Why can t you even be friends after breaking up?

Updated on psychology 2024-04-27
8 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    When we broke up, we said that we would still be friends in the future. But are they really friends? Maybe it's a few years from now.

    A relationship, a journey, too much joy and touching together, too much helpless heartache, from true love to hurt each other, can you still be friends at the moment of breakup? If you can, you must not have really loved. Or it is the result of a person's grievances.

    There is no floodgate for feelings, and it cannot be closed with a single pull. It's hard for two people to love each other at the same time, and it's even harder not to love each other at the same time.

    There is no love, no hate, and only when you are indifferent to the throbbing in your heart can you become friends.

    But you and I, the two people who just broke up, maybe one of them is still in love, maybe from love to hate or resentful, maybe because of the throbbing of one of the other party's eyes, how to become friends?

    The person who once loved deeply can only watch silently, can't ask, can't manage, doesn't need to care, can't complain, everything about him has nothing to do with you, so how can you bear to be his friend?

    The person who once resented deeply no longer cares for you, no longer pampers you, his good and your bad can no longer be seen, you are just two parallel lines, so how can you still be his friend?

    Unless we haven't loved, I don't care who you are or what your identity is, I don't care at all, I never care.

    Even if we don't love it now, there are so many memories along the way, what should I do not remember at the moment when I face you?

    Or I still love you, I don't want anything, I don't regret it, no matter who you are to me now, no matter who you are guarding now, I am willing to always accompany you, hide my love for you deeply, not let you know, not be seen by you, and be willing to be a friend with you like a shadow as long as you are happy.

    Lovers are so close, friends are so far away, if you can't be lovers, maybe you will say just be friends.

    But even if the car drove away and returned to the original point again, it would be a different time, a different character, and a different scenery.

    We've already taken a step forward, but how can we measure the same size and go back? Keep going until you meet up again with someone else you can love.

    To break up is to break up, to decide, never to mention being friends.

    If you don't love him (her) anymore, let go and don't make excuses for your selfishness, don't keep him (her) if you still love him/her, and don't ask him (her) to turn back.

    When you break up, you only talk about breaking up, not about being friends.

    Just the most familiar strangers.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    If you really love, you can't be friends, this is a natural reaction. After breaking up, I will feel embarrassed to meet again!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Don't ask, can you be a friend? Those are all self-deceptive words, your heart has been violently cut, why hide anything, everyone knows that you can no longer be ordinary friends, don't have any illusions.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Hehe It's very simple, he's here to make you die, and besides, the relationship is different after all. It's not like you can't even be friends.

    Just not for the time being.

    If you don't believe me, after a month or two or you both calm down, and you both acquiesce to something, you know that it's impossible, and you can wave each other's damage when it's lessened.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    After a breakup, even ordinary friends can't do it.

    This is an axiom, and it is self-evident.

    If you have to talk about the reason: it is because love is selfish.

    If you try to be an ordinary friend again, you will inevitably think of those past events, so you can't be calm and happy.

    Because you can't calm each other, it's better not to see it.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Break up, what's the point of being friends, even if you're friends, you'll think of sad things when you're together.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Something you can't face? I always think of the past, more or less go back to the good or sad memories, and also return to the embarrassment.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    What kind of friends do you have since you broke up?

    Won't it be awkward when you meet?

    I'll introduce you to a love forum, There are a lot of posts about love, don't worry, I'm not going viral, and I don't have time to play with viruses.

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