Why do you find it hard to tell the truth the older you get older?

I think everyone has had the experience of suffering because they told the truth.

At the age of a child, you think of what you say, and even if you say the wrong thing, everyone will choose to ignore you because you are just a child.

As we grow up little by little, the social circles we are exposed to become larger and larger. I personally feel that in terms of junior high school and high school, the feeling around me has changed a lot, because in junior high school, because everyone is basically from the same town, they will feel very close to each other, even if they are unhappy because they tell the truth, they can still be angry after today.

When I got to high school, I don't know if it was because I was in a liberal arts class, and there were a lot of intrigues in it.

I remember when I was in high school, I didn't like a girl in my class very much, I mentioned it when I was chatting with my roommate by chance, and my roommate should have told me that she didn't like that girl very much, and after a few days, I found that the girl I didn't like began to target me everywhere, and then I learned from others that it was my good roommate who told the girl I didn't like what I said at that time, and after that time, I didn't like to talk to others very much.

When I went to college, in the face of classmates from all over the world, the feeling of wanting to tell the truth is even more gone, not only there will be disputes in the dormitory, but even the participating departments will still encounter trouble, gradually we understand what the routine is, no longer put the truth on the bright side, everyone's hearts are playing small ninety-nine, I think we are becoming more and more afraid to tell the truth, but also when we adapt to society little by little, that is a metamorphosis in the process of our growth.

It's not because people don't dare to tell the truth as they grow up, but because this society now likes to slip around and shoot horses. You tend to tell the truth, and others will hate you. Say that you speak too directly, but if you tell a lie, others will like you.

The truth is too hurtful, too direct, and others don't like it. On the contrary, others will be very happy to hear this falsehood, saying that you are a good person.

There are a few people today who live in reality, and they all live in vanity. You said that he has a temperament, a good figure, cute, good looks, atmosphere, and a person! Love your compliments, loved them since childhood.

When you grow up, you like it more, you know what others like, and in the same way others know what you like.

When we were young, we told the truth. Because since childhood, the teacher told us that children must tell the truth, and children who lie will not be liked by others. But when I grew up, I realized that telling the truth would hurt other people's hearts, but if you tell a lie, you will slap other people's ass.

Others will be happy.

As I grew up, I realized that sometimes telling lies can get me a lot. For example, there are several occasions when you tell a lie and you get what you want.

The first point is the time of the holidays

Whenever there is a New Year's holiday, many adults will say that they will call aunt or uncle when they see children. Say I'm good-looking, say I'm pretty and I'll buy you something delicious. In fact, he was so ugly that he had to ask me to say that she was a beautiful aunt and a handsome uncle, and that he would buy me something to eat.

There's no way, it's all taught by adults. So I said, Auntie, you are so beautiful, Uncle is so handsome, and then they will help you with a red envelope, and then buy you something delicious.

And then slowly, no matter who you meet, they will say, you are so beautiful! If you are so handsome, others will buy me delicious food, and colleagues will be happy to buy it for you. If you say that others are ugly, and it is too late for others to beat you, how can they buy you something?

So, this has taught me that if you don't tell the truth and don't tell the truth, you will get what you want, delicious food.

The second point is that when we work in the workplace

If you are applying with two people at the same time. You will be eloquent, and you will make the leader happy. You will praise them for how good the company's prospects are and how good the company is, and the leaders will like you very much, and you will say that you are a very sensible person.

And then you're praising the leader, saying that their leader is capable, talented, and can lead employees. It is very popular to be flattered in the company. Even if someone else doesn't do well, you have to praise her, you did a good job.

Next time, he will help you, or somewhere to help you.

If the company is a company run by a husband and wife, and you make the boss lady happy, then your salary. It's definitely going to go up, and I'll give you something once in a while, which I know very well.

Sometimes it's not that we don't want to tell the truth, but telling the truth will make others hate you and dislike you. Why not do it? When others are happy, they also benefit.

Wouldn't that be great? As long as you tell a lie that doesn't hurt the interests of others.

To tell the truth, it's annoying.,The last time I worked part-time was in QQ chat, I didn't see each other for more than ten years.,I talked about how I've been in recent years.,Talk about not talking to me.,Or it won't take long to reply to me.,I guess I haven't met for more than ten years and suddenly talk to me and have something to do.,It's not borrowing money or borrowing money.。

Why is it that the older you get, the more you can't tell the truth?

With the passage of time, many things have also deteriorated, and there are a lot of friends around them, but in fact, there are very few sincere ones, and they can't talk to each other like children, and say everything, because some things need to be borne by themselves, and others can only comfort them when they say it, after all, they have to digest themselves and figure it out, in other words, who is telling the truth, others can't understand the feelings of people at that time, and they are all worried about their own things.

Some things can only become a secret in one's own heart, forming a sense of self-protection security, this "secret" may be afraid or related to one's own psychological shadow, maybe the heart is too autistic, unwilling to let others know, or there is no trustworthy person around you. There are thousands of excuses, there are more things to experience, you will become mature and steady, there is a song title is the more you grow up, the more lonely you are, the eyes are no longer as pure as when you were a child, the imprint accumulated in your heart has become a permanent sign, some words dare not be spoken, carefully concealed, the truth is an adventure, you never know what others will think of you, in fact, as long as you say it to a trusted friend and girlfriend, even if it is just one, you will feel better when you say it, In front of the friends who care about you, they will light a way like a lamp, let you choose, and make you feel hopeful, unless, when you are lonely, choose to hide and bear by yourself.

