Am I wrong about him? What do I mean I blame you?

Chicken? Good words! Hehe.

Not really, though. There are three purposes for those who play ambiguous: first, one party wants to play with the other, which can be distinguished from character and past history.

Second, both sides have a wait-and-see attitude, neither wants to make the first move, and both want the other party to make a good move first. Third, one side is the other party's plate, which can be eaten at any time, but it is not a delicacy, when you find a better one, take it and abandon you, when you can't find a better one, it is not too late to take you, because if you are separated from each other, you can take it at any time. This is the psychology of people who play ambiguous, which one do you think you are?

What kind of person is he?

Khan You're thinking too much, so it's better to go with the flow.

Soft persimmon psychology.

Frankly speaking, this kind of person is very calculating, they are well versed in the way of socializing, they are always able to exploit all kinds of loopholes, and they will use different methods to achieve their goals in the face of different people. Whenever I see those who have suffered losses but are silent, their psychology of pinching eggplants or burying soft persimmons immediately begins to move.

The reason why they have been able to succeed again and again is precisely because of their extremely low sense of social morality and rogue mentality. All kinds of struggle experiences have made them tried and tested repeatedly, so the soft persimmon psychology has become their logic and experience, and it has become a kind of communicative inertia.

In their consciousness, there are two common human natures: introspection and order. When there is a problem, they will take the lead and use the methods of questioning, doubting and scolding to deter the other party, find the problem from their own side, and let the other party fall into an illusion that they are wrong, and they will not find the reason from him, but feel sorry for him.

The reflex arc of people is relatively long, and by the time they react to what is going on, the matter is often over.

Mis-transfers and emotional garbage**.

Psychologists point out that self-blame and self-imposed pressure are more likely to damage a person's mood than anger. Those who are unreasonable take advantage of precisely this. For example, if something goes wrong, they will put the main blame on you, which is a classic mistransfer.

There is a special defense mechanism in their minds, so that they can't tolerate the feeling that the mistake is self-inflicted, so those who cooperate or collaborate with them become the object of their blame. At the end of the day, it's that they don't want to take responsibility alone, and they always want the people around them to bear the same bad experience as they do.

Of course, none of us are stupid, it's just that sometimes we choose to be silent. But how can we possibly remain calm after suffering a lot of dumb losses? At this time, it is inevitable to be angry, not only angry with those scumbags, but also angry with yourself, and even angry with the whole society.

We are angry, why would we cooperate with such a person? Why would such a scumbag let himself meet? Why are you so stupid, you have been tricked by this kind of person, and you still know it later.

Because they don't have the responsibility to think you can handle it.

Because that person does not know how to examine himself, but only blames others.

Why is it that every time something happens to someone else, others blame you and say it's your fault? I have heard a saying that "what others do to you, it must be that you allow others to do this to you", this sentence is very reasonable, think about it, if you want to borrow money, will you choose a person who picks the door and does not pull a dime a dime to borrow, or with a person who is helpful and generous? As long as you're not stupid, you'll definitely borrow from the latter, right?

Then this person will also have a headache, why does anyone who is short of money come to me to borrow? So it's this person's generosity, easy to talk, and helpful, so that everyone can borrow from him when they are short of money, you understand when it comes to this? As long as someone else blames you for an accident, the reason is you, it must be because you have a weak personality, and most people's first reaction is to deny that it is their own responsibility, and it is best to pass it on to others, so who to blame?

Of course, it is the best person to bully, because shirking to a person who is not easy to mess with may also bring trouble to yourself, only by pushing to a person who is the best bully, can you avoid retaliation as much as possible, then if everyone thinks that you are a person with a weak character and is easy to bully, the result must be that everyone is used to passing the blame on you! There is a saying that people are good at being bullied, horses are good at being ridden, this is the truth, dare to be daring, is a good quality, but should not bear the responsibility of resolutely not bearing, someone will shirk the responsibility to you, you also have to resolutely fight back, when others know that the responsibility to you will not only not succeed but also may be retaliated against, they will not choose you to take the blame! Of course, there is another factor, that is, you have to win the hearts of the people, if you do things unpopularly, become the target of the public, everyone is hostile to you, of course, you will be blamed at the first opportunity, so you must be neither humble nor arrogant, not only to win the hearts of the people but also to make the bully pay the price, so that you can eat!

