After marriage, should I use the money I earn to decorate my mother s house?

Why not? First of all, you have to know that it is no other person, it is not an outsider, that is your mother, that is the one who gave birth to you and raised you, raised you, and once provided you with the best family and the best life, as well as countless people of encouragement and love, your mother earned money to support you when you were young, cooked and laundry for you, cleaned your house and tidyed up your room, and gave you the best she could give you, including the cost of school, the cost of living, and love and support. And now that you have grown up and have your own financial ability, why don't you use this money to give back to your mother who is so good to you?

Your mother used to give you so much selflessly, and now that you are just married and have built a new family with others, aren't you their children, shouldn't you be filial to them?

Paying for them to renovate the house is just a small thing, but from this small thing you can see your current attitude towards your parents. I have to say that I am very dissatisfied with your current state of mind.

Because you start to treat your parents as outsiders, you start to pretend to be more about yourself than them, you become selfish, you don't filial to them wholeheartedly, you treat them as your closest people. Or can you and your husband be honest enough to renovate your parents-in-law's house or buy a new house, but have to calculate twice about giving your mother some money to renovate the house?

Have you forgotten the dowry your parents gave you when you got married?

Or do you know it, unknowingly, when marriage becomes a transaction, and when you exchange the bride price and dowry back and forth, you are no longer their children, but completely become a member of your husband's family? To be honest, it's just the old feudal thinking, for me, in fact, you are still the most precious children of your parents, and your parents are still the closest people in the world, you can pay for them, it doesn't matter.

First of all, it is necessary to understand that even if the money you earn after marriage is the joint property of the husband and wife.

It is worth affirming that you have this filial piety, but this matter must be discussed with your husband. If the husband agrees, then it is definitely possible.

If your husband doesn't agree, then you can only communicate with your husband and find a plan that is acceptable to both of you.

Originally, it was a good thing to decorate the house for my mother, but if the communication was not in place, the two couples were estranged, and the gains outweighed the losses. <

Filial piety for parents is the responsibility of every child, but while fulfilling our responsibilities, don't forget that there is a husband behind you who needs you to communicate well, and you can't use the money you earn to secretly decorate your mother, this practice is definitely not right, and it is not worth advocating.

We have to think about everything, you can decide where the money you earn, so can the money earned by the husband also decide where the money goes.

Or there is the kind of husband's money that is spent by the family, and earning his own money is his own wrong idea. This kind of thinking is the most important.

And how many children do you have in your family, who will my mother's house be given in the future, I feel that I should have a little bit in my heart. After all, the situation of an only child and an older brother is also slightly different.

After getting married, they become a small family, and each other will become the most important person in each other's lives. We should be honest with each other and work hard for each other, after all, we are all doing our best for the development of this family.

So I think it's okay for you to use the money you earn to renovate your mother's house, but it's part of the joint property. The husband must have the right to know.

After all, if your husband uses his own money to renovate the house directly for his mother-in-law, and doesn't tell you, your heart will still not be too comfortable.

It depends on the situation.

If your mother only has one daughter, and you can, it is feasible to renovate your mother's house. Because after all, she only has one daughter, and raising children is to prevent old age, since you are able to do so, why not? To put it mildly, the day she leaves, the house will still fall into your name.

If your mother has more than one daughter and has a son, the task of decorating the mother's house is generally undertaken by the son, which is the difference between the son and the daughter, the son is old-proof, and the daughter is married after all, and now she is someone else's daughter-in-law. If the son's condition is poor and the daughter's condition is good, it is okay to help his brother more. After all, they are brothers and sisters.

If you are a mother who has more than one daughter, two daughters or more daughters, then generally speaking, multiple daughters should share the burden.

In addition, after all, now that you are married, it is best to discuss with your husband in advance to decorate your mother's house after marriage, so as not to quarrel over some trivial matters.

The children are all married, whether he is happy or not, the two of us can live well by ourselves."

Although this is not a good sound, Dani is the same principle, whether you are married or not, you always have an identity that you cannot get rid of, that is, as the son of your parents. Yes, after getting married, you have your own family, a virtuous wife, and maybe a cute and naughty big fat son, but you always have a haven of your own, a haven from childhood to adulthood.

When I saw the opening sentence, I couldn't help but feel a chill in my heart, right? Silently muttering in my heart, how can I be so selfish as a parent, and at the same time, why don't I think about myself? As the old saying goes:

The grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated by a spring. And the parents of the body, without them, there is no perception of everything we have in this world, whether beautiful or sad, is this a little decoration after marriage can be repaid? <>

If your parents saved the cost of your education in those years, deducted your college living expenses, and took back everything that was given to you, how could you lack that little bit of renovation money now? Maybe you lack communication with your parents, you have saved a lot of holidays over the years, and your parents don't give you any good looks every time you go home, but can this cover up all the family affection that blood is thicker than water?

When you talk about filial piety, you can talk about it for three days and three nights, but why do you start to hesitate when it comes to yourself? It is natural to spend money for your parents, even if your parents don't appreciate it, but for yourself, you should keep your duty as a child.

