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In fact, it's not just aunts who love to take advantage, middle-aged women in their thirties and forties also have cases of bargaining for a few cents, but they are not as arrogant and unreasonable as the aunts in the news.

To put it bluntly, this is a typical psychology of taking advantage.

On the one hand, the living conditions of the aunts were relatively difficult when they were young, and they were usually used to saving, so even if their lives got better later, this long-term habit of thrift could not be changed.

On the other hand, it cannot be ruled out that some aunts bargain with vegetable farmers in order to show their eloquence. They themselves are not short of those few cents, but if they successfully bargain, they can boast to others (maybe neighbors or family members) that they have picked up a bargain and bought the same dish for less money than othersVery fulfilling.

Either way, I don't think it's advisable.

It may be that the post-90s generation is relatively thin-skinned, and I almost don't bargain when I go to the vegetable market to buy vegetables. I really don't think it's much of a discount for a few cents cheaper, in other words, the few cents you save by bargaining can't buy meat; Second, it is not easy for some elderly people to make some money by selling vegetables, so there is no need to covet that cheapness.

But I have also seen a few women carrying tens of thousands of yuan bags bargain with the grandmother who sells vegetables for three or four minutes for five cents, and finally the grandmother really doesn't want to continue to fight, so she gives five cents. The woman who was shopping for vegetables immediately changed her face and smiled.

I don't understand, you said that you don't feel distressed when you buy a bag of tens of thousands of yuan, but you are so careful about a few cents of food. Why bother?

It may be true that some people areThe richer you are, the more budget-conscious you are.

RememberThe strict prison student in "The Outer History of Confucianism"., obviously has a lot of money, but he is going to die, and he is still distressed about the waste of a few wicks when he is dying.

I really don't think it's necessary, money is such a thing, life doesn't bring it to death, why can't you be generous to yourself and others?

This is a typical psychology of liking to take advantage of small advantages. Especially our aunt, in general, it is actually caused by these factors:

1. I'm scared

Most of the Chinese aunts were born in the 50s and 60s, when there was a large-scale famine in China, and how many people starved to death, it can be said that starvation was everywhere. I still hear mom and dad talk about the history of blood and tears in the past. So they're very insecure.

Even if you have money, you still can't change it.

I still remember a fable about a man who asked the farmer what you would do if you had money, and he thought about it and turned my fishing hook into gold, but in fact, the poor and afraid people have limited vision, so even if they have enough material, they are still worried in their hearts.

2. Get used to it

The second is to get used to it, the psychology of Chinese taking advantage of small is also a bad habit, get used to it, you call it difficult to change, for example, we often say that habitual stealing is the same, the power of habit is huge. The same is true for Aunt He, who has been accustomed to taking advantage of the psychology for many years, so when picking discounted dishes, she acted according to her instinct and didn't think about it at all.

3, I'm an aunt, who am I afraid of?

In fact, Chinese aunts have always had a kind of posture that I am an aunt and I am afraid of whom, so when they encounter problems, the first thing that comes to mind is sprinkling, they don't have much concept of public morality, and it is called to save a few dollars, but in fact, they enjoy the process very much, they always feel that they are saving money for their children, which is where their value lies, which is why they can never change.

And if you really want to make Chinese aunts change, it may take a longer time, and it needs cultural infiltration to the bones, and maybe real changes will occur.

The older generation of women born in the 40s and 50s are all in the material scarcity era of natural disasters, and they cherish money very much, which has nothing to do with whether they have money or not! This psychology is related to the barren material environment of their childhood, in that hungry era, possessing more resources is a necessary condition for survival, so a deep-rooted latent psychology of wanting to take advantage of a little cheapness has been formed. Tearing off the rotten vegetable leaves that can't be eaten and buying only the edible parts, especially in the unsupervised environment of the supermarket, is also one of the behaviors of aunts who are "diligent and thrifty".

The reason why the aunt spends money abroad is also out of the psychology of being greedy. Now that the living conditions are better, the aunts have the opportunity to travel abroad, but the travel and accommodation expenses are not cheap. As a hard-working and thrifty Chinese woman, I can't help but feel that my heart is dripping blood.

Under the propaganda that foreign ** and luxury goods are cheaper than those in China, aunts instinctively want to buy more, looking forward to earning back the ticket money. This is an irrational consumption, completely ignoring whether the item is needed and whether it can be resold in time. This is a loss-making business under the psychology of being greedy for cheapness.

My friend's grandfather was a great French writer, and his father was a banker, and the family's property was enough to live a prosperous life for several generations. But his father would wait for the bakery to buy the bread at a discount every evening, and sometimes he would run in before the end of the day and say, "It's almost closed anyway, so you can sell it to me at a discount!"

And for his lover, the old man is willing to give a house. It's hard to imagine that such a wealthy person would bargain for a few births, and there is no other explanation than the influence of family education since childhood. So comrades, diligence and thrift must start from the baby!

Some people say that this aunt is also really, she has the money to travel abroad, and she buys vegetables in the supermarket and searches like this. In fact, people who have this kind of contradictory behavior are quite common. For example, my mother, the family has long changed to a big house, and the windows are bright and the tiled floors are clean.

But her old man was always reluctant to throw away those old chairs, which were worn and old, and looked unsightly. Her old man's statement is that it can still be used, don't waste money to buy new ones, completely ignoring the overall sense of disobedience. <>

Another example is the old man in the east of his hometown, his daughter buys him new clothes every year, all kinds of down jackets and leather clothes are worn in the village, and everyone will say that this is what my daughter bought for me. However, occasionally I saw him lift his trouser legs, and the edges of those socks were fluffy, and he didn't see a new pair. For these old people, a big house and a beautiful coat are external, so that others can see things that are envious and long-faced; And a few old chairs or socks inside, if you can save it, no one will look at it anyway, why wear it so well.

See? There are benefits behind every action, either there is face, or money is saved. These are all behaviors that are conducive to reinforcing one's core beliefs, so there is no contradiction at all.

For this aunt who picks vegetables, traveling abroad is not only a pleasure but also a long face for herself, and she is willing to spend money. Buying vegetables in the supermarket, you get what you pay for, of course I have to pick out all the leaves that I don't want, it's a fool who spends money in vain, and it's never a shame. Your supermarket manager dares to stop me and refuse to sell to me, this is a blatant bullying of me, looking down on me, who will you beat if you don't beat me?

This is probably Auntie's inner monologue at that time. Auntie, why don't you understand? Confucius once said, "Do not do to others what you would not do to yourself."

It means that if you don't like something, don't force others to accept it. It's a discount product, and supermarkets don't expect to make money from this, it's about popularity. You unpack the package and pick the leaves, if others see it and do the same, how can the supermarket do business?

Don't say that the supermarket staff are not happy, if you open a supermarket, would you be happy? An old man was detained for buying groceries and causing a dispute, and it is estimated that it is the first time in his life that he has experienced it, and he must be very aggrieved in his heart. I hope that my aunt will be able to empathize more in life in the future, when you want to do something, and this thing may hurt the interests of others, you might as well stop and ask the other party's opinion.

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