Why is it that the older you get, the more you don t want to fall in love and only think about makin

Because we are more and more aware of the reality and know that a relationship without money has no results.

We will always grow over time, age brings physical growth, and experience brings mental growth. As we grow older, too many people don't want to fall in love more and more, and only the idea of making money is left in their minds, which may be the sadness brought to us by the times.

People will always recognize the reality step by step, and eventually become no longer naïve. When I was in school, I didn't think money was such an important thing, maybe because my parents helped me toss the wind and rain, or maybe because I never experienced the hardships of society. At that time, whether it was friendship or love, it was quite pure in getting along with people, and money was rarely involved.

But as I grew older, as I really entered the society, I found that money became more and more important in life. If friendship or love wants to be maintained, it needs a certain material foundation.

This may be a kind of growth, a difference in the perception of money, and perhaps one of the most obvious boundaries between naivety and maturity.

Love without a sufficient material foundation will not bear fruit, and the more we grow up, the more clearly we will perceive this. When I was in college, I had a conversation with someone, but the two of them broke up after graduation, and at that time I thought it was because of the two of them, but in the end I realized that it was because of the economic foundation.

Inadequate. I also once had emotions to the threshold of marriage, but the two of them were because of the bride price.

The problem fell out, and there was always a disagreement over whose name to write when buying a house, and the two eventually broke up because of material things.

I think this is a stage that everyone needs to go through, as we continue to grow older, we can more and more clearly realize that love and marriage need material support, and love and marriage without material support are ultimately just a joke.

Perhaps it is because of this realization that the older we get, the more we feel that there is no point in falling in love, and all that remains in our minds is the idea of constantly working hard to make money. We think that when there is enough money to support it, it is love that can really come and accompany us to go on.

Life is in a hurry, and the impulses of youth slowly fade in time.

The more people grow up, the more they will find that only they can give a sense of security. There is money in your pocket, electricity in your mobile phone, and gas in your car, which is much more reliable than Fenghua Xueyue, and it is actually much more.

Because on the way to grow up, we will find that bread is more important, and love is just an accessory to life.

Because when you grow up, you will understand that if you want to fall in love, you must have an economic foundation, otherwise you won't talk for a long time.

Because you will feel that you are not qualified to fall in love at all, because without money, you are not worthy of love at all.

Because when I grew up, I realized that it was difficult to survive without money, and even if I fell in love, I had to spend money, so I only thought about making money.

Because when I grew up, I knew the importance of money, and I didn't think there was any benefit in falling in love.

After entering the society, working hard to make money is to expand your pockets, so that you have sufficient financial ability, and you will reduce a lot of obstacles when you fall in love, even if these people do not have too high requirements for their own financial ability. If two people want to get married, if they want to go long-term, they also need the consent of both parents, and financial prosperity can reduce many unnecessary obstacles.

Today's young people are under a lot of pressure, and their own consumption is a big expense and they need money. Falling in love is not only troublesome and costly, but also has to take into account the matter of getting married and having children in the future, and the financial pressure will be greater.

Nowadays, people are very realistic when they fall in love. Pay more attention to material things, such as cars and houses. And now the cost of marriage is very high, so many young people only think about making money, and they will talk about marriage after they have money.

I don't want to fall in love and just want to make money, the main reason is that young people know that only money can make them feel secure, and falling in love is unreliable, so they don't want to fall in love.

Because there is no money. That's why you can't fall in love. You can only earn money well, and after earning money, you can fall in love. But after earning money, you miss the best time to fall in love, and you can't talk about it.

Today's young people want to make money and don't fall in love, mainly because they want to make enough money first. After earning enough money, you can show off, you can make your other half happy, and you will fall in love more smoothly.

Most of today's young people are bent on making money and don't want to fall in love too early, the main reason is that they feel insecure, it costs too much money to fall in love, there is no money to fall in love, and the probability of success is not high.

The main reason why young people nowadays just want to make money and don't want to fall in love is that it costs too much money to fall in love, they need money to eat and go shopping, and they have to buy gifts for their objects every holiday, all of which require a certain economic foundation to support, and it is not easy to fall in love without money. Not to mention talking about marriage, cars, houses and bride price are all things that cause headaches for many young people.

