What should I do The one who hesitates is me 5

Give it up! Outer beauty is temporary, but inner beauty is epochal, you can't help but admit that you are attracted to her appearance, because you have been emphasizing that she is beautiful, but you have thought that there is no day when she will also grow old, at that time are you sure that you will still like her? Don't judge them by their beauty and education, feel them with your own heart!

Feel which one is the one you are looking for, and which one is the one who can accompany you through your life!

Of course, because you vaguely feel that she is not very happy, you are actively taking care of her, and the girls who look calm on the surface are not necessarily the kind of people you think they live, because God has not given them this talent, such as: beautiful, open-minded, free and easy, and free from gains and losses. I don't know what your view of life is, some people are bland, some people are slapstick, my idea is to intersperse some funny stories in the main line of harmony, romance may not be enough, but humor and warmth are indispensable.

Sympathize, let's be honest: you just like her beauty, why are you bothered? It's because of her character shortcomings: drinking and playing. Wait a minute.

These disadvantages outweigh the advantages, what more do you love about her?

If you really like her, then you have to adapt to her.

So it has something to do with her age.1 "Environment Makes Life"1

Calm down for 10 minutes and weigh the pros and cons.

1. Calm down for 10 minutes.

If you decide to do it within 10 minutes, don't have any worries, and if you don't do it, don't think about everything related to it.

2. Weigh the pros and cons.

If you do this, when the benefits outweigh the disadvantages, you have to decide to do it, and don't have any worries, because procrastination will cost you more than not making a decision. Sometimes there are many such things in life, so it's good to decide according to the situation.

Here's how to make a quick decision:

1. Know your goals. Knowing what to expect in a given situation can help you work accordingly and take steps to work towards that goal.

The goal should be to look forward to the future and think about what you hope to accomplish. It's important to know what you want before you work towards your goals. Keeping these things in mind will help you develop the best plan to achieve your goals.

2. Collect evidence and weigh the pros and cons. Assess the evidence** to understand the pros and cons of each option. Knowing what to expect, for better or worse, can help you make informed decisions.

Write down the pros and cons side-by-side for comparison so they can be better measured.

I haven't been online for a long time recently, and I'm sorry for being late in replying. Seeing your account of the recent relationship between the two of you, you can feel your hesitation and confusion. In fact, judging from your narrative, your view of the marriage and lifestyle of two people together has changed completely.

You begin to think about how you should face the lover you once thought you were familiar with after going through so many things, and you begin to see the characteristics and shortcomings of your previous relationship, marriage, life and your own personality and psychology, but this is only the beginning. You see all kinds of problems, but you don't have a clear plan for your future, so you subconsciously don't want to face the events that once made you sad again, but on the other hand, you are worried about whether you will be able to face a new future.

In addition, you have changed a lot now, and now you, I think, have reflected a lot on yourself, your lover, your family, your marriage and even your life, but the lover you live with may not have changed much. He is still living on the track he is used to, and hopes that you can also return to the track you used to be to cater to yourself, but once a person's growth begins, it will not go back to the past, so your question should not be "how to choose between love and reality", but whether you have the determination and confidence to wait for his change.

In the face of your confusion, I still can't give you an answer, because the problem you are facing is an unknown problem that does not depend on your will and my will - we don't know if your efforts will usher in the change and growth of our lover, we can only decide whether we try hard and wait, or give up and start our lives again. I don't have the ability to give you the answer in such a simple question and answer, which even for a professional psychologist, may require a long period of counseling, and it will require the joint efforts of you and your lover.

But I think that after going through these twists and turns, no matter what choice you make, you will be more peaceful and mature in the face of your loved ones and loved ones in life, and wish you happiness.

I don't know how you think about emotions and material things.

If it were me, I would choose matter, which is what you call reality.

Because what's the use of light romance If reality is not important, it is impossible for two people to be romantic on an empty stomach, right?

And I feel that a wavering person like him who drags mud and water is not suitable for LZ.

You can see that you really want a stable life.

How you decide depends on whether you still love him.

If you don't love it, it's better to let go of both of you.

Answering hesitation is not being able to make up your mind, not knowing the state of mind that occurs when choosing left or right. Mental hesitation. Because there is something that prevents the decision from being made, but the formation of this obstacle is the decision made by the heart.

If you want to go back, let him come and invite you and show his sincerity.

Choose one or the other, and flip a coin.

Choose one more and throw the dice.

How much youth do girls have? Or choose the comparative value of love

People who are hesitant do not have self-confidence. I always feel that the world is changeable, and I suffer from gains and losses.

This is because you have not experienced the winds and waves, the heart-wrenching experience. Or maybe you've been living under the wings of others.

In short, you are a person who has no self-confidence, always feels inferior to others, and lacks the ability to think decisively when making decisions.

You must know that nothing is perfect, and no one is perfect. Indecision is sometimes a shortcoming, but it is not necessarily fatal.

There are a lot of things that you can't do all at once.

Because you think about more things than others, or because you have more concerns than others, you are unable to make a decision, which causes you to feel that you are hesitant to do things that others can do vigorously, but you are always procrastinating with you.

Don't worry about that.

You should take advantage of this, and think carefully and carefully in the big things. It's a small thing, it's nothing, you can change it slowly.

If you think too much, you hesitate. Torturing yourself mentally will only make you more distant from your goal.

People only grow up after going through some things.

That's what we have to face

We turned our grief and anger into strength, and not far away, there was a dazzling light, Lulu

Actually, you are shiny, and you can do all of this very well.

Don't be too pushy of yourself, believe that you will definitely be able to

Some things or some things, some people, when people have it, do not know how to cherish it, love it, once it is lost, they feel the preciousness of its existence and the value of use, but all regrets are irretrievable.

If you want to repeat your studies, you have to give your parents some, I hope you will say, you have a better plan, you will work harder to get into a good school, maybe your parents don't want to pay for the tuition you are responsible for, or he thinks you should go to school earlier, a good job in the future is based on realistic considerations, your parents are realistically right, because they may love the family's situation, or their realistic plans. Or they have a shallow vision, they don't understand academic qualifications, in fact, in this society is still very important, junior college and undergraduate or, some famous universities and ordinary schools really still have a lot of gaps.