Blame: Wrongly blaming or complaining because of a misunderstanding.

Source: 1, the fifth and ninth chapter of "Journey to the West": "My sister-in-law turned out to be unreasonable, and she blamed Lao Sun for it."

2, Ming Feng Qi manuscript Menglong "Yu Shi Mingyan" Volume 1: "Xue Po was full of laughter at the time, and said: 'The big official is so wrong that he has never asked others for a single cent of money in his life.

Today, the traces of the boy will be paid by the big officials, and the old body will stay, if they can't serve, they will still be accepted. 3, the second chapter of "Chronicles of the Eastern Zhou Dynasty": "The king of You's heart also understands, and he says:

Thou hast not turned thou shalt not turn to thy mother, that thou hast done so. This was sent by the queen, not from the prince's will, and Hugh was wrong to blame people. ’”

Things should have been to blame you, who made your own mistakes, but if something happened in itself, it was you who should.

I seriously trembled or really read the specific content of what you said, I don't think you are wrong to be naïve, I feel that your boyfriend is a scumbag, especially selfish, if he really has self-esteem, he should not lend you money. If you don't pay back the money, you can pay back a lot of reasons, leave him, he really doesn't love you, he only loves himself.

It's not your fault that this number of rocks disturbs you, it can only prove that this person is not the person you like at all You two are not suitable, Tu Dan was destined from the beginning, it is not suitable, so don't waste time and energy on the body of Zao Xiangfang You have to protect yourself well and prepare to find the next person you like.

In fact, women miss you so much that they will say these three "counterwords", don't understand! 1. "I don't want you to believe in the sedan chair" Most women are very frank and will hide their hearts, obviously they miss him very much, but they say they don't want to, they obviously want to see him, but they say that it doesn't matter

Is this something wrong? Can you blame me for this, should he be disappointed in me? Did you do something wrong?

It may also be a slap that doesn't make a sound, and the place that may be responsible for the end, but he's sorry, and I have to blame you, you're very disappointed with your feelings, and you think he shouldn't do it, don't I want you two to nag well from a while, and I don't blame you, no.

In fact, you and he are not wrong, what is wrong is this dirty material society.

Summary. You have to get married and have a baby, but you also have to think about whether your man has the responsibility of starting a family, you can't be so unassertive, his ideas are the most important.

Why is he the one who did the wrong thing and everyone blames me?

It depends.

I was pregnant for two years and was ready to get married, and his family said that I would do it after I was born, and then my family did not agree, so with the consent of his family, Chun Nian Yiwei took half of the family's money to fight the mountain sleepy, but after the beating, he regretted it.

**？？Well.

Are you still married?

His family didn't want to give a bride price, saying that they would give it when they had a child.

Now that I've beaten it, I blame me for being ruthless.

You have to get married and have another life, but you also have to think about whether your man has the responsibility of starting a family, and you can't be so assertive, his idea is the most important.

You won't be happy if you marry a man who doesn't have a sense of responsibility.

The bride price of 20,000 yuan is said to be too high.

Don't tease, 20,000 is still a dowry, we have more than 180,000 here.

Think about it, I don't take you seriously now, why give him a baby.

Now that the child is gone, they agree, don't blame yourself too much, or choose again.

It's just a pity that Zi Na doesn't have a relationship for two years, and I can see it clearly, and I want me to kneel down and apologize to him, and he will forgive me only if I have to break off the relationship with my parents, and I have always said that I beat the child ruthlessly, and I am also convinced.

Because people do wrong things, they usually don't think that they are wrong, just talk about yourself, you used to think that you were wrong, and you will think that it is someone else.

I'm the same way, just be patient, and don't have to punish yourself for other people's mistakes.

Maybe you're a bully.