What should I do to stop being conflicted?

Be honest with your family first, see how they react, and believe that they will listen to you and think about you if they love you.

Since you can't let go of this relationship, and you still have a brother above you, I think if you really can't let go of this relationship, it means that you really can't let go of it, then you can only sacrifice for love and give up your family! After all, love is the most sacred in a girl's heart, and it may be more important than her family, although this is a bit unfilial, but you must know that since ancient times, "the daughter who marries out of the water spilled", this is no way! Don't feel sorry for your family, because you can't live if you give up this relationship, right?

You have to learn to love yourself and listen to what your heart really thinks! You can shut yourself up in a quiet place and ask yourself, what is the most important thing about love and affection? Then listen to the arrangement of the heart and make the right choice, and that's it.

In the end, the rest is that you have to dare to face it, to speak out, don't use any method, say it naturally, they are your family, not outsiders, you can tell the truth, I believe that your family will respect your arrangement!

Even if you get married in the future, you are far away, but time is taken out, although you can't meet often, you can still see each other in a year, right, and it's not rare to see you forever! Besides, if you marry well, you can take your parents over, right, I believe your boyfriend will agree, after all, you have made such a big sacrifice for him.

If you want me to say, I think you still need to have a good attitude to face such problems. This is how many people are separated in long-distance relationships. The opposition of the family is nothing more than the fear that you will not have a good life, if you are sure that you can be happy with him, why not go?

Time will naturally tell. Your parents need you to do the work, and you need to be patient and he needs to behave well. In fact, you should have told your family a little preparation earlier, maybe you will be able to negotiate by the time you graduate, and it is not too late to talk to your parents now.

Now it's not like before, once you get married, it seems that going home has become a slim thing. Now communication is so developed, there are mobile phones and computers, and when you go out, you can go out on bullet trains and airplanes. As long as two people are together, make good money, and go home to see them more.

When people grow up, it is impossible to guard their parents every day, and there are so many people in the world, if civilization does not develop because of distance. I've heard that children who live farther away are smarter. Hehe, in short, or your attitude determines everything, as long as you identify this person, don't give up easily, compared to distance, talent is the most important.

You are a good child, you want to be filial to your parents, but you don't want to hurt your boyfriend, it's not easy to find someone who loves each other, do you want to live together for a lifetime, or just say it, there is no trick.

You can tell your family in advance that marriage must be in love with each other, otherwise how will you be wronged and suffer, etc., first instill thoughts, and then you will talk about your boyfriend, how much you love each other, how good he is to you, just a little farther away, see how your parents react. You can also say that after getting married, you can take your parents to that filial piety.

Personally, I think that today's parents don't need us to be with us every day, they have their own social security, they can do everything by themselves, and they still want me to go back to the class

Tell them the truth first and see their reactions before deciding, otherwise you will not be able to solve the problem if you have no contradictions now

If you develop your hobbies, you won't be bored when you have something to do, and you won't be able to suffer from gains and losses, especially things that you are interested in. Read more books, read newspapers, pay attention to society and everything around you, you will not be confined to your own small world, and feel that life is monotonous, otherwise you will always be with your lover without new ideas and boring.

If you have a personal love, please cherish it, don't torture each other and yourself, but take each other too much as your center, and in the end both people will be suffocated, make more friends to broaden your mind and see the balance of the wilderness, go to exercise together, sweating is also a way to reduce stress and make yourself simple and happy.

If you want to be simple, don't think too much, if you want to be happy, you must learn to find fun from small things, and be grateful and happy for every little happiness.

Understand that yesterday has passed, do not pursue it; Today is the most important and must be cherished; Tomorrow is new, and I firmly believe that it will be better too.

Life is always moving forward in contradictions, it is said that "where there are people, there are rivers and lakes", there are often some contradictions between us, due to improper handling, often resulting in unexpected consequences, and how should we be good in the face of these contradictions.

between loved ones. Conflicts in life are sometimes unclear, especially between relatives, and are the most difficult to solve. There is no reason for us to deal with conflicts in our families.

Because at this time, there may be a question of "do you still love me?" "Why are you like this, you weren't like this before", and many other contradictions that are not contradictions.

Your vexatiousness, your unreasonableness, then choose to be tolerant, what else do you want to do besides this.

between colleagues. Everyone's understanding and cognition are different, you think it's OK, he may think it's not good, and then the contradiction comes. First of all, we can't make the other person feel like you're targeting him, so it's really hard to be right about the right person.

Then when there is a conflict, we have to control our emotions, ease the atmosphere (suddenly insert the sentence "You are so handsome (beautiful) today") and then analyze the pros and cons of the conflict to find the essence of the problem.

Finally, make the answer to the problem, give more solutions, let each other have a choice, and choose the best solution.

Lin is similar to the method.

Lin Xiangru returned to Zhao because of his complete return, defeated Qiang Qin, kept He's Bi, maintained the dignity of the country, and finally ranked above Lian Po, which made Lian Po, who claimed to be a war meritorious, very dissatisfied, and even threatened to humiliate Lin Xiangru in public, seeing that the war between the two sides was about to break out.

However, Lin Xiangru adopted the method of "calling the illness not to go to court, leading the car to avoid, and not contending", successfully resolved the contradiction, and finally Lian Po was guilty of pleading, which became a beautiful talk that people praised by mouth.

So, we have to be calm, calm, and calm when we encounter interpersonal conflicts. You must not be emotional, think more about the consequences, and think twice.

Taking a step back and making concessions does not mean cowardice, which can not only buffer contradictions, but also avoid the escalation of conflicts.

It's normal not to be able to deal with conflicts, many people don't deal with them, the key is to think about what exactly you want, or which thing is best for you, so that you know how to choose.