How do you deal with friends who have three wrong views?

<> I think people with wrong views shouldn't be particularly good friends, at most they are ordinary friends, so I think it's good to get by since you are ordinary friends, there's no need to care so much, some things if you can't get used to it, why hold on tightly, so you are not happy.

I have a friend, I think she is the kind of person who has three views very wrong, I think such a person has something to do with the family environment in which she grew up, why do you say that her three views are not right, once in the dormitory she washed her hair and sat next to the radiator to call her mother**, my bed happened to be the closest one to the radiator, so what she said could be heard clearly, it should have been her mother who asked you about the bunk, she said home, his mother asked what she was doing when she went to school, and then she said: Oh, she had a headache and went home to see a doctor, I think she has a brain problem and needs to take a look at it. I don't think I would say this to my mom under normal circumstances, because as soon as I say it, my mom usually criticizes me first no matter what the occasion, no matter whose fault it is, you can't say that about others, but her mom doesn't seem to say anything, so she acquiesces in her daughter's insulting behavior of her roommate, so I say what kind of family really raises what kind of child.

And what I don't understand is that when you are alone, just say it, in front of a bunch of us, do you think we will not tell the parties? Do you feel that you have such a high status in our hearts? Another thing that is intolerable is that she often scolds people in the space!

It's not the kind that doesn't name but is close to naming and scolding.,Scolding her for bunk many times and then holding her down to class like a nobody.,Every time I see it, I feel like it's not a child.,Why do you have to tear it in the space.,It's really naïve.。

If you want to talk about friends who have three wrong views, I really have one. He was a classmate of mine in college, a boy, and we were still in a school-level organization, so we often saw each other. I didn't think he was like anything at first, and I wasn't very familiar with him at the beginning, that is, to meet and say hello.

Later, before the change of our organization, there was a system of ** deputy department, and we both went to manage the affairs of the department together every day, so we had more contact. At that time, he would tell me every day how awesome he was in the team, how good he was with their captain, and he would blow to me, and I would just listen to it, and I didn't take it seriously when my left ear went in and out of my right ear.

Originally, I thought he was just bragging, but then I found out that it was really wrong. It was one time that another male classmate of mine was in physical education class, also from our department, and I went to play with him, and we had a good chat, but he went and started to be there. He said to ask my male classmate to call another person out to beat someone, and I said you can call it yourself, why do you have to pull a cushion, and he didn't want to listen.

Later, he said there that there are no real friends, only real interests (helpless), you don't treat others as friends, and of course others will not treat you as friends. He can't catch up with a girl, he's going to ruin someone's house, what the hell is, he said that since he was a child, his father told him that the twisted melon is not sweet, but it can be eaten, I just hehe, no wonder he is like this, this is the upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked.

At the beginning, I talked to him about my heart, reasoning or something, but later I found that it was useless, he didn't listen at all, so he recognized his own death. Yes, he also said a sentence "I know I did wrong, but I don't change it" I tm, since that's the case, I won't say it, what's the meaning of playing the piano to the cow, and then I will ignore him, I'm afraid that he will bring me crooked (fortunately, the relationship with him is not very good) <>

Don't convince each other, be respectful and tolerant of each other.

And the real disagreement between the three views is very serious, you even feel that you will fight with each other if you say a word, and the two of you together are a battlefield of gunsmoke. And there will not be anyone who will match each other completely, they will all run in with each other and learn from each other. In this way, we can get along more harmoniously.

The answer is fully accepted. If a person has been surrounded by friends with similar three views since he was a child, and suddenly makes a friend with different three views in the future, there is no need to worry, it does not mean that you cannot continue to communicate. Therefore, it is necessary to accept it in its entirety and not reject it from the bottom of your heart. 2/6

Choose the right topic. With different views, both sides will have different opinions on a certain topic, which may lead to arguments between the two sides. Therefore, when you meet people with different views, it is best to talk about the topic that can be accepted by both parties, and if it becomes more and more intense, it is best to stop the discussion. 3/6

Avoid awkward topics. When both parties almost understand the differences in each other's views, they should avoid embarrassing topics in a timely manner. It's much easier than nothing to talk about. If you hate discussing with people who have different views, then don't argue. 4/6

Learn to respect everyone's ideas. People with different views have different ideas, and both sides will never reach reconciliation if they want to support each other's ideas, so we must respect their ideas. Don't try to change them, it may invite unpleasantness5 6

If the three views do not agree, then this is a very serious problem. I have a college classmate who will say that there is a disagreement in everything, and it makes me feel very uncomfortable. There will be some small friction between people, but this does not affect the normal communication between us.