People, in this life, are destined to be borne by themselves to digest, the road is to walk out by themselves, the impermanence is closely related to their own experience, words, to tell the people you trust, to become a secret secret to be buried in the bottom of the heart, maybe some pain can not be revealed in front of people's eyes, life still has to go on, every day, to smile more, to say not necessarily a bad thing, maybe other people's opinions will be for you in the long night, which lamp to light up?

The more you grow up, the more things you see, and the higher the expectations of the people around you are, so you can no longer do what you want to do and speak.

As the saying goes, "children's words are unscrupulous", it is precisely because children are relatively young and ignorant that no one will care about what children say, no one will take it to heart, and they will not care what the children say. But as you get older, the more you pay attention to the occasion when you speak, and you can't say whatever you want like when you were a child.

I remember when I was a child, my brother and I often quarreled, and my dad was the kind of person who loved to fan the flames, every time my dad would say "what's the use of quarrelling, fight, xx, you shouldn't even be able to beat your brother, xx, you can't beat a girl with a man, it's a shame to say it", and then my brother will not be able to withstand the provocation, and he will want to hit me when he pounces, at this time I will be very angry, while resisting my brother's attack while scolding my dad, saying that he is not serious. But now that I'm getting older and older, once when I was arguing with my brother, he would still shout on the side, and I couldn't help but scold him again, and my mother just heard it, and said that I was still the same as when I was a child, and said that I have grown up now, and I must know how to respect my parents, and I can't be like when I was a child, so I understand the meaning of growing up. And now when I quarrel with my brother, my father will still shout on the side, but I never think about scolding him again, although I am still thinking about how to scold him, but I never scold him again, just give him a gesture of white eyes and contempt, he will always be played by me, I am also very helpless to have such a father.

So when I grow up, everything is restricted, and I can't do the "fairy words" when I was a child, and I can't tell my true words, everything is just because I grow up and become sensible.

I've grown up, it seems to be a cool sentence, it contains a lot of content, she is saying to the people around her, I am sensible, I can be alone, you can also say, find me if you have something, don't treat me as a child, growing up means don't let people who are worried about themselves worry about worrying about it, it means that you don't want others to look down on you, you can do a good job of others doing a good job, yes, when you grow up, you can solve it by yourself when you encounter difficulties, no matter how big things you can do without your family worrying about it, don't let your family know, when your family asks, how are you, when I am wronged, I can only say that I have been doing well recently, don't care about me and so on, it's not easy to tell the truth.

When I grew up, I proved my ability to the people around me, I was working hard outside, wandering, doing a small business, and when the customer came, the first thing I said was, how is the business? We immediately replied, okay, actually, okay? Just solved the problem of food and clothing, it is better than asking for food, car loans, housing loans, business loans, monthly repayments, annual loans, who would you tell them?

Elderly parents, brothers and sisters in difficulty, or friends who are nervous in life, it is not easy for everyone, so they dare not tell the truth, and at the same time, they dare not speak big, relatives and friends come to borrow money, do you have it? Can't say it's too bad, I really can't get by, do I have to ask these relatives and friends? Is it that I can grow up, the more I live, the more tired I become, I don't dare to tell the truth, and it is getting harder and harder to tell the truth.

??Also, if you are really rich, do you dare to tell the truth in the face of jealous people? Isn't that just asking for trouble for yourself?

If you are really poor, do you dare to cry poor? Relatives and friends will leave you far away, grow up, it means that your thoughts are mature, you don't dare to complain when you meet people, fall, get up by yourself, pat the soil on your body, wipe the tears that flow from your eyes, continue to move forward, don't cry to others, pain and helplessness to support yourself, when hurt, unfair, you don't want others to know, bear it independently, face everything bravely, if you say your pain to someone who doesn't understand you, she will see jokes, no one can empathize, Hide the truth in your heart and silently bear not being understood, not cared for, not bothering others, sometimes, really can't bear too much pressure, really want to vomit as soon as possible, think a lot, or don't say it, grow up, it's really hard to tell the truth.

We're really getting more and more lonely, think about when we were young, we talked about everything with our friends, but now how many people can really make you say what is in your heart? Why can't we speak our hearts as we did when we were little? The reason is very simple, we have become sensitive, we have become more considerate, we have become social.

You are afraid that others will pass on your words, you are afraid that what you say will offend others, and you are afraid that what you say will be laughed at by others. That's the price of growing up.

Why do they all say that children's words are unscrupulous, children speak without going through the brain, and what they say must be true. Everything we say now has to go through the brain, and if there is one, we have to think about it several times in the brain. There's nothing funny about it, that's what it is, that's what society is.

Because an adult will not be forgiven for saying the wrong thing, even if he forgives you on the lips, but he may not know what he thinks in his heart. Otherwise, people envy children, and there are not so many intrigues. Why can't all of us have the naïve and frank mood of a child?

I am obviously not good-looking, so I have to listen to others praise you for being handsome and beautiful. Hey, this estimate has become human nature, and it is estimated that it cannot be changed in any way.

So let's not be entangled in not being able to say what is in our hearts now, in fact, we can also say it, find a good friend who treats you sincerely. I don't dare to say it, I still have a friend like that, I can say anything to him, although it can't give me any good advice, but it will give me a kind of strength and make me feel that I am not alone. I hope everyone can have such a friend, as long as you treat people sincerely, they will definitely treat you sincerely.