How do you get along with unqualified classmates?

When I was in school, I always met some unreasonable and unqualified classmates. I feel that there is a problem with their world view, outlook on life, and values, which makes the people who get along with him so tired.

However, a child's lack of education and quality from an early age is inseparable from the education of parents, so as parents, we must establish the correct three views for our children! <>

When I was in elementary school, I had a tablemate who was young at the time, and it was normal for me to think that this child was not behaving well. The reason for the matter is because of a box of watercolor pens. The first time I took art class, I forgot to bring watercolor pens, and the teacher said that my classmates should help each other, and the girl was my tablemate, although she was reluctant, she still lent me watercolor pens.

I only used the watercolor pen once when I was a child, and the next day the child said I needed to buy her a new box of watercolor, and of course I didn't want to, so I argued with her for a while.

It was a small thing, I don't know why his father came, and threatened and intimidated me to buy new watercolors, and said that I should stop bullying his daughter, but the fact seems to be that his daughter bullied me.

I don't know why, I didn't dare to tell my family about it at that time, so I endured it and saved up my breakfast money to buy watercolors. When I grew up, I felt that this classmate was not qualified because his parents were not qualified, in fact, I should tell the teacher about it, then I would not be so wronged.

When I go to college, I still encounter such unqualified classmates. There is a girl in my dormitory, who is quite beautiful, but her behavior is not good.

She has some bad habits, such as piling up her garbage next to the cabinet and not cleaning it up, and there is a big smell in the bedroom, which I and three other roommates take turns cleaning up. These are small problems, we can do everything we can for her, it's okay.

However, the nature of the problem of taking things casually and stealing things is really serious. At first, our snacks would inexplicably decrease, and we found out, but we thought we had forgotten about it, so we didn't pay much attention to it.

Later, the ** I bought would lack such a piece or two, and I thought I forgot it after I used it. Later, it was not just snacks that were lost, but jewelry and cash were lost. <>

The necklaces and earrings I bought were all sterling silver, not priceless but not cheap, and sometimes they disappeared when they were bought back, and the money they put on the table would be gone.

When we caught her, she didn't admit it, and when we said we were going to intervene, she confessed to us. Therefore, we cannot tolerate this kind of unqualified students, and we must deal with them as we want, and we must protect our own rights and interests.

Being able to be together with classmates is actually a very fateful thing, everyone will cherish the friendship between classmates very much, but some people will have very poor quality, people are very reluctant to associate with these people, even classmates will be far away. I believe that there will be such students in many classes, and many people will choose differently. Some people choose to avoid them, for fear that they will be infected after contact with them; Some students will be very caring and want to change each other's habits in their own way.

For some people who choose to stay away, what they do is actually not wrong, after all, parents do not want their children to play with unqualified classmates, and they will inevitably close themselves when they grow up with such an education. I believe that most people's choices will be the same as theirs, and even look down on unqualified classmates, which is understandable. Of course, choosing to stay away will also have certain benefits, which can make your life more pure, whether it is high school or junior high school, it will not affect your mind, which will indirectly affect your academic performance.

For those who have the courage to approach them and want to influence each other's classmates, it may seem like a stupid thing in the eyes of others, but only they know that they are doing a very meaningful thing, and the quality of this thing is actually very large on the one hand, according to family education, parents' education methods, if you really change each other's habits through your own efforts, it is a great achievement. Even if it definitely affected their own learning and delayed their study time, they still had a sense of justice, and their actions after contact proved that it was all worth it.

No matter which way you want to face this reality, you have your own reasons and positions. Getting along with classmates is a very knowledgeable skill, and it will be even more difficult to maintain a good relationship between them.

When we go to school, we will inevitably meet a lot of people, some classmates are the kind of family education is very good, of course, we will also meet some classmates who are dirty every day. The usual garbage is also thrown away casually, without a little quality. So what to do, I am very reluctant to come into contact with such a person.

But because it's a classmate, I usually have to get along slowly. I'll tell you about my own way of dealing with it, and I hope it will be of some use to you as well.

In fact, everyone has their own thoughts, that is, if we want to make them get along a little better, then we have to make them convince you of a certain aspect. Some of the people in our dormitory make garbage all day long, and then it's hateful that this person doesn't clean up, so I also know that such people are actually lazy and just personal habits. I know that there is a saying, "Do not do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

So I cleaned up every day, and then I went and bought a garbage can. In addition to putting my own garbage in the trash can every day, I also have to clean his place. It's only about a week.

I said to him, now I won't help you. After that, you will clean up by yourself every day. Slowly change your laziness.

Then the other roommates started talking about him as well, and then our dorm became very clean. <>

In fact, people are all in their hearts. You've done a good job and convinced them. They also know you're doing the right thing.

Although some people will feel faceless at the beginning, and then give you two sentences. At this time, you can ignore him. Then he knew he was going to change.

It's a good idea to remember to connect with the rest of your dorm room, or the other friends around you. Only by doing so can things be solved better, and it will also make your classmates more qualified. I call this cold violence.

