I hope that people who understand the contradictions of marital feelings will give me an answer

Children's nursery, anyway, to give 1000 yuan to the family, to the nursery is the same, if it is really what you said, such a girl is not a good mother, don't count on it, work hard yourself to bring it, or find a relative to help bring it, there is a woman who gave birth to a child for nothing, it's not bad. Wait for her to come back, ask about the situation, if you can, you can get by, if you can't, marry another one, what are boys afraid of, they can earn money to support their families, and some are willing to follow.

Most of her will come back, and if she can learn a lesson, she should still live together, I said, why doesn't your cousin make up his own mind? How can you not manage your own wife? With no backbone in this way, can the child have hope? Self-improvement is always right!

Your cousin can't be with him for the rest of his life, your cousin has to marry another daughter-in-law, the child can be sent to the civil affairs department, and you can wait for the daughter-in-law to leave the child's household registration behind. This kind of girl belongs to the girl with an empty heart, and as long as the family has money, he may come back.

It's better not to have this kind of girl! Even if she comes back, you have to think about whether or not to agree with her coming back, so that the same thing doesn't happen again in the future, and I believe that you said it, and you don't agree with them, why should you let your cousin suffer the same, or even worse, again, I believe that your cousin deserves a better girl.

If you want to live a peaceful life, find a girl in your hometown to marry. Even if she comes back, she is not a person to live.

Many couples who are very sweet during their love period find that reality is not as simple and beautiful as they think.

A couple of Sun Nest women's living platforms encountered such a problem.

Mr. Cuong and his wife have been together for eight years and have been married for almost four years.

When they were in love, Mr. Cuong and his wife lived happily ever after, and they were very affectionate for the first two years of their marriage. However, since the second year of marriage, there have been many conflicts between the couple. From buying a house and a car, supporting parents at home, to the trivial aspects of daily life.

When they quarrel, the two people either shout that they want to divorce, and when their anger is gone, they are reconciled; Or get angry and go to bed, and the next day it will be as if the quarrel didn't happen.

Recently, Mr. Cuong and his wife quarreled over these big and small contradictions, but this time they did not reconcile quickly, but had a cold war for nearly half a month. In desperation, Mr. Cuong came to the Sun Nest Women's Life Platform to ask for help from expert teachers.

Analysis of the expert teacher of the solar nest platform:

Many couples have experiences similar to Mr. Cuong's. The formation of a new family, the trivial matters of life, the sophistication of human feelings, and economic pressures are all places of contradiction and disagreement.

If they are not resolved in time, these conflicts can become the straw that crushes the marriage, and no one knows when they will erupt.

So, when a marriage encounters these contradictions, how do you resolve them?

1. Learn to respect each other.

Mutual respect and understanding can avoid many contradictions. When you're angry, you can't just want to run away or let your emotions wantonly hurt your partner.

Second, it is timely communication.

Communication is the best way to get people close, tell your partner directly what you want, what you want to do, and why you choose, try to understand each other. The fact is there, evasion will not make the contradictions disappear, but will allow the contradictions to accumulate, quarrels, and communication is only to better resolve the contradictions.

Third, don't try to change the other party and ask for the same while reserving differences.

Instead of changing yourself, you should change others.

Since two people can come together, love each other, and get married, it shows that the three views of husband and wife are roughly similar. The conflicts and quarrels encountered are only the result of temporary lack of communication. Don't force your partner to accept your own ideas and opinions, learn to find the same in differences, and couples demand the same differences.

Fourth, create content that belongs to husband and wife.

For example, creating your own love language, appropriately creating surprises and small gifts through compliments, will make couples feel closer and happier.

Message from the expert teacher of the Sun Nest Women's Life Platform:

There is no template for marriage management, but as long as both husband and wife want to manage their marriage well, all problems can be solved.

I hope that all couples can cherish the present and love their marriage and family.

Every family has a lot of conflicts, and it depends on how they deal with it.

<> "Contradictions in marriage are essentially this one problem.

I don't feel love.

01.The contradictions in marriage are all related to "why don't you love me".