When getting along with people who don't agree with the three views, we should find our own shortcomings in the process of getting along, find out what they are not doing well enough, find out what they are doing better than us, and try to learn from them. Maybe we should be humble, maybe we can ask them more and ask them what they are not doing well enough.

Seriously, people with different views really can't get along together, if they insist on being together, one party will always be angry, and the conversation will always break up unhappily. That's why people often say, looking for friends, looking for a partner, you must skip those who don't agree with your three views, otherwise, you will be very tired.

Friends who don't agree with their three views, I think the relationship can only stay at the level of ordinary friends, and it is impossible to become intimate friends. When the two parties get together together, there will always be a situation of "not speculating for more than half a sentence". Such friends should either reduce the number of gatherings, or they should gather with other friends and not be alone.

Making friends is the same as finding a partner, we all like to associate with people who have the same three views. People with the same three views get along very happily and naturally, and the two sides have endless topics to talk about, and there are many common views, which will make each other feel sorry for each other. The most feared situation of making friends is to encounter the type of three views that do not match.

If you have such a friend, it is recommended to deal with it in the following way.

1. Reduce the chance of getting together, friends who have different views will feel uncomfortable with each other when they get along together. The two sides have opposite views on the same issue, and in such a situation, it is already a blessing to be able to get along in harmony and not to fight. When both parties feel that the other person is not listening, they should reduce the interaction between the two parties.

Many friends who used to be good later became friends with different views because of their personalities and experiences. The relationship between the two has gradually changed from best friends to ordinary friends, and the contact between them has become less and less.

2. When inviting other friends to get together with friends who do not agree with the three views, it is best not to get along alone, so that both parties will not appear embarrassed. When they are alone, the two have no common topic, and they will feel awkward and embarrassed when they sit together and do not talk. The best way to deal with this situation is to invite two mutual friends, after there are more people, there will be more topics, and the chat partners you can choose will become hidden.

When a group of people gather together, people will also choose to get along with friends who are close to them and can talk to. If you don't talk to your own speculative friends, you will naturally stay away.

Of course, in life, friends who can be friends for a long time must be close friends, and both parties have a lot of common topics. The three views do not match the type, and on the road of getting along, they have gradually drifted apart.

Everyone is different, there is no need to force others to think the same as your own, and respecting others is also a kind of cultivation. True friends don't care about disagreement or disagreement, if it's just an ordinary friend, then it's good to give it up, and it's not necessary for him.

In the face of this situation, we must find the common hobbies and common topics of the two people, and the two people must learn to tolerate and understand each other in the process of getting along and communicating.

It is possible to gradually alienate such friends. Gradually distance yourself from him, so that you can feel better.

If two people don't have the same three views, the two of you can't be friends, and you can slowly stay away from such friends.

Friends who don't agree with each other shouldn't get along anymore, so it can only bring a lot of unhappiness to themselves, the longer they get along, the more contradictions, it's better to part ways as soon as possible, and disagree with each other, this sentence is very reasonable.

I think friends who don't agree with each other should also get along, because although they are related, there is always something in common, and I don't think friends need to ask so much.

No, since the three views do not agree, it proves that the lifestyle, habits, etc. of the two people are not the same, and there will definitely be a lot of quarrels between them, and they don't understand, rather than the two people who have been arguing, it is better to separate.

If friends who don't agree with each other, there is really no need to get along, or just be ordinary friends, usually meet occasionally, say hello, like this.

As the saying goes, different ways don't conspire with each other!

No, the so-called things gather like and people are grouped, and people who do not agree with the three views are easy to conflict and cannot understand each other.

Of course not. Because two people don't have the same views, and two people won't have a common language, there is no need to force it.

It shouldn't go on, because it's no longer necessary, and there are already problems in the relationship, and there won't be a good result together.