I'm a student, and the most contact around me is the students, to tell you the truth, there are all kinds of people around me, there are all kinds of people around me, there are scholars who don't eat the fireworks of the world, there are geniuses who don't listen to classes and have excellent exam results, and there are also idle scumbags who are idle all day long, how to get along with these people, of course, different people use different methods, as for how to get along with people who have no quality, I really have to think about it.

I remember that when I was in the third year of junior high school, I got along with a girl's personality or something, so the two of us ate and fetched water together, and we were inseparable every day. But one of her biggest flaws is that she likes to speak ill of others behind her back and laugh at others. For example, when we used to walk together on the road, there was a chubby girl walking in front of her, and she looked a little strange, and then she said to me with a sneer, "Look at how that child walks, in fact, I didn't feel good at that time, it was the girl's physical defects, but we used it to have fun, which was very bad."

But at that time, I was not able to say anything, and I was afraid that she would turn against me, so I nodded silently and didn't say anything. <>

Now I really understand that this is not quality. If you have such people around you, don't worry, listen to me. If this person is a very good friend of yours, then you must reason with him and explain that it is not right to do so, and that we should be good citizens with quality.

If this person is just your ordinary classmate or friend, you can persuade him properly or ignore him completely, if he is really the kind of person who has no quality, he will not accept your affection. As for you, there is no need to feel sorry for the loss of these friends, you should try to be yourself and set a good example for those who you may change!

In my opinion, it depends on how you have a relationship with this classmate, if the relationship is okay, then you can tell him directly, but if the relationship is not good, then you just need not to be friends with him in the future, or stay away from her, and you don't need to worry about anything here.

If it were me, I'd leave it alone. Because for this kind of person, it's actually good to ignore him directly, sometimes you worry too much, which will make you more angry, so at this time you should keep a normal attitude and face him again. Because you have to believe that even if you are classmates with this person, it will only be for a short time, and you don't have much interaction every day.

As a classmate, I would deal with this issue like this:

1.If a third party (such as a teacher or parent) needs to intervene, avoid the advantage of the other party's quibbling and use other ways to deal with the problem.

I remember a story about a rag collector pedaling a tricycle, and the scrap on the car tore a little bit of the pants of a passing thug. The gangsters were not happy, so they insisted on telling the uncle to lose money, otherwise they would call the police.

The uncle had no money to pay, so he was taken to the police station. In the process of the police making notes, the thugs added fuel to the fire and described the incident, and the old man did not say a word during the whole process. The police were strange and asked the gangsters, is this uncle a dumb man?

He's dumb, but he's been yelling at him before, let go, give up. "Since everyone has warned you in advance, why don't you let it go? ”

Telling this story means that sometimes when we know that we can't debate the other party, we can use a roundabout way to let him say that sooner or later the key to the problem will be revealed.

2.Look at the importance of the things to be theorized. If this matter is very important to you, then you must decide whether Ding is Ding Mao or Mao.

If you are worried that you can't theoretically do it, on the one hand, you can read some basic books on logical thinking to exercise your logic; On the other hand, you can practice your mind in your spare time, imagine what the two sides may theorize about, how the other party may argue, how you should reply, and when you can't think of your own reply, you can tell the incident to someone you trust to see what he thinks.

If it's not important to you, you can ignore it. After all, it is inevitable to encounter a few unpleasant ones in your life, and there is no need to waste energy on them.

Asking that classmate is too egotistical.

To answer egoism, to put it bluntly, is a person who is self-righteous and overconfident, and to treat this kind of person must first affirm his self-confidence, but also point out his shortcomings in the case of sufficient facts, tell him that everyone's ideas have their own reasons and certain advantages, and after several communications, he will learn to accept and listen to the opinions of others in his daily work, and slowly change his self-righteous mentality.

Just some time ago, I was cleaning up with a few other classmates in the class, and we had just swept the garbage together and were about to dump it in the trash can, when a classmate from the outer class walked over to the dumplings and kicked the pile of garbage away, I was very angry and told the teacher directly, that the student was criticized. Poor quality students are really disgusting.

You can try to euphemistically express your disgust or dissatisfaction with his frequent quality Sanlian, after all, you are classmates, and since you asked this question, I guess I still want to be friends with him. Therefore, there is no need to come up and make the relationship particularly stiff. It also prevents the occurrence of phenomena such as dog bites Lu Dongbin.

If he is willing to accept your opinion, you as a friend can correct him in daily life. If he doesn't recognize his mistake in the slightest, he even sneers at you. It shows that these problems of his may not have been formed in a day or two.

Maybe he doesn't even think it's a problem anymore. Then there are two more paths ahead.

1.You don't plan to continue to make friends with him, so go your separate ways from now on.

2.If you still want to make friends with him, you can make it clear to him that you don't like the way he speaks, and you want him to be as restrained as possible in his contact with you.

In short, try not to have a head-on conflict with him as much as possible. The worst outcome is nothing more than not having this friend, as if you never knew each other.

I hate people like that very much. Just some time ago, when I was in a long queue to buy food in the cafeteria, suddenly a person was in front of me, and I was very angry, so I accused me of saying how can you cut in line? The man still looked reasonable.

But there were other classmates around me, and we all criticized her together, and in the end he had to walk away.