to share yourself, so that there will be people of the same kind who will get closer to you, maintain communication with yourself, and reduce the fear of interpersonal communication; Secondly, accept your own shortcomings, having fear is afraid that others will find their own shortcomings, only by accepting your own shortcomings, you will not care about the other party's opinion of yourself when communicating with others, so that the fear will slowly decrease.

Don't run away from a scenario or thing you're afraid of. It's about throwing in like obsessive-compulsive disorder and going. Experience anxiety, fear, and all the discomfort truthfully, and if possible, write down your emotional reactions at the time and let them fade.

There is an experiment in psychology that individuals tend to overestimate the degree of attention they receive in the environment, so your so-called lameness, nervousness and ugliness are exaggerated by yourself, and others can not observe your own similar tail.

It may be that the requirements for self are too high, and they always want to perform well in front of others, so the more they ask for this, the more fearful they are, and if this is the reason, they should lower their goals. Getting along with people is actually just being able to say**just**. It's normal to say it badly, we're just ordinary people.

Even if he is the best orator in the world, he can't do well in front of everyone. As long as we slowly stop this demand, the fear will gradually decrease.

Don't panic and be timid, accept this uncomfortable emotion in the moment, (in the second person, keep repeating this uncomfortable feeling, for example, "you blush when talking to the opposite sex, nervous" and repeat until another voice appears, and still repeat in the second person) This is a sign of growth, and trouble is Bodhi, and Bodhi is growth.

If it's someone else's ridicule, speak it up and listen to it. If you are afraid that your hidden secrets will be known. Then speak it out and hear it.

If you have a sense of shame and have anything to do with others, others will not know. Distinguish what is real and what is fantastic. Constant validation.

It is difficult to analyze myself, but I have to face how much my fear has to do with my childhood, how much it has to do with the people and things I have encountered, find out the source, boldly dissect and face it. Tell yourself that the factors that affect you too much have been established, but you can't live in the emotions of the year, and that your adult self should learn to break free from the shackles and negative energy, and slowly adjust.

Every soul with low self-esteem hates itself and always thinks others are good. Others are more beautiful than themselves, their family background is better than their own, their abilities are stronger than their own, and even interpersonal communication is also their strength. But everything is positive and negative at the same time, and people who can speak well may not be very good at putting on the brakes in time.

Just as you envy others for their easy interpersonal interactions, the other party may be envious of your inner beauty and calmness.

1. Be mentally prepared to be criticized anytime and anywhere. Being criticized is the only way in life, especially for newcomers in the workplace, there is no need to take it too seriously. If you are prepared to accept criticism before doing anything, then when the results are not criticized or even praised, it will double the surprise and increase your self-confidence.

It can be said that being able to bear scolding cheerfully and open-mindedly is a compulsory course for entering the workplace, and it is also a necessary ability. The master is the front foot has just been reprimanded, but the back foot can be put into work immediately, not affected at all, as if unhappiness never happened, such rationality and concentration, it is difficult not to be outstanding. Second, every moment to learn to withdraw from the emotions of being criticized and be scolded by the leader, everyone will feel uncomfortable.

Therefore, it is a kind of wisdom to be able to quickly filter out the emotions of being criticized. The key is to understand the leader's criticism as a demand. If you are criticized and you can't get out of the whirlpool of emotions, you stay up until you get home from work, and you still can't forget the unhappiness that happened during the day, the more you think about it, the more you get up, and you lose sleep at the end of the night, and it's easy to continue to mess up the next day's work.

Being criticized by the leader, this thing itself is very common. The abnormal thing is that you can't pull it out when you are deep in it, and you can boil yourself dry in the form of internal friction, which is the really bad state. 3. Wholeheartedly reflect on the problems that have been criticized.

If it is indeed our own mistakes that we have made, are we not allowed to criticize the leaders? Most of the time, the leader's criticism is not unfounded. Sometimes mistakes are made because they don't understand the requirements of their bosses and misunderstand; Sometimes mistakes are made because of carelessness and not doing the right work.

In fact, the criticism of the leaders at this time is mostly hatred of iron and steel, and most of the elements of love and education are the elements. As long as you listen patiently, figure out the original intention of the leader, actively improve your working methods and attitude, and correct your own problems attentively, everything will be solved. From the perspective of leadership, your reflection and practice mean that the first thing is that you understand and accept it; The second is that you have a strong ability to control your emotions and have more positive feedback, which is a piece of talent that can be created.

At this time, the leader's impression of you will also improve, so being criticized is not necessarily a bad thing, and may be a prelude to your next promotion and salary increase. Fourth, write down what the leader said when he was criticized. Small criticism of small development, big criticism of big development, no criticism of no development.

Sometimes, the way some leaders care about a subordinate is by criticizing. Being able to get the criticism of the leader, the intelligent subordinates will regard it as an honor, and it is one more opportunity to develop and improve than others, so we must be good at grasping it. A good leader usually does not criticize simply for the sake of criticism, but mixes successful cases, ways of doing things and past experience in criticism, and grasps the right time, and the harvest will far exceed expectations.

Therefore, take out a notebook, write down the leader's criticism carefully, tell yourself that these are wealth, valuable, and focus on improving your driving force, and all negative emotions will fade, stay away, and float away.