Christopher Meng, a well-known intimacy expert, once said that we are initially attracted to someone mainly because they meet a need that we have not met since childhood, namely the importance of belonging and affirming ourselves.

That is to say, confirming the importance of oneself and finding one's sense of belonging is an important reason why many people approach marriage, so when there is a crisis in marriage, it is because one or both parties cannot determine their importance in each other's hearts, or cannot satisfy their respective sense of belonging, so they begin to question whether the love of two people exists.

is like the heroine Nicole in the movie "Marriage Story", she talked to the lawyer about her reason for divorce "He really can't see me, he doesn't treat me as something independent of him, I asked him to say my ** number, he didn't know, so I left", just because she didn't feel that she was important and unique in the other party's heart, and in that home, she didn't have a sense of belonging.

It can be seen that when there is a crisis in marriage, it must be that one party feels "why don't you love me?" ”

Feel that there is no penetration so that the accompaniment is consistent with the slip cavity.

02."Should thinking" is subjective and prone to disagreement.

When one party is asking, "Why don't you love me?" In fact, it means that you "should" love me.

is like Nicole in the film, she thinks that her husband Charlie "should" remember his ** number, and "should" regard himself as an independent "person", not his appendage, but such a "should" is not a "should" with Charlie

That is, "Why don't you love me?" This problem arises because the husband and wife do not agree on the "should".

Charlie, the husband in the film, doesn't feel that he has done anything wrong, nor does he feel that he "should" remember his wife's ** number, so the problems in the marriage are likely to be caused by one party's "should think".

In saying this, I do not mean to deny "should think", but to say that only when both husband and wife have the same "should" thoughts, will there be no contradictions and differences.

So, when there is a conflict in the marriage, we shouldn't just think, "Why don't you love me?" Instead, we should reflect on our "should" from our own perspective, so that we can see the differences between each other and find a way to solve the problem, otherwise we will be immersed in the question of "why" and will not be able to solve the problem.

In the world of two people, under the premise of love, they are willing to change for each other. If you empathize with each other from each other's point of view, you will understand that it is not easy for each other. Instead of blindly complaining about each other, I hope that all couples in the world can be more tolerant and less complaining.

Mr. Qian Zhongshu once said about marriage: Marriage is a besieged city, people outside the city desperately want to rush in, and people inside the city desperately want to rush out.

You have to remember that your role is more than just a wife.

Just ask yourself three questions, girlfriend really loves me, will it be good for her family? Will she be a good wife in the future? You can also compare who is better with your wife, anyway, friends must think twice before making a decision, otherwise they will regret it!

Go with your heart. Responsible like a man, since you are so much better than your previous girlfriend, then why did you marry your wife before.

I think you still don't want to divorce, your relationship is not shallow, and your wife has contributed a lot to the family and children.

Secondly, it is possible to continue to care for your ex-girlfriend and hope that she understands.

Don't say you're miserable.

Reflect on it.

In your narrative.

I can't see. You are the image of a son, a husband, a father.

I don't see your wife's.

Serious Crimes. Look at the time of your so-called girlfriend's relationship.

It should be after you get married.

What does this mean?

You don't change your ways.

You don't say you're in pain.

You say this.

Probably not worthy yet.

Even if you are really miserable.

There are no consequences, as long as the two get along well, the child is not a problem.

Since you are divorced, don't worry about those people, find a good man to marry!

Now that they are divorced, they have nothing to do with each other, and they have nothing to do with each other! If you still want to do this, remarry!

Why don't you collect evidence, he is at fault and the divorce should have less or no property.

You have to remember that your role is more than just a wife.

It is better to believe in yourself than to ask others to ......

Marriage requires a moderate amount of bluntness.

God doesn't close any doors and windows, but only tells you that there are doors and windows, and there are n laws to save other things. In fact, God will send n people (enlightenment) to "open the door."

This question shows that a woman is dissatisfied with her man, and that this man should strive to be better than the man she mentioned.

Feelings are the foundation of marriage, without this, you can't live, you have feelings, and you can be single-minded.

It may be for you to learn the virtues of that person.

Either it's your first love or you love that person very much.