In general, although it is very good to fall in love, there are really few people who fall in love without money, and I believe that many boys are not willing to often take their objects to eat takeout every day, so they still have to work hard to make money, so that there will be no pressure to fall in love.

I don't think it's that I want to be single, but that most people don't dare to give easily, they are afraid of being good to a person, and they are even more afraid of not responding to the return after being too good to a person, and they will have a sense of frustration in their hearts, and thus become disheartened. Therefore, most people would rather be single than fall in love. After all, a high-quality single is better than a makeshift one.

In fact, what we resist is not love itself, we don't want to fall in love just because we can't find an object that meets our expectations for love, or we don't even know what type we like, and sometimes it's self-comforting to like being single....

Now the post-80s. The post-90s generation needs to calm their mentality, I think the most important thing is to have a skill first, and clearly understand their expertise, what they are suitable for, and then do it step by step. Eventually, there will be achievements of their own!

The adult world is not so easy. The same goes for feelings. The older you get, the less you want to fall in love, or arguably the harder it is to start a new relationship. There may be several reasons for this:

1.Get used to one's life. A person's life is always very self-conscious, and he can do whatever he wants, without restraints.

When you fall in love, you may sacrifice a certain amount of time for yourself, and sometimes you may need one partner to change your lifestyle. Some people don't want to live a life they are not used to or don't like, and would rather be single than compromised. As the saying goes, "Freedom or death".

2.Fear of being hurt by overinvesting in another relationship and not getting a response. Often this situation is the most profound experience for people who have more emotional experience, hesitation and worry about a new relationship, fear that they are active in this relationship and cause themselves to always cringe in the face of the person they like.

At this time, it is often wrong to miss the person who is really right.

3.In the face of the supervision of the family during the New Year's holidays, the questioning of the seven aunts and eight aunts has a certain amount of psychological resistance. Nowadays, young people are generally more resistant to blind dates, and they always feel that blind dates are early Zen people in the remaining army, and there is a certain gap in psychology.

4.There are many so-called standards on the Internet for love and marriage, such as "what kind of man should a good woman marry", "what kind of woman should a man find suitable for marriage" and other online articles. As a result, many people have a fixed thinking of finding objects in their hearts, so that through condition matching and screening, there may be very few left.

What's more, the other party also has its own judging criteria. As a result, the odds of success are extremely low.

I think it can be summed up in three points.

1.He is cold and "not cold" to the opposite sex. I feel that I can live a good life alone, and there is no need to add trouble to myself.

Because it is inevitable to quarrel or even break up in love, for this type of person, this is purely to add to their own blockage. It is enough to live alone, have your own interests and hobbies, and have your own work circle and circle of friends, and you don't have to take "love" as a necessity of life, and there is no need to be interested in the opposite sex.

2.I don't have time to be interested in different **. Life is not only about being born, but also about living, and even living better.

For campus students, the most important thing is academics. In a youthful period of confusion, how can you not have a good impression of the excellent opposite sex around you, but when love and studies are carried out at the same time, there will inevitably be some unexpected situations, when two people can understand each other and tolerate each other, love may make two people progress at the same time, but adolescent children are always sensitive, a little thing will affect the mind, affect the mood of a day or even several days, so it is very unfavorable to school, so busy studies can only give up the yearning for the opposite sex. For those who are just starting out in their careers, the most important thing for them is a stable job or to build their own career, yes, they will consider more factors when they are in love, family, work, assets, when an adult cannot afford to live on their own, how to be responsible for the other half?

So they choose to pursue the opposite sex they like when they are good enough.

3.It's not that I'm not interested, but I don't dare to be interested in different **. This kind of person has often been hurt in love, so that when he meets the person he likes again, he will be timid, and he will not dare to easily confide in his heart and dare not easily touch love.

They are afraid that the love that will come again is another break of the peaceful life, and they are afraid of repeating the mistakes of the past. Or, maybe they have a person in their hearts who can never let go, and when they meet other members of the opposite sex, they will feel his shadow, so in order not to cause harm to the other party, they choose not to speak.