I really want my parents to live with us, but my parents just don t want to, and they can t do it by

I'm so happy for your parents....

I've read some articles about parents who seem unhappy and unhappy after being taken to live in the city by their children. It's no wonder that life in the city and in the countryside are two different things!

I think your parents must be afraid of bothering you, or they don't want to change their current life, because there are no ones to feed the chickens in the chicken coop...The big yellow dog is still waiting for its old owner at the door, and the shoes of the second aunt in the east courtyard have not been finished yet!

It's been most of my life, and I'm used to it! It's hard to change it.

If you want to be nice to your parents, wouldn't it be the same if you went back to your hometown a few more times? Don't have regrets in their twilight years!

Hehe. That's how parents are. I'm afraid I'll cause you trouble in the city. It's up to you to do this. Talk to your wife and see what you can do.

The old man likes it, unless their health is not very good, if their health is good, it is better not to force it, because the old man is used to living like that, and they are most afraid of loneliness, and there are too few familiar people in the city, almost nothing.

So don't affect their habits.

They are not used to living in the city, they are used to living in the countryside, and the people they know are all village names, and they are not familiar with the people who come to the city

The gold and silver nests are not as good as their own kennels

Let the old people live in the country, and if you take the time to go back and see them, they will be very happy

Let the old people live in the country, and if you take the time to go back and see them, they will be very happy

My parents are like this, and I don't want to do it if it's me. Because it's not good to say that the east is not the west, two people together, it's quite good, it's quieter. You have your own living space, too.

I don't think this is unfilial piety, after all, most young people and the elderly now think differently and the difference in lifestyle is very big, after all, it is not a person of the same era, people are the products of the times, if you have to put people of two generations together, there will be a lot of contradictions. We Chinese advocate filial piety, but it does not mean that filial piety has to be reflected in living with the elderly, supporting the elderly can be reflected in many aspects, such as when the elderly need to be cared for, when the elderly need companionship, and so on. After all, everyone needs to be alone at times, and if parents kidnap their children in this way, or kidnap themselves in this way of thinking, it is really not necessary.

It's a complicated question.

If you can accept it, that's fine. After all, now that social pressure is so great, if both parties are single, then it is normal to live with their parents after marriage, and for parents, they also hope that their children can start a family.

However, if you can't accept it, then think carefully! After all, after getting married, you have to face a lot of practical problems.

First of all, there is the economic issue. Although young people are very busy with work now, as long as you have the heart and work hard, it is not difficult to earn a good income. So, in this case, you can completely bury your parents to come and live with you, so that you can also reduce your burden.

However, you should pay attention to one thing, that is, you must give all the savings of the family to your parents, because, only in this way, they will be relieved to take care of your life.

Second, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I believe many people know that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a very difficult problem to deal with. As women, they especially want their husbands to be on their side, so when their mother-in-law has a conflict with them, they will feel wronged.

At this time, if you choose to complain to your husband, then he will think that you are hypocritical, and even think that you don't know the general situation. On the contrary, if you choose not to care about these things, but take the initiative to coax your mother-in-law, she may understand you, and even have some good feelings for you.

The third is married life. You know, marriage is the grave of love. Once you enter into marriage, the relationship between husband and wife can easily fade.

And at this time, if you don't have children, then your relationship may still last. But if you have children, there may be a lot of conflicts between you. For example, the education of the child, or the child's upbringing.

At this time, if you can't communicate well, then, the relationship between you is likely to break down. Of course, this is also a bad outcome. But if you can communicate well with your husband, perhaps, he will change his attitude towards you.

Fourth, it is disrespectful to elders. You know, we are taught from a young age to honor our parents and respect our elders. However, when you get married, you and your partner don't understand this truth, and even behave disrespectfully with your elders.

Just imagine, such a family, do you think it will have a good development?