It may be financially constrained for a while, but the money is with you in a different way, and the value they create in their parents' room may be much more fulfilling than in the bank than it is in the bank.

Does this require a lot of consideration? I don't understand it a bit.

Why don't you want to think about how hard your mom raised you? Why don't you want to think about how much time and money your mom has invested in you? Why don't you think about what you've done for your mom over the years?

Your mother's house needs to be renovated, and at this time, as a son, shouldn't you stand up as soon as possible and help your mother realize her wishes? Why are you holding back now? You can accept your mother's love as a matter of course, and you can enjoy your mother's care as a matter of course, because this is what your mother should do for you.

But when your mother needs your help, when your mother encounters something she can't solve, you are hesitating whether you should help your mother, but you are hesitating whether you want to maintain the money in your pocket, but you are hesitating whether to decorate it for your mother to live in!

Is this how you give back to your mom? Is this how grateful you are for your mother's years of nurturing? Is that why you grew up to exist without your mother?

I know that as a young generation now, life is very stressful, and that's true. But if you refuse to let your mother enjoy a better old age because of the pressure of your own life, I will think your mother is very cold.

Don't think that you have a future, don't think that there will be a next time, something is missed, it will be missed forever. While your mother is still alive, while you start to help your mother as much as you can, while you still have some thoughts, generously take out your savings and fulfill your mother's dream! At least let your mom know that you have a heart.

No matter what, if this house is in your mother's name,

The money you earn after marriage is the joint property of the husband and wife.

Everyone has their own opinions, let the man decorate the house is not good, he can not get married, and it is best not to use the bride price money to decorate.

Well, don't worry about it, if you want to divorce before you get married, or go to the premarital property notarization.

You can draft a statement!

It's not good to think about separating before you get married.

Are you going to get married, or are you waiting for the division of the family?

Loving someone isn't about being together for money!

The down payment part of the property counts as your wife's pre-marital property, the rest counts as your marital property, and the renovation part does not, if divorced your wife gets the down payment and half of the rest, you get the other half of the rest.

The right to distribute the divorced house can be negotiated by agreement between the two parties, if there is no way to reach a consensus, you can only take the legal route, but no matter who pays for the house, as long as there is proof of the money, you can maintain your legal expediency through the law.

Both of them have contributed money, and if they really divorce, they should be half of each.

This matrimonial house is for you to bear the debts together, so legally speaking, the property is half for one person after the divorce.

In fact, it doesn't matter if there is one, don't hurt your feelings because of a little money. Besides, the title deed is in the names of the two of you, no. It's okay to live well, but if it's not good, you can only keep some eyes on it now and keep some evidence of your deposit and loan repayment.

Eldest sister, don't care if your parents want your money or not As a daughter, you should give money to your parents first if you have the ability They will praise it for the rest of their lives, and it will be difficult for money You ask your husband to make a note for your parents. If it's good, don't say anything, it doesn't matter if the money is not repaid, if it's not good, the property is yours, and you won't be able to tell in the future.

The house is in your name, that is to say, it is your joint property, and if you divorce, it is also half of you, even if you give your parents an IOU, if there are no other witnesses, it is not efficient

Hello landlord, your purpose is to keep a hand, for fear that if something goes wrong in the future, the money from your parents will not be lost in vain. In fact, it is very simple, when the money for the down payment of the house is paid to transfer the money in the name of the parents or let the parents pay to sign and leave the basis and keep it in the parents, when decorating, let the parents sign the contract with the decoration company and attach it to your full supervision, and the parents pay to sign or transfer the money in the name of the parents and then leave the basis, in case of any problems in the future, you only need to take out these evidences, you can ensure that your parents pay this part of the rights and interests (that is, your pre-marital property). And the part of your loan repayment after marriage, whether your husband makes money alone or the two of you make money to repay the loan, this part is the joint property of your husband and wife.

In this way, you will be evened out on both sides, and you will not let your husband feel faceless, if you are defensive, don't reveal these things to your husband and do it yourself. Hopefully, this advice will help you solve your problems. I wish you a lifetime of love between husband and wife!

Why not work together? In this way, after getting married in the future, he will have an equal status in the family, otherwise he will feel that this family is supported by him alone after a long time... Now he may say no, who will say in the future?

Maintain the relationship between you and strive for it.

With such a strong boyfriend, my heart is strong. In the future, he will be a good housekeeper! Struggle with him and build a nest of love!

If there's room for negotiation, talk to your stepdad first and pay attention to the recording. Record all the money paid by your mom when chatting, find a way to get your stepdad to admit it, and keep the evidence! It was best to be able to negotiate half of the points.

I can't negotiate a lawsuit with a lawyer. If you have a lawyer, you must consult a lawyer first, and find a way to negotiate and collect evidence!

It's hard to say, find out the evidence of your mother's money first, and then ask the lawyer.

Persuade her to live well, mother's money is still yours in the end, why do you have to ask for it now.

Because this is a house purchased after marriage, it is a joint property of husband and wife, and if you want to transfer the property to you, it is natural to ask for your father's signature and consent.

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