Should find a particularly good way. In this way, two people will be very happy to get along, and there will not be many contradictions.

Keep your distance and don't let others affect you.

First of all, people with wrong views will look at things and problems differently from people with positive views, which makes it easier to have contradictions and disputes.

Secondly, people with incorrect views will also have a difference in how they do things and how they speak, and if you get along with them, it is easy to affect your emotions.

Thirdly, don't try to change other people's three views, or argue with others about any problems, this is related to personal growth environment and education since childhood, and it is difficult to correct.

So the best way is to keep your distance from him and be yourself.

Try to communicate, if you can't communicate, you can refuse.

It is recommended to try the following methods:

1. Silence. Stay away from this kind of person as much as possible, and if you can't stay away, talk to him as little as possible. This is a common method used by philosophers throughout the ages.

3. Summoning your own Tianyi nobles.

Eliminate your own eight characters and find out your own Tianyi nobles. Then wear the nobleman's ornaments or chant the nobleman's name. Inevitably:

The nobleman who was found out was a rooster. You can recite the words "Amitabha Buddha" repeatedly when you are walking to and from work. In this way, you can quickly inspire your nobles and get rid of bad karma.

4. Recite the Buddha directly.

Closing your eyes and closing your mouth and chanting the Buddha in your heart can avoid calamity, and it is true.

The method is to recite "Nam no Amitabha". You can get an incredible turnaround.

This is the method of reciting the Buddha directly to adjust the mind, which has been widely proven to be effective, and it is especially important that reciting the Buddha can change the fortune in all directions and achieve many of your rational thoughts, which is true. Here's how:

1) When no one is around, chant aloud: Nam no Amitabha Buddha (recite ten times for two seconds, and then recite ten times and ten times.) ）

2) When working, recite aloud with your mouth: Nam no Amitabha (feel with your ears, come to listen).

3) Impurity, meditate in the heart: Nam no Amitabha Buddha (perceive with the heart).

4) If you can't chant the Buddha at any time, it is recommended to use your mobile phone to set the alarm clock and recite the Dharma nine times a day: ten times before and after going to bed (2 times); Recite 10 times (3 times) before eating; Recite this 10 times before and after work (4 times).

If you can do a good deed every day, when you do 1,000 good deeds, and recite the Buddha 1 million times, there will be a great induction return, so that you can be physically and mentally comfortable, and you will have good luck and eliminate bad karma! 】

It is a very regrettable, distressing and difficult thing to accept to suddenly find that the three views are different from those of friends. But sometimes we have to distinguish that the difference between the three views and the collapse of the three views are different concepts. People's three views are diverse, and there are no two people in this world who have exactly the same three views.

If the other party is just different from you, not the collapse of the three views, and this person has a good character and cultivation, in fact, he can be friends, or even good friends. You already cherish your friendship and don't want to lose this friend, but it's not necessary to give up a very good friend just because of a temporary difference in three views. In fact, in the days to come, when meeting or gathering with each other, as long as you talk less about things involving the three views, talk more about things with common topics, and seek common ground while reserving differences, so that you can avoid embarrassment and unhappiness, and the friendship can be maintained.

If the other party belongs to the collapse of the three views, the other party's three views are simply disgusting and even disgusting, and such friends have to stay away. Even if you can't cut through the mess quickly, you must gradually drift away and slowly distance yourself.

Everyone is growing up in the family of origin.

If the environment, the people and things he comes into contact with, the way he feels and sees the world will be different. We generally tend to be "like-minded", that is, the three views are close, so that we can get along with a high degree of integration and fewer contradictions, but because you and your friends have roughly the same view of things, sometimes your thinking is more fixed, and your view of things will be limited.

If your friend is inconsistent with your three views, for example: you say that girls are still thinner and better-looking, but your friends think that women are better looking and healthier when they are fat, then you will think of the Tang Dynasty, where fat is the beauty, and you will know that the standard of beauty is not the only one.

Therefore, having a friend with different views from yours is actually an opportunity for self-thinking to constantly update and improve. If you really can't accept some of your friends' opinions, you can smile at them, after all, everyone lives their lives according to what they want and do, and what you need to learn is to be accepting and inclusive.