Why do some people always have low self esteem?

Lack of self-confidence: Dissatisfied with life, complaining too much, not being able to find what you want, or not getting what you want

That's because you've found a way to keep you from feeling inferior.

Because I am not confident. Me too.

People's thoughts, psychology, and emotions are actually completely controlled by themselves, and we can steer them in any direction. There are two buttons in everyone's mind, psychology and emotion, one is positive and the other is negative, and different people will have the habit of pressing different buttons, which constitutes their mental models, and these patterns will form a certain running program. This little button controls the huge engine of thought and emotion in the person.

If you always only activate the positive button in your favor, then you will be invincible. Psychological suggestion also serves as a means of self-preservation. For example, if you don't achieve the results you want after doing something, and you're about to break down, you can tell yourself:

I tried my best and I have a clear conscience". This frees oneself from a state of repression. For example, if you work hard and still don't mix as well as others, you can comfort yourself:

It's all floating clouds, so why be persistent."

For example, if someone else's words and deeds make you angry, you don't have to be angry, but say to yourself: "The prime minister can hold a boat in his belly, and I don't have the same knowledge as him." There are times when we don't have to be too ourselves, and when to activate this mental model of psychological protection depends on the individual's ability and endurance, which requires wisdom.

In fact, to suggest is to give yourself the illusion of believing the kind of truth you are hinting at. However, we must clearly understand this illusion, and we must not be blindly arrogant, nor can we have a fluke mentality. Some people use psychological cues to achieve themselves, while others use psychological cues to destroy themselves.

Positive psychological cues will give you the determination and courage to crush all obstacles, will make you have incredible perseverance and endurance, and will make you continue to increase your courage and constantly challenge yourself to surpass yourself. In fact, people's limits are far beyond their imagination, many people can't succeed because they have psychological barriers, they are always used to setting themselves, "I can't", "I can't do it", "I don't dare", "I can't learn", "I can only be mediocre", "I'm lazy", "I have no perseverance"...There is a saying that a person's mediocrity begins with the recognition of one's own mediocrity.

These people are always accustomed to summing up some negative conclusions to imply themselves, and then obeying these conclusions in peace, judging themselves and limiting themselves, which is essentially a kind of cocooning and self-restraint. Remember, all limitations start from your own heart, and as long as you decisively break the shackles of your mind to yourself, you can liberate yourself and be reborn! The height of the fountain does not exceed the height set for it in advance, and it is impossible for a man's achievements to exceed the achievements he has set for himself.

The causes of low self-esteem include being affected by frustration, physical deficiencies, and being affected by personality.

1.Affected by setbacks: People will have different reactions after suffering setbacks, such as rebellion and compromise. Some people will become negative and pessimistic after suffering setbacks, especially introverts will become more inferior after suffering setbacks.

2.Physiological deficiencies: When there are physical deficiencies, it is easy to have adverse effects on the psyche, such as short stature, ugly appearance, and low self-esteem.

3.Influenced by personality: Everyone's personality is different, such as extroverts and introverts. People with a more sensitive personality have magnified the negative consequences brought about by things, and are prone to inferiority.

Some people are always arguing and have low self-esteem for the following reasons:

1.Long-term acceptance of negative evaluation: In the process of growing up, if you are often criticized by teachers and classmates, such as being ridiculed by teachers and classmates at school, or questioned by parents in the family environment, it will lead to an inferiority complex.

2.Personality flaws: Some people are inherently more sensitive, prone to mood swings, and more susceptible to external environmental influences.

3.Personal experience: Setbacks and failures in personal experiences can also lead to feelings of inferiority.

4.Excessive self-esteem: Sometimes arguing for people to have too high expectations of themselves but not to meet them, which can lead to an inferiority complex.

5.Lack of self-awareness: Some people do not know enough about their abilities and strengths, resulting in an inferiority complex.

In order to alleviate the inferiority complex, it is recommended to try to develop self-confidence, seek correct self-awareness, seek help and support, etc.

Someone asked, "Can having money and cheating reduce my inferiority complex?" I said, yes to some people. From the deep psychological significance, there are four directions for people's emotional betting, one is called reversal to the opposite, one is called turning back to oneself, another is repression, and the last is sublimation.

How is low self-esteem formed? It's that all of our emotional bets are turned back to ourselves, and we always feel that a lot of things are because I'm too stupid, too stupid, I can't do it, I'm incompetent... That's why it's done very badly.

At this time, if through some other reasons, we suddenly have money, it is possible that the emotional betting will turn in a direction and reverse to the opposite, "Oh, I have money, fellows, I have a treat today, if you have any difficulties, just tell me, I will help you solve it, I will buy you what you want".

In this case, it is possible that the friends around us will come to greet us and surround us, and at this time, our inferiority complex may suddenly become arrogant, and we will be very happy, and our inferiority complex can be reduced a lot. But some people may have no effect, for example, he has always been depressed, whether he has money or not, he may be very depressed, even if he has money, he doesn't feel so cool, he still has that depressed and not very good feeling in his heart. Whether this kind of person has money or not, he will still have low self-esteem.

There is also a kind of person, his emotions are sublimated, no matter whether he has money or not, he will not feel inferior, he will do something for others when he has money, and when he has no money, he will do his best to do those things, his emotional betting will be more noble, he just wants to serve the people. So stupid, money has a certain effect on inferiority complex, but it is not absolute.

