How to deal with a selfish and rude roommate?

A university is a small society that gathers students from all over the country, and even if there are exchange students at some schools, there will also be foreign students, so the university is like a small society. And each person's personality is different, the attitude is different, the hobbies and habits are different, and the culture of each region is different, there will be all kinds of troubles. Roommates are the first people you met in college and spent the longest time together, so it is important to have a good relationship with roommates in the dormitory and become harmonious.

And there are four people in some dormitories, but the homes of the four people are not in the same place, take my classmates as an example, it is also our class, their dormitory is next door to our dormitory, we are a dormitory of four people, and their dormitories are Sichuan, Guangdong, Xi'an, Henan, sometimes they can't understand what they talk to.

I've always been particularly annoyed with selfish people, and before I went to college, if my friend or roommate was a selfish person, I wouldn't hang out with them anymore. And in college, because I am in a foreign country and I am not familiar with the place, the first thing I know is a dormitory, so if my college roommate is selfish or impolite, I will not ignore him, because it is a bit unrealistic, I will talk to him at an appropriate time about it, and if he doesn't listen, I won't say too much, I will only be less attentive to him in my later life, because you are selfish, so I also have the right to be selfish. However, generally speaking, we all know that college is unfamiliar with life, so when the other party talks about their shortcomings, they will generally accept it, and in this way, they will be together as well as before.

If you have a selfish and impolite roommate, try not to have conflicts, because more is better than less, and peace is always better than war, so take a step back when it's time to take a step.

If people can get along with each other, it is a beautiful thing. But what should you do if you meet a roommate who doesn't respect you in your school life? In the author's opinion, in fact, we can work from the following three aspects:

1. Understand why the other person doesn't respect you.

If the roommate has a bad opinion of you because he has listened to some rumors, and thus disrespects you, then you need to find a way to clear up the rumors and let the other person see that you are actually a good person. When the other party's misunderstanding of you is cleared up, it will naturally give you a certain amount of respect. Of course, if it is the personality of the other party and has little to do with you, then you don't need to pay attention to the other party at this time.

At this time, you can be at peace with each other, there is no need to be demanding about how the other party treats you, and there is no need to lower your own figure to cater to the other party.

2. Try to avoid being alone with each other.

If this roommate and your aura really don't match, as long as the two of you are alone, it is easy to seem to be looking at each other, at this time you can ask to change roommates, or take the initiative to change the dormitory. If the school doesn't allow it, you can try to avoid the opportunity to be alone with the other person. Of course, at this time, you should pay attention to protect your personal privacy, and never let the other party rummage through your things, or take pictures of you.

When you find out that the other person is saying bad things about you behind your back, you also have to learn to clarify for yourself.

3. Don't take the initiative to provoke the other party.

For those who don't know how to respect us, in addition to avoiding each other as much as possible, we should also be careful not to take the initiative to provoke each other. Although we are not afraid of trouble, we cannot take the initiative to stir up trouble. Therefore, when you can maintain a superficial peace as much as possible, don't take the initiative to tear each other up, so as not to make a bad appearance on both sides.

Furthermore, although the other party does not respect us, we can't do things without taste, so let's try to maintain our "gentleman's character". Don't worry too much about each other, so as not to lower your own style.

You must retaliate with a tooth for a tooth, you don't need to be reasonable with those who are unreasonable, you should show your bottom line, you can say something ugly, the means can be ruthless, and you must make him afraid.

If he doesn't respect you, in fact, you can also disrespect him, just say what you want to say, private communication may not be useful, then embarrass him in public, know that you are not easy to mess with.

The best thing to do is to ignore it, the other party does not respect you, and you don't need to have anything to do with the other party, because you are just a simple roommate, and the relationship does not think about the development of friends, just treat it like a stranger.

If the other party seriously offends you, you can reason with the other party and let the other party know that you are not easy to mess with, and he will restrain himself.

If the other party doesn't respect you, in fact, you can not talk to the other party, the process of getting along is mutual, if the other party is not very good to you, you can also ignore it.

In fact, in the face of this kind of roommate, cold and violent treatment can be done, which can make the other party very embarrassed and realize their mistakes.

It's better to stay away from her roommate who doesn't respect you, try to avoid too much contact, and it's better not to disturb each other.

If my roommate doesn't respect me, I tell them right that it's wrong. At the same time, I will communicate well with each other, and I will say that it is a kind of fate that we can live together, and we must get along well.