Low self-esteem is an emotion that everyone experiences, and some people have a weak sense of inferiority, so low self-esteem does not have much impact on their lives. And some people have a strong sense of inferiority, and low self-esteem often bothers them. Money only changes objective facts.

Money does allow us to live a better life and have more power, so under objective conditions, we surpass many people. This strong advantage of wealth cannot be denied by wrong habits of thinking, so our inferiority complex is reduced.

1.Money can bring a sense of honor.

But we need to know that no matter how rich our money is, there will always be people who can match our wealth, or who are more wealthy than us. When we meet such people, the advantage of wealth is gone, so the contrast of reality becomes blurred again, and the wrong habit of thinking (habitually devaluing oneself) begins to appear again. So we found that money does not actually have our inferiority, it only temporarily pushes our inferiority complex.

2.Adjust your mindset.

If we want to truly change our inferiority, we must revise our thinking patterns and change our perception of inferiority, so as to achieve the goal of truly inferiority. Only when we realize that we are not worse than others or realize that low self-esteem is a normal human emotion and do not need to care too much about it, can we be freed from low self-esteem and live our lives calmly.

Inferiority complex is in a person's heart, and there will be many reasons for inferiority complex, such as family, social status, education, money and wealth, etc.

If you don't have self-confidence, you only see your own shortcomings and the advantages of others, then your inferiority complex will be very strong. Maintain an optimistic attitude, be confident rather than inferior, be good at discovering your own shining points, have enough courage to face things, don't have to envy others, don't have to belittle yourself, and living yourself is the key.

No one is perfect, it is certain that there are shortcomings, and when we are unsatisfactory due to our own shortcomings, we may have an inferiority complex. Low self-esteem can appear in life, but don't let it affect our lives, after all, life is not only one emotion, one color.

Low self-esteem is always underestimating one's abilities, and the main reasons for this are lack of self-awareness, frustration, physical reasons, personality defects, mental illness, and bad childhood experiences.

1.Lack of self-awareness: For example, always underestimating oneself, being negative about one's own ability, appearance, and quality, always comparing one's weaknesses with the strengths of others, feeling that oneself is worthless, and then having low self-esteem.

2.Suffering from setbacks: Frustration is easy to produce negative emotions, if you have suffered a lot of setbacks, failures, and the heart is not strong enough, you will feel worthless and inferior.

3.Physical reasons: Some people have physical defects, poor growth or physical disabilities, and in the process of getting along with their peers, they are prone to inferiority.

4.Personality defects: Some people are always very negative and pessimistic, and some people are particularly perfectionist, and the above personality is usually very negative when facing problems to measure their abilities, which then causes low self-esteem.

5.Mental illness: such as depression, anxiety, etc., these patients usually have a particularly low opinion of themselves and have an inferiority complex.

6.Bad childhood experience: For example, in the process of growing up in childhood, I was often criticized, blamed, beaten and scolded by my parents, and disapproved, which is also closely related to low self-esteem.

Therefore, for people with low self-esteem, it is important to see that they can build self-confidence, or seek the help of a professional doctor to get out of their low self-esteem.

Inferiority complex is a psychological weakness formed in the process of human nature development, and its formation is mainly due to the change of people's subjective consciousness, and the inferiority complex is subjectively believing that they are inferior to others, and they will always be worse than others.

This kind of wrong cognition leads to wrong behavior, always using one's own shortcomings to compare the advantages of others, in such a gap, it will become more humble, and the process of a vicious circle is like a whirlpool, making people fall deeper and deeper.

However, in life, people who can overcome low self-esteem and succeed are a minority after all, and we see more examples of ordinary people, but they are crushed by inferiority, thus closing themselves at home, cutting off contact with society, and becoming a complete failure.

Everyone has some inferiority complex to a greater or lesser extent. However, if a person is in a state of inferiority complex for a long time, it will lead to our attention. Carefully analyze, why is I always in a state of inferiority?

First of all, let's take a good look at the inferiority complex, to put it bluntly, the inferiority complex is to look down on yourself, you blindly only see your own defects and weak locality! Once a person can't see his strengths, then he will be trapped by low self-esteem!

Next, let's analyze how inferiority complex is constituted? Everything has a cause and effect. As long as we find the cause, we can successfully solve the problem.

People who seek perfection simply have low self-esteem. There's nothing wrong with seeking perfection. The fault is that a person is too much looking for perfection, and if he does more than a certain degree of work, it will be very risky.

Once a job does not reach the level of perfection in your heart, you will feel unhappy and dissatisfied. If the work does not achieve the effect of your ambition, then the inferiority complex is naturally constituted.

People who do not have pride simply have low self-esteem. Pride is the fundamental quality of a person's livelihood. If you don't even trust yourself to succeed, then who will trust you!

Trust yourself is a very proud person, treat others, full of energy, full of confidence, and passionate, then you are very easy to succeed. When you succeed, you naturally don't feel inferior.

Pessimistic and misanthropic people simply have low self-esteem. When a person is not active and contemplative, then he will always see the bad side from one thing and one person! Naturally, he will always see his own flaws, and it is difficult to see his strengths and strengths.

Therefore, as long as you think more and list your strengths, then you will gradually become proud!

The above is a list of some of the main factors that contribute to low self-esteem. As long as we know these factors, find a breakthrough, and find a corresponding solution to the problem. Accept yourself, insist on writing more before going to bed, think about your strengths, and let yourself touch more people who have reached your own views.

Take your time and you'll be on your way to pride!